Beginning To Look A lot Like Christmas

We decorated the tree tonight. The girls did an amazing job. They after decorated the little tree in their bedroom. Honestly didn't even have a desire to put a tree up but now the house is so

cozy and the girls totally melt my heart and their happiness makes me happy and is all I

really care about these days. For them to be happy. Isn't that the goal?! Don't let your blues bring you down this holiday season. See beauty in everything you can. 

Thank You For The Journey: I Now Set You Free

Things don't just happen. It's a part of our journey. The problem we have is we hold on to it thinking there may be more and we also hurt ourselves by holding on to the person, situation, guilt and pain. One thing I learned about "soul searching" is to set things free. 

*picture source Instagram 

By setting things, people, your guilt, your pain, free you have acknowledged the journey is over. That you forgive yourself. You forgive that person. I did it last night before bed. I dug deep and let it all resurface and starting to forgive myself, forgive those who I hurt and hurt me, I then said thank you for the journey, I know set you free. I pictured the people walking away. Now it takes some practice and you have to be truly ready to do the forgiving to feel better and realize you too need to apologize. I had to forgive myself. I had to forgive the people who hurt me and I had to acknowledge I am not perfect and have a part in the role of everything that happens or had happened. It felt amazing. It's going to make you cry, feel pain and then joy. 

After I went to wash my face for bed and poured my cleanser in my hand and literary said oh my god out loud. I have this thing with hearts appearing and lately it happens a lot. I laughed and smiled and thanked the universe. 

You should try this. Try setting all that hurt in you free. It may take a couple of times. But after you do you feel amazing. Our journey is written out for us but we also have the will to make it as great or as bad as we like. 

Feel Good Song: Bridge Over Troubled Water - Josh Groban & Brian McKnight

My Goal Now & Always...

Feel Good Song: The Prayer: Celine Dion ft Andrea Bocelli

There's so many times we get stuck in situations we try to run from. Most of the times it's issues within ourselves. We try to find someone to help bring out the best of us and try to stay in situations we think will one day change. But they don't always. Sometimes relationship need to end, for good. Regardless how hard it is to be alone. It's better to be alone then in the wrong situation. I feel this song is meant for us all lost in our journey. Stuck in relationships and situations that we can't seem to get out of or that don't bring out the best of us. People don't always change. But you can change. It takes work but in time you can be in a happy environment and if not you can at least be happy with yourself. You can't keep running back to a situation you think will get better when they end up staying the same or even get worse. Being alone is hard but not as hard as being in a situation that doesn't make you happy or can never make you fully happy. It's a disservice to the person you are with and yourself to stay where you shouldn't be. 

True Strength Is Keeping It Together: Stay True To You

Greenwich Reindeer Holiday Stroll

Checked this out today and so fun. They hand out cookies and coffee coupons, there are food trucks. We even got a glass of prosecco at Stuart Weitzman. Stopped in Le Pain Quotidien Bakery for a free coffee we got from coupon and picked up an amazing cheese almond danish. There are carolers and a live navity scene. It's going on tomorrow too.  Learn More Here: http://www.greenwichreindeerfestival.com/assets/files/2017-tmk-holiday-brochure-final.pdf

Give Back To Your Drivers...

Love this idea and will be doing it too to give some appreciation. 

Holiday Lights Stamford CT

Who says lights are just for kids? Tonight checked out 65 Lewelynn Drive in Stamford with my sister. It was so magical. Ironically I used to go here when I was younger and was nice

to see this again. Be sure to go, with or without the kids. We all could use some holiday cheer!

Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Elf On The Shelf Guide...

Open Arts Alliance: Help Keep the Arts Free For Seniors

Learn More Here on how you can help:

https://www.openartsalliance.com/make-a-donation.html

Spread Kindness This December

Happy December 1st...Rabbit Rabbit Rabbit

Love the 1st of December and really  the first of any month. New beginnings. Holiday adventures. Keep looking up!

Gingerbread Village in Middlebury CT

Learn More Here: https://www.gingerbreadvillagect.com/

Thanks for the great information http://www.ctkidsandfamily.com/

New Beginnings...

I saw this and thought it was perfect. Ironically I received it today which is the same day we had our mediations. Honestly the whole process sucks. The person you once thought you would grow old with is questioning how much groceries are. Like nothing anyone wants to go through YET you are glad to not be together anymore. Just so strange but back to new beginnings. That's my new motto and well it's a reminder to just try to enjoy life. Whether solo, married, with someone or whatever your heart desires...have faith life happens for a reason. 

