Setting Boundaries Is Ok!

It’s ok to set boundaries. It’s ok to say when you’re not ok with something. 

My boyfriend wants to be together forever. He doesn’t let anything bother him. NOTHING.  He feels I should trust 100% no matter what. He trusts me 100% no matter what. 

I have had different experiences than him. I have been lied to or heart broken etc….Sometimes history repeats  itself. You get tested. 

We don’t have the same experience with love and relationships. Our boundaries are different and that’s ok. I still make sure I make them clear. 

Just because they aren’t aligned doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be respected.

There’s pros and cons to setting boundaries. It wasn’t set from the beginning it was more set along the way when we faced some situations I wasn’t comfortable with. The main thing is to communicate them. What one person may find acceptable another may not. 

We agreed to always discuss and communicate when we feel boundaries have been crossed or need to be better aligned. 

What do relationship boundaries mean to you? Great article about them. 

https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/what-are-my-boundaries/

Sometimes Good Happens In The End of a Bad Situation

Oh Mega Million

I didn’t wake up a winner but I did enjoy dreaming as if I was. 

Trust Your Feelings

We have triggers. It’s really about emotions. When we feel off or upset or not right it’s our body saying “fight or flight”.  The emotion we feel is telling us something. 

We all have experienced it. I have. You have. It’s normal. What’s not normal is how you react to it. Some people fight. Some get upset. Some run from it. I personally discuss it. I confront it. I can’t let it go. I can’t un-feel. I have been numb before. I don’t recommend it. 

I try to think through it to understand it. I really do. Which at times can be worse because you overthink it. Over thinking is awful. It’s trying to figure out a situation and piecing it together. 

The mind is a powerful tool. It can backfire on you if you overthink too much. 

You don’t have to be in any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. EVER. You do have an obligation to yourself to figure out why it made you uncomfortable and then to not get yourself in the situation again. 

You don’t have to accept anyone in your life you don’t want to have there.