Don’t Ignore The Red Flags

If things don’t seem right in the beginning then they aren’t right. This applies to everything in life. Not just dating. It applies to friends and work and anything that comes into your life. How many times did you say I knew it didn’t feel right or I had a bad feeling. 

Sometimes a moment of weakness makes us ignore the truth. But we always know the truth comes to bite us in the a$$ in the end. Don’t do it to yourself. Don’t let your guard down because you’re weak or tired or lonely or sad. 

Signs are always there. Just the ones you do ignore eventually are the ones that end up hurting you. 

How Would You Live Your Life?

Let’s say there are no rules. Change your life. Let it be anyway you want it to be. How would you live it? Who would be in it? Who wouldn’t be in it? How would these changes make you feel? How are they different than the life you’re currently living?

I have yet to meet a man who says he’s living his best life. I have yet to meet a woman who is living hers. Well besides my parents of course. What’s happening here? When did we just go with the emotions of life? When did we say let’s just get by and call it a day?

You gotta live your life. You have to really live. I won’t lie. I would have changed the last five months of my life. I would have let some people go who should have been gone in April. I would have not wasted my emotions on things that didn’t deserve my energy. I wouldn’t have allowed myself to be dismissed like I was. Really not ok. Lessons learned. Life everyday is up to you. Who is in it. Who is out. What you do with it. What you do not. 

It’s Connecting Mentally That Matters

Know Your Audience

So What’s With This Soul Mate Idea...

I believe it. I believe certain people make your heart happy. I believe that when you know you know. 

But there’s doubt and roadblocks and that’s not how it should be like. It should be natural. Easy. 

Every relationship faces some sort of conflict and tension. It’s not always easy. But when you are with someone who makes you feel at peace you do whatever it takes to make things right and good. 

I may be divorced but I believe in love. I believe in souls and people coming in for a reason and leaving for a reason. 

I believe we have many souls we are connected to and when you find eachother you just know. 

Have you found your soulmate?

https://hackspirit.com/10-undeniable-signs-youve-found-soulmate-never-let-go/

Focus On The Lesson

They Spoke Their Truths You Just Never Listened

Don’t feel stupid. I know it’s hard. Trust me. Not sure how oblivious we were but do know you can overcome it. You can finally say damn I didn’t listen to your words or actions. Shame on me. Shame on thinking something different than what they were saying or showing you. 

I replayed conversations in my head and now felt so dumb. The truth was always there. They always said it. I just never accepted it. 

Don’t do this again to yourself ever. Take people for who they are and what they are not what you think they can be. 

We Don’t Stay The Same...

What you would have tolerated you actually won’t anymore. Every level of your life will require a different version of you. Always improve. Don’t look back. Keep going and I promise you good will come. 

September 5th...Heal & Forgive

Trust The Journey

Set It Free...

A couple years ago I wanted to restart my life. The only way to do it was to set free any pain I had towards someone. In the article I did here   Even though the journey has been a rollercoaster ride it taught me a lot. 

It taught me I am stronger than I think I am. I should never settle for anything that makes me doubt anything about me or my life. I have learned to set it free. Then and now. 

I now set free anything this year that caused me any discomfort or pain or doubt. Because life isn’t about that. Life is about being around good, happy, healthy situations and pure people. 

I have let go in the past and am strong enough to let things go again. 

So as I process everything this year taught me I thank those who have been part of my journey but do know my time with them has ended and it’s ok. That games are not allowed at our age. That ignoring or making someone feel less important isn’t ok. That your self worth is only yours to set. No one else’s. 

We all must declutter our life and mind of things that don’t serve us well. That don’t make us feel good or how we should. Set them free. 

