Are You Happy?

A friend asked me.  I usually say yes but this time I said no. Let me explain. 

As humans we tend to focus on the negatives in our life verse the positives. Right?! Yes I am right. So honestly am I happy with my life...90% yes. There’s 10% missing and that 10% actually made me say no. 

Crazy right! 

So why say no? Because it’s ok to not always make it seem like life is perfect and great. We all know we can’t have perfect lives. That’s not real at all. We all have some pain and void. We all want to make our lives better. 

If that 10% was filled would I be the happiest person in the world. Probably not. Let me explain.

Life everyday is a challenge. We wake up and go to bed. In between we are faced with noise, problems, emotions, things that trigger us. I, You, anyone. Can’t possibly ever be 100% happy. 

My life is 90% happy. That’s huge! Yet that 10% occupies a big part of my brain. A void. But I can say that I won’t allow that 10% to take the best of me. I can say I will do anything in my power to be as close to 100% happy as possible so next time someone asks you if you’re happy it’s ok to tell them how ever you’re feeling in that moment. 

Love More Than Ever

I love seeing this around town. ❤️

Apple & Honey Detox Blend

Apple & Honey DIY Colon Detox Remedy

Ingredients:

A cup of water, filtered 

A tbsp of organic honey

A tbsp of chia seeds

A tbsp of flaxseed

One apple, peeled and sliced

Blend together and drink. 

Www.bestfolkmedicine.com

Do What You Love!

Feel Good Song: Lover Of The Light

Bugy’s Dueling Pianos Friday Night

“Bugys’s Dueling piano bar is a Speakeasy-style lounge with an amazing Roaring 20’s decor focused on great ambiance, classic cocktails, finger foods and Great shows from our musicians/entertainers.”

I have been wanting to go here for months and finally said to a girlfriend let’s go this weekend. Excited to check it out. Slowly checking off places on my bucket list. What places have you been wanting to checkout?

http://www.bugsysct.com/

Feel Good Song

Why Are You Really Upset? What Triggered You?

It happens a lot. A lot of people experience anger or frustration because at the moment something triggered something in them. Maybe something from the past or pain they feel or felt. Something that made us feel helpless or weak. So we lash out or become defensive. We may argue or take out our frustrations out on someone. We may grow silent. Numb. Ignore the reality that our current mindset isn’t upset with the present but something that reopened a wound from the past. 

It’s normal but not always ok. It’s ok if you realize I was triggered. It’s not ok when you can’t find the connection and correct it. 

It happened to me.  A song triggered pain.  A song. Then a conversation.  I got upset and then had to refocus. Obviously I haven’t heal for a simple song or a conversation with an old friend to cause such a reaction in me. But acknowledging it is progress and growth. 

I can go on about what I felt but reality when you feel pain you give emotion or situation that gave you pain control. Don’t allow that. Don’t allow anyone to have control over you or your emotions. Don’t show a side of yourself that you don’t even know or like. 

Be responsible for yourself and your own healing. 

Happiness Is An Everyday Choice

Daily reminder. You have to overlook everything you have been through and keep saying “I want to be happy and that’s my only goal.”  

Feel Good Song: I am still here

We Love Tacos...Yet They Aren’t Perfect

Pain Changes You!

Happy Taco Tuesday...Bar Taco

A friend put me on to this bowl and now whenever I go I get it. The pork belly bowl at Bar Taco is delicious. Sweet with a hint of heat. Pairs perfectly with their Margaritas. So it’s not a Taco but it’s close enough. How are you celebrating Taco Tuesday? 

Only Accept What’s Good For You & Your Happiness

💗

Live Your Best Life

Are you living your best life? If not, I hope you do! 

I have been looking up some activities to join like local Meet Up Groups and adult camps just to get out and meet people and try different activities. Then ironically I had a friend from high school I used to be really close with reach out to me. He was looking for people to join his Co-Ed summer team. Sign me up I said. We began to talk about life and how things have been. He and I are friends on social media so he asks “What else have you been up to besides living your best life? It’s great to see all you’re doing and you’re happy.” 

I laughed and then I thought about it. I only post about family or my kids on my social media platforms. Nothing about dating or my personal single life. I keep people out of that part of my life. His comment stayed with me. He was right. I really am living my best life. 

And I know social media makes everything look like rainbows and sunshine. It’s really a fake upfront cover up but luckily behind the scenes I do have a great life and should be nothing but happy and grateful for it. 

Summer Festival July 15th & 16th

Two day Summer Arts Festival on the Essex Town Green This Weekend! 

Learn more here: https://www.gnhcc.com/events/details/summer-arts-festival-17945

Feel Good Song: Intro XX

Avoid The Noise...

You can’t tie your happiness to a person. Tie it to your own life, to yourself. Life is full of twists and turns.  

If you’re single you know all about the rollercoaster ride of dating. Oh the stories. The friends you make along the way. The men who are still in your heart. The what if’s. The “What just happened, thought everything was going great” Yeah I get it. The “noise”. 

