Sunday, September 8, 2019
Happy Grandparents Day!!
How lucky are we to have amazing Grandparents for our kids. Thank your parents. Be grateful for Grandparents...Always!
You Pretty...Prisoner
Let me tell you what it’s like being a single mom
Humor. Laughs. What the...moments.
I swear I am cool. I am getting ready to go out to dinner and my 10 yr old walks by me and says “Mom
you look nice” Why thank you! I replied. She then says “you look like a pretty prisoner with the stripes.”
And that my friend is what it’s like parenting a pre teen or any child for that matter.
Let Go Of This Idea In Your Head and Enjoy Your Reality
This life you have...embrace it. It’s all happening for a reason. Enjoy it 💗
3-Month Pass Sky Zone in Norwalk
Buy a 90 day pass for $49 per child for one hour of unlimited jumping. It cost me this per time we go to Sky Zone so when I brought the girls I had to get this pass. Perfect for exercising during the chilly weather or for days it rains. The cool thing is their Dad or anyone can bring them they just have to give their name at the register.
Awesome place for the kids and entertaining for the parents too.
Learn more here https://www.skyzone.com/
DJ Mom...Or Not
I sang 99% of this song in the car with my girls when it came on the radio. Their reaction was priceless. I like to think I am a pretty cool, hip mom so when I shouted Dj. Mom my 10 year old replied you mean Dj. Embarrassing. I must say it was a good laugh and maybe to them I am not as cool as I think!
Dating Isn’t Easy
Dating isn’t easy. We all have in perfections. Flaws. “Baggage” It’s those who make you happy. Who teach you about life. Love you. Help you see what really matters. How life should be lived. Those people that’s your people.
Osteria Romana in Norwalk
What a great place. I haven’t been in a while. Was an awesome crowd. They have a pre-set dinner option but we decided to order off the menu. I ordered the eggplant rollitini and cavatelli with tartufo. Really good. Great service. After we went to Romannacci for cappuccinos and crepes. They even have biscottis.
Norwalk really has some amazing restaurants. This was a great one. Great company. Great night.
Learn more here http://www.osteriaromana.com/Osteria-Romana-Norwalk/
Breakfast For Two or Three or Four
Who says making breakfast has to be hard or expensive. I bought these items at Trader Joe’s over the weekend. Was perfect for breakfast. Eggs with gyro meat avocado topped with tzatziki and feta.
I love this gyro meat. You heat it in a pan. Package is $3.99. I also love Trader Joe’s tzatziki sauce. It’s great on salads,Chicken and gyro meat.
What’s your favorite breakfast to make?
Feel To Heal To Let Go
Everything teaches us something. My hearts been at peace. My body and soul. My ex and I have been civil. It’s a rollercoaster ride and I don’t even participate in any arguments and he’s been trying his best too which benefits our kids. My kids are happy. My family is healthy and happy. My social life has been amazing. I don’t want to fight or be mad or be sad. I want to be at peace. I want to be happy. I want to create memories around good people. Your focus should be that too. To set your soul on fire. To laugh so much that your stomach hurts. To be around people who genuinely want to be around you and love you and make you smile and enjoy your company. People who want the best for you and you want the best for them.
Everyday of my life I try to do something that makes me happy. Even if it’s just a walk. You have to learn to do the same. I am not perfect. I make a lot of mistakes. I am learning how to work through them to change to not react because I am not getting what I want. To process. To feel. To know that people will come
in and out of your life and you have to not hold on to them hoping they can be something different for you. I had to accept loving someone I couldn’t be with. Yeah it hurts but it’s ok to love them from afar and move on with your life. I never had to experience this before. Ever. I am learning everyday new things about life. You have to learn to go with it too.
You have to go through a process of letting things go. I am.
Here’s a great article to start.
You Got This!
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You are worthy and capable. I finally got my passport pictures done... can’t wait to see if I need to use it. I would love to finish my books. I have so many goals. So many things I want to do and see and experience.
