You may not have caused your insecurities but it’s your job to heal from them. Don’t carry insecurities into new relationships. Heal.
Wednesday, January 20, 2021
Tuesday, January 19, 2021
What’s Brewing?
Picture this...
Cozy night in. Fun board games. Comfort food- turkey chili. Cozy drinks. Ending it with a good Netflix movie.
Covid has helped us get creative. Tonight is peach tea- caffeine free. With oranges and cloves and cinnamon in boiled water and top with your favorite alcoholic beverage or no liquor at all.
Cheers!
There’s A lot You Can Control
And a lot you cannot!
Focus and change the things you can. Accept the things you can’t.
The One....
They were what we needed at that time in our life. You can have many loves of your life. You needed them at one point. Things change. You change. It’s ok.
Holding on when it’s time to let go isn’t ok.
#theangrytherapist
Monday, January 18, 2021
We All Have Our Battles
No one is living the perfect life. Perfect doesn’t exist. Be kind. We all struggle with something.
Be Your Best Self
Is your cup empty? Filling your cup means taking time for you. Doesn’t matter what you choose to do with that time as long as it helps you focus on you. Be sure to make time for that.
No one else can make you happy. That’s only at the surface. Be your best version and then you can be good to others.
Sunday, January 17, 2021
The Baking Curse...Take The Time To Do Things Right
I was never the best baker but pretty good. Lately I have a baking curse on me. Not sure why. Baking is very tricky. You must always follow directions. You can’t skip corners. You can’t wing it.
It’s really a lesson for me. Why? Because I always rushed things. Decisions. Baking. Whatever. I didn’t want to do that anymore.
So I joked that my baking curse was here to stay but then last night I gave it another try. I baked. They came out delicious and then my kids walked in and said mom what happened to your cookies. What do you mean I asked and walked over to the tray.
Well all the Hershey kisses melted. Yep. I didn’t put them on the cooling rack soon enough. The heat from the tray melted the Hershey kisses.
What’s my point?
My point is whenever you think you got it right you don’t. You don’t just assume you can stop improving. Life makes these minor switches in your life. Important to detail matters. Taking your time matters. Stop winging things. Take the time to do it right.
What Are You Attracted To?
It’s so not boring. I have had a lot of different types of people in my life and calm is not boring. It’s actually my absolute favorite type. Where you can have heathy discussions. Where you don’t trigger emotions. It’s maturity. It’s having emotional intelligence. It’s having self control.
I highly recommend that. What are YOU attracted to?
Saturday, January 16, 2021
Let’s Paint
I always loved to paint. I had an easel at my old house and would paint. It’s very therapeutic. It’s being care free and letting your mind let go and be free. I had the girls paint with me today. You have to overlook the mess to enjoy it. Just let your mind go and be creative.
What’s an old hobby you haven’t done in a while?
Friday, January 15, 2021
Do NOT Be Impulsive
I think we all been through it to be honest. At one time or another we did impulsive things. In time I learned to feel and process and leave reacting until the end. I wrote down my feelings. I edited my responses. I slept on it. Yep, I slept on it instead of reacting. That was huge for me. I never allowed myself to do that in the past.
Always remember every action causes a reaction. Do not be impulsive. Think everything through before reacting.
Game Night: Chicken Launch
This is actually a lot of fun and funny. You launch chickens and try to land on the fence. You get scores based on where the chicken lands. Simple. Easy. Fun.
Learn more here
Be Calm & Centered
When you’re triggered look within. Don’t react. Process. Ask yourself why do I feel this was and how can I change the way I feel.
Our goal should be to remain calm and centered.
Thursday, January 14, 2021
Bootcamp Fun
Do you know those work out videos where the instructor is teaching and behind them are three people doing different variations of the same workout exercise. They suggest you follow based on your level. Well that’s what it’s like working out with these three.
Most of the time when we are finished they ask me to grade them based on how well they did.
It’s a great and funny way to start our day.
Enjoy The Present
Everything is temporary...even love.
I was talking to my friend the other day who started dating again. He’s been great at helping me in the past. He’s a secure attachment style. I had my share of being anxious attachment style that I always envied his capability to date so securely. I remember when I first met him a year and half ago we hung out for 6 hours just talking.
He really helps me look at situations differently.
It’s funny how my other best guy friend is a secure dating type as well. He recently ended a relationship and I knew the minute he said she was anxious and avoidance type at the same time I knew they wouldn’t last.
Why? Because everyone wants a relationship where two people are secure and don’t need eachother. They want to be with eachother. There’s no anxiety or tension or stress. It’s pure enjoyment. Intelligent conversation. As adults you can’t date with a 18 yr old mindset. You have to be mature and secure and so many people do not date that way. Married people
don’t even have adult relationships with eachother. So many date with that younger mind set that creates unnecessary arguments and drama and jealousy.
You have to break the cycle. Everything is temporary you never know how long situations will last but the more secure you become and independent the better off you’ll be.
So many girlfriends I have are avoidance dating types. Focused only on career and themselves. They don’t have time to date. It’s not true. I am divorced mom
Of 3. I work and homeschool all day. It’s not the idea situation but I still make time to date. So it’s not about time. It’s about avoiding something. It’s about saying I am going to stay in my happy bubble alone because I want to avoid issues dating triggers.
I don’t recommend that either. I recommend becoming secure and happy within that you can have healthy discussions and relationships without being anxious or avoidance.
Game Night : Googly Eyes
I didn’t have any meetings planned so I took advantage of the opportunity to have some fun with the kids. I used to be really into board games with them then we took a break now we are back on the band wagon.
Last night we played Googly Eyes. https://www.goliathgames.us/product/googly-eyes/
It’s a lot of fun. It’s like Pictionary but you have to wear these glasses with different distorted lens while you’re trying to draw. It’s pretty funny.
My mom joined us and asked how difficult can it be. Well when she put on the glasses she went to grab the pen and instead grabbed the pen top to write with.
Needles to say it’s not easy to draw while the images are all distorted. There are three different difficulties you can land on and you have to change the lens to match the card. Yellow is easy. Green is medium. Blue is hard.
You also have a set timer. You get 15 secs for easy. 30 secs for medium and 45 secs for hard.
Check it out if you’re looking for a fun game with the kids.
What games do you recommend?
My Wish For You
I hope the wait is worth it. I hope you have goodness in all of yours days. I hope whatever you’re holding on to has been worth your sacrifice. I hope you find what you’ve been waiting for.
Wednesday, January 13, 2021
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