I am and you should too!
Tuesday, July 30, 2019
What Are Made With?
❤️
I saw this today in Mystic and well loved it. You are all made of love. It’s the chaos and stress, fear and anger that distracts us.
I won’t lie I haven’t had the type of relationships I deserve. I put a lot more into them then I got back. I hold on to them longer than I should. I did realize as I was settling for situations that were not in my best interest I had to take a step back and really love myself.
We All Have A Vision How Things Should Be...We Should Stop That!
Not all marriages fail. Not all relationships get boring. Not all families have a hard time meshing. Not all men hurt women and not all women hurt men.
Not everyone cheats. Not everyone gives up on eachother.
Let go of that!
Things can last and be good forever. You can love someone’s else child or children. You can be ok. You can wake up and go to bed happy everyday. You can fall in love at any age. You can experience pure soul joy.
It’s all what you choose to do and be and believe.
Finding The Right One...
This is really important especially for parents who are now divorced and dating. I always said I wanted someone just for me. For my time when I am not with my kids but in reality as a relationship progresses you need to choose someone you can mesh well with your life and well we don’t always think like that in the beginning.
Yes you take things slow but there are some people you think of a future with and you have to make sure they are a fit or even want to be a fit into your life and if they aren’t it hurts but you have to them let go and find someone who is.
Attach Your Feelings To It...Your Goals
Fighting for a relationship to work? Chasing a person? Looking for a job change? Hoping for good news? Praying for good health? Seeking new life opportunities?
How would you feel if you finally accomplished your goal? Picture it. Now attract it.
The Perfect Night: Hyannis Mass
Beach hair, tan skin, walking the beach with sand in our toes. Sipping on my favorite vineyards bottle of wine. It’s how I wish I could end all my nights...and maybe it can’t happen here by maybe I can start recreating my perfect ending to the day back at home.
We can’t escape life. Our responsibilities. We can’t settle yet we must put work and effort into everything we do but what if I told you that life can be different. That you can find happiness in all your days.
It’s a matter of loving who you are, & who you’re with.
Monday, July 29, 2019
No Great Story...Actually Create Your Own Stories
Have you ever laughed over a salad? Well actually if you’re a fun person then you’ll laugh eating or drinking anything.
Best part of getting together is the easy chats. The fun memories. The endless laughs and well eating and drinking. Even napping.
If I could create endless memories with everyone, well I would and you should too!
Food is a love language. It brings us comfort in many moments of our life. It’s a very big social activity.
When was the last time you got together with people who made your heart happy?
Ptown...What An Amazing Vibe & Town
I have been coming to Cape Cod for 20 years and never been to Provincetown Mass. It was always on my list of places to go to. I finally went and I can’t wait to go back.
First of all there are a ton of shops. Restaurants. Bars. Candy shops. Clothing stores. Little variety stores. Then there are fun toys shops for adults- you walk in and they ask if you want a tour. Palm readers. Stones and tarot card readers. I walked into a place and wanted to get my Palm read. I did this 20 years ago. The lady who does the reading walks out to talk to me and I turned to my friends and said I am catching a weird vibe from her, I don’t like her energy and decided not to do it.
There are families everywhere. Beautiful people everywhere. Gorgeous men who aren’t available but amazing to just look at. The creativity is overwhelming. Everywhere you look is awesome art. I want to come back next year and stay a night or two to enjoy the nightlife.
The boardwalk is huge. I haven’t seen a place like this in a very long time. It felt like a place I want to hang. Amazing energy. Friendly people. Awesome artist work everywhere.
Every where you turn you laugh or smile or get inspired.
I can’t believe it took me 20 years of coming to the Cape to finally go. It was about a 90 minute drive from
where we are staying in West Yarmouth but so worth the drive.
I laughed at my girlfriend who brought us to Chatham because it’s so her style. Preppy and Greenwich ave like. We arrive at Ptown and I said now welcome to my hood. Creative, artsy and full of life. Such different personalities but such a great time to experience new adventures and places together.
Commercial street is the place to checkout
Chatham Bars Inn Chatham Mass
Let’s do brunch in Chatham...my girlfriend asked if we could stop by her favorite spot.
Of course! Brunch is my favorite so I loved thatand sign me up for any time I can try someplace new. It was about a 45 minute drive but so worth it.
The place is gorgeous. Surrounded by gardens and amazing flowers.
Every angle is the perfect picture.
They don’t take reservations but we arrived around 9:45 and only waited 10 minutes. It’s super clean. The food is delicious. Buffet brunch was $36 a person. Mimosas are not included in the price. It felt like a tea party room to hang in. Any seat provided a perfect view of the outdoors.
(View from my seat inside the restaurant)
If you’re in the area check it out. It’s worth the drive and picture perfect!
Morning Views...Get Outside
I haven’t been following my diet. Then again who does on vacation. This morning I decided to work out. The view was amazing!!
This time I took in the new views and sounds. Even the smell of the ocean air.
Working out by the bay is amazing. Therapeutic and relaxing. The sun beaming down. The waves crashing. So peaceful.
And then my favorite song came on. It was an amazing experience for sure.
Sunsets in Hyannis
This is my favorite thing to do. I love going to this area. It has a playground where my girls used to played. Then we could watch the ferries coming in. It’s the best spot to see the Sunsets.