I want you to feel alive about life too!
Saturday, September 7, 2019
What Relaxes You?
The second my feet hit the sand I became relaxed. There’s something about the beach. Ocean. Breeze. Sunset.
Was an awesome afternoon.
Take the time and do the things that relax you and make you happy.
This Week’s Trader Joe’s Find: Plumcots
Part plum. Part apricot. Love when I find different stuff to try. Trader Joe’s always has different types of fruit and food. It’s really always my favorite grocery shopping store.
I couldn’t help myself but had to buy the $3.99 bouquet. Even though my other flowers are doing fine I just thought these were so cute.
Don’t ever deprive yourself of flowers. $3.99 for something that will make me smile for the next week, I’ll take it.
Slice of Saugatuck in Westport
So much fun!!! I love this festival. You get so many samples and large ones too. We got to even sample drinks and purchase ones to walk around with.
My favorite like last time was ... Kawa Ni. I am just a super fan of their tomatoe tofu pocket. It is by far my favorite thing ever.
We walked away stuffed and happy. Lots of laughs. Good vibes. Perfect weather.
If you got a chance to attend what was your favorite?
Rise...Every Single Time
You got this!
Every time you had a moment of weakness or were defeating you built yourself up. You rose. You’re not weak. Never believe that. You, you’re amazing. Look at you life. What you dealt with. Who you are because of it.
You got this!
Don’t Be Sad...Not Today
Be happy. Get up and do all the things that make your heart and soul feel good. Yeah we can get sad. Something triggered me. I missed someone. But I had to shift my brain. This person doesn’t need me in their life. And I don’t need to be sad anymore.
Everyday it’s a job to be happy. Well maybe not. I think it’s easy to be happy but we are so used to something changing that. That we shift easily to be mad and sad. Stop that! Stop that now.
I was speaking to a girlfriend. The next morning she said thank you for last night. You brought me back to life.
Last night I was out with a group of friends. They make me feel alive. It was so much fun we stayed out way past how late we should. We didn’t want our time together to end.
This morning I walked with my mom. We have been doing it a lot. It feels so good to start the day this way. Easy conversation. Encouraging eachother to get moving. To better ourselves.
Today I have a day filled with another group of friends to have fun. Be together. They help me feel alive. They make my soul happy.
So yeah I can stay home and be sad. Or miss someone who probably doesn’t even know I miss them or I can go on with my life. I think I will go on with my life. Move on with your life to. I want you to be happy. I will be happy today. That’s today’s goal and everyday.
Make it your goal too.
Trust It...All Of It
Ask anyone. They lack something in life. It’s normal. No one can say “nope my life is perfect” BUT you can say it’s 90% there and well I’ll take it. Anything under 90% needs work.
I was with someone for twenty years of my life. I went from my parents to college to moving in with my ex. Yeah we had great times. Raised three kids and well then the 90% dropped. Every time it dropped I became a little stronger to walk away.
Today I am probably the happiest I have ever been. Why because it’s new. It’s exciting. I am single. Life is what I want it to be. I started to embrace my journey. Wanna walk go for a walk. Want to stay home then stay home. Want to travel then go travel. Keep in mind this mindset is for when I don’t have my girls. When I do have my kids I am 100% Mom. It’s about them. But the other time it’s me. What I want. What I need.
I kind of like this life. I am sorry I mean LOVE this life and you should too.
So let’s talk about this universe things. You know the law of attraction. The waking up. Work hard. Be good. Be kind. Love. Be happy. Attract positive everyday.
It’s been an abundance lately. Maybe I am simple. Maybe not. Maybe waking up and going to bed 90% happy has helped me.
I landed a small new client. I got called to two focus groups. One I got paid to leave since it was full and they didn’t need me anymore. I have amazing family and friends in my life. I have something fun and exciting happening all the time. I am living a life for me. What makes me happy.
