Thursday, August 1, 2019
I Love That You Have A Kind Soul But Please Stop
I started to notice a trend. Every time she had an activity and I gave her extra money she was doing kind things for her friends and spending her money.
“Mom I bought a whole pizza for my group, I ate a slice of it and they had the rest” “Mom I bought her a drink.” “Mom I played one game but had to win my friend a toy too so played for her” “Mom you have extra tickets just give it to my friend”
Finally tonight I pulled her aside at a festival and said enough. I love that you have a kind soul but you have to understand the value of money.
I get it. When I was 10 I didn’t know concept of money. If my friends wanted something I would offer too or ask my mom. I don’t mind giving a kid a couple of tickets so she can join a ride. But when I am spending $10 or more now and have already three kids to worry about it gets to be a little much.
I love she has a kind soul but had to break it down for her. I explained how many chores she would have to do to make money or how many hours.
Recently she asked for an extra $50 for a school trip. That’s spending money. The trip already covered. Everything else paid for. I said I will give you $40 but please let it last. She said she was thirsty because she used all her money on games and couldn’t afford a drink when I picked her up.
I wasn’t there to back her up. I felt awful for her but also thought it would be a good lesson for her.
I realize it’s my job as a parent to help my kids understand it too.
I also said I had no problem giving extra tickets if her friend was short on tickets for rides but when I am now giving her friend we ran into 8 tickets for multiple rides that’s when it’s not ok. There has to be a balance in life. No one wants to be cheap or stingy but you also don’t have to offer up money or a whole pizza or tickets unless someone is really in a jam. You do help people when they need it but a child shouldn’t have to focus on that.
If someone is short a dollar you help. If someoneis hungry you share your food. One year a friend never had snack so I said pack her extra snack to share with her. We did it all year long.
If someone is sad you see where you can help. But the last four times I gave her extra money she used it on something else. It’s ok once in a while but not every time. It’s ok to help when people need it and be generous but it’s also ok to not feel responsible for everyone else.
Cornhole Tournament in Milford CT
I love Walnut Beach. I spent a lot of time here last summer.
It’s so pretty and clean. This event looks like a lot of fun. Check it out:
How Do You Choose Your Time?
We always have a choice. We give up one thing to gain another. There’s always the same amount of time in a day. We choose what we do with it. Who we spend it with and how it fills our life.
There’s never a “right time”. It’s the time you want it to be.
I learned a long time ago you can’t force anyone to make a decision or act a certain way or react. You only have control over you. Your life. Your time. Your happiness.
Sono Arts Fest This Weekend Aug 3&4 2019
This is one of my favorite festivals. I love all the vendors and music. Food. The vibe is so fun and creative. It starts Saturday 10-5:00.
Be sure to go to the parade. We were in it a couple of times. Go to the puppet station and see if they need volunteers to walk and hold up the puppets.
What If I Said The Gain Is Worth The Risk?
Do you have any regrets? NONE
I honestly haven’t. I may have wished I did things differently but always gained from any risk. I had to heal to feel that way. To say I have no regrets. They are all making me better. Smarter. More lovable. More at peace. More independent.
Nothing I ever risked wasn’t worth the gain.
When you think this way you can’t have regret.
Happy 1st Of The Month...Happy August
Every month is a new start. A fresh start. Make it a happy one!
Wednesday, July 31, 2019
Red 36 In Mystic CT
This is our go to place every time we come to Mystic in the Summer. It’s beautiful. Overlooking the water with all the boats. The food is delicious. Refreshing. Tasty. Great prices.
My girlfriend was craving steamers. She lucked out when she saw them on the menu. Followed by her berry hibiscus drink with Tito’s. Was a great lunch. I ordered their arugula chicken and pesto flatbread. Was perfect after a weekend of eating bad in the Cape. The salmon chips are always a hit and this time we tried their clam and corn fritters.
St Matthew’s Festival in Norwalk
I took the kids last year and we had a great time. The funny thing is we opened the church email and they posted a picture of us in the newsletter.
It’s a great time and we will be taking the kids again this weekend. You can park at NECC and a shuttle will pick you up to drop you off at the church.
Healing Crystals and Their Meaning
I went into a store and saw a bunch of healing crystals. They say when you walk in make sure there’s nothing in your hands. When you place a stone in it whatever energy you feel is the stone for you.
I decided to get these not just for me but for people on my life too who I thought could use them or appreciate them.
Each stone came with a card that describes what it represents and means.
You can keep them in your car, purse, nightstand. I usually keep mine near my bed.
Which stones do you have or would you purchase?
