Saturday, December 12, 2020
Forgive To Grow
I never understood how you could love someone and not be good to them or be around them. I never understood it. In time I learned that’s not love. Love isn’t hurting someone. Love is wanting the best for that person. It’s missing that person. It’s wanting the person to be happy and with you and when you’re happy everything around you changes. It grows.
I think we all have been loved wrong in our lifetime. I think some of us were loved wrongly multiple times. I think people took us for granted and didn’t know how to really love us. I think people projected on to us and knew we would always be there so they took advantage of us and maybe they didn’t intentionally know it but when you look back so many things they have done was wrong.
So many situations I dealt with had nothing to do with me. Nothing. Yet I lost sleep over it or felt pain or hurt. So many times I questioned what I could have done differently. Only thing was walk away. At times I stayed way too long. I took way too much.
I will always carry a piece of those people in my heart. But I won’t continue to have them in my life.
You need to forgive to heal to grow. Make space for what you deserve.
I made space for what I truly deserved and it opened my eyes up to the things I had crowding me for so long.
Universal Yums Boxes
I am so excited about this box. I saw it online. I ordered it as a Christmas gift for my girls. The first one came in and I had to check it out before wrapping it. I am always having them try new things now they get a box every month of new items from around the world to try. The first box is filled with holiday goodies from multiple different countries around the world. The next boxes will be of one country a month.
Some of their previous boxes where Colombia and Egypt.
This is such a cool concept. It also is a great way to educate the kids how things are around the world. Plus we get to try new yummy treats.
Be Independent in Every Relationship
We have this illusion that our happiness depends solely on our partner. That they need to devote their time 100% to us and if they don’t then they don’t love us. Healthy mature relationships are about two people who are emotionally intelligent. Who enjoy the company of one another. Who have secure relationship attachment styles yet have independence.
Where you don’t need a person. It’s not obsessive. It’s actually extremely calm and content. It’s not an anxious type where you feel insecure. It’s a type where you two bring out the absolute best in one another. You encourage and promote inner growth. You have your hobbies and time together and hobbies and time apart. You communicate effectively.
This isn’t a common type of relationship but should be everyone’s goal. We put so much stress on our expectations of what someone else should do for us that we don’t take ownership of our own roles and responsibilities.
We are so used to unbalanced relationships that we think that is normal. It’s not normal. I lived through both types of relationships. I had to teach myself what type of relationship made the most sense.
You cannot be fully happy with anyone unless you’re secure in yourself. And I don’t mean love yourself because we all love ourselves but we all carry pain and past experiences and project it on to people. No one is here to save you. You have to save yourself.
You love someone for who they are. Not who you want them to be or how they should be. You have to fully accept someone for all of them and if you don’t then walk away.
But please know this. Your partners job isn’t to cater to you and worship the floor you walk on. They are there to enjoy the journey of life with you.
Friday, December 11, 2020
This Has Nothing To Do With You
You can’t consume everyone’s battles. You can be supportive and lend an ear but you can’t let it consume you.
Thursday, December 10, 2020
Take Ownership Of Your Life
Are you chasing happiness? Do you know who can change that? YOU. Yep, stop blaming others and situations and feeling stuck or feel obligated to stay where you are.
Leave all those excuses. You cannot allow good in if you are holding on to something that is blocking that happiness from coming in.
You Will Handle It & Be Ok
A situation occurred and I was overwhelmed and then I realized there will always be situations you have to face and deal with. You have to take things as they come.
Wednesday, December 9, 2020
Life Is Short, What Is Worth Holding On To?
I was listening to a podcast that Sam Harris was on. He was talking about his quest for spirituality. He mentioned losing a friend and his father in his younger years and that taught him that life was short. We are all here temporarily. We don’t know how much time we have here on Earth. What do we make of life? What is worth holding on to and paying attention to?
Tuesday, December 8, 2020
Fix Yourself That’s Your Responsibility
Projecting happens a lot. Most of the time people don’t even know what they are angry about. It’s your responsibility to heal you pain. Not pass it on to someone else. Healing takes time and is a process. Be sure to do that. Don’t pass it. Feel. Heal.
Monday, December 7, 2020
Sunday, December 6, 2020
Have NO Regrets
Looking back we can all say we wish we did things differently but we didn’t know better in that moment. In the moment we did what we thought we had to do.
Once your life becomes calm. Not boring. Life is never boring. Calm means you’re content and happy. It means you reached a point where you say “I love my life” to yourself. When you reach that moment you realize everything you ever went through had to happen so you can reach that calm.
I wish that for you. I wish you reach that calm in your life. That’s happiness. Genuinely happy. Even the smallest thing make you smile and happy. I want that for you.
Source: Createthelove
The Burrata at Shell & Bones in New Haven
How lucky am I that every week I get to select a new place to try and check out. Covid friendly of course. The warmer nights made eating outside with a heater enjoyable.
Pick wherever you like he always says. It’s sweet. He’s sweet. It’s a lot of fun. We laugh and chat for hours over a nice cozy meal. This week was Shell & Bones in New Haven.
I have been before during restaurant week last year and enjoyed inside near their fireplace but now with Covid we sat outside. It has a covered outdoor. We got lucky and had that whole area to ourselves. The mussels were amazing and his steak melted in my mouth but the burrata. That stood out. It was gorgeous. Over arugula, with fig and tomato with a balsamic drizzle. Beautiful presentation. We both enjoyed it so much.
Check it out if you can. https://www.shellandbones.com/
What restaurant should we check out next?
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