We need happy people in the world. Are you happy? You need to be happy. So yeah maybe that 10% will come. Maybe it won’t. But damn this life. This life is good.
Can it change. Maybe. But I am not worried about it. And I don’t want you to worry about it either. I want you to be happy. I want you to enjoy 90% of your life. Please do it for you. For me. For your kids. For your family. For the universe.
The universe needs happy people. Attract and receive. Trust me.
Snacks Are Key
Just check my purse. I am sure you will find a protein bar or goldfish or cliff bar. Snacks are the way to go. Car rides. School pick up. Even on way to school.
Did you eat? Are you hungry? Do you need a snack?
That is why Costco comes in handy. Bulk shopping. When in doubt just hand out a snack.
We All Need That Person
It’s something our parents always said to us and still do. I am now saying it to my own kids. Whether it’s when I drop them off at school or a play date or an activity or their Dad’s house for the night.
It’s these magic 6 words that I heard over and over again growing up and am now saying it to my own girls. So early on in their life.
But what if you’re not home. My daughter once asked. I don’t care I will leave where I am at. But what if you’re away for work or for the night. I don’t care I will call someone to come get you for me.
I think as parents we always need to assure our kids that they don’t need to face anything in life alone...ever.
I even say this to family and friends. Call me if you need me. And I am telling the truth.
When my girlfriend Dad died I will never forget her call to me. My response was..Are you ok? What can I do to help you? Do you need me to come to Florida?
When my girlfriend told me about her breast cancer I said call me if you need help with the baby or after surgery. Thanks for always being a good friend J. She always had my back too when I had my cancer.
Call me if you need me are very powerful words. It’s assuring someone you don’t need to face anything alone. It’s comforting.
All we need to do is be the go to for someone. To let them know you’re never alone. Never have to face anything alone.
I appreciate my go to people too. It has helped my journey in life. It’s helped make me strong. It’s helped me not have it face anything alone. It’s help build me up. It’s helped me feel confident in any decisions I made in life.
How amazing can six simple words be to someone.
If You Love Her..
Maybe space is what people need to sort out what they really feel about someone. If you miss them
and it’s hard they know. If she’s all they think about well then they will know. If they don’t miss her at all then they will know. If they really love you they’ll never really know until they let you go. 💛
Trust the process
Don’t React
I didn’t want to say what bothered me anymore. I felt at this point if they didn’t know it was pointless. I wasn’t mad. I was hurt. Hurt from being ignored.
It’s a pet peeve of mine. Every time I say why does it trigger me everyone responds because no one likes
being ignored.
I can’t stand when my kids do it too. When I ask
them to do something or to behave and no response. Like I didn’t exist. Like being invisible. Not having a voice.
Now somewhere deep in me there’s a reason why being “ignored, not heard, not responded to” triggers something in me. I am still digging. But have let go of things that bring out a similar emotion in me. It’s not ok. I won’t and you too shouldn’t fight to be heard or understood or seen.
You have a voice. You aren’t invisible. You can’t be ignored. It’s not ok for someone to do it to you.
Change YOU...All You Can Do
This is important. Sometimes you don’t have control over situations but you do always have control over you and what you choose to do. How you choose to handle things, how you choose to tolerate things.
I wasted a lot of my time on things that were out of my control. Yet affected my life until I removed myself. Once you remove yourself you do have pain or miss people but I rather change me then be stuck in a situation that I was just settling for. Settling for minimal of what I truly deserved.
Get yourself out of situations that don’t feel right or are dead end. If you don’t see results most likely things will never change. Wish people well and take charge of your own life. This life is all you get. Can you imagine settling? No, I agree but why are you then?
Who Wants To See You Grow?
Hey you, yeah the person reading this. Are you in a relationship? If so does the person feel your soul? Do you feel theirs? If single do you easily connect with people and their soul?
The person who wants to see you grow and help you become a better version of yourself is the person who cares for you the most.
Friday, September 6, 2019
Friends Or Lovers
Something to think about...
