Sunday, July 28, 2019
Old Brain Vs. New Brain
We get stuck. Stuck in old ways. Stuck in old thinking. We think life is suppose to be a certain way. When it’s not we argue it. It’s hard to deal. Life is chaotic.
We then react to situations like we always have. The reason is because we are used to reacting that way in the old brain. When we work on our ourselves. Meditate. Go to therapy. It’s teaches us to process things in our new brain. A new way of dealing with things. A new approach to not reacting the same way we always do.
It’s not easy. You need to dig deep and heal. You need to have all your old ways that didn’t serve you well leave. Not be a part of you. You need to restart the way you think and react.
You do this so you don’t get the same results. Feelings. Path. You do this so you can handle situations and people in life differently. It’s like holding a grudge. There’s people from my past that I have to prep myself before being in a room with them. Like ok don’t react. Don’t snap. Don’t hang on every word they say. Don’t let them hurt you. And then if happens. They say one word condescending or wrong and my old brain kicks in. I become defensive and it’s to protect myself
from getting hurt or degraded yet again.
It’s my old brain. Old way of thinking. That I have to protect or stick up for myself. I don’t. You don’t.
We don’t need to have anyone get the best of us. Remove yourself from that situation and surround yourself with people who are good for your soul and mind.
See we don’t make changes for other people. We make changes to better ourselves.
There’s a difference.
When the moon hits the sky like a big pizza pie...
If you can guess what’s on this pizza I will personally ship one out to you...
We walked the strip of downtown Hyannis yesterday. It’s one of my favorite. I love all the cute little shops. There are a ton of restaurants too.
Ambiance is really important. The girls were checking out the menus at some places and at the same time
We suggested Colombo’s. I have been here a couple of times when I came last with my ex but the girls never been. I knew it would be a great meal.
But this...this pizza is nothing like I ever had and I had had a lot in my time.
It’s a brussel sprout pizza. With panchetta, roasted red onion, mozzarella and topped with...a fig drizzle. My mouth is salivating writing this.
It’s so light and airy the dough. The balance of flavors is on point. The fig drizzle adds a little hint of sweetness. It’s insane and a must try. The panchetta adds a saltines and balances out the Brussels sprouts.
It’s a genius combination.
Sunday Motivation: Seek Guidance From Within
Your mind, body and heart must be aligned. First calm your thoughts. Process what you feel. Rationalize with what is causes you some chaos.
Listen to your body. If it can’t function under pressure. If it doesn’t feel right. Listen to your body. Be careful what you put in it. Be careful how you use it.
Your heart guides you. What makes you happy? What makes your heart smile? Fill it with those moments and people.
All your answers are within. You have the power to know that you have full control over these things. No one else does.
Just One...I Will Be Happy When...
It may seem huge at first. Or you convince yourself and say l will make a decision this weekend or after a trip or after a holiday or when I am older or tomorrow or....see where I am going.
There’s never going to be a perfect moment. The moment is now!
Moms, Women, No Explanation Needed...Go Take care of yourself!
(Upper right pic top last year vs this year)
(Fall 2016 purple jacket)
This is my third year going to the Cape with girlfriends and it makes me a better person. Why? Because it helps me relax and reconnect with myself. Take care of just me just for a few days.
Why aren’t we encouraging women to do more...for themselves. Why does there have to be an explanation for me or you or moms or women to go away. Take a break. Do something for themselves?
I checked on my girls and my little one said her Dad told her I wasn’t away for work. No I am not I told her. I am with my friends and will be home in a couple of days. It rubbed me wrong. He was telling the truth but he could of comforted her saying “mom is away to take a little break and it’s ok. It’s ok to do something for yourself. She will be back don’t worry.”
I think as women we need to also encourage this with our kids. It’s ok to take care of yourself. It’s ok for “you time”.
We think we have this duty to always put everyone first and no one does the same for us. You won’t even know the prep that went into me leaving for four nights. Gratefully my Mom is helping but I still had to make sure everything was in line for them. Plus with our parenting schedule I left on a schedule when the only day I needed coverage on my day was Sunday.
Reality is if I wanted to leave for a week or two weeks or a day or three days it’s all ok because it’s my choice. My decision and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Men just kind of get up and go. You take care of yourself and that’s fine but do us women complain? Do we question you? Do we say Daddy is off having fun like it’s a bad thing? No!
I come from a family of women. Strong. Independent. I have to remind myself regularly why I chose to raise kids as a single divorced mom. For myself. For my own peace of mind. For them to know how a woman should be treated and loved. Yet it’s not them who need to be taught that. It’s unfortunately society.
Yes mom is away and guess what be happy for her.
Yes you need an escape. So don’t have anyone question it or act like it’s wrong. Self love and self care are extremely important and necessary in life.
No more explanations. Go take care of yourself! I will be here having your back and applauding you!
Saturday, July 27, 2019
Could He Handle A Free Spirit?
Not everyone can handle a free spirit and that is ok. Doesn’t mean you need to change.
