Thursday, October 24, 2019
The Little Things...
This morning’s car art courtesy of my kids ❤️ I walked up to my car and laughed. They totally get me.
Thursday Vibes...It’s Ok
It’s been a weird week. Where my intuition has been spot on. When I thought of someone. Then they reached out and I woke up to my phone suggesting a photo memory of an event we attended in February and I smiled and said it’s ok.
It’s ok to have people in your heart and mind but not your life. It’s ok to miss someone. We all think we need a bad or civil agreed ending. Some times things don’t fully end. Sometimes time just passes and we move on with life..slowly. But regardless it’s ok to have memories. It’s ok to have good or bad days. It’s ok to love someone even after they have hurt you or things didn’t end up the way you wanted.
Coming from a long marriage I had a lot to learn. After dating and meeting someone who I cared a lot about I had a lot to learn. Even now I am learning. But I do know I rather have civil endings to situations than hurtful angry ones. I don’t want to carry anger in my heart for anyone nor want them to have it in their heart for me.
You can love as many people as you want. You can have people come in and out just as long as you know that some things remain in the past and some cannot be a part of your future. You can start again and still carry memories with others with you. Things don’t always come to a complete end and I am happy accepting that verse knowing something has ended forever.
Wednesday, October 23, 2019
Halloween Crafts
I LOVE crafts. So when I came across these I had to share them. There are so many really cute and easy crafts for Halloween to do with your little goblins.
Too Creepy to Eat...
I love some of these recipe and also some made my stomach turn. What do you think you could handle eating? Bloody Mary syringe or a jello brain? Check out these really cool yet creepy recipes.
Can You Be Too Happy?
We all have had bad times in our life so now we can appreciate the little things. Being happy is a big goal. Pain still carries in our hearts but how amazing when we can see beauty in little things. When people around us bring out the best of us and we love life. Fully. Happiness. Pure joy.
So what’s this being too happy about. I had to look it up and found an article.
So maybe being too happy to some may seem bad. I won’t lie. I have my good and bad days. I can snap and just like everyone else need my alone time but I also realized that my happiness changes based on my audience. When I can be my true self. Without being on guard. I am 100% a ray of sunshine. Happy. Bright. When I am on guard. Overwhelmed or need to watch what I say or do I am not.
I think most of us can relate to that. Bottom line your happiness varies based on what makes you happy in life. Simple things make me happy. Good company. Good conversation. Me being real.
What makes you happy?
Live In Balance
Forgive. Let go. Move on. Have balance. Have happy times.
This week I was great and then a memory popped up. I said out loud why am I thinking of this person or situation.
It was ok to let it bring me down but then I had to say let it go. Keep going. Right! Isn’t that life? You just keep going.
Stay positive and motivated.
Live in the Now
Sometimes it’s all in your head. Really it is. Sometimes we think about situations and it triggers an emotion in us. What if we lived in real time. The present moment. We would have so much less to be sad or worry or mad about. We wouldn’t stress like we do. Let’s try it. Let’s forget the past. Forget past hurt and pain and anger. Live at this current, present, moment.
Let go of what should have been or could have been or would have been. That life is gone. Anything this year that let go of you means time for you to let go of them. Any love you have for someone who didn’t reciprocate it to you doesn’t deserve to be lingering in your mind.
Stop. Let it all go. Now live in the present moment. Focus on what’s around you NOW. Who is around you. What you need now. Not then. Not the past. Not the future. Now.
Are You Inspiring Others?
We are all here to teach and learn. Everything in life inspires us. Are you inspiring others?
Tuesday, October 22, 2019
The Type Of Friendships You Need
If you’re not feeling good or if they trigger something in you then they aren’t meant to be in your life. Friendships at this age are important, yet can be hard to maintain. Everyone has a lot to juggle. Work. Kids. Relationships. Marriages. Companions. Sports. Kids activities. Gym. Careers. Homework. School activities.
So when you have someone in your life who makes you feel good and happy you have to show them
your appreciation. Even if it’s a quick how are you text or let’s do dinner text. It’s so good for you to get out.
I once had a friend who said they got sick of people easily. It would bother me. Like if you’re sick of someone then they aren’t really your friend and it is best you’re not in each others lives. Friendships are people who bring out a side of you that you like. Who are fun. Carefree. Drama Free. Friendships aren’t meant to be work. They are meant to help you escape from things that are work.
Be selective who you let in. Be selective who you share your energy with. Cherish those friendships that make you feel young. Make your soul happy. Those type of people you don’t let go of.
Healing Begins When You Let Go Of How Things Should Be
This is a hard lesson to learn but I promise you can heal from it. For anyone dealing with a breakup or heartache or losing someone you love. Take the lesson. Learn from it. Heal and move on. Everyday gets easier. Trust me. ❤️
Spooktacular Halloween Appetizers
Need some fun Halloween snack ideas. Check out this awesome list of fun spooktacular recipes from Country Living.