Marlon Wayans at StressFactory September 27th & 28th

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Accept Yourself...Always

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There Are 7.7 Billion People In The World

If you’re in a relationship be grateful for the one who chooses to love you everyday. If you’re not don’t get hung up on anyone who doesn’t make you feel like the only person in the world. 💗

Habits of Happy People

According to Warren Buffet

Avocado Trick

Mid-Autumn Festival This Weekend

This weekend at Jennings Beach in Fairfield 

Learn more here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/4th-annual-mid-autumn-festival-2019-tickets-66763751177

Be The Warrior

You’re Beautiful...It’s True

It’s a normal to have the need to want to feel admired and desired but it starts within. To know you’re beautiful and not looks. Not at all. Within. That your soul touches other people. That’s what makes you beautiful. That you’re kind and pure. That yes you make mistakes but your life goal is to love and be happy and be pure and beautiful...within. 

What Would Your Box Say?

I had to decorate a box for a Focus Group that explained who I am. What I like to do. It’s not as neat or pretty as it should be but hey it’s done. 

My mom saw me doing it and said don’t forget music. You’re always playing music. It was true. It’s a part of me. Helps relax me. Makes me happy. I have music on most of the day. 

What would YOUR box say?

Feel Good Song: Save Me

If The Roles Changed

Thursday Motivation: You’re Far From Ordinary

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Over But Yet...

This is interesting...

Would You Risk It?

To Stay or To Go

Something to think about!

Men Want To Feel Wanted Too

If I have taught you anything it is this...men want to feel wanted and desired too!

Let me explain...I was speaking to a friend. She would kill me if she knew I was writing this. We spoke about dating and men and yada yada. After our discussion I pushed her to reach out to someone. She did. Within seconds she’s like I got a date. I said you just made his night. She’s like I did? I said yes. Men want to feel needed and desired just as much as women do! He’s smiling right now. She was like wow I didn’t think of it like that. 

Read this again: Men want to feel needed and desired just as much as women do!

I have someone close to me who always reminds me that men have feelings too and they DO!

Ladies if you’re excited for a date. He’s excited too. If he made your night. You made his. 

Men want to feel wanted and desired and I can’t push this enough. I get it. You’re tired. Raising kids. Working long hours. Have no time for yourself. Ok so.... But men don’t need a lot to feel good. Smack their ass. Tell them they look hot. Men will be eating out of your hand. 

When a man compliments us and not just asking for sex but says that shirt looks great on us or we are beautiful or our hair looks pretty or our soul is beautiful. What do we do? We freaking melt! We become mush. We blush. We flirt. 

Well men do too!

Come on gals. Do I have to teach you everything. Haha just kidding but really just take some

time to make him feel good, wanted, needed, like a man. Bet he would give you the world if you did. 

Read this:

Why Men Need to Feel Wanted by Their Partners

“All humans, not just women, want to be admired and desired...and shown it.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sex-sociability/201712/why-men-need-feel-wanted-their-partners?amp

Mommy Humor

Who says we can’t be who we want to be based on our audience and situation? 

Stop & Enjoy The View

The sunset was amazing tonight. I was walking out of a meeting and couldn’t stop looking at the sky. I was driving home and had to pull over to take a picture of these trees that looked like they were on fire but it was the sunset refection on them. 

When your mind is calm and relaxed you can take in the beauty around you. When you’re angry, rushed, or stressed you can’t take the time to enjoy things happening around you. I know it’s not easy. I get it but why miss out on magical moments like this over worrying or stressing. 

 

We All Should “Chie” I Mean Try Our Best

I have to do a focus group and one of the assignments was to decorate a box based on your life and personality. I asked my girls to draw a picture I can attach to the box because being a mom of three I thought was appropriate. Then my middle one hands me this and says Mom you try your best but spelled it so freaking cute. 

I do. I do “chie” my best. I know you all do too. It’s not easy but try to savor the moments. I know schoool drop off and pick up and homework and snack and dinner and endless paperwork then showers and bedtimes x3 can be overwhelming especially after working but then moments like this...moments of saying I “chie” made me realize they know I am trying my best and well that’s all I can do. 

Feel Good Song: Gravity

Date Yourself

You have to understand how important it is to date yourself. I made some terrible dating choices. I settled. I put up with stuff no one should put up. Then. Now.  I accepted behavior that wasn’t ok or what I deserved. 

You don’t realize that until you embrace being alone. 

What I thought was love in my lifetime wasn’t the love I really needed so instead of looking for love I stopped. I embraced me. The love for myself until I find someone who actually deserves my love. 