Tonight’s Black Moon
Be sure to look outside tonight or early morning. We may be able to see it living in the North East.
Sift Bake Shop in Mystic
This place is so awesome. Everything looks amazing and delicious. I grabbed an ice coffee and chocolate chip cookie. The cookies are huge. The cookie was gooey in the inside and chewy on the outside. The perfect balance of sweetness and chocolate chip ratio. They have an assortment of bake goods, artisan bread, cookies. Muffins. You name it. The pricing is very reasonable. Nothing too crazy and the quality well it’s freshly baked.
They even have a roof time lounge where you can have a beer or cocktails.
Tuesday, July 30, 2019
What Are Made With?
❤️
I saw this today in Mystic and well loved it. You are all made of love. It’s the chaos and stress, fear and anger that distracts us.
I won’t lie I haven’t had the type of relationships I deserve. I put a lot more into them then I got back. I hold on to them longer than I should. I did realize as I was settling for situations that were not in my best interest I had to take a step back and really love myself.
We All Have A Vision How Things Should Be...We Should Stop That!
Not all marriages fail. Not all relationships get boring. Not all families have a hard time meshing. Not all men hurt women and not all women hurt men.
Not everyone cheats. Not everyone gives up on eachother.
Let go of that!
Things can last and be good forever. You can love someone’s else child or children. You can be ok. You can wake up and go to bed happy everyday. You can fall in love at any age. You can experience pure soul joy.
It’s all what you choose to do and be and believe.
Finding The Right One...
This is really important especially for parents who are now divorced and dating. I always said I wanted someone just for me. For my time when I am not with my kids but in reality as a relationship progresses you need to choose someone you can mesh well with your life and well we don’t always think like that in the beginning.
Yes you take things slow but there are some people you think of a future with and you have to make sure they are a fit or even want to be a fit into your life and if they aren’t it hurts but you have to them let go and find someone who is.
Attach Your Feelings To It...Your Goals
Fighting for a relationship to work? Chasing a person? Looking for a job change? Hoping for good news? Praying for good health? Seeking new life opportunities?
How would you feel if you finally accomplished your goal? Picture it. Now attract it.
The Perfect Night: Hyannis Mass
Beach hair, tan skin, walking the beach with sand in our toes. Sipping on my favorite vineyards bottle of wine. It’s how I wish I could end all my nights...and maybe it can’t happen here by maybe I can start recreating my perfect ending to the day back at home.
We can’t escape life. Our responsibilities. We can’t settle yet we must put work and effort into everything we do but what if I told you that life can be different. That you can find happiness in all your days.
It’s a matter of loving who you are, & who you’re with.
Monday, July 29, 2019
No Great Story...Actually Create Your Own Stories
Have you ever laughed over a salad? Well actually if you’re a fun person then you’ll laugh eating or drinking anything.
Best part of getting together is the easy chats. The fun memories. The endless laughs and well eating and drinking. Even napping.
If I could create endless memories with everyone, well I would and you should too!
Food is a love language. It brings us comfort in many moments of our life. It’s a very big social activity.
When was the last time you got together with people who made your heart happy?
Ptown...What An Amazing Vibe & Town
I have been coming to Cape Cod for 20 years and never been to Provincetown Mass. It was always on my list of places to go to. I finally went and I can’t wait to go back.
First of all there are a ton of shops. Restaurants. Bars. Candy shops. Clothing stores. Little variety stores. Then there are fun toys shops for adults- you walk in and they ask if you want a tour. Palm readers. Stones and tarot card readers. I walked into a place and wanted to get my Palm read. I did this 20 years ago. The lady who does the reading walks out to talk to me and I turned to my friends and said I am catching a weird vibe from her, I don’t like her energy and decided not to do it.
There are families everywhere. Beautiful people everywhere. Gorgeous men who aren’t available but amazing to just look at. The creativity is overwhelming. Everywhere you look is awesome art. I want to come back next year and stay a night or two to enjoy the nightlife.
The boardwalk is huge. I haven’t seen a place like this in a very long time. It felt like a place I want to hang. Amazing energy. Friendly people. Awesome artist work everywhere.
Every where you turn you laugh or smile or get inspired.
I can’t believe it took me 20 years of coming to the Cape to finally go. It was about a 90 minute drive from
where we are staying in West Yarmouth but so worth the drive.
I laughed at my girlfriend who brought us to Chatham because it’s so her style. Preppy and Greenwich ave like. We arrive at Ptown and I said now welcome to my hood. Creative, artsy and full of life. Such different personalities but such a great time to experience new adventures and places together.
Commercial street is the place to checkout
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