You need to have both in a relationship! Not one over the other. Both.
Friday, September 20, 2019
What Makes A Relationship Work
You need to have both in a relationship! Not one over the other. Both.
Life Oh My Oh My
Life...the mysterious journey. The unknown. The what will happen next who knows. When you have all this in your head as to how things should be verse how they are you have to let it go. You have to realize this moment is your life. Regardless of the sadness or pain or fears or doubts. This exact moment is your life.
I had dinner with a friend. I could spend the rest of my life with this one person. I don’t know why. It’s just easy and fun and natural. But things didn’t align for us and to be honest there has to be a reason. So I let go of the hurt and pain and sadness and said I am just going to enjoy our dinner together and I did. No agenda. I did want to cry in the car after because the feeling of knowing we aren’t more than friends is hard but then I realize that this is my life. At this moment my life is aligning the way it has to be and I accept it. I embrace it. I look at the good in it.
How lucky to have loved even if it was a short. How lucky to have met someone who makes me feel like time is endless when I am with them. How amazing to have lived the life I lived.
Having this mindset helps take away any pain or doubt or failure.
Some people go their whole life not experiencing love. I have. I am grateful for it. And know one day I will find someone to feel that with again.
Some people spend their whole life fearing change and not being happy not doing things they want to do. How lucky am I to embrace change and the unknown.
This person I would love to be in my life forever, it’s like we are the same person I can’t explain. It’s just easy talk and comfortable and like being with a best friend who is good looking and enjoys your company but I can’t control how things are between us. I can just embrace life as it is. Understand that there is a higher being who has intentions for me. Just flow with it and accept your life.
You’re A Good Mom
We don’t hear it as much as we should. A friend said it to me the other day and I thanked him. It’s nice to hear. Like really nice.
So if you haven’t heard it lately then I want to tell you
You’re a good mom. It’s not easy. We aren’t perfect. We are learning all the time. But we try our best and well that’s enough and what matters. 💜
We’re All Different and That’s Ok
Every once in a while your child says something that hits you hard. In that moment you freeze and try not to react. Try not to be emotional. How you react is critical on how your children will handle that situation.
Last year my daughter broke her shin. I booked a follow appointment for her. Last night she brought it up. She then brought up her heart. She was born with a heart defect. Nothing urgent but we do have to see a cardiologist. She asked when her scan was scheduled for. I always told her she had a special heart. When your baby is getting scans and hooked up to wire it’s hard to not react. So I just always said your heart is special and that’s ok. Of course when I think about it I get emotional but I also know we stumbled upon this when she was first born and she could have gone her whole life not knowing about it.
Last night she asked me why. Why does her heart have to be so different. What if she needed a new heart one day. I told her she won’t need a new heart but she has scans to make sure her heart is ok and can handle activities and perform how it should. But I don’t want to be different she says. I said honey we all are different. Unfortunately we all have something in life that makes us different and this is what you have to deal with. She asked me how I was different. I have no thyroid I told her. She asked how her middle sister was different I said she was born with a Strawberry on her foot that took up most of her foot. We then went on to say how everyone in our life is unique and why.
Being different is ok. We all have something in life we have to deal with. Whether it be visible or not visible. This brought her peace but as we spoke it brought me pain. That knowing this was her lifetime set back was always hard on me and even though it’s only something I have to process during her follow up appointments or sports. At times when she’s sick I always fear her heart may have something to do with it.
Parenting is never easy. But we need to process before reacting. Process before we use words. Knowing that we all have some demons and fears to deal with. Her’s so happens to be her heart.
You Go Girl...
Women lift one another up. So grateful for my tribe. I am blessed with a lot of different groups of amazing women in my life. My mom, sisters and family members for starters. Then my best friends. My single girlfriends. My mommy girl friends. My college girlfriends. My not family but feel like family girlfriends. My be there for you whenever you need me girlfriends. My haven’t spoken but when we see eachother feels like no time has passed girlfriends. Wow a ton of amazing powerful beautiful women in my life.
Now it’s my turn to help raise amazing women too. It’s a circle of life. Us moms of daughters must step up and be a good role model. Show them what they are really capable of- anything they put their mind to.
Grateful for my tribe. Be grateful for your tribe too.
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