Saturday, July 20, 2019
Happy 45th Anniversary
Love is...I remember being a little girl and watching my Dad walk in the house. My mom was cooking. He would blast his favorite Italian song grab her with her wooden spoon in her hand from making dinner and dance with her. She would laugh and tell him to stop but he wouldn’t. It was cute and romantic and playful.
I won’t say their marriage is perfect. Perfect doesn’t exist but they did show me how love should be and well it’s given me hope that one day I too can have that type of love. That soulful love. Where your heart stops and yet you two live a real life together. Tackle real problems. Be a real team.
Cheers to 45 years. Cheers to knowing true real love is possible as long as you’re with the one who brings out the best in you. As long as you're a team. Are each other’s best friend. Laugh together. Make eachother feel good. Everyday it is work yet fun. You respect and trust eachother. Always. ❤️
Look At What You Gained...
Every loss teaches you something. I spoke to a friend the other day who really is a great person....no love connection just a friend. He is coming up next week and wants to do dinner. We are getting a group together and when I think about this group it hit me. This group was built on my new experience in life. New path. New journey. New friendships. New relationships. Made past friendships stronger. Created new friendships. Before I know it we have six people coming for dinner who didn’t even know eachother until this last couple of months.
Last night I am driving to meet friends and all of a sudden I am smiling My life is pretty damn good. All this time I am dwelling on this year’s heartache and it hit me that if I didn’t go through that I wouldn’t be where I am at today. I wouldn’t be meeting people I have met. I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing. I wouldn’t be experiencing life the way I am.
And it’s really a lesson to you all. If you didn’t go through heartache or hardship you wouldn’t be as happy as you are now. If you’re going through it now trust me you’re better off at the end. You will learn from it. You will know where you belong.
I am living the life I choose to live. For a while I missed people who weren’t in it anymore. But it opened my eyes to those who are and the new ones I met and will continue to meet along the way. How amazing is that! How lucky am I and you to have these experiences bring new people into your life. Show you how much the ones who are in it love and care for you.
Those who left...you have to look at the win and let them go. Let them do the work to come back in. You are no longer responsible for that.
Are You Dreaming Of Me...
Can’t sleep? Up through the night? Maybe someone else is keeping you awake..in their dreams. But really who else is up right now?
I was telling a friend how I couldn’t sleep. You have to rest the mind inorder to sleep he said. The crazy thing is I have more energy then I have in a long time. I am at peace. My mind is relaxed. I just don’t want to sleep. I can function on 5 hours. Which isn’t ok. It’s not enough but this last two weeks I wake up through the night full of energy. So I write or lay in bed counting how many hours I got of sleep. I won’t start the day before 5:30 am. I mean would you? But here’s a real reason why I may be waking up in the middle of the night.
Exactly Why You Keep Waking up in the Middle of the Night, According to Doctors
Your Story Will Help Others!
I can’t say this enough...you, me, everyone we meet has something to learn and something to teach. Set backs and down falls gives us knowledge that we can then share with someone else and help them get through what we went through.
It teaches us to have compassion.
Friday, July 19, 2019
What Are You Holding On To?
They say whatever you do in life you give up something to gain something else. Is it a desire? A lust? A need?
Only you can answer it. Only you have the power to say I am going to let go to pursue happiness. I spoke to a friend I care a lot about. Torn in their current situation. Of course I am not the one to give them the best advice. My emotions get in the way of logic. But one logical comment I said was you have been hurt a lot and you lost trust. It’s normal to resist. Trust is hard to regain.
I walked away from a situation that didn’t emotionally make me feel good. Trust was gone. Hurt was present. I didn’t stay. I didn’t stay because I knew I could never allow that person back in. Trust was gone.
You have to think about the same thing. What are you holding on to? Is it fixable? Do you want to even fix it. What are you giving up instead? What’s your heart really telling you it wants?
Everyone is different. We all settle in life. We all give up something to gain something else.
Some may ask What are you losing by staying. What are you losing by leaving. Whatever it is you have to focus 100%. Too many people get hurt if you don’t.
What about saying I want to be happy. I am sorry whoever doesn’t understand it. In time they will. How about stop making excuses and for once say I will do what I want and to do.
