Tuesday, February 25, 2020
Mirror Yourself...Over And Over
I can’t explain my transformation. I have this weird calmness over me. I tend to be around calm people. I kindof laugh because they are very outgoing but calm me. I even hang out with a calm guy. I like calmness. I don’t react like I used to. I think healing helps. Healing brings you peace. There will always be situations that stir it up but be at inner peace to remain calm.
So I love my book I am reading which I have shared. I promise you read it.
Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended on It
My little one even helped highlight pages for me this morning as I read in bed before starting my day.
You have the power to change. Grow. Heal. Be whoever you want to be. Fall back in love with life. Your life. Make changes you need to be happy!
Choose Your Battles
Breathe in breathe out.
Breathe in saying positive things to yourself. Breathe out any negative emotions. Fears. Doubts.
You’ll be amazed what you breathe out!
Acknowledge the Triggers
This is something that has helped me through the process of learning and growing and healing all within. That whenever I felt an emotion I didn’t like I dug deep to try to figure out what triggered me.
I had a friend who hated that word but it’s true. Triggers is when we shift our mind and emotions based on what something someone did or said. That trigger most of the time activated pain from an old wound. Something that happened years prior.
So it takes work. Acknowledging what’s really bothering you. Doesn’t always mean that person didn’t cause that pain. Sometimes it’s their repeated behavior. Once we learn their patterns it no longer can bother you because it’s predictable.
Triggers happen when unexpected outcomes happen. When our expectations aren’t met so we feel neglected or upset due to their failed behavior. But what really is an important thing to remember is that patterns are predictable. Think about it. For example: If I go out with certain friends I know we are home late. I know what our night will be like so I prepare ahead.
If I bring up a topic with a guy I have been seeing I know I will feel insecure about our situation. Instead I just enjoy the process since it’s been years on and off I realized patterns that worked for us. If I try to push the envelope things may shift and change...mostly because of me. I notice when I changed my levels with someone I changed. I added pressure to myself instead of just going with it. I can predict my patterns. Their patterns. Their triggers and mine. I know already what to expect. When something changes or shifts. When things are unpredictable that can trigger us too.
The whole point is to look within. We blame others for
Our emotions. But most of the time...they are old wounds that are reopening.
Become aware with who you are and what you need and what needs to heal.
Feelings Are Information
I love this guy. I feel he makes a lot of sense and we need a reminder. Check out this video he posted on Instagram about giving yourself permission to change to follow your feelings to want different things in your life.
Link if video doesn’t show: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B81EElGHE5t/?igshid=1cha4h9uwr7an
Take the time to watch this. It’s helpful and a reminder that sometimes we have to do what’s best for us.
There Will Be Memories That You Want To Forget
We all have been there. In situations where our world and life changed. Some drastically overnight. Losing someone or a breakup or a diagnosis. Regardless those painful situations stay with us. We carry on but deep down the pain is there.
I don’t think we should “get over it”. There’s painful memories I think will always be a part of my journey. I think they shape us but it’s ok for them to still bother you.
We all have our own individual stories. Journey. Pain.
The one thing we must learn is to not repeat those painful scenarios. That’s your only control.
Don’t go back to those who hurt you. Don’t let your guard down second time around. Forgive but move on.
I had a friend who I loved. I really loved their personality our fun times together our endless banter. It was so easy then it changed overnight. But that friend hurt me. It prevented me from getting into other relationships and friendships because I was on guard. I was wounded. I had no control over outcome and from time to time something reminds me of that pain. It’s not necessarily their fault when that pain reappears but they did cause that pain.
Could I ever believe they couldn’t hurt me again. Not sure. But I acknowledge that when I feel that emotion it’s ok to feel it. I acknowledge that our journey was the way it was.
Some things stay with you and it’s ok.
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