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Friday, January 10, 2020
It’s a Sign or Is It?
You have to believe people who come and go in your life all happens for a reason. If someone chooses not to respond to you or give you time it’s all in the force of the universe.
I don’t believe in games or hurting people. I believe we all have pain we need healing from. We should take space when we need it but do know if someone leaves let them leave for good. They aren’t meant for your current journey. 💗
Cleansing Period
This is so true. The cleansing period. Not sure if it’s affecting you but definitely something we can relate to. Do some soul searching and shadowing.
Women We Need To Chill Out
I have a friend. Super calm nice guy. I was speaking with him and I asked him how are men ok being single. Now I am ok being single but notice men just do their own thing and are happy. His response is something I have heard before but this time, for some reason, it stuck. Like a light bulb went off.
He has his daughter 50% of the time so he went on to say he liked his alone time. What do you mean I said. He said well I work a ton. Have my daughter half the time so when I don’t I do the gym and CrossFit and chill. He’s learned to enjoy down time. To rest. He is very domesticated so takes care of his house and himself when he can. I said I understand but don’t you miss having a companion. He replied at times but keep in mind he was with his ex wife for 10 years. That’s enough for him. And to be honest he said. “You women are bat shit crazy. One minute you’re cool as hell. The next you’re salty and flying off the handle. It’s like woah what’s going on.”
I couldn’t help but laugh and I totally get it. He’s right. Now we can argue men make us like that because some really do but the reality is women emotions are completely different than men. We are wired differently. We react. Now I know men who do too so men you aren’t in the clear yet but us women need to relax. We need to tone it down.
The best thing about my friend is we have known eachother for almost two years. We hang just enough to see just the cool calmness of eachother. I have gotten salty with him before but space makes things more manageable. We also just talk and hangout for hours. It’s a really easy situation. Where we both are happy with it and it works for us.
There’s always a time when we need to be reminded of stuff. That most men aren’t complex. Most of them tell you exactly what they need and us women sometimes aren’t sure with what we need. We then toy with our emotions and react because we don’t even know what the hell is going on.
It really stuck with me our conversation. I hope this post sticks with you too.
Thursday, January 9, 2020
Own It
We all make mistakes. We all need a cooling off period. It’s ok to apologize. It’s ok to mess up. It’s normal. What’s not ok is not giving someone you care about the opportunity to make things right. That is where you lose the opportunity to have someone in your life.
We must be aware of what happens in us. I have had my share of words out of anger just like you have. There’s been situations I wish I could change and was dealt with without a say in things going in my favor. I have apologized or reach out to make things better.
I saw a post it said we all are going to die one day. Which is true. We are. What do you want to be remembered for? Who do you want to have by your side? Will your name be recognized 100 years from
now?
Let’s stop pushing ourselves to the edge. Let’s love eachother and cherish what life has to offer. Apologize when you’re wrong. Accept forgiveness when someone has the courage to approach you when things got off course. Start over as many times as you need to.
Be The Sunshine For You & Them
Be someone’s sunshine. Life is short. Let go of it all that doesn’t serve your purpose well and be happy. Embrace those who do and can be.
Be someone’s sunshine.
Before You Walk In The Door
I love this and it’s true. How many times are we holding a million things. When you rush in to start dinner or to start homework and after work activities. We need to pause. We need to realize what we’re walking into. Even if we have to fake a smile. Do it. I will too.
Wake Up And Smell The Bacon
I had a friend who used to wake us up by the smell of bacon. Was awesome. My kids love bacon so this morning I was up early and decided to make some for them. I went to my oldest and said it’s time to get up and I made bacon. She hopped out of bed and said she thought she was dreaming. I couldn’t help but laugh. I remembered those mornings waking up to the smell bacon and I will tell you it’s better than waking up to the smell of coffee.
Whatever you need to do be sure to do it so you start your mornings right! Also be sure to always remember the good memories in life. I know hardships is what makes things come to an end but do cherish the good memories. My memories of waking up to bacon will always be of good times.
Happy Thursday All!
Thursday Vibes
Wake up and breathe. Take some minutes for yourself. Clear you mind. Get out of bed with both feet on the ground. Stretch and say today’s my day. A good day.
