Wednesday, January 8, 2020
Restarting...We Are All Allowed That
This is what this year was suppose to be about. Restarting. Believing in yourself. Believing in love. Loving life. Finding magic in the little things. I was oblivious and then life took me on a rollercoaster ride. I became a bit tough and bitter. I detached emotionally from people to guard my heart. I had to let that all go. I wanted the magic but had to get through some things.
I wanted peace again. To be calm. To start again. This year is about that.
It’s about growth. Healing. Learning from mistakes and realizing they don’t have to be a part of you. You can be soft. You can not tolerate certain situations that don’t align with your core values. You can have a calm mind.
Never Believe Other’s Opinions
This is so destructive and not necessary. No one has the right to judge you or to make you feel a certain way about yourself. I love the quote that says “it’s none of my business what you think of me”.
It’s funny how the channel of communications can distort peoples views and opinions. I had a friend once say something in regards to my post. I laughed because honestly if you take the time to read my blog you don’t judge. You come to get inspired not criticize. If you judge me then please don’t read them. It’s not like social media where I pop up. But it had me thinking when I saw this post. I never really cared what people thought of me because when I did I had to defend myself and who the hell wants to do that? I don’t compete and I don’t defend. I like being oblivious to what people think of me. Because I don’t care.
Our perspective changes. It’s influenced by others. What others say. How people react. Let that all go.
In my whole life I never was brought up to be jealous or envious of others. I was taught to root for eachother. Encourage success and achievements to those around me. I never ever had to compete or be jealous.
You’re opinion of me doesn’t matter. You shouldn’t care of people’s opinions of you either. Rock on!
Create Peace
Our ultimate goal should be to love and be loved and be at peace.
I struggled with it today. Not sure why. I couldn’t focus. I even mediated. I reread some old messages and knew things couldn’t change yet it bothered me a lot today not sure why. More so than a week ago. Some things just take time. Sometimes seeking peace means going through some pain and heartache or confusion.
Did You Know Snow
I pulled into a parking lot and saw snow falling from the sky. I started to smile. There’s something childlike about snow. The wind was strong. The snow was swirling all around. It didn’t last long but was enough to make me smile.
When You Want To Be Proved Wrong
When you align yourself you give people the benefit of the doubt. We should... right. We should look at people as if their intentions are true and pure.
When a situation arises and people don’t change your views or make you think different about a situation at times you can feel defeated. You always want that Prince Charming to come riding on that horse to sweep you off your feet. I am afraid he may really only exist in fairytales ladies.
I am afraid that men and women are more similar than we think. We say what we want and need and so do they. If they keep their distance it’s because they want to. When things end they really end. If you’re waiting for someone to change don’t hold your breath. I would love to be wrong but from my experience people rather stay the same then change even if that change will make them happy.
We get caught up in remaining where we are afraid of the unknown. Crazy thing is the unknown never failed anyone.
It’s Ok To Let Go
Ever hold on to a situation so much that it sort of became toxic for you? I swear it started to happen. It was bringing out a lot of insecurities I had until I sort lost it on a friend and said I am done.
Maybe my expectations weren’t being met. Maybe I thought deep down things would change and they didn’t and that frustrated me. I wasn’t being good for that person either while they weren’t being good for me.
Regardless no one should bring out that side of you. Every time I thought about reaching out I stopped myself. Peace was so much better than the dysfunctional friendship we had.
Power is when you stop yourself. When you say no. I can’t go back unless we are both are willing to change. Willing to change enough to be good for eachother. We didn’t owe anything to one another just enjoyed each others time. When that stopped. When that changed. That’s when you say ok enjoy your life. Wish you well no hard feelings. If you don’t you damage one another. No one wants that You don’t have peace. You have constant turmoil. No one wants to have that in their heart. If things couldn’t change then this problems would reoccur over and over.
It’s like relationships. If you can’t be good to eachother get out of it. Once you don’t feel it in your heart and soul you have to let it go.
No one says suffering is part of the equation when loving someone. Arguments and disagreements happen but when you aren’t happy at your core it’s time to make changes or to get out. Why just get by in life...For what? Who wins? Who benefits?
Create A Vision Board
This is a reminder as to what you want and deserve so picture it, embrace it and achieve it.
You can draw it out. Map it out. Put it on a piece a paper and hide it in a drawer. Whatever you do put your goals down. 💗
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