Sunday, March 18, 2018
Don’t Ever Doubt Yourself..You’re Doing Great!
These girls rocked their Championship Game Tonight. I try not to be that Mom who yells on the side lines. I try to remain calm. But this game had me on the edge of my seat. Screaming cheering. After overtime I was amazed and really believed both teams were winners for playing their hearts out. I coached one game against this same team they played tonight a couple weeks ago since her Dad couldn’t coach and it was not easy. We lost that game. But tonight. These girls rocked.
There’s a moment of being a parent when you question the stress in your life. When you don’t want your kids to feel the pain or anger you go through. I try to be happy and calm around them. Some days I say I can do better. Be better. Show them all my love. Not let my stresses affect my parenting. You doubt yourself at times.
Then this magic moment happens. Your kid runs to you as soon as she wins. She’s running to share with you the pride that they won. And you stop and think damn I am doing things right. All my hard work and it shows how much I truly deeply do love these kids with my everything and they too appreciate it!
That’s priceless!
Saturday, March 17, 2018
One Lucky Mom...Three Lucky Charms
I only had my oldest this morning so she made me green chocolate chip pancakes before her sisters came home. So lucky for her and her sisters. Taking them out for corn beef and cabbage since you know we are all Irish on St. Paddy’s day! 💚☘️
Thursday, March 15, 2018
Today’s Lesson: Get Over “It”
I have to keep reminding myself to just focus on being happy. To fight for your happiness. You have to learn to let go and get over the life you “thought” you would have, the stuff that is holding you back isn’t going to bring you the happiness you want and deserve. Man I keep thinking over and over stuff and all it does is cause harm, it makes you feel defeated and upset and it’s never a good place to be. Anger comes out and yes this process is still new and fresh but it’s not who I want to be. I want to be happy. I am fighting for that everyday. You too fight the fight. This thought that we have to settle doesn’t bring us the happiness we deserve. No settling, get over “it”, it being whatever is taking up space in your life and push forward. Push for your happiness!
Wednesday, March 14, 2018
Oh Yes My Dear...
A goal should scare you, but then make you very happy and excited! Do YOU have any up your sleeves?
Tuesday, March 13, 2018
Sunday, March 11, 2018
Let Go Of Control...
This was a really hard concept for me. I like order, I like a routine but things I feared started happening. I realized I started to face everything I once feared and guess what...I survived. Yep! Let go of Control! What’s meant to be will be. I am not saying live life so freely. You still have to be responsible but live life one day at a time. Things will happen out of your control and you have to learn to adjust and get over it. You have to learn to adjust and realize that your path may not be the path you thought. Control means fear. Let go of control and you’ll let go of fear!
Saturday, March 10, 2018
Friendships...They Really Are Good To Have
I saw this article and it’s amazing. I am super grateful for all the amazing people in my life who have been there for me for their love and laughs and for their “Text me when you get home”
I think people tend to forget that it’s good to have secure, feel good friend relationships outside of real relationships. It’s reassuring to have people to relate to, who love you and bring you happiness. ❤️
The Other Love Story in Our Lives http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/kayleen-schaefer-the-other-love-story-in-our-lives
Today’s Lesson: Let The Consequences Work In Your Favor
I am trying hard to really understand why I react the way I do to situations to help bring more peace in my life. So I noticed finally why I get so upset when the kids don’t listen and fight and ignore my requests- being angry gets me tired. Since my Thyroid came out whenever I get mad my body crashes after. Bones hurt. Achey. And it prevents me from wanting to do stuff. SO I explained that to the kids yesterday morning. I said I don’t like to yell. I don’t want to get angry. But when I do I get tired and I can’t do what I need to do. So NEW RULE: instead of me getting upset you are going to do a chore. If you don’t listen you will clean up something because when I get mad I get too tired to do it so you will have to do it for me.
Worked like a charm! Once my daughter had to sweep the kitchen. After that they all have been sweet as pie, listening, not talking back. Hoping this tiny miracle lasts if not then my house will end up spotless.
Friday, March 9, 2018
Are YOU Happy?
This is true and sometimes I think I am in a different category. I had the wedding and marriage and butterflies and baby/bridal showers. I had all the questions- so when are you two getting married, when are you going to have another kid etc...I had my time with all that FLUFF. So for those who haven’t I get why they want it. BUT now I am at a stage where I just want to be happy. Seeking, living, breathing HAPPINESS. That’s my goal!
