Acknowledge the Triggers

This is something that has helped me through the process of learning and growing and healing all within. That whenever I felt an emotion I didn’t like I dug deep to try to figure out what triggered me.  

I had a friend who hated that word but it’s true. Triggers is when we shift our mind and emotions based on what something someone did or said. That trigger most of the time activated pain from an old wound. Something that happened years prior. 

So it takes work. Acknowledging what’s really bothering you. Doesn’t always mean that person didn’t cause that pain. Sometimes it’s their repeated behavior. Once we learn their patterns it no longer can bother you because it’s predictable. 

Triggers happen when unexpected outcomes happen. When our expectations aren’t met so we feel neglected or upset due to their failed behavior. But what really is an important thing to remember is that patterns are predictable. Think about it. For example: If I go out with certain friends I know we are home late. I know what our night will be like so I prepare ahead. 

If I bring up a topic with a guy I have been seeing I know I will feel insecure about our situation. Instead I just enjoy the process since it’s been years on and off I realized patterns that worked for us. If I try to push the envelope things may shift and change...mostly because of me. I notice when I changed my levels with someone I changed. I added pressure to myself instead of just going with it. I can predict my patterns. Their patterns. Their triggers and mine. I know already what to expect. When something changes or shifts. When things are unpredictable that can trigger us too. 

The whole point is to look within. We blame others for

Our emotions. But most of the time...they are old wounds that are reopening. 

Become aware with who you are and what you need and what needs to heal.