You Have To Focus On The Lessons

It's a roller coaster ride. Life in general is. Good days, bad days. I heard it takes 5 years to

really get over a divorce. The time frame starts from when the marriage starts to fail and go

down hill. Crazy to think people jump into relationships fast after a divorce. It's like

you need to date yourself before you can even really know what type of person you want to be with. I met a lady who was going through her second divorce. Her second husband was an alcoholic. She said at first it was fun and she thought he just liked to party. She didn't realize the extend of the problems he had. Obviously she didn't wait 5 years. I get why, no one wants to be alone. But you need time. 

You need time to mourn the loss of your marriage. To be your own friend. It's hard not

having a companion, someone who has your back, but how selfish is it to jump into another situation without allowing yourself time. Time to focus on the lessons and allow yourself to grow. Be better. Love yourself. Fix what you need to fix within yourself.