You need to have both in a relationship! Not one over the other. Both.
Friday, September 20, 2019
What Makes A Relationship Work
You need to have both in a relationship! Not one over the other. Both.
Life Oh My Oh My
Life...the mysterious journey. The unknown. The what will happen next who knows. When you have all this in your head as to how things should be verse how they are you have to let it go. You have to realize this moment is your life. Regardless of the sadness or pain or fears or doubts. This exact moment is your life.
I had dinner with a friend. I could spend the rest of my life with this one person. I don’t know why. It’s just easy and fun and natural. But things didn’t align for us and to be honest there has to be a reason. So I let go of the hurt and pain and sadness and said I am just going to enjoy our dinner together and I did. No agenda. I did want to cry in the car after because the feeling of knowing we aren’t more than friends is hard but then I realize that this is my life. At this moment my life is aligning the way it has to be and I accept it. I embrace it. I look at the good in it.
How lucky to have loved even if it was a short. How lucky to have met someone who makes me feel like time is endless when I am with them. How amazing to have lived the life I lived.
Having this mindset helps take away any pain or doubt or failure.
Some people go their whole life not experiencing love. I have. I am grateful for it. And know one day I will find someone to feel that with again.
Some people spend their whole life fearing change and not being happy not doing things they want to do. How lucky am I to embrace change and the unknown.
This person I would love to be in my life forever, it’s like we are the same person I can’t explain. It’s just easy talk and comfortable and like being with a best friend who is good looking and enjoys your company but I can’t control how things are between us. I can just embrace life as it is. Understand that there is a higher being who has intentions for me. Just flow with it and accept your life.
You’re A Good Mom
We don’t hear it as much as we should. A friend said it to me the other day and I thanked him. It’s nice to hear. Like really nice.
So if you haven’t heard it lately then I want to tell you
You’re a good mom. It’s not easy. We aren’t perfect. We are learning all the time. But we try our best and well that’s enough and what matters. 💜
We’re All Different and That’s Ok
Every once in a while your child says something that hits you hard. In that moment you freeze and try not to react. Try not to be emotional. How you react is critical on how your children will handle that situation.
Last year my daughter broke her shin. I booked a follow appointment for her. Last night she brought it up. She then brought up her heart. She was born with a heart defect. Nothing urgent but we do have to see a cardiologist. She asked when her scan was scheduled for. I always told her she had a special heart. When your baby is getting scans and hooked up to wire it’s hard to not react. So I just always said your heart is special and that’s ok. Of course when I think about it I get emotional but I also know we stumbled upon this when she was first born and she could have gone her whole life not knowing about it.
Last night she asked me why. Why does her heart have to be so different. What if she needed a new heart one day. I told her she won’t need a new heart but she has scans to make sure her heart is ok and can handle activities and perform how it should. But I don’t want to be different she says. I said honey we all are different. Unfortunately we all have something in life that makes us different and this is what you have to deal with. She asked me how I was different. I have no thyroid I told her. She asked how her middle sister was different I said she was born with a Strawberry on her foot that took up most of her foot. We then went on to say how everyone in our life is unique and why.
Being different is ok. We all have something in life we have to deal with. Whether it be visible or not visible. This brought her peace but as we spoke it brought me pain. That knowing this was her lifetime set back was always hard on me and even though it’s only something I have to process during her follow up appointments or sports. At times when she’s sick I always fear her heart may have something to do with it.
Parenting is never easy. But we need to process before reacting. Process before we use words. Knowing that we all have some demons and fears to deal with. Her’s so happens to be her heart.
You Go Girl...
Women lift one another up. So grateful for my tribe. I am blessed with a lot of different groups of amazing women in my life. My mom, sisters and family members for starters. Then my best friends. My single girlfriends. My mommy girl friends. My college girlfriends. My not family but feel like family girlfriends. My be there for you whenever you need me girlfriends. My haven’t spoken but when we see eachother feels like no time has passed girlfriends. Wow a ton of amazing powerful beautiful women in my life.
Now it’s my turn to help raise amazing women too. It’s a circle of life. Us moms of daughters must step up and be a good role model. Show them what they are really capable of- anything they put their mind to.
Grateful for my tribe. Be grateful for your tribe too.
Thursday, September 19, 2019
Change It Up!
I normally put the kids to bed and log into work. I didn’t want to tonight. I was tired. Emotionally drained..a little. I put on a brainless movie. One I haven’t seen. So silly yet it was magical. Magical to have a normal night. Just on the couch solo resting. Sounds so silly yet so impactful. So needed. Why can’t we all just do these little things for ourselves. Where we take care of ourselves and rest and do something out of routine.
Why can’t we change up things in our life to make ourselves happy and content? We really need to change things up more!
Break The Patterns
Break the patterns. Learn the lessons. Heal. Do not repeat past mistakes. You will repeat things until you heal from them.
