I feel I am easy to get along with for the most part. Off the bat you know if you like my personality or not. I think that is why I stayed in relationships and friendships because I kind of flowed with it. People wanted to stay in touch with me even when relationships ended because they liked my friendship. I now realize how important clicking with someone matters. Where you are not constantly playing tug of war with each other. Where you both communicate the same way and have same goals and values. Where you may not always agree but respect each other beliefs.
I do not think you need to spend your lifetime in a relationship trying to change that person you're in a relationship with. If you do then it isn't the right relationship. Same goes if they are trying to change you. If they can't accept 99% of you then you need to get out. We are who we are. Even as adults changing means really looking within and even though I am willing to do it not everyone is!
Last night I leaned over and whispered "Are you happy in our relationship." He looked at me like I had twelve heads. Of course and he laughed. He is used to my weird, out of the blue questions and concerns.
Women need validation. We do. So if any men are reading this validate to your wife/girlfriend/partner. We like to hear how you feel. Men do have feelings too. No need to hide them. It is ok to validate people.
It's really my first, EASY, solid relationship I have had in a long time or actually ever because I never had an easy relationship. Sometimes I wonder how we click so well. How easy it is. How calm it is. No fighting just straight conversations. I accept him and his flaws and he accepts mine. How can this be so easy. Where is the catch?
Ironically it is common!
Read the article The "Click" Factor that explains this more in depth here.
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