I Scream You Scream We All Scream For...
Four Seas ice cream is a must when visiting the Cape. There are times we would come here every night. The greatest thing about this place is that we have been coming here for 20 years and it’s still amazing. Same flavors. Consistent. Oh so worth every calorie and cheat meal moment.
I am not a simple ice cream eater. I like it done up. Toppings, different flavors and textures. I never get one flavor plain. I mix them to add toppings. The most simple I get is vanilla ice cream with mini marshmallows.
My usual go to is: black raspberry ice cream with hot fudge and peanut butter sauce. This combo is amazing. I have been eating this sundae since I was a child.
It’s crazy how ice cream brings out the kid in us. How visiting places bring back great memories. How the little things in life can make you happy.
If you’re in the area you have to go here. We even bring back ice cream every year. Peach is always then number one requested flavor.
How To Eat A Lobster...But did you know...
I must say dinner last night was full of laughs. I grew up eating lobster. Even my daughters eat lobster. I did have a cousin who feared lobsters so much that he would run and hide whenever my mom made them.
But I have been eating them for as long as I could remember. Steamed. In an amazing tomato sauce that my mom makes. Grilled. Chilled. You name it. I am always wary about ordering them out at restaurants while because I don’t always like how places clean them. I can’t see any green or it grossed me out. So normally I just eat it at home whole.
Luckily we know how to eat a whole lobster. So last night one of our girlfriends decided to order a whole one for the first time. She’s had parts of it. Lobster rolls etc...but never the whole deal. The other two girls always order it in the Cape. It’s their go to.
We then spent the time explaining how to open it. What meat to eat. Where to get the meat. How to crack the areas to pull out the meat and then...lots of laughs and fun.
Then the bus boy comes up to us.
He’s like you ladies did a great job. But you’re missing one part of the lobster to get the meat from.
He now had our attention...
He grabs the shell of the tail. Pulls off the end flaps and squeezes out the meat from the telcons- the little flaps on the end of the tail. We are all in shock. We had no idea. Now the amount of meat you get isn’t much. It’s like the legs of the lobster. But so fun to eat.
I had to take a video and send it to my mom. The lady who eats whole lobster straight out of the fridge for breakfast had no idea that she was missing some meat. But all jokes aside how many of you knew this?
Feel Good Song: What A Feeling
20 years ago this song came on. We were in our college dorm room. She sang “what a feeling” and somehow fell off the top bunk on to the floor. She didn’t get hurt, luckily, but last night when this song came on after dinner in the car, it sure brought back a ton of memories and even more laughs.
Saturday Motivation: Things, People, Path
What’s worth it to you? Those things, people, path is what you need to put your work into. Your goals. Your love and energy.
You need to focus your whole self into the things, people, path that mean the most to you. That make you so happy that you wouldn’t put your energy into
anything else.
Master The Art To Remain Calm
It’s an everyday job. To process. To not let people get the best of you. Try to remain calm and enjoy the moments that bring your soul peace.
Can Your 6-Pack Do This...
No 6-pack here but three babies did come out of here so that’s pretty damn impressive.
Love your body. Your imperfections. Your uniqueness. Anyone who truly loves you will look beyond your flaws. They will see it as the character that builds you and makes you the special person that you are!
This Is A Good Life...
I am at my happy place....and the moments we share just make it even better.
Even if it’s just once a year, it’s still enough to make my soul happy.
Friday, July 26, 2019
Positive Changes Ahead
*cosmicgoddess
A hopeless romantic...a seeker of happiness. Accept yourself. You may have lost yourself along the way but welcome back. Never change. Be who your core wants you to be. 💗
I Scream You Scream We All Scream For...
We can’t come to the Cape and not get ice cream at Four Seas. It’s the BEST. I had to get it. Vacation is a cheat time even if it may mean paying for it later.
I get my classic sundae...black raspberry ice cream with hot fudge and peanut butter sauce. An old time favorite. Their peach ice cream is also a fan of ours.
What’s your favorite ice cream?
What A Year Can Do To A Person
I couldn’t sleep. Maybe out of pure excitement to get to relax. Ironic right. But I started to think about how my life was a year ago at this exact time I was at the Cape and the stories and people who were in my life at that time. The journey I have been on since. The changes that took place in my life.
It’s actually pretty crazy. How many people I met. Love I felt. Hurt I felt. Pain and experiences that actually shaped me. The new places I went to. Where I traveled. Who I spent my time with. Memories I made. Lifestyle changes. It’s actually pretty remarkable.
Do it. Think about the past year. How much your life has changed. The new people who are in it now. The old people who are no longer there. The memories you made. The tears you shed. The laughter you had. The wtf moments. It all shapes you.
How things made you feel. How you looked. What progress you made. All in just one year.
Think about the things you wouldn’t repeat but no regrets because you know it’s part of our path. The things we wish we did and didn’t do. The things we got through that we didn’t think we could getthrough. The friendships you made. The amazing people who loved you and still do. The people who helped you get through some rough patches.