It’s hard to keep a friendship when you once had something. It’s hard to shift gears. Not everyone can do it. Staying in eachother lives is hard. I tried it. I tried playing the friendly friend role and I failed. I couldn’t do it especially if they are with someone else and you have to act all calm like you don’t care. Like them taking them places is great...yeah no thanks.
Obviously one felt something more verse the other. I know people who can do this and I just can’t. It’s too hard. Maybe it’s too soon.
I think maybe in time when emotions settle but I think once a lover always a lover and well it just gets complicated when you try to mix the two.
Staycations... Why Not!
Who says you need to travel to enjoy yourself? How about if I told you there's plenty to do in your own State that will make it feel like you're on vacation anyway. Feel free to reach out to me for more Connecticut Staycation Ideas...I just love how much there is to do!
50 Amazing Staycations by State HERE
50 Amazing Staycations by State HERE
What’s Meant For You
It won’t be hard. It will be natural and fun. It will bring out the best in you. That’s how you know.
It Better Set Your Soul On Fire!
*The Angry Therapist
What makes you feel alive? Sometimes a person makes you feel alive. Sometimes an activity. What is setting your soul on fire?
Gain Clarity
I have a girlfriend who would joke she would pray for clarity for me. To be able to see things as they are not as I want them to be. To help me find the right path and not be so oblivious.
Sometimes taking a time out is what you need to regroup. Refocus. Evaluate what’s important in your life and what is not.
She Was Loved & That Made Her Strong
Even if it wasn’t the type of love she needed or wanted it did at one point help make her strong and brave. Brave to open up and risk being exposed to someone and strong to know that even if it wasn’t the type of love she wanted or needed she knew she could be loved and that alone is powerful.
Just another part of her journey of discovery to what she wanted and who she was and what she needed to be.
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Rose Quartz...Mom What’s This?
Yesterday my daughter hands me a stone she found in my car. What’s this mom? I laughed. It’s rose quartz. A healing stone.
I didn’t want to say love stone even though that’s what it is. It helps you attract love and peace. It was appropriate for the type of mood I have been lately. A mood of wanting peace and easy love in my life. Enough with things that are complicated or complex. Stressful or overwhelming. Those days are over. Easy days ahead.
ROSE QUARTZ
THE LOVE MAGNET
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE • FORGIVENESS • COMPASSION
The color of a rose and the ultimate symbol of love, Rose Quartz has been used in love rituals and ceremonies for centuries. A stone for the love junkies and hopeless romantics,
Read more here. https://www.energymuse.com/rose-quartz-meaning
She’s Changing and I Like It
I don’t normally make fresh breakfast like fresh pancakes or homemade waffles during the school week. It’s a lot of work and we have to be out to door by 7:45. But my oldest has been pretty amazing lately. Something in her changed. She’s calm. Been really affectionate towards me and happy. Over the summer she was a bit of a monster at times.
The other morning she asked if I had pancakes so last night I set my alarm early to make her fresh panacakes this morning. I would skip my workout. At 6:00 she climbs into my bed. She hugs me and says she missed me. I asked her if she was hungry she said yes. Pancakes she asks. Yep I responded. Bacon too? Of course I say. She was shocked.
Chocolate chip and bacon pancakes are her thing. Look mom a heart she says.
Middle school is a rough year. I notice a bit of mommy bear coming out of me. When bell rings she puts on her cell and calls me. I tell her where I will pick her up. It’s like a disconnect for me. I normally know routine classes teachers. This time it’s so independent like I drop her off and say fend for yourself. So out of my comfort zone. Of course I signed up to be involved with school so I can be comfortable with her routine and teachers etc...but honestly she’s been so amazing and mature. I think it’s ok for me to step back.
I know this is just the beginning and I had to make some changes in my personal life so I can focus 100% on my girls until their routine is comfortable for them and honestly me. They are my world. I can sacrifice my world to make sure their world is how it needs to be.
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