I didn’t want any relationship I once had. I didn’t want a stressful life. I didn’t want chaos. Just fun and peace and no drama. It’s a work in progress. I want something new and enjoyable. Not painful.
Everything teaches you something. Those meant to be in your life with be in it. Those who are not will not and you have to be ok with it.
You Are In Control...Process Don’t React
We need to start living by this rule. Also know at any given moment you can change your life. 💗
Embrace A New Start
I just woke up in the middle of the night one day and said embrace a new start. Let go of the repeated cycles. And so I did and I swear it changed me. Let it change you too! ❤️
If You Love Something....
I may sound silly for saying this but this isn’t true. When you set something free you’re saying I am willing to risk not being with you. Everyone knows majority of the time you both move on with your life and find other people to fill what that person couldn’t. It’s a nice way of saying I don’t want to be with you.
I know strange coming from a spiritual person like me. But I feel that relationships take effort and work and if one person won’t make that effort well let them go.
We are responsible for the decisions we make in our life. It’s your life. No one else’s. So if you love someone don’t set them free. Make them a priority. Make them feel your love. If you set them free you don’t deserve to be with them.
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
Goodbye Retrograde...Well That Explains it
I would add made us hold on to false hope since April.... but really love when I see these things and it’s like “that explains it”.
Let it go and never come back.
What’s For Dinner? Pasta For A Cause
September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. I saw these at Stop and Shop and had to buy them.
StressFactory Line Up
I love this place. I LOVE to laugh. Like I can fall in love with someone just for making me laugh. It’s true, it’s happened before. Haha. But really a great spot and close to home too.
Life is too short to not smile and laugh and be happy. Add some comedy to your life.
Parenting Coupon Humor
*via Fake Adult Mom
Why not?! There’s always amazing deals out there. I have really mastered some great restaurant deals and savings. I love it especially since I love eating out.
How’s Your Flow?
Choose new energy! Only allow true, good, intentions in. If someone isn’t willing to give you what you need then do not accept their energy. We are all here for one another. Not to hurt, confuse or manipulate anyone. We are here to love and teach and protect one another. Only good intentions and good energy applies.
Is Choosing Them Meaning You Choose You?
It’s a weird process. I will not lie. Everyone thinks being single is always fun. It’s is fun but not always. It’s a process. A learning process. You learn a lot about yourself too. You learn what you want in life. What you will tolerate and what you won’t. You have to understand no one gets it unless they have been in your shoes. For any situation. Mine just so currently happens to be about dating.
It’s a learning process. Every situation. I have no regrets because it all taught me something and I still have a ton to learn. I came across this and I love this guy. His feedback is spot on. So if you’re in a relationship with uncertainty or going through the process of dating then take the time to watch this. Honestly there’s so much to learn. Everyday we grow. Just love yourself and never settle 💗
Feel Good Song: Dreamgirl
Women are meant to be loved, valued, respected and appreciated. We aren’t hard to please. It’s actually very simple. Yet we are easily misunderstood and men don’t know how to give us something so simple.
Makes you wonder...
Love Yourself Girl
Self love is self responsibility. Being responsible for your actions and thoughts. Love Yourself. Fill your life with people who love you and make you feel amazing. No self doubt. No broken hearts. No past emotional pain. All that is over. Be the new you. Happy and grateful. Loved and lovable. Shine bright girl.
In Order To Grow You Have To Let Go
You can’t hold on to this idea of how things should be. Enjoy how things are. Let go of everything else.
Tuesday, September 17, 2019
Never Doubt Your Ability To Make A Difference
I had a meeting tonight. When I walked in the building someone greeted me. Wow I thought, they are using our suggestion. I enter the meeting and we gave updates. I brought back some positive feedback I have received from recent experiences people had. I was beaming.
Another committee member turned to me and said wow you have such great positive feedback tonight. I replied thank you. I am so excited we are making a difference and changes are being implemented. By the way did you see the greeter. I almost wanted to take a picture with him.
I can’t emphasize enough how you can make a difference. How you giving your feedback in a professional manner can create amazing results. I was glowing with excitement. How amazing would this world be if we got together to make a positive change. To make everyone’s experience a little brighter and happier! I think it would be a beautiful thing.
History...It’s Repeating Itself
It’s been so weird. Things are happening like they did last September. It’s like I am replaying my life all over again. To the point that what I did this weekend was same as last year and where I am going this weekend is coincidentally same place as last year. Same people I met coming back. Same situations. The exact situations are re happening. History was repeating itself. It freaked me out a little. I had to take a step back. Change my thoughts. Laugh a little about it because it was amusing but also think what lessons do I still need to learn?
We repeat things because we didn’t learn the first time. It’s an interesting journey for sure! Fun, exciting yet so bizarre. I have to focus on what I need to learn for things to change.
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