I am definitely at a better place. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. It’s crazy what a year can really do to a person.
I hope you’re at a better place too!
It’s Ok To Feel But Then What?
What you feel is what you feel. There’s truth in it. You gotta let them come to surface and understand them.
You can be feeling a ton of different things. You can be happy but reserved. You can be scared but excited. You can be hurt but hopeful. You just can’t act out on emotion. You can’t be impulsive. You can’t beg for things to go your way.
You can be feeling a ton of different things. You can be happy but reserved. You can be scared but excited. You can be hurt but hopeful. You just can’t act out on emotion. You can’t be impulsive. You can’t beg for things to go your way.
You may want to share how you feel with others but fear rejection. You may fear someone misunderstanding your emotion. Some people dismiss your emotions and honestly that always got me pissed off. You don’t have to agree but to dismiss is not validating.
You also have to understand that you may feel one way for someone and they won’t feel that same way towards you. That’s the kicker. It’s hurtful yet uncontrollable.
I have learned over time that it’s ok to open up. It’s ok to feel something even if someone doesn’t that same way about you. Rejection actually makes you a stronger person. Sucks at first but trust me it helps build your confidence.
You can’t keep things in. It will destroy you. You have to let them come to the surface and deal.
Our ultimate goal in life is to focus on happiness. To be happy deep down. To not let our emotions hide or get the best of us. Do let them come to surface. Understand them. Deal with it. Move forward.
Thursday, July 25, 2019
Being Attracted To Their Soul
Have you ever met someone that you could see straight to their core? Straight to their soul? It’s a rare yet beautiful and sexy thing.
All connections should be like this. Why else would you be with somebody if you can only connect on the surface.
Why would you spend the next 10,20,30 or 40 years with someone who doesn’t make your soul happy. Find someone who helps you feel again. Where your inner child can come out. A safe place. You deserve that.
Stop...Don’t Settle For Less
Put it to an end. All of us. We don’t deserve anything but the best because who would settle for less. I saw a trend. Falling for guys who weren’t emotionally available. What was I thinking?
You, I, we, need to realize how much we have overcome in life. How strong we are. If someone isn’t honoring our highest good and well being well then it’s time to move on.
You deserve the best. Don’t settle for less!
Final Week of Retrograde
I feel like 2019 has been one big retrograde but all jokes aside how many of you are impacted by this? At times I am which is humorous and a bit scary too.
West Side Reggae Festival July 27th
I LOVE Reggae Music! This festival is taking place on Saturday in Danbury.
Stop Fighting It...
We all fight where we want to be. Our heart. Our mind. Stop. Enjoy it. Don’t force it but if you wake up and fall asleep thinking about it. Well what else do you need to know. ❤️
Connect Within
This is really important. I have mentioned in past when chaos is around you there is a lot of distractions. When your mind is still you can really tune into what you want. How to fix or get out of situations that do not serve you well. It also helps you be intuitive. I have a couple people in my life I can pick up on their vibe when we are not together and there’s people who can pick up on mine. It’s pretty insane and on point.
When your mind is relaxed it can hurt to dig up what’s bothering you. It’s ok. Feel it. But then fix it.
I can tell you now people I am in tune with have termoil within. Avoiding the outcome they should make. Are internalizing their feelings to protect themselves. Fix it before you snap. Fix it for you. Peace and happiness always follow. I promise.
I saw a girlfriend the other day. She looked amazing. Her core was at peace. It’s my hair she said. No it’s not I said. You are glowing. You’re at peace within and it shows so everything about you looks amazing.
Stop looking for a distraction. Silent your mind for the answers. Listen to what your intuition is telling you. Even if they aren’t the answers you want to hear you must accept them and apply them.
Take Me Away...
“But you’ve been away” yeah it’s true. I have had some awesome trips this last year for work where I extended some days to have fun but it’s not the same. This trip is a mindless trip.
I was cleaning out my trunk this morning for tomorrow’s road trip and this sand clip took me back. To the waves and calmness to the naps and late night sipping on wine on the deck while we play board games all night. Early walks to the beach followed by day shopping.
The laughs. Oh the stories. This group is a good group. We are four gals who are simple yet adventurous and can party or hang. Whichever mood we are in.
Cape Cod has always been like a second home. I have been going almost every year for the last 20 years. A goal of mine to get my own beach house one day. It’s a quiet little town with amazing seafood. Awesome beaches and bays and a ton of shopping opportunities. Night life of live music and karaoke.
I can hardly wait.
We pack up my mini van and take off. Even the car ride itself is comical. Blasting music. Telling our lastest life stories. Some serious. Some hit home. Some make us laugh until our stomachs hurt.
Yep. That type of getaway.
We always stop in Mystic on the way back. Eat at our favorite restaurant order our favorite bottle of wine. Maybe kayak the Mystic River if we have time. It helps us not be sad that our Cape Cod trip is over.
The little things in life. The chill J comes out. Relaxed. Creative. It helps my brain organize and tap into some goals.
Where’s your favorite escape?
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