Are You Being Triggered?

It’s easier when you’re older, to sit back and say “Why did I react the way I did? Why did that “trigger” me.  I do it a lot. I always ask why did it bother me. What’s REALLY bothering me. I swear it’s changed me. It’s helped me keep my composure and not feel unstable with my feelings. You feel grounded when you dig deep to figure out why you do and react the way you do. 

Feel Good Song

Be You...Always

If It’s Meant To Be...

Walk In With Confidence...Always

She’s at an age that somehow I can relate to. Where you have a love hate relationship with people. One minute things are good. Next something happens and emotions shift. It’s normal I told my daughter. Even Adults deal with conflict. With bullies. With situations that one minute everything is good with people in your life and next they aren’t. 

Always walk in the room with confidence I told her. No matter where you are. Who you are with. Own the room. Smile. Sit and process before you react. 

It happened to me last week. I am on a lot of boards in the community. One discussion got a little heated. One member was very aggressive in her belief and everyone in the room clammed up. I can’t stand a bully.  I processed everything  and looked around the room. Then I unleashed. I was careful with my words but the minute I spoke another leader whispered “Thank You” to me and emailed me later for my great contribution to the group. 

You don’t need to argue I told my daughter. You will always have conflict but it’s about your approach. Your self confidence. No one can take that from you unless you allow it. 

I may be viewed as a person with a strong voice but that’s why I get nominated for these boards. I present my opinion. My thoughts on change, backed with facts. With reason for change. Leave emotions aside as much as possible. Smile. Walk in with confidence. Own the room. 

Everywhere you go. Every situation. Regardless of what people say your self confidence can’t be stolen from you unless you allow them to steal it!

I’ll Have An Old Fashioned Cocktail Please

I don’t even remember how it really started. One night a friend ordered it at a local bar and then I started going to places just to try their Old Fashioned Cocktails. It’s a mix of flavors. Burbon. Sweet. Yet Bitter. As the ice melts it becomes easier to

drink. You causal sip on it as you eat. Everyone who orders one gets it. 

I have tried the Peanut Butter and Jelly Old Fashioned at Elm City Social in New Haven. My favorite of all time is the Old Fashioned at Village Bistro in Milford. It actually comes out in a smoke box. 

We sat by the fire at Cask In Stamford and enjoyed sipping on it. 

Some come with an old fashion infused cherry. Adds a bit of sweetness. It’s a relaxing, kick back and drink one or two type of drink. 

Learn More About Old Fashioned Cocktails: https://www.liquor.com/recipes/bourbon-old-fashioned/#gs.gPhITqbW

Disney Fairy Tale Humor: Be A Queen

Live Your Life

I love music. I listen to music while working out. I listen to music while I work. It’s very therapeutic for me. Relaxes me. Helps me connect within and also makes me happy. My parents got us tickets to see Disturbed this past weekend. Three Days Grace was their opening band. The concert was phenomenal. Their voices were even better in person. The crowd was full of amazing energy. 

Later in the night we stopped at a local club where we became friends with some of the workers. Ghostface Killah was a guest there. He gets up and raps some songs we knew growing up. It was the perfect ending to our night. 

The problem with nights like this is I catch a bit of the Monday blues. Getting back into routine mode and the hustle and bustle of life. With that being said it’s always good to look back and say to yourself  I am going to “Live My Life” today, tomorrow, 5 years from now. I am going to enjoy the small things. Not sweat the small stuff. Love people for who they are, not what I want them to be and appreciate yourself too.

Cheers to living your life and let’s try to make it through the Monday Blues! 

Be You!

Water Lantern Festival Danbury CT 2019

https://www.waterlanternfestival.com/danbury.ph

This event really looks amazing! Food trucks. Design your lantern. Really unique. 

Communication Is Key

Sometimes we have to take a step back and communicate better. It happened the other day. A minor disagreement and it didn’t seem to make sense and I asked what’s really bothering you? They turned the whole situation around. The person apologized . Said they had a rough day and they were taking out their frustrations on me. 

Now I have been taught how to communicate and use Imago-  a mirroring way of communicating. Ithelps diffuse  and validate emotions. It helps you realize that “Most of the time when someone is upset it has NOTHING to do with YOU!”

I have been trying to teach my kids to communicate better too. To PROCESS before REACTING. If we all lived by that maybe we would be more passionate and sympathetic towards one another. 

Did You Know...Friday Humor

Mystic CT Restaurant Week March 4-10 2019

http://www.connecticutrestaurantweek.com/restaurant-weeks-ct/mystic-restaurant-week/

Spread Happiness

“You turned soft, what happened? You used to set my butt straight” my client said to me on our weekly call. He was right. I used to react when he came off forceful. I laughed and said “I am at peace in my life. No need for me to reply aggressively.”