I was able to get this necklace with a promo and only pay for shipping. Check it out...

https://theelephantnecklace.com/search?q=Lotus

Cooking For Charity Event Tonight

Forever 31...The Dream Store

Feel Good Song: Walk On Water (Audio) Eminem ft. Beyoncé

Bedtime Parenting...Wish There Was More Of A Balance

Tree Is Up...Getting In The Holiday Spirit

I was going to eventually put up a tree...ok maybe not...but something hit me. Everytime we drove through the street at night my kids got so excited for the Christmas decorations and I knew I had to get them, me, us into the Holiday spirit. 

It's fake, maybe one day I will get the courage to cut down my own again but for now this will do. It's tall and I even picked a new spot in the house this year and actually love it. I lugged this thing from my basement and will not lie I cursed a little under my breathe. But it's up and I did it alone and well there's something empowering about that. 

Everything happens in life for a reason, right?  Do what makes you happy! End of day you're all you got! Be good to you!

Holiday Video: Hallelujah by - Pentatonix

Last year around this time my dog passed away. I remember he wouldn't get up to eat and I know he wasn't right. I thought he died but then I picked him up and he came back to life. They say my energy helped bring him back to life but we had to put him down anyway since he was too sick to make it much longer. I didn't feel much then. Life was crazy. My dad was in and out of hospitals gratefully doing well now but that was hard. Then my ex's grandfather fell ill and passed. I was a little numb. I didn't react too much to all that was going on in my life. I just kept moving along living day by day.

One thing you go through getting a divorce is letting all emotions you once hid resurface and it's ok. It's like cleansing the soul. It actually feels great after doing it- not so much during. But it helps you free the anger, stress, resentment, hurt you were once numb to. Still love this song and love it reminds me of my dog Sammy, that my dad is well and life is short so cherish those you love.

Weight Loss Humor

Give Back To End Hunger

Hunger Bites: Diners Eat Out To End Hunger http://www.ctbites.com/blog/2017/11/8/hunger-bites

Greenwich Holiday Stroll December 2nd & 3rd 2017

This event looks amazing!! Over 100 stores participating, food trucks, Santa, horse and carriage rides. 

http://www.greenwichreindeerfestival.com/assets/files/2017-tmk-holiday-brochure-final.pdf

Breakfast With Santa at Sign of the Whale In Stamford

Norwalk Day Saturday Dec 2nd Free Admission Martime Aquarium

Nobody Ever Died Of Divorce

Norwalk City Hall Tree Lighting Is This Friday

This Friday come down to Norwalk City Hall's Tree Lightening!

Santa Claus riding a firetruck to Norwalk City Hall tree lighting Friday evening http://www.thehour.com/news/article/Santa-Claus-riding-a-firetruck-to-NorwalkCity 

Branchville Block Party This Thursday

Pentatonix Is Coming To Mohegan Sun Dec 9 2017

My daughter has been asking to go see them for a while and today I was able to score some tickets and am super excited. I plan on giving them to her tomorrow

on her Birthday.  There's still tickets left to purchase. Learn More Here:

https://mohegansunarenact.tickets.expert/performers/pentatonix

I Didn't Change...I Just Woke Up!

Cyber Monday Deals

If you are like me and avoid the Black Friday crowd and shop online then you will love these Cyber Monday deals!

Best Cyber Monday 2017 Deals, Ads & Sales https://bestblackfriday.com/cyber-monday

Be sure to use ebates to get cash back on your online purchase. Love getting a check back on orders! ebates.com/r/JRFCAS?eeid=37137

Christmas...Blah Blah...

Oh the holidays...in the past I used to be done with my Christmas shopping by now I, now I have only completed one person on my list. My kids called me and were decorating a tree at their father's house and I knew I had to get my butt in gear...next weekend for sure. Now holidays is a cheerful time and I am happy about my split but there's a lot of different emotions you go through and holiday cheer is not yet on my list. That "fluff" doesn't matter. I have actually been happy to keep some weekends free to regroup and clean and eat whatever I crave or stop by a farmers market or craft fair. Holiday shopping is kindof last on my list. I promise I will get to it but for now can I just get some

 credit for showering and keeping the house in order and keeping my  kids happy...thanks!

Stratford Holiday Lighting Festival November 27 2017

Fate Belongs To YOU!

