Tuesday, February 25, 2020
Mirror Yourself...Over And Over
I can’t explain my transformation. I have this weird calmness over me. I tend to be around calm people. I kindof laugh because they are very outgoing but calm me. I even hang out with a calm guy. I like calmness. I don’t react like I used to. I think healing helps. Healing brings you peace. There will always be situations that stir it up but be at inner peace to remain calm.
So I love my book I am reading which I have shared. I promise you read it.
Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended on It
My little one even helped highlight pages for me this morning as I read in bed before starting my day.
You have the power to change. Grow. Heal. Be whoever you want to be. Fall back in love with life. Your life. Make changes you need to be happy!
Choose Your Battles
Breathe in breathe out.
Breathe in saying positive things to yourself. Breathe out any negative emotions. Fears. Doubts.
You’ll be amazed what you breathe out!
Acknowledge the Triggers
This is something that has helped me through the process of learning and growing and healing all within. That whenever I felt an emotion I didn’t like I dug deep to try to figure out what triggered me.
I had a friend who hated that word but it’s true. Triggers is when we shift our mind and emotions based on what something someone did or said. That trigger most of the time activated pain from an old wound. Something that happened years prior.
So it takes work. Acknowledging what’s really bothering you. Doesn’t always mean that person didn’t cause that pain. Sometimes it’s their repeated behavior. Once we learn their patterns it no longer can bother you because it’s predictable.
Triggers happen when unexpected outcomes happen. When our expectations aren’t met so we feel neglected or upset due to their failed behavior. But what really is an important thing to remember is that patterns are predictable. Think about it. For example: If I go out with certain friends I know we are home late. I know what our night will be like so I prepare ahead.
If I bring up a topic with a guy I have been seeing I know I will feel insecure about our situation. Instead I just enjoy the process since it’s been years on and off I realized patterns that worked for us. If I try to push the envelope things may shift and change...mostly because of me. I notice when I changed my levels with someone I changed. I added pressure to myself instead of just going with it. I can predict my patterns. Their patterns. Their triggers and mine. I know already what to expect. When something changes or shifts. When things are unpredictable that can trigger us too.
The whole point is to look within. We blame others for
Our emotions. But most of the time...they are old wounds that are reopening.
Become aware with who you are and what you need and what needs to heal.
Feelings Are Information
I love this guy. I feel he makes a lot of sense and we need a reminder. Check out this video he posted on Instagram about giving yourself permission to change to follow your feelings to want different things in your life.
Link if video doesn’t show: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B81EElGHE5t/?igshid=1cha4h9uwr7an
Take the time to watch this. It’s helpful and a reminder that sometimes we have to do what’s best for us.
There Will Be Memories That You Want To Forget
We all have been there. In situations where our world and life changed. Some drastically overnight. Losing someone or a breakup or a diagnosis. Regardless those painful situations stay with us. We carry on but deep down the pain is there.
I don’t think we should “get over it”. There’s painful memories I think will always be a part of my journey. I think they shape us but it’s ok for them to still bother you.
We all have our own individual stories. Journey. Pain.
The one thing we must learn is to not repeat those painful scenarios. That’s your only control.
Don’t go back to those who hurt you. Don’t let your guard down second time around. Forgive but move on.
I had a friend who I loved. I really loved their personality our fun times together our endless banter. It was so easy then it changed overnight. But that friend hurt me. It prevented me from getting into other relationships and friendships because I was on guard. I was wounded. I had no control over outcome and from time to time something reminds me of that pain. It’s not necessarily their fault when that pain reappears but they did cause that pain.
Could I ever believe they couldn’t hurt me again. Not sure. But I acknowledge that when I feel that emotion it’s ok to feel it. I acknowledge that our journey was the way it was.
Some things stay with you and it’s ok.
Monday, February 24, 2020
Be Good To People
His name was Stan. I came up to the register where he was and he asked me how my day was going. Great I replied, how about yourself. “Ok” he said.
Now I will start off that I dislike when people complain at work to customers. So I didn’t ask him why and he proceeded to ring up my stuff. How’s your day he asked again. Great and you. I asked again. He said not good. I said I am sorry and I hope his day gets better. He said he didn’t have a ride home after work. I suggested he get an urber. He said he was short $2. I opened my wallet and said here’s $2. He was hesitant and I said now you can have a better day.
Now I know he risked losing his job and maybe he was lying maybe not. A friend went to purchase something after me and I walked out of the store. When she came out I asked if he asked her for money. No she said. I felt better about my decision.
I don’t know if Stan was lying or not. I do know he wanted to talk it out. I did give him a chance and I gave him a chance to have a better day.
I think we all have opportunities like this. Where we can turn things around for people. Not with money but maybe just with time to say are you ok and when they say no we provide a solution or even an ear.
We live in a society where we don’t trust people. Where we are busy. Take some time. Slow it down. Make someone’s day better.
Monday Motivation
Choose your people. Honor your people. And the rest. Well the rest can go somewhere else. They don’t matter. They don’t have to get you but they also don’t get to have your energy or space. They don’t get to consume you.
Today is hopefully the start to a soon to be ending. Where after years focusing on peace I finally will get it.
Grateful for my people. ❤️ Grateful for my journey. Grateful for my happiness. Grateful for you.
Sunday, February 23, 2020
You Have Grown...Spread Your Wings & Fly
The transition period is not pretty. It’s like a caterpillar. You don’t know the outcome. You just go through the process.
Then something magical happens. You transform. You genuinely turn into something amazing and beautiful. Like a butterfly.
That’s the healing process. Where you go through ugly rough stages to reach a beautiful peaceful destination. 💗
Being Happy Doesn’t Mean Everything is Perfect
I had a week I wouldn’t repeat but I said to myself who cares. Enjoy life still. Be happy. I swear my whole mood, day, week, changed.
You have to know nothing is perfect. But when you’re happy. 100% legit happy. You can handle it. You see happiness is little things. Not from anyone but from your inner self. You’re inner healing.
Saturday, February 22, 2020
Friday, February 21, 2020
Thursday, February 20, 2020
When You Love Yourself...
I can’t believe the stuff I put up with. Really blows my mind. I was talking to a girlfriend about it. I would
never do that again.
Maybe it’s my healing process. Knowing no one can save you or complete you. You do that on your own. Crazy what we tolerate when we are weak. Crazy what we wouldn’t do when we are strong.
What’s Your Role?
Everyone plays a different role in your life and as do you with theirs. How great is it to have clarification to avoid heartache and confusion. It would have spared me a ton if I knew from the beginning.
Someone who comes in and out of my life for years reached out to me today. I asked why. He said because I like your company. We both have kids same ages and we have same work setup and we are alike. Committees. Kids sports. Kids schedules. It’s pretty scary. So I know we are just eachother company. I don’t have room currently for more and neither does this person. So no expectations.
Makes the whole situation much easier. I started to let go of expectations. My expectations are to be a good mom. My kids come first. Then be a good worker. Anything else is a bonus. Anyone else I have no expectations for. I don’t want to be disappointed again.
Finding Feathers
Oh feathers...in early 2018 during my divorce process I would find these and later throughout the years dimes and pennies.
Yesterday and today I found feathers. Little ones. White and grey. Which is ironic since the week I have had isn’t one I would like to repeat.
When you believe in a higher source it gives you hope. 💗
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