Thursday, March 8, 2018
Today’s Lesson: Just Keep Doing Your Best
I love my kids. They are my everything but sometimes they make me want to put myself in a time out. Even though their Dad is very active in their lives when I have them I am doing it solo. It’s me cooking and cleaning and cleaning and cooking. There’s some fun inbetween the yelling and time outs. But when they leave I always say to myself “you can do better”.
There’s this pressure of working and wanting to stay sane. There’s times when they are at their Dad’s house and my house is so quiet. You can hear every noise the house makes. Then there’s times they are home and it’s total chaos. I need an inbetween. A middle ground. Where there’s more balance. Less chaos. Less quietness. Just balance. I haven’t figured out how yet but I know I will get there. I have to just keep saying just keep doing your best.
Parenting isn’t easy. Having three kids isn’t easy. If I could split myself in three I would. But that’s not an option. All I can do is keep loving, keep cleaning, keep cooking, keep trying and being grateful for the love they give me in return.
Take Away My Winter Blues...
There’s still time to enjoy Harbor Point Restaurant week in Stamford CT. I wasn’t going to go out but then after being snowed in for a day and half with the kids I figured I needed some time to reflect, enjoy good food, and have some fun adult conversation. This totally took away my winter blues! Prime Restaurant was amazing and the view...well let’s just say I am getting excited that Summer is around the corner.
Happy International Women’s Day!
Being a woman isn’t always easy but when you have a great tribe of women who back you up then you feel you can conquer anything! Happy International Women’s Day! ❤️
Tuesday, March 6, 2018
The Calm Before The Storm...Go Away Snow
Was a great day to have the kids play in the backyard after school. So hard to believe we may get a foot of snow tomorrow. I saw these in my yard and it felt like Spring. I felt bad that they will soon be buried under so much snow. My sister suggested I bring them in- genius so I did. They opened up once they were in the house and are beautiful. I love Spring. I love how daylight savings makes it light out for so long. I love all the awesome events going on around town. I love not making the kids wear a jacket. Easter is one of my favorite holidays so I have that to look forward to. Everyone just seems happier in the Spring. But we must first get through this storm- hopefully the last one- but in the meantime happy to have rescued these flowers to help me remember Spring is really just around the corner!
Easter Bunny is Coming to the Danbury Fair Mall March 10th 2018
Hop on down to the Danbury Fair Mall on Saturday, March 10th. Enjoy fun “Easter” activities and then take a picture with the Easter Bunny.
Monday, March 5, 2018
Live The Life YOU Want To Live
No one will give you the life you want to live unless you work towards giving it to yourself. You may not be happy where you are but you do have the power to change it. So yes it’s ok to be mad about it but then get up, take action, take the risks, work hard and make it happen. End of day it’s your life. Learn to be happy in it.
Today’s Lesson: The Only Way To Get Ahead Is To Not Let The Noise Get To You
There’s a lot of “outside” influences and “noise” that can make or break you! Just don’t let it. This lesson shows that no matter what people say or do just be you. It’s the best way to be. Don’t let anything change who you are or get the best of you. Life is hard and isn’t lived for anyone but yourself and those who love you for you. You got this!
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Fun St. Paddy’s Day Celebrations in CT
Fun St. Patrick’s Day Fun In CT. Check out this link of fun events!
Sunday, March 4, 2018
Today’s Lesson: You Can’t Move Forward If You Are Holding Onto Anger
This is easier said than done. BUT...yes there’s a but...you can’t move forward, truly start a fresh life, truly get happiness, unless you let go of anger. Now this doesn’t only apply to relationships ending, it applies to anything in your life that has caused you hurt and pain and anger. You have to learn to let it go. Doesn’t mean the pain goes away just means you don’t let the anger consume you. Change you. Prevent you from being happy. You may be angry that a loved one passes away or angry at losing a job. All that has to come to the surface so you can then heal and move forward. We all have triggers in us the brings that anger to the surface. Let it go. Nothing good comes out of being angry. Let go of anger so you can move forward and be happy. Truly. With all your heart and soul. Be happy!
Ludal’s In North Haven...Amazing!
Oh. My. Oh. My. I don’t normally select an Italian Restaurant to go to since I am Italian. A friend suggested dinner at Ludal’s in North Haven and after checking out the menu I was all for it and it was amazing!
Kind of reminded me of a traditional Italian family dinner. Started off we amazing bread and garlic knots, then we got our appertizers. Then they bring you a salad- included in dinner- then you get your main course. And just when you think you will Pop you get the dessert menu. So worth the drive and such fun company. Was totally an awesome night! Be sure to check it out. I can’t wait to go back.