At first I didn’t remember where it was. It’s a small batch of sand. Not a beach or bay. The first night we were here I said I was determined to find it again. I remembered it being down the street from the hospital. Once I arrived I knew actually which place it was hidden. We stay for hours. Talking. Watching the ferries. Drinking wine and sometimes not saying a word. We just take it all in.
Where’s your happy place?
Sunday, July 28, 2019
Old Brain Vs. New Brain
We get stuck. Stuck in old ways. Stuck in old thinking. We think life is suppose to be a certain way. When it’s not we argue it. It’s hard to deal. Life is chaotic.
We then react to situations like we always have. The reason is because we are used to reacting that way in the old brain. When we work on our ourselves. Meditate. Go to therapy. It’s teaches us to process things in our new brain. A new way of dealing with things. A new approach to not reacting the same way we always do.
It’s not easy. You need to dig deep and heal. You need to have all your old ways that didn’t serve you well leave. Not be a part of you. You need to restart the way you think and react.
You do this so you don’t get the same results. Feelings. Path. You do this so you can handle situations and people in life differently. It’s like holding a grudge. There’s people from my past that I have to prep myself before being in a room with them. Like ok don’t react. Don’t snap. Don’t hang on every word they say. Don’t let them hurt you. And then if happens. They say one word condescending or wrong and my old brain kicks in. I become defensive and it’s to protect myself
from getting hurt or degraded yet again.
It’s my old brain. Old way of thinking. That I have to protect or stick up for myself. I don’t. You don’t.
We don’t need to have anyone get the best of us. Remove yourself from that situation and surround yourself with people who are good for your soul and mind.
See we don’t make changes for other people. We make changes to better ourselves.
There’s a difference.
When the moon hits the sky like a big pizza pie...
If you can guess what’s on this pizza I will personally ship one out to you...
We walked the strip of downtown Hyannis yesterday. It’s one of my favorite. I love all the cute little shops. There are a ton of restaurants too.
Ambiance is really important. The girls were checking out the menus at some places and at the same time
We suggested Colombo’s. I have been here a couple of times when I came last with my ex but the girls never been. I knew it would be a great meal.
But this...this pizza is nothing like I ever had and I had had a lot in my time.
It’s a brussel sprout pizza. With panchetta, roasted red onion, mozzarella and topped with...a fig drizzle. My mouth is salivating writing this.
It’s so light and airy the dough. The balance of flavors is on point. The fig drizzle adds a little hint of sweetness. It’s insane and a must try. The panchetta adds a saltines and balances out the Brussels sprouts.
It’s a genius combination.
Sunday Motivation: Seek Guidance From Within
Your mind, body and heart must be aligned. First calm your thoughts. Process what you feel. Rationalize with what is causes you some chaos.
Listen to your body. If it can’t function under pressure. If it doesn’t feel right. Listen to your body. Be careful what you put in it. Be careful how you use it.
Your heart guides you. What makes you happy? What makes your heart smile? Fill it with those moments and people.
All your answers are within. You have the power to know that you have full control over these things. No one else does.
Just One...I Will Be Happy When...
It may seem huge at first. Or you convince yourself and say l will make a decision this weekend or after a trip or after a holiday or when I am older or tomorrow or....see where I am going.
There’s never going to be a perfect moment. The moment is now!
Moms, Women, No Explanation Needed...Go Take care of yourself!
(Upper right pic top last year vs this year)
(Fall 2016 purple jacket)
This is my third year going to the Cape with girlfriends and it makes me a better person. Why? Because it helps me relax and reconnect with myself. Take care of just me just for a few days.
Why aren’t we encouraging women to do more...for themselves. Why does there have to be an explanation for me or you or moms or women to go away. Take a break. Do something for themselves?
I checked on my girls and my little one said her Dad told her I wasn’t away for work. No I am not I told her. I am with my friends and will be home in a couple of days. It rubbed me wrong. He was telling the truth but he could of comforted her saying “mom is away to take a little break and it’s ok. It’s ok to do something for yourself. She will be back don’t worry.”
I think as women we need to also encourage this with our kids. It’s ok to take care of yourself. It’s ok for “you time”.
We think we have this duty to always put everyone first and no one does the same for us. You won’t even know the prep that went into me leaving for four nights. Gratefully my Mom is helping but I still had to make sure everything was in line for them. Plus with our parenting schedule I left on a schedule when the only day I needed coverage on my day was Sunday.
Reality is if I wanted to leave for a week or two weeks or a day or three days it’s all ok because it’s my choice. My decision and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Men just kind of get up and go. You take care of yourself and that’s fine but do us women complain? Do we question you? Do we say Daddy is off having fun like it’s a bad thing? No!
I come from a family of women. Strong. Independent. I have to remind myself regularly why I chose to raise kids as a single divorced mom. For myself. For my own peace of mind. For them to know how a woman should be treated and loved. Yet it’s not them who need to be taught that. It’s unfortunately society.
Yes mom is away and guess what be happy for her.
Yes you need an escape. So don’t have anyone question it or act like it’s wrong. Self love and self care are extremely important and necessary in life.
No more explanations. Go take care of yourself! I will be here having your back and applauding you!
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