Your Only Power is Within
When you’re balanced. Have control. You become untouchable. The things that damaged you no longer damage you. The pain you once had actually gave you power. It’s hard to manifest but once you do amazing things happen to you.
Over and over again women in my life said if you leave a door half open you’ll never allow someone else the opportunity to come in. They were right. Once I fully closed that door shut within 48 hrs I opened a new door and let someone else in. It was pretty crazy and amazing. Unpredictable. Unplanned. Sort of just happened.
Don’t deny yourself the power of happiness. To remain calm. To have control over your feelings and emotions. It’s an everyday job but worth it. Never ever leave a door somewhat open to an opportunity or person who isn’t willing to give you what you fully need or deserve. When you do you pass up opportunities to people and situations that deserve to be in your life. You deserve happiness. You deserve calm, happy, good situations. You deserve good conversations and company. You deserve to remain calm and not allow people or a situation to trigger you.
Monday, October 21, 2019
Stop! Let’s Talk About It
Aggressive, physical behavior is taught- indirectly. It’s seen. It’s a way for us to express how we feel without using words. I get it but it’s 100% wrong. It’s never ok. Ever.
My kids hit eachother. I get it. My sisters and I did. We did some damage to eachother growing up. But I don’t want my girls to think that’s how we should communicate. I have never hit them. I may yell and punish but we never were physical with them
so I expect them not hit either.
So I have been enforcing a violent free home. Even anger and rage. Not ok. We need to be able to stop. Listen. Process. THEN React.
Yesterday my middle one did it backwards. I finally said explain to me what triggered you. She couldn’t. She said she couldn’t put it into words. So I said fine. Draw it.
She did. We discussed it. I repeated that she can not take matters into her own hands and to Stop. Listen. Process before Reacting.
It’s funny when you speak to kids they may say I don’t know what that word is or what that means. So you have to explain it all. I had to explain to process- think about what’s happening. Think how should she handle the situation. Before reacting.
Every home should be a violent free home. We haven’t learned how to communicate properly. I haven’t. You haven’t. No one really has. So we repeat these cycles. It’s damaging. It’s wrong.
I never realized how damaging until I started to meditate. When I meditated I couldn’t calm my brain because I would see aggressive behavior being acted out in front of me. It’s not ok. Never. It’s damaging. Whether it happens once a month or once a year it’s too much.
I started to change my cycle. I would meet men who were manly men but very calm. Not aggressive when upset. I started to be close to friends who were calm. I learned that you can be upset without yelling and swearing or breaking something or intimidating someone. It’s awful. Not ok. Very immature.
We have to teach our kids how to communicate. How to not first react then process listen and stop. It’s the wrong order. It always has been wrong but we have been witnesses to it. Every action has a consequence. We as parents, adults, role models must learn how to speak and deal with our emotions properly because our kids are constantly watching. We also need our kids to know that violence is never ok. Verbal or physical reactions are never ok. When we are triggered we have to stop. Even if it means walk away. Don’t answer the phone. Don’t respond to a text. Do what you need to do to make sure situations don’t escalate.
I can’t believe how many people have been exposed to violent behavior and situations including myself. It’s a cycle that must be broken and starts today with you and me and everyone. Stop this cycle.
Ask Dr. Ruth
I spent over 12 hours last week on a plane. I watched more movies then I have in the last two years. But this movie was by far the best. Her story. Her journey. Her sadness and heartache. What an amazingly strong woman!
Be sure to watch this.
The Old You Is Gone Embrace The Change
Like who the new You is. Look back at your life. Even a year ago. Look at how hard things were. What you overcame. Who was in your life verse now. How you process things differently. How your relationships or friendship changed.
We never stay the same. We are constantly changing and evolving. It’s beautiful. Can be hard. Can have pain and hurt but in the end has beauty.
I am so much wiser now than I was a year ago. I finalized a divorce. Had my heart broken again. And that really help me grow. Mentally. Emotionally.
I met some amazing people. Connected with my children more and more. Watched them evolve. I realized I had to let go of people who weren’t good for me. Who made me feel insecure or hurt. I gained some amazing friendships. I set priorities in my life and boundaries. I created a ton of memories. Traveled. Laughed so hard my soul danced. Now I am content. My heart is content. I have someone in my life I constantly laugh with. My kids have grown. My family is amazing. My friendships are like missing pieces of me and complete my soul.
Happy. Strong. Grateful. Things don’t happen by accident. It’s to teach us.
Embrace the becoming of who you are! Shed the old you and pieces and people attached to it that way it down.
Monday Motivation... Start Again
A new beginning. At any point in your life you can start over. Usually starting over happens after a breakup or a job loss or a hardship.
What if I said everyday you had a opening to start again. Restart at any moment in time. Even when life is good you can restart.
I wish you happy, fulfilling days. I wish you happy, new, beginnings to start again. I wish you a Happy Monday and a happy life.
Sunday, October 20, 2019
It’s Ok To Spread Sunshine After Darkness
I stopped by a girlfriend’s house. I brought some remedies for a migraine she was having. We spend a lot of time together because it makes our souls feel good.