The lies and mix ups. The games that you don’t have time to play. Then the fun times. The great adventures. The day trips. The fun. Feeling young at heart. The excitement.  It all changes over night yet you still get up and continue living because that’s how single life is. It’s unpredictable can be painful can hurt yet can be awesome. You’re looking for the “one”. 

If you’re in a relationship or married then I hope who ever you’re with you’re not settling. I hope they make your heart and soul happy. I hope they bring out the best version of you and when they touch you and hold your hand you feel their energy throughout your body. I hope when you look in their eyes you see their soul. That deep, one of a kind connection. They distract you from the noise. Not make you want to escape life. 

 I hope you choose to spend the rest of your life with that one person who was made to love you and you were made to love them. Bring out the best version of yourself. 

That’s the goal. For us all to end up with someone who encourages us to bring out the best version of ourselves. Who helps us escape the “noise” not bring us the “noise”. Who loves us on our bad days and good. Who helps us feel young and love life again. 

Feel Good Song: Faded

Give It Your All...

Always give all your efforts to anything you do. Your job. Your relationships. Your life. Work hard. Love hard. Play hard. Never have regrets. Life is short to do anything half way. People may not be here tomorrow. Life is temporary. 💗

June 15th Calling All Pizza Lovers

How do you like your pizza? Are you a plain cheese type or a load it up with toppings? People say pineapple on pizza aren’t a match. I say it’s all in your preference but really all jokes aside this event seems pretty cool!

Pizza In The Park will feature a Pop Up Beer Garden, Pizza Vendors, live music, Lawn Games, and a Pizza Making Competition. The festival is held at The North Lawn & Grand Steps in Mill River Park in downtown Stamford. Tickets for this include 1 Free Beer Ticket admittance into the event.

BEER

Half Full beers on tap. 

PIZZA 

Coalhouse Pizza Truck

Dough Girls Pizza Truck

Abeetz Pizza Truck

Mobile Pie Pizza Truck

Roaming Woodfired

Bella Sera 

Learn more here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/pizza-in-the-park-presented-by-half-full-brewery-tickets-60527874502

Warning Signs...

How great would if we could get someone’s whole truth before investing our time and emotions in them..

Kids Have Off Days Too

Monday Vibes...Go With It

Wake up....Monday Vibes this week is to just go with it. Set your goals and aim for them. Don’t let anything distract you. Don’t let pain or sorrow or emotions get the best of you. You got this! It all get better everyday!

The Perfect Summer Camp...For Moms

To Truly Heal...

Dig it out, let it come to the surface, put it all on the table. Feel. 

Then you can really, truly, heal from it all. 

Always Be Who You Really Are...Set Your Soul Free

Be creative. Love life. Be good to your body.  Stay up late. Volunteer with every cause that makes your heart happy. Love with all your heart, so big that when people leave they never ever forget you. Play in the grass. Blast your music and dance. Meditate. Tip even if it’s a dollar in ever tip jar you see. Smile at everyone you walk by. Walk with your head up high. Be sincere and empathetic and laugh at everything. Set your soul free!

Girls Night...When Was Your Last One?

We had such a great time in Atlanta together we had to plan another night. Luckily we were able to get a room and tickets to see Impractical Jokers at Mohegan Sun. 

Girls weekends are the best. It’s nice to not have to take care of anyone but yourself every once in a while. Planning last minute getaways are my favorite. 

Mohegan Sun is only 90 mins away so it’s nice to have a place to go. Having a room is so convienent and I absolutely love hanging by the fire pit or walking around the casino early morning. 

I am not a gambler but I will admit I do get an urge to put a $20 in a machine. We were walking around and I put $20 in the Bachelor penny slot machine. One pull and all these things are going off. We had no clue what was going on. I ended up wining $50  Not bad for one pull and $50 on a penny slot machine. 

Life is about creating memories with those who enjoy being by your side. Who jump at the opportunity to

hang with you. Love these girls who know how to make me laugh, party and have fun together. Appreciate your tribe! Don’t force others to be in your life who don’t want to be. Embrace and love those who  do!

Ballo Italian Restaurant: Cheese Wheel

I kept seeing this and had to try it so when my Dad said we could pick a place for dinner, even though it was his birthday,I had to pick Ballo. Their cheese wheel pasta is an appetizer for $25 which is a portion size for 1-2 people as an appetizer.  They do NOT have this on their menu. It’s a secret item that you have to order when you are there. 

They served it as a truffle Mac and cheese. I wish it was a little hotter but it was absolutely delicious. So they put a little grain alcohol in the wheel. Light it then start scraping the cheese. They add a ton of parmigiana cheese, black truffle and then cooked pasta. Mix it all in the cheese wheel and serve. I LOVED this. I love new, creative food and experiences. 

We also enjoyed their fried calamari, pork belly, lobster and shrimp ravioli and zuppa di pesce. 

It was my Dad’s birthday so we surprised him with decorations and a birthday cake. He totally felt like a king. Was a great night. 

https://mohegansun.com/poi/dining/ballo-italian-restaurant-and-social-club.html

Pirates Day Today In Milford CT

Ahoy...what a cute event today in Milford for all the little pirates. Checkout their schedule and listing of today’s events here. 