Wednesday, January 8, 2020
Restarting...We Are All Allowed That
This is what this year was suppose to be about. Restarting. Believing in yourself. Believing in love. Loving life. Finding magic in the little things. I was oblivious and then life took me on a rollercoaster ride. I became a bit tough and bitter. I detached emotionally from people to guard my heart. I had to let that all go. I wanted the magic but had to get through some things.
I wanted peace again. To be calm. To start again. This year is about that.
It’s about growth. Healing. Learning from mistakes and realizing they don’t have to be a part of you. You can be soft. You can not tolerate certain situations that don’t align with your core values. You can have a calm mind.
Never Believe Other’s Opinions
This is so destructive and not necessary. No one has the right to judge you or to make you feel a certain way about yourself. I love the quote that says “it’s none of my business what you think of me”.
It’s funny how the channel of communications can distort peoples views and opinions. I had a friend once say something in regards to my post. I laughed because honestly if you take the time to read my blog you don’t judge. You come to get inspired not criticize. If you judge me then please don’t read them. It’s not like social media where I pop up. But it had me thinking when I saw this post. I never really cared what people thought of me because when I did I had to defend myself and who the hell wants to do that? I don’t compete and I don’t defend. I like being oblivious to what people think of me. Because I don’t care.
Our perspective changes. It’s influenced by others. What others say. How people react. Let that all go.
In my whole life I never was brought up to be jealous or envious of others. I was taught to root for eachother. Encourage success and achievements to those around me. I never ever had to compete or be jealous.
You’re opinion of me doesn’t matter. You shouldn’t care of people’s opinions of you either. Rock on!
Create Peace
Our ultimate goal should be to love and be loved and be at peace.
I struggled with it today. Not sure why. I couldn’t focus. I even mediated. I reread some old messages and knew things couldn’t change yet it bothered me a lot today not sure why. More so than a week ago. Some things just take time. Sometimes seeking peace means going through some pain and heartache or confusion.
Did You Know Snow
I pulled into a parking lot and saw snow falling from the sky. I started to smile. There’s something childlike about snow. The wind was strong. The snow was swirling all around. It didn’t last long but was enough to make me smile.
When You Want To Be Proved Wrong
When you align yourself you give people the benefit of the doubt. We should... right. We should look at people as if their intentions are true and pure.
When a situation arises and people don’t change your views or make you think different about a situation at times you can feel defeated. You always want that Prince Charming to come riding on that horse to sweep you off your feet. I am afraid he may really only exist in fairytales ladies.
I am afraid that men and women are more similar than we think. We say what we want and need and so do they. If they keep their distance it’s because they want to. When things end they really end. If you’re waiting for someone to change don’t hold your breath. I would love to be wrong but from my experience people rather stay the same then change even if that change will make them happy.
We get caught up in remaining where we are afraid of the unknown. Crazy thing is the unknown never failed anyone.
It’s Ok To Let Go
Ever hold on to a situation so much that it sort of became toxic for you? I swear it started to happen. It was bringing out a lot of insecurities I had until I sort lost it on a friend and said I am done.
Maybe my expectations weren’t being met. Maybe I thought deep down things would change and they didn’t and that frustrated me. I wasn’t being good for that person either while they weren’t being good for me.
Regardless no one should bring out that side of you. Every time I thought about reaching out I stopped myself. Peace was so much better than the dysfunctional friendship we had.
Power is when you stop yourself. When you say no. I can’t go back unless we are both are willing to change. Willing to change enough to be good for eachother. We didn’t owe anything to one another just enjoyed each others time. When that stopped. When that changed. That’s when you say ok enjoy your life. Wish you well no hard feelings. If you don’t you damage one another. No one wants that You don’t have peace. You have constant turmoil. No one wants to have that in their heart. If things couldn’t change then this problems would reoccur over and over.
It’s like relationships. If you can’t be good to eachother get out of it. Once you don’t feel it in your heart and soul you have to let it go.
No one says suffering is part of the equation when loving someone. Arguments and disagreements happen but when you aren’t happy at your core it’s time to make changes or to get out. Why just get by in life...For what? Who wins? Who benefits?
Create A Vision Board
This is a reminder as to what you want and deserve so picture it, embrace it and achieve it.
You can draw it out. Map it out. Put it on a piece a paper and hide it in a drawer. Whatever you do put your goals down. 💗
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