Self love and self respect is only something you can make a priority. Don’t be sad. You can change your life at any moment. You can give yourself the life you truly deserve. I did.
Why I Write & Why You Read It...I Make You Think
I write for you to view life a little differently. It also helps me too. Writing is a therapy to me. Helps me share my views. I love doing it. I don’t know who vists my blog but I am grateful for you!
I hope what I write adds some peace to your life. Hits some personal moments in your life when you say “yeah that’s so me” or “yes that makes complete sense”
I write trying to help you. While it’s helping bring peace to me.
Let’s Take A Ride...
I love doing this. Just take a ride to pass time. I did it the other day. Drove my daughter through Rowayton. It was beautiful. The houses felt like beach homes. All different sizes. Lawns green and manicured. I had friends who lived in Rowayton growing up. I hung out there at times. I guess I just never took the time to appreciate the beauty of it.
They even have this sign hanging up as you enter it.
There’s the slow down children playing signs everywhere. You can see kids walking and riding their bikes to camp.
It’s really a whole different dynamic. Not sure if any of my readers are from there but if you are I hope you embrace the beauty in it.
As I get older I am starting to appreciate the little things. Things that I never gave much thought to throughout the years.
Switching Things Up: Eliminating Flour & Sugar
It was the strangest thing. I couldn’t get out of bed. My bones hurt. The pain wasn’t unbearable just strange. I needed Tylenol. I tried stretching. I stopped running outside. I saw a couple of doctors and nothing was out of the norm. My thyroid doctor changed my dosage and it helped a little bit not as much as I hoped.
I started to notice I was getting swollen. Really bloated. My hands and feet. My abdomen. I even had a minor procedure to test an abnormal finding and it came back negative. I couldn’t figure it out. Stress? Depressed? I tried to change my routine. Meditate. Not think about things that once brought me down. Not be sad and try to see the positive in everyday. Nothing helped.
Then one day I started to keep track of what I ate and when I started to feel off. I knew it was something I was doing but didn’t subconsciously know.
I then stopped eating sugar and white flour, processed flour and food and cut down my salt. I gave it a week. After the first 48 hrs I felt amazing. No pain. No soreness. Like what I was feeling before totally went way.
I actually had an enormous amount of energy. My skin looked better. I wasn’t swelling up. Elimating processed foods was making my body feel normal again. I was reacting to sugar and white flour this whole time.
The funny thing is this. Before they found out I had thyroid cancer they thought I was insulin resistant. With that I did the insulin resistant diet . It was about balancing protein and carbs. I felt amazing. To this day I say to my girls drink a glass of milk with your cookie because the protein will balance the sugar.
Then before my treatment for Thyroid Cancer you have to do a RAI diet. Low iodine or no processed foods. It was pretty strict. You eliminate iodine so when you do RAI treatment your body absorbs it and kills any Thyroid cancer you have left it you body.
I felt amazing on this diet. My skin. My body. I couldn’t believe how amazing I felt. It was work preparing for sure but I had no choice. It was like I was eating how we are suppose to eat. Natural foods. Low fat and limited salt. Pure organic. My mom would make me bread with special recipes from here I remember I cut my finger by night it healed. Like magic. It was so crazy to me. My skin looked amazing. I looked so young from not having processed foods and everything in pure form.
So I am not a doctor. You need to consult with your doctor before switching your diet. I will say I did loose weight already from this. I feel healthier and happier. My body does not hurt at all. I have plenty of food options and even eat now every couple of hours. I am excited to see how my body with transform in the long term doing this so stay tuned for updates.
Why did eleminating sugar and flour help me already so much:
Here’s why:
Music Is A Part Of You...
Holding on to pain is hard. I was walking the other day and it hit me. I got so sad. Music triggers it. I swear every time I feel that way my girlfriend texts me. “Are you ok?” I now laugh about it. She so knows. She’s very intuitive. I can’t explain it. She’s spot on every time. So I had to shift gears. I had to say not be sad it’s ok. I had to tell her I was ok.
Pain sticks with us. It really does. It’s our job to heal from it. Feel and release it. Music is a great way to do it.
Thursday, July 18, 2019
Life Lessons...Learn From Them!
Learn from it all...they are all teaching us something. Heartache means you loved. Tears means you can feel.