We started to talk and I said sometimes I feel bad being so happy and spreading sunshine because I haven’t dealt with some traumas in life like people have so I don’t want to be a hypocrite.
She stopped and looked at me. What are you taking about she asked. You had cancer while pregnant. You went through a divorce. Your whole life changed over and over. You had heartache. Pain. Loved ones who dealt with addictions and medical conditions. You had dealt with fear and pain and anger. You lost people in your life you loved and pets and friendships. You dealt with aggressive behavior you didn’t deserve. What more do you want to deal with?
Wow I said you’re right. But all those things helped me see the sunshine now. All those dark moments built my character.
Keep shining and don’t change she said.
It made me think. She was right. I have had my share of darkness.
My life isn’t better than yours. The more I think about it we can’t ever compare. Whether your darkness was easier or harder than mine doesn’t mean we can judge or compare. It means we take those situations and make peace with them.
We release them. Hold on to the lessons and say today I am better because of them. We heal our brokenness and shine. We spread love and sunshine because it makes us feel good.
We all have darkness. We all have had times when we wanted to sleep our life away or run or hide or start over.
It’s ok you now get to decide what to do with your life
once you overcome that darkness. I decided to spread some sunshine. Not because my life is simple or easy it’s because those dark moments didn’t break me. They helped me.
Not Today Or Tomorrow Or Ever Again
There are moments. Trust me. You are triggered. You will have to face people or a person who makes your cringe at the sight of them. Their voice brings back a flash of bad memories. Don’t give them that power. Don’t let them break you.
You are in control of your life. You must remember. No one else. No one has the power to break you unless you give them that power. You don’t need to see them. You don’t need to speak to them. You can protect your energy.
Not today. Not tomorrow. Not ever. Will you or I or anyone allow anyone to break you, me, us, anyone. Remember that ❤️
Add Some Sunshine In Your Life
I buy myself my own flowers once a week I said to my friend on the phone as I walked out of the store. I do too my friend said. I was in shock yet loved the fact that he did too.
We both agreed that it added life to the house. We both kept them in the kitchen. These week was $3.99 little mums from Trader Joe’s.
I had a bunch in my carriage when an elderly lady stopped me and said those are so pretty. Thank you I said. I went on to tell her where to buy them in the store. I mentioned I buy flowers once a week and said they are like a ray of sunshine. She smiled and said yes that’s a great way to describe them. Well I replied. We all could use more sunshine in our life. She agreed and thanked me.
I came home and handed them out and everyone’s face lite up. I spread some sunshine in their life too.
It doesn’t take much to make me happy. I am simple. You can be too. Anyone can be. A simple $3.99 small yellow mum will help me smile this week. When was the last time you did something for you to make you smile?
Posa in Ridgefield
I have been here a couple months ago. I went with girlfriends over the weekend. I will admit their menu changed a little since last time I was here but the ambiance has stayed the same.
It was packed but yet cozy. The staff was very helpful and friendly. The lights dimmed. Beautiful inside. Beautiful people all around us. We all had a crazy week so was great to catch up with a lot of laughs and enjoy eachother.
We ordered the mussels and a margarita pizza. Then I had the raviolis with a sage butter and filled with mascarpone cheese. It came out a little cooler than I would have liked but was delicious. It melted in your mouth.
One girlfriend got the pasta with fresh tomatoes and the other linguine with clams. Their linguine with clams is by far the best I ever had out. Delicious.
We chatted over cocktails and thanked eachother to be in eachother lives. We all have experienced heartache together and it’s amazing how life can change within a matter of months, weeks, days.
How we all came together after breakups and managed to realize those breakups had to happen for us to have a better life, so we would have never make our ways to eachother. We gained friendships.
There is beauty in every situation, in every pain. We are lucky to have turned our year around fast. To know that there’s so much more to life than to be in a situation that isn’t bringing out your higher good.
I hope you too have friendships that make your heart happy.
I hope you too are living your life the way you want.
What Would Happen If A Kiwi & Berry Had A Baby?
I was shopping at Trader Joe’s when I heard that. I stopped. There were these little green things on the counter where they hand out samples.
They looked like little green olives. But they weren’t. They were Kiwi Berries and I have to tell you they are so cute and fun.
I had to get a package for my girls. My dad loves fruit so I grabbed him one too. Every time
I go to Trader Joe’s I look for something unique to try. They always have something. It’s so fun. I can’t wait for my girls to try these.
They look like olives. Don’t have a furry shell. You can eat the whole thing. You bite into it and it’s a kiwi inside. Trader Joe’s did it again!
Have you ever tried a kiwi berry?
Saturday, October 19, 2019
Happy...Be Happy
Are you happy?
It’s so important. Be happy. Tell people when they make you happy. Be around people who bring out your happiness. Talk to people who make you smile just from their texts or voice.
Happiness is the highest level of success. It’s healing. It keeps you young. It’s contagious.
I wish you all happiness. I wish you see beauty in all your days. Even hard days. Even not so good, long days.
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