Have You Tried A Lychee?

I won’t lie. The first time I heard about a Lychee was from a drink menu- Lychee Martini and it was delicious.  I have then seen them in a can. Then my dad found them fresh at a local store. They are a Chinese fruit. My girls love them. The shell is hard. You peel it and it’s firm yet a bit sticky inside. Sweet with a mild bitter taste. 

There’s a ton of heath benefits too from eating them. 

https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2016/01/18/lychee-health-benefits.aspx

People Come & Go

In time it makes sense. You have to just get through it. Love those who stay. Be grateful for the memories for  those who don’t. 

I always say when a journey with someone ends nothing pulls you back. No regrets. It’s when you still hold on that your lesson isn’t over. 

Watermelon Festival In Torrington CT July 27th

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What Reality Do You Want?

Let’s write your story. Picture it in your head. We all have a vision of how our life should or will be. What’s your goals? What reality are you fighting for?I will share mine:

I buy my own house

Grow my business 

Fall in love

Raise my girls to be good and genuine people

Seek out all my adventures of life with a person who loves every part of me

Travel the world 

Buy my beach house

Publish my books

Grow old and grey and happy surrounded by my spouse and kids and their kids (if they have any) family and friends

Die peacefully knowing I lived the best life I could

Now you go. What’s your story?

Happy Tequila Day!

How do you like your tequila? My favorite is in a margarita. Check out how some places in Connecticut are celebrating National Tequila Day!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.courant.com/ctnow/food-drink/hc-ctnow-national-tequila-day-2019-20190722-4scmtidnanf3betxbswgbpb4hm-story.html%3foutputType=amp

What Are You Losing vs. Gaining?

“Life will pay whatever price you ask of it. You’re getting what you’re asking for. Whatever you focus on in life is going to happen. When you decide what’s most important for you, your brain goes after it.”*

*http://www.success-guide.com/

YouTube: Beautiful People

Feel Good Song: Wolves Without Teeth

Lyrics are pretty deep. I love listening to the words of songs. If you dig deeper you can find the meaning. 

https://www.popsongprofessor.com/blog/2015/06/20/what-does-wolves-without-teeth-by-of-monsters-and-men-mean

What’s Gonna Make YOU Happy?

No one can make decisions for you. What ever decisions you make please be sure they will make you happy. 💗

Dating Humor: Love Some Garlic Bread

Listen To Your Inner Voice

You’re a free spirit. Hopeless romantic and flower child. That my friend I am or would at least like to be. Anything else that doesn’t serve that purpose I become defensive again and I defend my soul and purpose. I get upset or mad and well that doesn’t serve me well. 

Peace. Love. Respect. Happiness. Honestly. Clear conscious. 

I have been through a lot in my life. A lot more than most people. I won’t have to share all my wounds. But in time my healing has helped me be able to help you. 
So I write and share. 

A girlfriend messaged me early this morning. She said a path you’re on isn’t the best one for you right now. I want you to stop and refocus. 

When someone’s intuition aligns with yours you have to listen. I didn’t argue with her. She was right. 

Sometimes you have to give things time. Give it space.  Let it work how it’s meant to work out not forced. 

Are You Torn?

I am very upfront. As you can tell. I usually go after what I want. But some situations don’t work out like that. I have learned this past month to just let things be. I have to stop looking for an answer today when I know it’s not possible. I have to let life ride out. I have to be patient and happy and what’s meant to be will

be. Being patient. Knowing whatever will be is my destiny. Means stop chasing or stop rushing. Let things be for a while. Everything always works out how it is suppose to. 

Be Sure To Be Giving The Right Things Your Attention

Feel Good Song: Forest

Please Go Do What You Like...

A relationship doesn’t define you. I know it’s hard to imagine that when you have spent 20-30-40 years with someone. A healthy relationship is when two individuals have separate identities yet come together to share a life together. 

Let me explain. 

We get caught up. We expect our significant other to make us happy. Because maybe one day they did. Maybe they were nice and loving. Maybe they looked at us like no one else was in the world but you. Maybe they put you first. 

Then life changes. Kids. Work. Bills. Responsibilities. Your relationship changes. At this point someone has detached. Someone resents the other. So you both just get by. You act like that power couple outside the house to others but inside are broken together. 

It’s a cycle. I am not here to convince anyone to get a divorce. I am here to say that your happiness is based solely on you. You’re an individual. Your significant other is an individual. You have responsibilities together yet you can still have a life separate. 

You need to still do the things you love. If you love golf then do it. If your significant other doesn’t don’t push them to love golf. Do it without them. Have space. Have the courage to say you do what you like. I do what I like. We then do what we like together and it’s ok. 

People don’t do that. They consume themselves into one another then get mad when they want to play golf but their spouse or girlfriend doesn’t. 

Second time around is even a bit harder. Children are different ages. Life experiences are different. I love picking fruit with my kids. I love farms. I love wine tasting. I am not going to find a guy who is going to want to do all those things always with me and it’s actually ok. So I do them while they go to a sports game with buddies or they go do things with their own kids or they go play golf. 

You have to have your own hobbies. Passions. Excitement. You have to be an individual. You consume yourself with someone that you end up resenting them. 

You’re with someone because you love that person 

Because that person makes your life better. They give you hope. Make your heart happy. Make you feel important. Make you feel like you matter. Love you and your core. Want to protect you. Want to help you grow as a person. They bring out the best in you.  They don’t want to do this journey in life without you. 

You aren’t with someone because of routine or an obligation to stay together. 

If you love golf and I don’t then please go play golf. I will still love you. 

Souls...They Have This Way

Start Today...Start Now!

I made a list. Three months ago of what I needed to change in my life. I set goals. I found that list the other day. I can’t believe the things I had accomplished on that list without even remembering to. 

When you want something so bad you put your energy and soul into it. You get this strengthen to do so. To be your all. To say no more I want my life to be a certain way. 

I still have more on my list to accomplish. I will also have more on my list but it’s how life is. Create goals. Accomplish them and create new ones. 

Don’t let anyone stand in your way. Don’t do things just to make others happy. Your future self will thank you. 

I believe in you. Start to believe in yourself. Give yourself the life you deserve. Set goals and achieve them. 

If you miss someone tell them. If you love someone tell them. If you want to travel do so. If you want to eliminate debt apply every extra dollar to it until you do. 

There are no restrictions or road blocks. Only the ones you put up.