Forgive To Grow

I never understood how you could love someone and not be good to them or be around them. I never understood it. In time I learned that’s not love. Love isn’t hurting someone. Love is wanting the best for that person. It’s missing that person. It’s wanting the person to be happy and with you and when you’re happy everything around you changes. It grows. 

I think we all have been loved wrong in our lifetime. I think some of us were loved wrongly multiple times. I think people took us for granted and didn’t know how to really love us. I think people projected on to us and knew we would always be there so they took advantage of us and maybe they didn’t intentionally know it but when you look back so many things they have done was wrong. 

So many situations I dealt with had nothing to do with me. Nothing. Yet I lost sleep over it or felt pain or hurt. So many times I questioned what I could have done differently. Only thing was walk away. At times I stayed way too long. I took way too much. 

I will always carry a piece of those people in my heart. But I won’t continue to have them in my life. 

You need to forgive to heal to grow. Make space for what you deserve. 

I made space for what I truly deserved and it opened my eyes up to the things I had crowding me for so long.