Feel Good Song: Strawberry Swing

Whenever I meditate I am on a swing. The sun is shining down on me. Not sure why but I always have this vision. It’s comforting. Makes me happy. I feel the warmth of the sun on my skin. Brings me back to my childhood. Like a childlike happiness comes over me. Strange yet comforting. This song reminded me of it. 

Don’t Force Things

Let It Go!

Live Simple...

You’re very simple my mom said to me the other day. I notice it doesn’t take a lot to make you happy or content. You’re easily happy. 

She’s right. I actually always have been. I never needed anything but structure and be able to treat myself out once a week. Even if it was just for pizza. I don’t like chaos. I don’t like unstable situations. I can be happy on a simple life. 

I had a situation in my life change. I unpacked only what I needed. I didn’t want to crowd my space. I needed energy to flow. To be able to meditate. To not over crowd my brain. 

I may not be like you. That’s ok. I will tell you the more simple a situation the happier I am. Yes I like to go out and experience new restaurants and festivals and adventures but I never was hard to make happy. A hug makes me happy. A single rose. But when chaos or I have to defend myself or prove myself I become defensive. I don’t like that. 

I like quiet and calm. I like good vibe people. I like good energy situations. I don’t like needy people. I don’t like people who constantly need reassurance. 

When I wasn’t happy I was always out. I needed a distraction from my reality. I did it even married. I wasn’t happy. I couldn’t believe when I moved how much stuff I had and held on to. I was just too tired and stressed to care. I was mad at myself for allowing my life to get that way. I mean I held on to paperwork that should have been tossed years prior. I just didn’t care. I wasn’t happy so needed a distraction and only did what I needed to do to survive. Sad. But we all do. 

I want you to go home today and clear out an area of space of your house. Now walk in and out of the room. Tell me what you feel. Tell me how it calms you. Tell me how your brain and body reacts. 

Also if you find yourself always running from staying home well your home is the problem. You’re not happy. You’re not calm or content. Your distractions are your “out” from dealing with your realities. 

Live simple. 

Go For A Walk...Switch Things Up

I had twenty minutes before my next client call. I am swamped so I decided to take a walk. Just to relax my mind. Being outside calms me.  I blast my music and walk. When I have more time I do a long walk and yesterday spotted this amazing view on that long walk. Amazing right! 

So when I walk I always keep one earbud in so I can hear cars or nature or anything else outside while listening to music. 

A song came on that triggered me. In a good way. I started to smile. Something so simple. So brainless yet so relaxing. 

Go for a walk or read or watch a brainless show or listen to a podcast. Switch things up. We become robotic in our life and how things should be or how life is. We become bored and think something drastic has to happen to make life interesting again.  It doesn’t. 

We stick to a routine and one day wake up and say I don’t like this routine anymore. Ok well then switch things up. Something simple. Small change at a time. It can make life exciting again. 

Just Ten Minutes...

Who is your person? Your happy place? Go thank them! 

Feel Good Song: Swallowed By The Sea

💙 Love this song! 

Regroup...Refocus...

You’re not responsible for everyone’s problems. You don’t need to fix everyone. 

Bring yourself back to peace and happiness. Focus within. 

Feel Good Song: Dodo

Do You Know Who You Really Are?

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Things in life have had to happen so we can find out who we really are. I say over and over I am not who I was... 10 yrs ago. 1 yr ago. 6 months ago. 

I had to endure pain and lessons to find out who I really was. 

You do too. If you’re currently going through your lesson I wish you strengthen. It’s an awful process. If you have come out and are intune with who you are then I praise you. 

Who Has Impacted Your Life?

There’s this book that popped into my mind today, The Five People You Meet In Heaven. If you haven’t read this book you need to. It’s a wonderful story about a man’s journey. He passes and five people who impacted his life he meets in heaven. Some he didn’t even know he impacted. 

Read some here 

I thought of it because it made me think of all the people who have come into my life these last two years. After my divorce journey I have met a ton of people. No not just men. Women too. Friends. People who all taught me something. Even if it was something so small as to why the wind dies down at night. They all taught me a lesson. Now when I am with them whenever I had an “aha moment.” I knew my journey with them was over. Some we held on to too long. Some we easily let go. 

