Be your own competition...better yourself everyday. Never compete with anyone else or for someone’s love or attention. Never tell someone how they need to treat you. They will know based on what makes you stay or walk away.
Wednesday, August 28, 2019
Let’s Break This Down...
I see certain posts that hit home or I feel I need to share with people of a reminder in life. A reminder that you don’t have to have anyone justify your worth. It’s actually selfish of us to put that pressure on someone else. But I will say that when you fight with someone or beg or plead your case you start to hear the words come out of your mouth. It’s like being an outsider looking in and as it’s all happening. Fast. As it’s unfolding and you’re emotionally in distress you have an awakening. It’s a reminder of who you are and what’s your worth.
Like I am woman hear me roar. It’s nothing to do with them. It has to do with you. It’s your reminder to yourself.
It’s powerful, sad and awakening at the same time. It’s never about them validating who you are. It’s your validating to yourself. What you can handle. What you deserve. What you need in life. Self love. Self respect. Pride.
Nothing to do with what someone can make your feel. It’s about how you feel about yourself.
You got this girl. I am proud of your bad self. 💗
Be Happy...Just Because
Because the sun is shining or your favorite song came on the radio or your kids gave you extra kisses or someone made you lunch or a stranger smiled at you.
I must say I have a lot of great people in my life. Willing to help me. To make my life easier. My mom helped my daughter so I could work. I am swamped at work and a colleague offered to help with a report I was stuck on. A mommy friend was picking up supplies for school and asked what I needed. My daughters gave me big bear hugs this morning. All my family is coming over for dinner. My favorite songs came on the radio.
What’s there not to be happy about?
See it’s not what went wrong today. It’s what went right. And everyday life can be viewed these two ways. It’s your decision. 💗✌️
Be You...Always
There’s no compromising. There never should be and if you ever have to well then they aren’t the right person for you.
Clinton Summerfest This Weekend
Fireworks, food, music, learn more here https://shorelineconnecticut.com/events/2019/8/31/clinton-summerfest-and-fireworks
When It Gets To This Point...Fight or Flight
You can be looking at the same situation and both seeing it completely differently. When one has other distractions they can’t view their role in a situation clearly. You can’t possibly think someone gets hurt or upset out of no where. You have to understand your role and then it’s up to you both to decide what to do from there.
When someone isn’t feeling respected or visible or acknowledged or when their intuition is off it can trigger something in them. You do play a role. You have to understand. It’s just acknowledging what role you want to play in it. And then it’s deciding to fight it out for a good outcome or flight and leave the situation or relationship because it’s getting no where.
You have to understand people don’t just wake up and say today is the day I want you out of my life. When you push and push it comes to a point when they grant you your wish.
Be careful what you decide and how you make your choices.
Seek Within...
The truth is some situations don’t deserve your attention. When something doesn’t feel right inside it doesn’t matter what someone says you have to walk away.
You...You’re Amazing
Choose yourself. Some situations come along and you have some wtf moments. But you have to choose you. Say no to when situations don’t feel right. Say no to behaviors you don’t want or need to accept. You’re amazing. You don’t need to prove that to anyone.
Tuesday, August 27, 2019
Check Yourself
Maybe you need to check yourself. What’s eating at you? Why are you mad? Maybe you are the one starting the fight or egging on a situation. When things don’t go as we like we can throw a fit or get mad. When we don’t get what we want. Sometimes you need to stop and reconnect with yourself.
Change Your Habits To Change Your Life
Baby steps...I started by changing the pandora station I listened to. I love Mumford and Sons but it reminded me of a time I was sad and I don’t want to be sad anymore.
I changed restaurants I went to. Started changing my routine slowly. What I did. What I listened to. Where I went.
It helps you clear you mind to change your life. I didn’t depend on people I used to speak to everyday. I made small changes to make my life happier. It’s just minor steps. I spent more time alone. Solo. Liking myself.
Let go of pain. Let go of anything that doesn’t feel good. Life is amazing. You should feel amazing everyday.
Find YOUR Person
And this is ok...just be sure you need to be aware of this. It’s not you. It will never be you. Don’t change. Find someone else who will appreciate you.
Thank Those Who Let You Go...
You found yourself. Congratulations. Now be the best version of yourself.
I was talking to a friend. He makes me laugh. He always yells at me. J don’t do that. Do this instead. I finally said listen I am who I am who doesn’t like it tough. I love his advice but also learned I am me. I won’t change and you won’t change. Find yourself and love yourself. Lessons. All lessons and finding spiritual growth. Within yourself.