Read on, me hearties!

Learn more here:https://downtownmilfordct.com/event-calendar/17th-annual-pirates-day/

Like A River...

Nothing stays the same. Every moment is different. Once you start you start again. 

Mommy Is Still Cool....

Wake Up & Start Again

Everyday is a new day to start again! Every decision you make or position you’re in allows you the opportunity to start again. 

“I am kindof digging this new life....”

Trust the Process

Wall Street Restaurant Week June 17th to 23rd

The Funniest Comic in CT Tonight Westport CT

“Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine.” Lord Byron

Tonight in Westport at the Treehouse Comedy Club. 

Featuring 15 Comedians. This looks so fun! This is the first round of the contest. Learn more here:

https://www.treehousecomedy.com/

Quality Time...Real Time...Little Feel Good Times

This was my fortune the other day. It made me laugh. It’s so true. I was never about materialistic stuff, ever! I cared about the little things. Spending time together. My favorite thing last summer was to pack a cooler and spend all afternoon and night hanging on a beach. Just listening to the waves and chatting. Laughing. Taking in the fresh sea air. Excited to do it all again this summer. So simple yet good for the soul. 

It’s the little things that stick with us.  Little messages that make a person smile. Taking time to do something for someone. Spending time together even if it’s picking up fun apps and hanging on a porch chatting all night. 

I once had a friend bring me a single rose because they knew I liked watching the bachelor. I had another friend who always has my favorite drink waiting for me whenever I would arrive at their house on ice with a straw. Another a Charcuterie Board for me with fig jam perfect for a night in. 

Little. Simple. Stay in my heart forever. Gestures. 

Whatever little gestures make your heart appreciate it, do the same to others too, and always make it clear to others what makes your heart happy. ❤️

You’re Never Stuck...You Always Have Choices

What Makes You Happy? Do More Of That!

❤️

Happy Birthday To My Pop

To the one man I know will always be there for me...no matter what. 

There’s something that Fathers of girls have to remember... you set the tone to what we will accept and tolerate in another man. My pop was always a strong worker, put my mom and us kids first and always was there for us know matter what. He always was the king in the house so being good to us came easy. 

Whenever times get tough he asks “What do you need me to do? Are you ok? Are you happy?”

Those famous three questions...I am grateful everyday for his love and support.

Lisa Loeb Is Coming to CT

Sea Music Festival June 6-9

Enjoy four days filled with workshops, concerts, hands-on demonstrations, and a scholarly symposium – all celebrating the music of the sea! 

Learn more here: https://www.mysticseaport.org/

Happy National Donut Day!!!

I love donuts and well in spirit of celebrating National Donut Day here are some places celebrating.

Donut Crazy 

Receive a free daily donut with a beverage purchase. Um if you go get their Maple Bacon Donut. My favorite and worth paying the extra bucks for one. 

Dunkin’

Yeah they dropped the donuts in their Marketing and Logo but still carry donuts and you can get one free donut tomorrow with a beverage purchase. 

What’s your favorite donut?

What’s Your Therapy?

I must admit I write a lot lately but it’s the best therapy for me. When I see something that helps me or relates to what I have been through or going through I like to share it with my readers. 

I am not one to keep things in. People in my life always know how I feel. If I loved you I loved you hard. If you hurt me I let you know. If you made me happy I did everything to make you happy. Even if I don’t have control of the outcomes I have dealt with love and lose and lust and pain. I also like you am learning everyday how to peel away the layers to be truly happy and heal and grow.  

“A broken heart, empty pocket or hungry stomach are the best lessons in life.”

What’s your therapy? What do you have to offer? Writing is mine. What’s yours?

Maybe Something Even Better!

What Role Are You Playing?

Interesting video I came across. What role are you playing? 

Feel Good Song: Crystallize

With Every Decision You Give Something Else Up

With every decision you make you have to give something up for it. No matter what it is. No matter what decision you have to pick. You choose something over something else. In order for your decision to really work you have to give it your 100%. Something loses every single time you make a decision to choose something else. Think about the decisions you make. Have made and continue to make. Choose wisely. 

Read this again...

Who’s The Best Bartender? Tonight In Stamford

Tonight at The Waterfront Patio at Harbor Point in Stamford. 

Purchase your tickets here:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/stamford-magazines-7th-annual-best-bartender-contest-tickets-53024629093

Art & Idea Festival Starts Saturday June 8th

The International Festival of Arts & Ideas in New Haven brings together performing artists and thought leaders from around the world to New Haven, CT.


I love art. There’s something about seeing someone’s creativity shine through. A couple months ago I went to a local art exhibit with some friends and it was so much fun. I haven’t been in so long. It’s great to see how other people put their creative mind to good use. 

Learn more here:

https://www.artidea.org/

You Always Had It In You...

Always Love Big...Even Is It Doesn’t Last

Wednesday Is Buy One Get One Free Sundaes At Carvel

Buy one sundae get one free at Carvel on Wednesday’s 

When your best friend is home you squeeze in as much time together as possible. Who knew that growing up we would have these kids amongst us. Nights out would also include trips out to ice cream with our kids.