Now think about YOUR life. Who taught you something. Who impacted you. Those people are special. Even if it was just in passing. Those people impacted your life. Sometimes more so than someone who has been in your life forever. You may not realize it but today I want you to take the time and focus everyone who comes into contact with you. How they make you feel. How your heart and soul feels around them. How many “aha moments” you get. 

Think about it and feel free to message me with your experience. 

Happy Wednesday You Brave Soul

All I Want...

Let Go Of The Illusion

We all do this. I know you do too. Stop! We put expectations on people to be something they are not. 

We get caught in this illusion. It’s so silly. We set ourselves up for disappointment. 

It’s Not fair to put pressure on people to different than who they are. Not fair to think someone can be more when they aren’t capable. Not fair to you or them to think they can give you more. I know. Let that sink in. 

Take them for how they are or let them go and be with someone who will love them for their all. 

Wine Trail In Milford September 7th

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Let Go To Create Space

Everything in life takes up space. Space in our life. Our thoughts. Our hearts. What do you need to release to make space for other things?

Grow From Your Life

And All This Time Amazing Things Were Happening

I was sad. At one point I was really just getting by. It’s like the rug got pulled out from under me. As this happens you start using coping mechanisms. Distractions. Crying. Sad songs. Have you ever done this? If you have ever been hurt or sad it’s awful. AWFUL!!!

But then amazing things were happening... 

As I was healing and not just from the last year but really from everything I never really dealt with I started to have a better life. 

A huge house project went underway and completed. I met some awesome people. I focused on strengthening my friendships with people. My girls became calmer and happier. I traveled. Tried new restaurants. Went to new places. Blogged my butt off. Work got super busy. I created a new routine. Everything got better. My workouts got better. I swam. Became intune with my soul. Closer to my parents and sisters. Reached out to girlfriends and planned outings with them. Reconnected with past friends. Learned to love my alone time. 

Why am I sharing this? Because when you’re down or sad or depressed life still moves around you. Read that again. When you’re down or sad or depressed life still moves around you. 

You have to stop and refocus. You miss out on so much when you sulk in your pain and sorrow. 

The kids grow up. Life changes. Work changes. Friendships change. 

No two days are ever the same. When you’re down and sad or depressed or angry you lose days of your life. You have to understand how important this is. You can’t let situations destroy you. Life is still carrying on whether you’re in it or not. I know sounds morbid but I am saying this because I care about my readers. 

Let all that go. Enjoy your life. The moment. Yes you still will have bad days and sad moments. I still miss things in my life I once had but it’s ok. That’s all ok. What’s not ok is letting life move around you and you are just getting by. You can’t. You have to jump on the wagon of gratitude. 

Don’t get by anymore. That’s not my wish for you. I wish you see how amazing your life can truly be when you make a slight change in your life and goals. 

I am more happy, content and at peace now then I have been in a really long time. Yes so maybe heartache and pain had to happen for me to get to this point. Maybe I had to lose myself a little to find myself again.  But I promise I will never go back to feeling that way ever again. And I want you to promise me you won’t lose yourself either. 

Don’t Waste Time On Nonsense

It was a really good day. Then a silly conversation with a friend got a little out of hand. We tend to bump heads easily lately. It was so silly but made me think. How many silly moments can we possibly have? That life is so short and time gets wasted on nonsense. Let the nonsense go. 

Keep life simple. Don’t complicate things. Keep friendships fun. Keep relationship good. Leave the nonsense out. 

Change Starts Now...With You!

Change your goals. The people you surround yourself with.  How you value your relationships and friendships. How you view your life. 

It’s an awakening when you change. It starts with you. No one has the power or control over you. Change your habits. Change your routine. 

I promise you the stress, doubt, hurt and pain goes away. 

Anyone who did a disservice to you no longer matters anymore. Things that used to trigger you...don’t. It’s when you become so intune with yourself that the things that once hurt you don’t hurt you anymore. 

Forgive To Move On

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