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Thursday, October 17, 2019
What Gets You Through Your Days?
Laughter!
So I have a friend who has kept me company via text this week. Ironically he’s away too, so it is nice to have someone to talk to who is out of their routine at the same time as you.
I am getting ready for a really big work dinner that I coordinated. At an awesome steakhouse. I take a picture of my outfit and send to him and he responds you look like a zebra Snuggie and sends me the picture.
I have to tell you all night it made me laugh. I didn’t change. I loved the fact I looked a bit silly. I loved the fact he was so quick to make me laugh even if it was at the expense of my outfit.
Others may be self conscious, nope, not me. Of course he said he was joking and I looked great but it really make me laugh all night and I loved it. Of course next time I see him I plan on wearing this and maybe will send him a Snuggie just to amuse him.
Laughter is what gets us through the day. Laughter heals us. Laughter takes away stress and anxiety. Try it. Try laughing. It does wonders.
Change...This Is Important
At first chaos. Pain. Heartache. Sadness. All occur and then transformation begins. It’s amazing.
Honor it. Welcome it. Embrace it. Love the Change!
Who Is This Girl?
What if I told you I never traveled alone before?
This year was about me. Not being selfish but about finding. Loving. Changing. Accepting. Motivating. ME.
To be better. To look within and see my flaws to accept them and to change them. To have more patience. To have a calm enough brain to be able to process things.
To Stop. Think. Process. And then react. Not the other way around. Which I will admit I have done for a while until I learned. To be able to know that a lot can change. That you don’t have to be what people think you should be. That heartache is real. That you can let go of someone even if you love them. That time does heal. That you are one of a kind. That you shouldn’t change for anyone but yourself!
So yes. It’s true. I never traveled alone. I always traveled with my family, parents, ex husband, kids, sisters, relatives, cousins, best friends or friends.
But this week I did. I finally traveled alone. And I won’t say I prefer it but I will say it was empowering. I had my own hotel room all week. I took transportations to airport and back alone.
Sounds silly but a year or two ago I wasn’t the same girl. Two years ago I was a stay at home mom
who worked 3-4 days maybe 12-15 hours a week. I couldn’t survive on that now. I had to change. I started saying yes more to situations I would avoid. I started to have the “why not just go with it” approach.
So yes. I traveled alone for work. But I then took myself out to Downtown Disneyland alone. I ate dinner at the bar alone. I couldn’t even use my phone because I had low battery. I sat in silence and rested my brain from the week I had. Entertaining clients. Early breakfast. Dinners. Putting on a happy face. Waking up super early with time change so I can speak to my girls before school.
I took it all in and I learned something. I learned I needed to slow down. I need to live in the moment. I needed to know I can’t juggle so much at once. I noticed small little errors I made at work and although it wasn’t a big deal to anyone. It was to me. I became hard on myself and said I needed to change. I need to stop multitasking, slow down before making decisions and then go do what needed to be done. Prioritize my life.
It’s been an amazing week. Exhausting but has taught me a lot. I loved the time with clients and their clients. We smiled all week but I learned a lot about myself too.
When you rest your brain you get to tap into yourself. You get to see the things you love about yourself and things you need to change for yourself. I learned that even though the last 1-2 years changed me I still had work to do and will always have work to do. I learned we are much stronger than we think. We can accomplish more than we think.
I can’t wait to see which new adventures unfold.
When was the last time you tapped into yourself and started to make a change?
Wednesday, October 16, 2019
Happy Wednesday...Appreciate Your Life
Get up and say... I am so grateful. I have an amazing life.
I woke up early again to hear my little ones voices. It’s been long working hours on my business trip BUT amazing and every moment I am alone or catching myself smile I give thanks for my amazing life.
It’s simple. Don’t get me wrong. One may look at it and see 1,000 flaws but I don’t.
You all have an amazing life too. You just don’t see it because there are all this “static and noise” that sucks up our energy.
I want you today to give thanks at least once for your amazing life. Tomorrow give thanks two times. Day after three and so on.
I must give thanks ten times a day and say “what an amazing life.”
Tuesday, October 15, 2019
How One Morning View Can Change It All
I set my alarm for 4:00 am. I am in California for work and I wanted to speak to my girls before they went to school. Of course I couldn’t go back to sleep. I logged into work and from the corner of my eye I see purple and run outside my balcony.
It changed my whole mood. It set my mood for the rest of the day. Calm. Happy. Gratitude.
Life isn’t meant to be so serious. It’s meant to enjoy the little things like an amazing sunrise. Cherish those little moments.
Let That Go...Restart...Learn From Your Past
You have to let the past go. You have to realize that isn’t you anymore and even if you’re still tied to some toxic people or situations they don’t need to consume who you are. Pray for them. Release them. Let go of anything that is not serving your highest good.
Learn from your lessons. Learn from your past.
Personal Growth Happens When You Start To Not Care
This is powerful. Never feel you have to justify your life and your decisions. Do know that it’s your life. Your story. Your journey. Those who want to be a part of it love you and those who want to talk about it need your prayers. They need to heal themselves.
We always think we have to justify actions or our journey. We don’t. We only have to be happy within. Be true to yourself.
Heal Your Inner Child...Break The Cycle
Heal your inner child. I see this often. People carry pain they developed so young. You need to reconnect within and heal. You need to heal or you’ll
never have healthy, stable, relationships. You’ll always carry pain and anger within you.