Holding back means you lost trust in someone, you don’t want to open up to again. Your soul may be tired and knows to protect itself. You aren’t ready to give them what they think they deserve. Or maybe they aren’t the person you want to give your love to. Maybe they aren’t worthy and that’s ok too.
Pulling you close to someone means you’re not ready to let go and you’re holding on for a reason.
There’s all these things that build us up. Teach us. Help us grow. Help us find peace with ourselves. It’s all a process. A growing process. Don’t fight it. Learn from it. ❤️
Embrace The Lessons
Embrace the lessons and learn to stop giving your love away to people who may not deserve it or appreciate it.
Love Yourself...Everyone Else Is An Added Bonus
The power of the universe is when it shows you so much when you couldn’t see it yourself. When your mind isn’t clear or your brain is preoccupied. The universe brings people into your life to see things for what they really are.
What you need. What you don’t see in yourself. It’s magical. Love yourself. That’s all you need. Anything else or anyone else is an added bonus.
Remember This: When Love Is No Longer There
You can’t force someone to have you in their life or love you or choose you and it’s hard to hear but sometimes we need to remind ourselves. It’s also hard to admit but it’s true.
I get it. I do it too. Alot. I hold on much longer than I should. I am slowly working on that.
Love is magical. It’s a high. It’s feeling like nothing in life can bring you down. Any stress magically seems manageable. It’s an escape. It’s fun.
Then it changes. Somewhere along the way it’s no longer what it was. You tend to hold on because you remember those magical times but then things get hard. Sad. Lonely. It’s hard even writing this for some reason. But it’s true.
It’s letting go when one person wants out. It’s letting go when there isn’t equal effort. It’s letting go when all you’re holding on to was the past. It’s letting go when one person is ok not having the other person in their life anymore. It’s letting go when you’re ok knowing that person will end up with someone else and that fact no longer bothers you.
Yep!
You gotta learn when to let go and hardest part learn to accept when someone has let YOU go.
Letting Go Is An Everyday Goal!
You wake up and say today’s a good day. Then something hits you. A song. A word. Something. And it sets you back. Reminds you. You have to restart again at that exact moment. Right there you start again the process of letting it go.
It’s ok. It takes time. You got this. I got this. ❤️
Connecticut Wine Festival July 20th & 21st
This event looks like so much fun!
11 of Connecticut's top wineries will be showcasing their best wines. Enjoy tastings accompanied with food samples and music.
Wednesday, July 17, 2019
Bethel Summer Fest This Weekend
Kids activities, food trucks, games, music etc... Check out Bethel’s Summer Fest this weekend in Downtown Bethel.
Learn to Let Things Go...
Don’t change the path life is taking you on. Those who walked away did for a reason. Don’t try to fit them back in. It’s ok. Let it go. Feel, heal. Don’t try to change what the universe is doing for you. You may never understand why but you can’t grow standing still.
It’s Not You...It’s The Problem!
I love this. I love this approach. A lot of time we don’t see it like this and it’s true. If you can work together to sort out the problem well then there’s no need to argue. Conquer what’s causing the tension and work together.
Wednesday Motivation: Proud Of You!
Whatever you are dealing with today I hope it brings you peace and happiness.
❤️
Need A Distraction? Why...
“Free will and personal choice supersede everything at the end of the day.”*
What are you running from?
I have to keep busy. I can’t sit home. I have to be out and about. I find the excuse to do anything but I am suppose to do. I break commitments.
Sound like you? What you really need to ask yourself is:
Why do I have to keep busy? Why can’t I sit and rest at home? Why do I always have to be out and about? Why do I find the excuse to do anything but what I am suppose to do? Why do I break commitments?
This article may help:
*What Are You Running Away From? (Dealing with Escapism) https://personalexcellence.co/blog/escapism/
There’s that deep core you are neglecting. You have to fix it not always run from it.
Donuts & Beer....Flight Night July 19th
How fun is this? Donut Crazy teamed up with Two Roads Brewery for a beer and donuts pairing. I did this once with Wine and Candy and couldn’t believe how fun and tasty it was. This event looks even more delicious. July 19th 4:00-9:00 pm.
