Saturday, December 12, 2020
Forgive To Grow
I never understood how you could love someone and not be good to them or be around them. I never understood it. In time I learned that’s not love. Love isn’t hurting someone. Love is wanting the best for that person. It’s missing that person. It’s wanting the person to be happy and with you and when you’re happy everything around you changes. It grows.
I think we all have been loved wrong in our lifetime. I think some of us were loved wrongly multiple times. I think people took us for granted and didn’t know how to really love us. I think people projected on to us and knew we would always be there so they took advantage of us and maybe they didn’t intentionally know it but when you look back so many things they have done was wrong.
So many situations I dealt with had nothing to do with me. Nothing. Yet I lost sleep over it or felt pain or hurt. So many times I questioned what I could have done differently. Only thing was walk away. At times I stayed way too long. I took way too much.
I will always carry a piece of those people in my heart. But I won’t continue to have them in my life.
You need to forgive to heal to grow. Make space for what you deserve.
I made space for what I truly deserved and it opened my eyes up to the things I had crowding me for so long.
Universal Yums Boxes
I am so excited about this box. I saw it online. I ordered it as a Christmas gift for my girls. The first one came in and I had to check it out before wrapping it. I am always having them try new things now they get a box every month of new items from around the world to try. The first box is filled with holiday goodies from multiple different countries around the world. The next boxes will be of one country a month.
Some of their previous boxes where Colombia and Egypt.
This is such a cool concept. It also is a great way to educate the kids how things are around the world. Plus we get to try new yummy treats.
Be Independent in Every Relationship
We have this illusion that our happiness depends solely on our partner. That they need to devote their time 100% to us and if they don’t then they don’t love us. Healthy mature relationships are about two people who are emotionally intelligent. Who enjoy the company of one another. Who have secure relationship attachment styles yet have independence.
Where you don’t need a person. It’s not obsessive. It’s actually extremely calm and content. It’s not an anxious type where you feel insecure. It’s a type where you two bring out the absolute best in one another. You encourage and promote inner growth. You have your hobbies and time together and hobbies and time apart. You communicate effectively.
This isn’t a common type of relationship but should be everyone’s goal. We put so much stress on our expectations of what someone else should do for us that we don’t take ownership of our own roles and responsibilities.
We are so used to unbalanced relationships that we think that is normal. It’s not normal. I lived through both types of relationships. I had to teach myself what type of relationship made the most sense.
You cannot be fully happy with anyone unless you’re secure in yourself. And I don’t mean love yourself because we all love ourselves but we all carry pain and past experiences and project it on to people. No one is here to save you. You have to save yourself.
You love someone for who they are. Not who you want them to be or how they should be. You have to fully accept someone for all of them and if you don’t then walk away.
But please know this. Your partners job isn’t to cater to you and worship the floor you walk on. They are there to enjoy the journey of life with you.