Saturday, March 3, 2018
Today’s Lesson: Not Everyone Has Good Intentions For You & That’s Ok
You get caught up in drama that people may love to create but best thing is to just not feed into it. People won’t always have good intentions for you and that is ok. Pray for those people. If they can take the time
to judge and mistreat you that means they are really hurting deep down themselves. The power of prayer is strong. Regardless of what religion you are. Pray for those who don’t wish you well. Pray for those in pain. Pray for you to keep being a good person. Wake up happy. Go to bed happy.
Only Good Intentions Apply Here...
You reach a stage where happiness becomes an everyday goal! Where negativity and dealing with people who don’t have good intentions is no longer allowed to absorb your well being! Take ownership of your life and well being!
Grateful For My Dad...Be A Good Father & Partner
Even as a grown adult every time I say goodbye to him
he says remember call me if you need anything at all. He’s always had my back and grateful for the love and support he’s given to me throughout my whole life and through this divorce. Every parent just wants their children to be happy, live a stressless life. Can’t always happen but makes it easier knowing someone is a call away if you ever need them. He’s always worked super hard for his family and never once complained or threw it in our face. We joke he’s the one who always drove the crappy cars while he gave my mom
the high end vehicles and always made sure us girls had good cars. I stopped by yesterday to their house and he was leaving, said he just stopped to fill my mom’s car with gas so she didn’t have to do it in the storm. That’s love. My mom is fully capable of taking care of herself but it does feel amazing to have someone do something nice for you out of love and without asking.
Goals! To find one day, long time from
now, a partnership like my parents have. Someone who has my back, willing to do stuff for one another without throwing it in each other’s face. Be a team. Do for you because that’s love. A team is making sure each member loves and respects one another and wants to see that other person happy. Make their life a little easier. Crazy how this concept still doesn’t catch on for people and relationships.
A good father is one doing for their kids without complaining or giving up! It’s putting kids first over your own happiness. Sometimes people forget! Grateful for mine!
Thursday, March 1, 2018
Feel Good Song- Forever Young by Rod Stewart
My middle one turned 5 today 5! She’s amazing. I was pregnant with her when I found out I have Thyroid Cancer. She saved my life. She helped me see goodness in life during a really rough time for
me. She always makes me smile. She always has my back. It’s crazy her connection to me. She’s super smart and wise and helpful and gorgeous and well this song is perfect for her and all my kids. Being their mom has really filled my heart is so much love and happiness. I am forever grateful for them!
“Be courageous and be brave and in my heart you’ll always stay forever young!”
Tuesday, February 27, 2018
Monday, February 26, 2018
Sunday, February 25, 2018
Saturday, February 24, 2018
Self-care...Be Good To YOU!
Be good to YOU. Take a nap, rest, order whatever you’re craving, hang out with people who make your soul happy. Self-care is so important. You have to take a time out and regroup. Meditate. Watch reruns of your favorite show. Let go off stress. You need to be ok to be good for others!
Cafe Madrid In Norwalk...Delicious
If you haven’t tried out the revamped Cafe Madrid then you have to give it a try! This Italian/Latin infused restaurant has some delicious items on their menu and must say I can’t wait to go back. They are going to start offering a buffet style brunch on Sundays. Will have to check it out.
A group of us went for a friend’s birthday and it was perfect. We started with red sangria, their arugula prosciutto pizza and empanadas. My main dish was the Pasta Juliano- Pasta with grilled chicken and mushrooms tossed in pesto sauce. Delicious. I wasn’t in the mood for dessert so instead enjoyed a Frozen Mudslide- yep I will be craving this! The adult milkshake. Perfect night with some super fun ladies, belly laughs, and great food.
Thursday, February 22, 2018
We All Want Our Moms When We Are Sick
First time both kids slept through the night since their surgery and let me tell you if they didn’t I think I would have gotten sick myself. Lack of sleep is torture to the body. It was like I had newborns all over again- waking up every three hours- except this time they would call for me in pain. You couldn’t help but feel awful for them yet pray for some rest.
My oldest had the toughest time. She would leave for her Dad’s house then call me to get her. He’s a great Dad but we all want out moms when we are sick. It came to a point that I could predict her moves so I canceled my plans for th night and napped because I knew she would be home.
Now my three year old recovered about three days faster than my nine year old. Which is crazy because they say the older you get the harder to recover. The other amazing thing about tonsil surgery is that my kids no longer snore. That’s a huge thing for me. Of course you panic at first to make sure they are breathing, but when they snores it’s like they struggled to breath. But so glad they finally get real, normal sleep, and taste and smell like they should. It’s been a long journey but glad it’s only up hill from here.
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