As parents it’s our responsibility to not have our kids witness or experience any instability or pain or anger. It’s to help them grow to be healthy, happy, responsible
people who don’t need healing.
Break the cycle.
Mom Guilt...It’s Normal & Ok
We all go through it. The battle of what we could be or should be. No one gets it right. There’s always going to be someone who says you’re doing it wrong. There’s always going to be someone who criticizes it makes you feel worse and you know what don’t listen to them.
End of day Mom Guilt is real. It’s ok. To be home all the time or traveling for work or knowing when you’re not there they miss you. It’s hard.
When I am with them I am Mom. Legit mom. When I am not with them I can be me. I would always drop whatever for what they need. No matter how good others care for them Moms all know no one can care for them like we do. We put them first. We rearrange our life for them. We plan it all. We prepare for it all. It’s how it should be. But we always say we can do more or be more.
For now just know you’re doing your best. 💗
Let Go Of Control...
You need to watch what you say...or do I.
I am not the person who believes in that nor obey when someone says that to me. It’s control. Which life isn’t about that. It’s about sharing your journey and experience with others so they don’t feel alone. To understand that we all have been through situations and have a past and yet have overcome that and moved forward with life to be better. Not better for anyone but better for ourselves. To push ourselves. To be happy. To love the life we have. To overcome obstacles and someone else control.
My words are my feelings. My life. If you don’t like it you don’t have to read it. ... Is what I really wanted to say. But instead I said back off and stay out of my business. Because life isn’t controlled by someone. Life is controlled by your own self. And the more control someone tries to imply on someone the more they will fight to be free from it.
Life is magical and there will always be someone shooting down your happiness and you know what. Be even happier. Because no one in life should control you. We all should be cheering eachother on. If you’re not cheering for me please remove yourself so I can focus on those who are. If you need someone to cheer for you let me know because I believe that focusing on happiness should be our only goal. I want that for you.
As for control...release it. It’s not healthy for anyone.
Monday, October 14, 2019
Sunday, October 13, 2019
The Dilly Duck Shop For Breakfast
I have been wanting to come here for a year. I finally got to check it out. My friends were so excited and named this our new breakfast spot.
It’s so cute inside. The staff is ridiculously nice. So friendly.
It’s so clean and cute inside. You feel like you’re away on vacation.
Their coffee is delicious and two of us got their breakfast sandwiches with ham and cheddar cheese. It came with a side little salad. Delicious. The bread is grilled to perfection.
My other friend got their pasta which was delicious. You have to try this place. So cute.
Distance Teaches You A lot
When you give someone or a situation space you get to process it. You get to realize how you feel about it. What value it has to you. How your emotions are. How you heart and mind feels. You then can see if it has space and value in your life. You then can see how it affected you and if you want to move forward with it or not.
It’s pretty amazing.
Saturday, October 12, 2019
Taking It Back To My Roots
My parents went to Arthur Ave today and when I walked by their dining room table I stopped and got a flashback from my youth. When my mom made us tea it was always Chamomile. I even like it with milk. Then my dad always brought home Nutella Italian stuffed croissants . I remember the smell and taste just looking at the package. While I was looking at some goodies I enjoyed through my childhood this Song was playing on the Television.
Healing...When The Memories Resurface
I saw an old friend. Been a while. He asked how I was. He said I looked great. We started to talk about our kids and life and then he brought up my past. He asked how things were now. Better I said. He then started to discuss some things I went through.
I swear the wounds opened up. Even though I have healed doesn’t mean those memories aren’t damaging because they are. It was a period of my life that I would never repeat or want relive. Even briefly discussing things reopened feelings of anger.
Unmet expectations is all I had to say. He understood. He knew my situation. My life. My past. We seen it with other people in our childhood crew. But it did something to me. At first it was pain. Embarrassing that I had to go through such bullshit. It then gave me power. It made me feel strong for being on my own. For not staying in a situation that was toxic and not good. You gotta understand people know. You don’t have to speak or justify your life. People aren’t blind or stupid. People talk. They see the truth. He hugged me a couple of times. He understood. I didn’t even had to say much.
I think we all have pain. We go through crazy moments in our life. Domestic Violence. Childhood fears. A loss of a parent or loved one. A job loss. People stabbing us in the back. Reclaiming who we are. Someone cheating. Childhood trauma. A sickness we overcame. Debt. A lifelong illness we always have to deal with. The list is endless. But something on this list we all had to deal with. It’s our path. Our journey.
The memories can cause pain and reopen wounds but let it always give you strengthen. Let it prove how far you have come. Who you had to become because of it. You’re a brave soul. Never doubt that. You have overcome stuff people don’t ever want to face or handle. But you did. Those wounds will always be there but it makes you the warrior you are. That’s why you can’t settle now. You have come so far. Don’t ever let someone take your power or strengthen away.
The Dilly Duck Shop For Breakfast
I have been wanting to come here for a year. I finally got to check it out. My friends were so excited and named this our new breakfast spot.
It’s so cute inside. The staff is ridiculously nice. So friendly.
It’s so clean and cute inside. You feel like you’re away on vacation.
Their coffee is delicious and two of us got their breakfast sandwiches with ham and cheddar cheese. It came with a side little salad. Delicious. The bread is grilled to perfection.
My other friend got their pasta which was delicious. You have to try this place. So cute.
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