Live Your Life...Please Remember To
Don’t compete. Be playful. Take risks. Love everyone. Be happy. Don’t ever feel insecure. Take chances. Love yourself. Be grateful for those who love you. Be helpful. Volunteer. Give hugs. Believe in miracles. Skip drama. Say I am sorry when you’re wrong. Cuddle. Watch brainless shows to relax your mind. Read. Enjoy every meal you eat. Work out. Put your head up whenever you are down. Never lie. Don’t cheat. Don’t hurt others. Don’t take advantage of people. Believe in Karma. Believe in good. Dance whenever you can. Sing with the music blasting. Enjoy art. Appreciate nature. Be happy. Let go of anything that doesn’t bring out the best in you. Be grateful for your family and friends. Spread peace. Don’t be jealous. Don’t take advantage of nice people. Dance. Love. Always tell the truth. Spare other people of pain. Stay home and rest. Sleep. Nap. Enjoy peacefulness. Appreciate the sun and moon and stars. Don’t have regrets. Live. Live everyday. Live every moment. Appreciate your life and those around you. Let go of things that don’t bring out the best in you. Appreciate your job. Work hard. Call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Be a resource to people. Don’t let people
take advantage of you. Live your life for you. Love and date and enjoy people. Know that we all
will pass one day. Live life like it’s your last day. Appreciate life. Find beauty in everything. Forgive. Heal yourself. Heal others. Love this journey. Appreciate yourself. Be good to your mind, body and soul. Leave when someone no longer values you. Know your worth. People will treat you only how you allow them to treat you. Love yourself enough to not be taken advantage of. Domestic violence, physical or verbal is never ever ever ok. Jealously doesn’t mean love. You don’t have the right to hurt anyone at anytime. Be honest always. Respect your body and mind. Take a walk. Feel the sand in your toes. Give back to society and nature. Love with all you heart. Embrace change. Ask for forgiveness when you’re wrong. Pray. Believe in a higher being. Forgive yourself for when you put up with stuff you shouldn’t have. Love where you are in life.
You Can’t Let Them Get The Best Of You...Ever
It’s happened to all of us. When someone gets us so angry. We feel insecure. We doubt ourselves. Ummm no thanks. Those aren’t healthy or good relationships. They are toxic and bad for you. Trust me. Being alone is always better than someone taking your peace. Someone making you doubt yourself or your worth. Been there and did it before with people and won’t ever do that again.
Monday, August 26, 2019
Apriums...When Apricots & Plums Unite
I love Trader Joe’s and I LOVE that they always have something there that stops me in my tracks and say “oh what are those”.
This time Apriums was the fun find. They are a cross between an apricot and a plum. I had to buy them and even bought some for my Dad who is a huge fruit fan and loves trying new things.
They are sweet like plum. Sort of tastes like an apricot but so fun. I can’t wait for the kids to try them.
It’s Ok To Be Nervous...Change Is Hard
She wasn’t acting herself. She began to freak out. Snapping. Yelling. I calmly asked “are you scared for starting school tomorrow?”
Yes, yes I am she said sobbing. It’s different than my pre k class and I am scared.
“It’s ok to be nervous I replied. It’s a change but let me tell you you’re strong. All you girls are. You have encountered more change in your life than most people ever have. You are strong enough to handle this change too. I promise you if you need me I will be there.”
Isn’t that our role? Always! At any point to be there to comfort them. To say ok I get it. To not react because they are but to instead try to understand what’s triggering them so we can make them feel better.
School change is hard. New teachers. New classmates. New routine. I get it. I try to put myself in their shoes. I try to understand so I can help them.
She ended up doing amazing at her kindergarten orientation.
On the way home I told her and her sisters I will always be there to make sure they are happy and comfortable. If something bothers them tell me and I will fix it. No matter what it is.
Listen parenting is hard. I too have stuff in life to forgive out but for them...I will always put anything they need above anything I will ever need. For them their happiness and comfort is always a top priority.
This is important for all of us. When they freak out and unleash it’s hard to not yell back but most of the time it’s fear or sadness that is causing them to lash out. It’s your job to try to help them become in tune with what they are feeling.
Why Aren’t You Living A Life Of Happiness?
A friend sent me this and it’s crazy on point. Please take time to listen to this. Why you’re not happy? This may help! What are you programmed to believe? What are you attached to?
Listen here
If It Can’t Go Both Ways Then Let It Go
This is so true and hit home. Friendships are a two way street. You can’t give to someone who just wants to take or come around when it works for them. It’s too much. It’s not right. It’s pretty selfish and says a lot about a person. Don’t be that person.
It’s Ok Adapt & Carry On
Sometimes they aren’t who they were in the beginning. Sometimes they don’t appreciate you or what you’ve done for them. Sometimes you are dismissed. Sometimes it’s YOU who changed.
People change...constantly. End of day be true to who you are, what you need and what you truly deserve. Also remember nothing is guaranteed. Some people are just passing through your life and you have to be ok with that.
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