Learn more here: https://tworoadsbrewing.com/events/view/6761
Men Are NOT Like Women...They Say What They Really Want
“When a guy tells us what he wants we must believe him and respect it”
A friend said this to me while I was getting ready for my night and I swear it hit home. Almost like I already knew this but didn’t want to nor did I like it.
Women aren’t that way. We act on emotion. Then process. Try to correct it. Miss people we want back in our life. Men miss them too but they are more set in their decisions. They move forward. Women linger. We have that “what if” or “if it’s meant to be”. We hold on to hope. “Hope” sounds a bit pathetic.
Men don’t do that. So stop trying to convince a man to change how he feels because it won’t happen. Men will process what you say but they need to do what they need to do and well we have to give them space and respect that. They also will treat you in the way that reflects how they feel about you or what they want. Process that again!
Take my advice. When a men says something listen. It may not be what you want to hear but you can’t change how he feels so you have to just respect it. His actions towards you is a clear message too. It’s usually supported by what he wants. Sucks I know!
Tuesday, July 16, 2019
Thank You Readers...
It’s hard to think this way when life may not be exactly how you want it to be or you’re missing someone or work is stressful or finances are overwhelming BUT do believe it’s all a part of your journey. Everyone you meet. Everything you do.
You are going through exactly what your road to happiness is meant to take you on. Enjoy the lessons and journey.
Thank you for being my readers!
Thank you for being my readers!
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Feel Good Song: Remember the Tinman
I love Tracy Chapman I grew up listening to her. It always relaxed me. This album “New Beginning” is ironic. It helped me through high school and then started to come back on my Pandora recently.
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The Universe...Follow Your Path
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Tuesday Goal: Self Love
Take care of yourself. Your core. Your soul. When you do you heal all your broken pieces and can truly take on anything. Work on getting your power back 💗
Monday, July 15, 2019
The Events Of The Day Always Can Change!
Have you ever had a day that started out crappy and ended good that it made you extra happy. Well today was that day.
It wasn’t the best morning. Some setbacks and repeat unnecessary drama. My mom asked why I let it get to me. “because it’s like reopening a healed wound over and over again” I just want peace not a run around all the time.
As the day went along I needed a distraction so reached out to a friend who totally helped me distract myself. We have brainless conversations and always makes me laugh. Easy fun. Followed by some awesome conversation with a girlfriend who is very intuitive and then me swimming solo. Relaxing, Peaceful.
You can always turn your day around at any moment.
Find That Person...
But eventually it will fade! Um who says? I have been through a lot in life to feel that there is no way that your life has to be a certain way. All rules go out the window. Find that person who makes your relationship so much fun that even rough times don’t seem to last long. Where you laugh and your soul is happy. Where staying in or going out is a fun adventure.
I have a cousin who was so shy for as long as I knew him. He met a girl. She’s outgoing. Loving and fun. She brings out this side to him we didn’t even know he had. They are constantly loving and hugging and kissing infront of us and I swear I now say I want a relationship like he has. The once guy who hid from family events is now showing me how I want a relationship to be. It’s all her. She brings out the best in him and well we all need someone like that in our life.
Why enjoy this adventure alone. Keep going until you find that person who loves you as much as you love them, who enjoys adventures and fun and will be there with you.
Woman...This Is For You Too!
Never stay in anything that doesn’t bring out your highest good. I don’t care if it’s a job, relationship or friendship. We always watch eachother and learn from
one another. Happiness is contagious. Sadness brings pain. Choose to love yourself first and know when to leave a situation verse when to stay. Choose wisely.
Wake & Do This...Happy Monday I Am Thankful For You All
Affirmations are awesome to do. It’s telling the universe what you’re grateful for. To attract positive energy in your life. Practice these every morning and everyday. I do them randomly throughout the day especially if I am down or have to shift my thinking.
You can add more too. Learn more here: https://thinkup.me/affirmations-happiness-joy/
“Affirmations in New Thought and New Ageterminology refer primarily to the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment—fostering a belief that "a positive mental attitude supported by affirmations will achieve success in anything."[1] More specifically, an affirmation is a carefully formatted statement that should be repeated to one's self and written down frequently. For affirmations to be effective, it is said that they need to be present tense, positive, personal and specific.[2]” Source Wikipedia
Sunday, July 14, 2019
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