Just Listen...

I had dinner with a girlfriend last weekend who was at a picnic a couple weeks before at a mutual acquaintance house. My name got brought up and my divorce. The girls asked her what happened and my friend came to my defense. None of your business ladies. I appreciated it but learned everyone will tell their side and it’s ok. At this point I don’t even care what people think. I know my kids are happy. I am happy and my ex is happy. 

That’s all that people need to know. But it’s normal

to wonder. It’s normal to pry. It doesn’t make it right even though it’s common. I have kids. I don’t need my business to be spread around as to why I ended things with their dad. I still have to deal with my ex and it’s best to keep it between us. He has a job and career and certain things are just not really anyone’s business. 

Through my divorce journey I had so much amazing support I was never alone.  I mean how lucky can someone be. I had so much family and friends who said I don’t care what happened. I am here for you. Your kids. Whatever you ever need. 

I swear I was so lucky and it helped so much. You, we, everyone needs to learn to do the same. Don’t ask questions. Listen. Just say I am here to help. What do you need? What can I do to make the process easier for you?

That’s all we need. That’s all you should do.