I have a friend. Super calm nice guy. I was speaking with him and I asked him how are men ok being single. Now I am ok being single but notice men just do their own thing and are happy. His response is something I have heard before but this time, for some reason, it stuck. Like a light bulb went off.
He has his daughter 50% of the time so he went on to say he liked his alone time. What do you mean I said. He said well I work a ton. Have my daughter half the time so when I don’t I do the gym and CrossFit and chill. He’s learned to enjoy down time. To rest. He is very domesticated so takes care of his house and himself when he can. I said I understand but don’t you miss having a companion. He replied at times but keep in mind he was with his ex wife for 10 years. That’s enough for him. And to be honest he said. “You women are bat shit crazy. One minute you’re cool as hell. The next you’re salty and flying off the handle. It’s like woah what’s going on.”
I couldn’t help but laugh and I totally get it. He’s right. Now we can argue men make us like that because some really do but the reality is women emotions are completely different than men. We are wired differently. We react. Now I know men who do too so men you aren’t in the clear yet but us women need to relax. We need to tone it down.
The best thing about my friend is we have known eachother for almost two years. We hang just enough to see just the cool calmness of eachother. I have gotten salty with him before but space makes things more manageable. We also just talk and hangout for hours. It’s a really easy situation. Where we both are happy with it and it works for us.
There’s always a time when we need to be reminded of stuff. That most men aren’t complex. Most of them tell you exactly what they need and us women sometimes aren’t sure with what we need. We then toy with our emotions and react because we don’t even know what the hell is going on.
It really stuck with me our conversation. I hope this post sticks with you too.
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