It was true. I have been at peace and calm. Happy, content. I have goals set and am aiming towards them. My girls are very happy and loving. My job has been extremely busy so I have been grateful. I have fun weekends planned. I am content. At peace.  
Happy! 

When was the last time you were truly happy?

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff

Enjoy The Peace That Will Come

Presidents Day! Enjoy Your Life!

Stamford Restaurant Week Starts Today!

Stamford Restaurant week starts today. Check out which restaurants are participating!

http://www.connecticutrestaurantweek.com/restaurant-weeks-ct/stamford-restaurant-week-2011/?fbclid=IwAR1mw8DK_yQPFogIpOz63VEgb2xH7qMw7XEtogFtbus73fviZiaGCiRCfUo

Restaurant week is always a great time to check out new spots for a great price. Which restaurant will you be trying?

Everyone You Meet Has A Purpose

I try to live by the “no regrets” theory in life. Have no regrets. Everything happens for a reason. But really here’s a true statement. Everyone you meet teaches you something! We just may confuse what the lesson is. 

Great article:

6 REASONS WHY WE MEET PEOPLE FOR A REASON – NOT BY ACCIDENT

https://www.notsalmon.com/2013/03/14/we-dont-meet-people-by-accident-theyre-meant-to-cross-our-path-for-a-reason/?fbclid=IwAR1YVHOvAFQcJirkptRt37t152-l9Nvtd-NbfbWQQB6nrtIeuzdQICaV3-Q

Make a Choice For Change

Hookah in CT

There’s something about being in a dark room with your feet up and enjoying Hookah. It totally puts me in  a relaxing phase. I have been going once a month. End of night. Before heading home. Most of them allow you to bring in your own drinks and liquor if you like. It’s a fun way to hang out and chill out a little. My favorite flavor is mint and orange. It’s mild yet tasty. 

Connecticut offers multiple places to try Hookah. 

Below are some of my favorite spots;

http://www.euphoriact.com/

https://www.medittereneacafe.com/

http://olivetreehookahlounge.com/

What spots do you recommend?

Heal...Love...Make the World Better

There’s No Catch...Just Have Some Fun

After over a year my divorce was finally finalized in November. The journey taught me a lot. I definitely wasn’t the same person from when the process started. I actually grew to love the person I became through it all. My ex is an awesome father to our girls but there’s a time in your life when you have to accept when your journey with someone has ended. 

Once you learn to be alone. Really fully alone you are kindof reborn again. You start to become selfish. And selfish not in a bad way. It’s your time to date yourself. Be your own friend. I started to make a bucket list. I started to explore new food and restaurants. New events. I started to wake up and say wow what a great life. I am happy. My kid’s are happy. Life is good. 

You have to be able to sort through a lot to reach that point. 

Now a single mom to three girls, 10 yrs and under. I may never want to marry again. I don’t want anymore children. I just want fun. Happiness. Good adventures. I want to wake up and go to bed with a smile. 

I am not saying you have to be divorced to have this mentality. I am saying going through the process helped me reach this mentality. Enjoy your life. Embrace it. 

Seek happiness and let’s have some fun. Where everyday you wake up and look in the mirror and smile. Where stress isn’t preventable but it is part of life. Try to let it roll off your back. 

National Margarita Day is Friday, February 22nd

Nothing taste better than a great deal....National Margarita Day is Friday, February 22nd. Join in on the fun by doing a Margarita Crawl in Sono 

Learn more here: https://norwalknow.org/events/2019-02-22-522-norwalk-now-margarita-crawl

Be Confident in Yourself

Wafu Korean BBQ Westport CT

I am always looking for new restaurants and food experiences to check out so when I won a Gift Certificate to Wafu Korean BBQ in Westport I was beyond excited. I had Korean BBQ off food trucks before and I even make Korean BBQ Short Ribs so I knew I would enjoy it, just didn’t anticipate LOVING it. 

There were some really delicious appetizers to choose from. The drink list was very creative and I must say they nailed the Tropical Margarita- delicious. It was my first time tasting Tuna Tartare. I know I know I am a foodie yet I couldn’t bring myself to try it until last night. Delicious. 

We ordered pork belly as our entree. They come and bring a ton of fun sides to put in your lettuce wrap with the meat. Pickled. Spicy. Savory. It was so fun just trying all the sides. 

Then the waitress comes with your meat. It’s raw. She puts butter in a skillet and cooks it with onions and some veggies. It was such a fun, delicious experience. The staff was so nice!  Be sure to go give it a try. We can’t wait to go back. 

http://www.wafuasianbistro.com/wafu2/index.html

I Am Back...It’s Been A Journey

Sometimes you get caught up in life. Work. Outside noise. Stress of life consumes you. It’s ok to take a step back and take a break. 

So I did. 

7 Rules For Life