#ShopSmall Support Small Businesses

When you support Small Businesses you are actually helping one person reach many goals, it's not just about the money but helping them build confidence in their product. They took a

risk and put their passion for something out to society to love and accept it too. I LOVE small business shopping because it means extra love went into their products and giving back helps them not only pay for bills but feed their soul. So if you haven't had a chance to stop by a Craft Fair there's still time. Tomorrow you can stop by Pinkney Park in Rowayton and support local crafts. I scored some Christmas gifts at a super amazing price.  There is a $1 entry fee that is a donation. 

Be The Hero Of Your Story

Crafts & More This Weekend at Pinkney Park in Rowayton CT

Santa Is Coming To Fairfield Today Nov 25 2017

Birthday Fun...Sometimes Something So Little Can Mean So Much

She's amazing and I wanted her to have a great day without me spending hundreds of dollars at a kid hall with kid activities and stressing over the count-which we used to always have too many and skimp out on stuff. Don't get me wrong, those parties were fun but when you're going through a divorce you kindof want to put all that stuff on hold for a year and well you can't. So instead I said to her what if you picked some girls from your class and we spent the day together having fun. She LOVED it. It was funny she kept the invite list down to only a couple of girls and when her best friend responded she could come she said "Mom I am kindof happy it's just us". It actually worked out perfect. 

We started with manicures and pedicures. We had time before lunch so we stopped at Donut Crazy and they picked their own box of donuts. Then we stopped at the Westport Elementary School and they played on the playground. Lastly we had Hibachi at Sakura's and my daughter's dad met us. Kids ordered steak and pasta. So entertaining. So delicious! So much food too. They sang to my daughter twice. Once with an onion volcano and second time in a bowl of ice cream. I brought the girls back to my house and they played for a couple hours. 

It was PERFECT. So fun. So easy. So intimate. I plan on doing this with all my girls for now on. Having them pick a couple of friends and doing small yet so fun stuff together. I kept thinking one day I could take the girls and a couple of friends into NYC or to see a show or a professional game. Endless possibilities. 

Being a parent isn't easy. Going through a divorce while parenting isn't easy BUT it was great for us to be able to give our daughter a day she will always remember because sometimes what kids need are easy.  We complicate things. We put so much added stress on our plates. Sometimes saying pick a couple of friends and let's have a fun girl day is all it takes. 

Black Friday Deals Should Apply To Everything

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Black Friday Savings...

Ok brave shoppers what stores do you plan on tackling this Black Friday? Here's a quick little guide of stores offering the highest average discounts for Black Friday 2017 http://www.thehour.com/life/article/best-black-friday-stores-2017 

Thanksgiving Fun...Grateful and Full!

If you didn't leave your Thanksgiving gathering in pain then you didn't do it right. I ate more than I should have and would do it all over again if I could. Great food. Great company. Missed my Turkeys but glad they were happy and honestly love my family. My heart and belly are full. I hope you too got to spend it with those who you love and love you and filled your belly with great eats. Food is so important in my culture. It is like a big giant hug. We express love through it. We share our love by eating and feeding those we love. It's not just a gathering or a dinner. It's gathering with those who are good for your soul and make you leave smiling and full!

Thanksgiving: Be Thankful For All Of It

Holiday Shows Thanksgiving Weekend

How A Thanksgiving Turkey Is Like A Child...

Thought we all could enjoy a good laugh..

Wonder A Must See Movie #ChooseKind

What an amazing, powerful movie. I went on a field trip with the 4th and 5th graders at my daughter's school to see this today. I cried six times. Why? Because it shows you the struggles of bullying, how parents are trying their best. How everyone has a battle they are battling whether you can see it- visible or not. How kindness starts at home and how we live in a world where differences happen and can cause harm. Powerful! Perfect for grades 3 and up. Take your kids and see it.

Let Go...

I watched Iyanla Vanzant's show the other night and it was about couples deciding to stay together or not. One key thing that stood out was that sometimes people come into your life for ONE lesson, once that lesson is achieved you have to let them go and move forward. Let Go! 

Thankgiving Humor...Kids Will Be Kids...

Sometimes We Need Guidance

Thank You Healing Energy Tools 

They Are My Why...

"I hope there are days where you fall in love with being alive"

Life gives you a lot. Good. Bad. Sad. Happy. Not everyday is easy. I can't have people in my life sugar coat stuff cause reality is days are hard can suck. But then there are days and people who help

life be beautiful. Surround yourself with those people.