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Friday, October 4, 2019
Clean Bill Of Health Thanks Doc
I love my doctor. He’s probably 10 years older than me. He’s funny and real. So I have my physical today and he asks if any concerns. Of course I bring up weight loss and tactics. He’s like listen to be honest you’re in perfect health. Your cholesterol changed drastically since April. Your sugar levels are perfect. Everything came back normal. You’re perfect. Now if you want to loose weight it’s not about the number. It’s about having a healthier lifestyle. Promise to not look at scale.
Well let’s not get carried away. I told my Mom she’s like see what happens when you’re happy. What changed in a year or 6 months? No drama. No stress. You’re happy.
So maybe it’s a lifestyle change. Maybe it’s a diet. Maybe it is being happy. Maybe it’s being calm. Regardless I am one happy and grateful gal.
Being happy is key. Life is so up and down. Remove any drama or stress. Just be happy.
Men Are Not Complicated They Are Just Like Women
We tend to forget this. Men aren’t complicated. Men are like women. We put energy into people we want in our life’s. Men do the same thing. We aren’t so different as people think. Pay attention. Don’t waste your time and energy on people who do not do the same for you.
You Have To Try To Bond Whenever Possible
She’s at this age. It’s so much fun. Even though I look at her like my baby girl. She’s almost 11. We are sort of buddies. Our dialogue can be really fun. We started watching shows together. So last night I am on the other side of the house and she texts me. Her dialogue is in grey.
She likes to push my buttons and I try to show my funny side to get her to laugh. You’re not cool mom she says. I always respond just ask my friends they think I am.
You have to bond with your kids. You have to have conversations. We were laying down watching a random show and she starts talking. About random things. I always ask so how did that make you feel. I never had that dialogue growing up. I was the kid. It’s normal to not have it but now a days it’s different.
Kids deal with so much more. Social media can suck. Body changes. Circumstances are so different. I have to stay on top of the situation whenever I can. So bonding has worked. It gives us alone time. She feels like my peer even though at times I check her on it. I am the mom. I tell her we aren’t friends, yet. I need her to take me serious even though I make an effort.
I am a mom of three. It’s not easy. It’s hard to be there for each of them all the time. But I try hard. I notice certain times of the day they open up. I try to make note of it. They all need different things but they also all need the same things. To be heard and noticed and loved. That’s all I can do.
You Need To Step It Up Girls
I am that Mom. You know the one that preps the night before. Who is oblivious and thinks by doing this we don’t rush in the morning. Ha! Jokes on me.
Every night I prep. I lay out their clothes for next day. I pack anything non perishable for the snack and lunch. I make sure jackets and hats are out and shoes. I even go to the extend of filling their water bottles up.
I am all about making things easy and then morning comes.
I make their breakfast, make their beds even wash their face- I go up to them with a warm wash cloth and wipe their face! Can you imagine. I feel dumb even writing this. All they have to do is brush their teeth, eat, get dressed and put their lunch boxes in their book bag. You would think this process would be easy and smooth. NOPE. It doesn’t change. It’s the same every day. No easy ways. Same old.
I have turned into that Mom. Come on honey eat your breakfast. I walk in the other room they are playing in their pajamas or on electronics or watching TV or literally dragging their butts and not doing anything. NOTHING.
Yep. Typical morning.
Now let’s be fair. There’s always that one who is like. Look mom I am dressed, brushed my teeth, ate, packed my food and am ready to go. The golden kid. The shining star. It’s not always the same kid. They actually take turns while the others are like turtles. Taking their time to do anything. Tell the others to stop bragging to mom. It’s pretty amusing.
So today I was like listen I can’t do more for you than I am doing. This is blowing my mind. I literally do it all. I just will not do more. I mean I can’t spoon feed all of your breakfast.
So they all apologize like always where I don’t even care. I am like save it. Just change.
We are walking outside. They are like complimenting me up and down. Mom you’re the best. Mom we promise we will not do this. Yada yada. I open the garage and they are drawing all over my car with their finger and I look up and see the sun shining down on the leaves. Like God hit me in the face and I freeze.
Girls. I say. Look at the trees. Look at the foliage. My mood immediately shifts. I am at peace. In awe of the beauty.
Now this story is to teach you something. Actually a couple of things. It’s to teach you that no matter how much you do your kid will totally try to tick you off and you gotta just flow with it. That life can be planned to a point and then just go with it cause preparing doesn’t mean you get the results you want and need. Lastly stop.
Stop what you’re doing and focus on the beauty of life. The chaos. The rushing. The craziness. Stop.
Embrace it. Let it enter your mind and body. Let it touch your soul. Let it calm you and bring you peace and happiness. Life isn’t easy. Life is crazy. We rush. We are competing against the clock. Stop.
Enjoy the view. Enjoy things passing you by. These little moments can make all the bad crazy moments disappear.
Embrace them!
Stop With Overthinking
Don’t assume. Assuming causes more damage than reading what is there.
I have always been honest. Real. I am upfront. I tell things from my prospective. How I view situations. I don’t hide behind words. I believe we all are free to do and be and think and act how we choose. But doesn’t mean we all have to agree.
Life isn’t meant to be understood by everyone. Your life has to be understood by you. But you do need to back up your words with actions. You do need to know if you are saying you’re going to do something you need to follow through.
Follow How You Feel...The Universe Doesn’t Lie
My mood started to change. I had to defend myself and I finally said. No you don’t. You need to not respond. Not react. Keep the peace yet detach.
You don’t understand. Your only power is YOU. Who you let in and who you don’t.
I had a couple situations happen yesterday with different people. One taught me this: some people like confrontation and I have no room for it. The second taught me: people need to be responsible for the information they process. Look at the facts not between the lines.
As much as I try I realize my energy flow doesn’t need certain situations in my life. A girlfriend reached out. She’s like I know your patterns. You learned now let it go.
We fight so hard for a happy good life. Don’t waste your time and energy on energy that conflicts with yours.
Put things to rest and don’t feed more energy into it.
Protect Your Energy
It’s ok because it’s what you need. Stop focusing on what others need. Put yourself first. 💜
Happy Friday!!
What a week. No I don’t want to relive it. I will say we made it and boy did we deserve this weekend coming up. I hope your day & weekend is full of happiness, laughs and good vibes. Spontaneous fun and good company.
Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you. Who love your core and leave you feeling good about yourself.
Excited for the weekend ahead.
Happy Friday Readers!
Accept Your Current Situation
Accept your current life and situation. Accept what is. We sometimes aim for the what if’s. Well it doesn’t matter. When you don’t fully accept a situation you give yourself false hope. You mislead yourself to not enjoy your current state. You may let others around you influence your need or emotions.
Simply live a life of peace and happiness. Embrace how your life is today, for today is all that matters.