Tuesday, August 6, 2019
Don’t Repeat Past Mistakes...
Everything is a learning process. Who knew love had to be. I thought when you loved someone it would
be enough. Yeah you can laugh now. I know so oblivious.
I do know that every relationship I had I learned something, some I am still looking for the meaning.
Romanacci in Norwalk
What’s better than half price bottle of wine, pizza, burratta, crepes and good company?
Nothing!
I love these girls. We always have a blast when we are together. I must admit the truffle mushroom pizza and strawberry Nutella Crepe was delicious. Night out with the girls for $25 each.
Yep...I know. Crazy!
I Don’t Feel The Same Way As You Do About It & That’s Ok!
We were early for camp so I took a detour and stopped by a dock with boats. We pulled up and I was alone with my oldest. She asked what we were doing and I said let’s go for a little walk near the water before camp. She refused at first. I began to take the walk alone.
I wasn’t mad. I love being by the water. She caught up and said I don’t want to be here.
All I could think was I know these pre teen years will be hard but I am determined to make the best of it.
I asked her to look around, all I see are boats mom, I asked her to breathe in the air, it stinks mom, I asked her to feel the air, she said she’s going back to the car. I began to laugh.
She finally said I don’t see and feel what you do mom. This isn’t my happy place.
Ok fine I said. I get it but you don’t have to ruin the experience for me. This is my happy place and I was trying to do something out of routine.
She apologized. After I asked her to suggest her happy place so we could go the next time.
Can you believe she actually held my hand in the car the whole ride to camp after this.
I rubbed her hand and smiled.
I don’t want her to have the same happy places as me. I actually liked she communicated it with me verse just standing there annoyed. I told her we don’t have to like the same things and she agreed.
I think that’s the problem in life. With marriages and relationships and having kids. We want everyone to do and like what we do and like. Well it’s not that way.
You have to be ok with that. Doesn’t mean you have to stop doing those things. Just means know your audience. Now I know if we have extra time I won’t take her to a dock or beach.
Now she knows when she doesn’t like something she can communicate it with me and it won’t be a fight.
It’s about creates a safe place to be open about how you feel and what you need and like etc...I have a lot to learn still in life in general but I began to realize when I process and truly listen verse reacting you get better results.
Cucumber Water: Oh Yum!
So I notice a ton of cucumbers in the fridge that have been picked from the garden and decided to surprise her. I called her into the kitchen and told her to look in the fridge. She noticed the jug of cucumber water and says “Oh Yum Mom” then she asks “What are cucumbers good for?”
Well let’s look it up. So I found this article.
The best part about flavoring water with veggies and fruits is that you’re not realizing your added benefits to your body while providing a healthy treat. Sometimes water isn’t enough. This helps add flavoring without the guilt.
You Don’t Have To Be Aggressive To Be Heard
Never underestimate the power of someone based on how they react or how vocal they are.
Sometimes the calmest people are the stronger ones and loud aggressive people are weak. They tend to put up a tough image to protect themselves. They degrade people so they can be heard and have power over you. They are actually extremely insecure in themselves. The ones who remain silent processes everything around them at all times. They don’t tend to fly off the handle. They tend to choose their arguments based on the importance of them.
Wake Up, Accept What Is & Shine
Certain things in life you just can’t be mad at. You have to say today will be a good day no matter what else lingers behind in your heart and mind has to be still.
So do it.
Wake up, Accept what is & Shine!
I believe in you and that whatever you go through in life is for the ultimate good. What may hurt now will make sense later. Trust it.
