So true and funny!
Saturday, April 30, 2022
Friday, April 29, 2022
Process of Healing is Feeling
I listen to music as I work. This song came on and it felt like someone punched me in my gut. I was going to change it but decided not to.
Healing is about feeling. Unburying it all. You can’t hide from pain. You have to face it.
In 2019 I went through something that broke me. It takes a lot to break me but this situation broke me. My own divorce didn’t even affect me like this did. That’s why I write. If everything was perfect you would have nothing to write. If I write a lot I am overwhelmed if I go silent I am at peace.
Alanis Morissette best work came after a heartbreak.
So I listened to the song and I smiled at the end. Because that gut pain didn’t last. That gut pain reminded me I had to go through that to learn to never be in that position again.
Journeys happen so we can reach a destination where we don’t let the same things bother us or hurt us. I have done years of work to be at peace. My journey today is different than in 2019. I don’t even recognize myself back then.
You owe yourself the same thing. When something triggers you face it. When you feel pain unbury it. Listen to the song. Write. Cry. I don’t care how you do it. Just do it!
Thursday, April 28, 2022
What’s Love…
When he heard about bring your kid to work day he came home and told me about it and asked if he could also bring my oldest daughter. I started to cry. It was the sweetest thing he could ever ask me. He has a really cool job and my daughter loves what he does so he felt she would really appreciate it. She’s been so excited and today was the day.
Love is not only about what people do for you. It’s how they love you. Love your kids. Respect you. How they feel about you. How they look at you as a unity. How they love your kids even if they aren’t theirs.
His daughter is like my 4th daughter. When we are all together I love her like my own and he does the same with mine.
You can’t push this. It has to come naturally on its own. We are very lucky we found each other.
All day I have been smiling. Never ever settle in life. This man taught me that all my journeys was worth it that lead to him! I enjoy every minute with him.
Wednesday, April 27, 2022
Monday, April 25, 2022
Learn more You Can Change At Any Time
The old saying “can’t teach an old dog new tricks” is False.
If you want to change, you can. If they want to change, they will.
Sunday, April 24, 2022
What’s Growth?
❤️ One thing life taught me was anything not right for me I can set free. At anytime.
Saturday, April 23, 2022
Easter Fun Continues
“Mom they feel like family”
My youngest said that on the way home. My heart melted. It’s true. We all do. We celebrated Easter today with my boyfriend’s family. Corn hole, archery, pin the tail on the bunny, egg hunt and the adults got to do a scavenger hunt which lead to a cool date night basket for the couples.
His family is great and always so good to me and my girls. We all got really lucky meeting each other. A real connection. Really great people. Love how all our families welcomed everyone in.
It was the first time my girls did archery. I love how much my boyfriend has patience and enjoys showing them new things to try. By the end of the day they were hitting close to the targets.
Thursday, April 21, 2022
Karla’s Kreamery…Coming Soon
She texted me asking if we wanted to try more ice cream…um yes please!!!
We got to try so many awesome flavors. These will soon be available for purchase. We had so much fun sampling them but Corn Pops was our favorite!!
Next I lived the Lavender Latte- with Vietnamese coffee in it. So fun!!
Love having friends with ice cream benefits 😊
Sunday, April 17, 2022
Wednesday, April 13, 2022
Easter Fun Around Connecticut
Great article of places to check out for Easter Fun.
10 Awesome Connecticut Easter Activities for 2022
Saturday, April 9, 2022
Traditions…My Favorite Time of Year
I love this time of year!! Palm Sunday is my favorite. I love the palms we get at church. I love the big Chocolate eggs we hand out for Easter. Inside is a surprise. I sent some to my boyfriend’s mom. She loved it. I wanted her to experience my tradition.
My mom and sister and made struffoli. Some
make it during Christmas but we always have it around Easter. It’s honey cones. Delicious. My mom adds lemon and orange zest to it.
I always have my kids on Palm Sunday because it’s my favorite time of year. I think because of the good, warm weather, and the blossom of flowers. Easter is fun. It’s stressless and you can be creative.
What traditions do you have?
Thursday, April 7, 2022
Monday, April 4, 2022
Friday, April 1, 2022
Cheers to 9 Years
It’s my anniversary today. 9 years being cancer free. I remember driving to Yale for my surgery. I was in denial. How could I be going in to have cancer removed from my body. I swore it was a joke. Like a bad dream.
I will never forget that ride. I will never forget walking in. I was on the table and my neck extended and I saw the light above. I woke up and couldn’t swallow or talk.
My life at that moment changed. It taught me a lot. BUT it also gave me a lot. I had so many family and friends by my side. I had a newborn at the time and I never was alone. I had someone helping me every step of the way.
Cancer sucks but it’s not always a death sentence. I was 32. I was young. Looking back it was hard but not as hard as it could have been. Everyday I wake up and take a pill. Sometimes I look at my scar, think how did I get through it but mostly I feel grateful for the amazing doctors I had. For surviving.
Cheers to 9 years of healing. I feel so lucky. I am so lucky!
Wednesday, March 30, 2022
Monday, March 28, 2022
Wednesday, March 23, 2022
Find Someone Who Says Let’s Work Through It Together
I am not used to calmness. I didn’t grow up around it. My first marriage wasn’t it. We are Italian. Loud. Calmness happens only when people sleep.
I worked on creating calmness around me. For me and for my kids. It helps clear the mind. Find peace. Happiness. Calmness is not boring.
My boyfriend is super calm. Extremely calm. It takes a lot to push him over the edge. He doesn’t let things bother him. Ever.
I love that. I truly admire it.
Women aren’t always calm. We have this weakness in us. Emotions. We overthink. We over feel. I am on the calmer side for sure. At my age I have seen some crazy things and some crazy women. I am not like that.
I am not that at all. BUT I have triggers. When I am triggered I have to work out that feeling. Understand it. I need to or else it eats me up. It literally makes me feel sick to my stomach.
Over the weekend there was a situation. I discussed it with my boyfriend. I was triggered. Nothing he caused but I reacted to him on it and do you know what he said to me. A man in his mid forties. Doesn’t owe me anything. Just loves me. Do you know what he said….
He said I will help you work on that trigger. Let’s work on it together.
Have you ever had someone say that to you? I haven’t. Ever. I never had a man say ok lady stop being crazy and I will help you. I may have heard the stop being crazy but never I will help you.
He said that to me. He said let’s work on it together. I was speechless.
Because it’s not his problem or anything he caused but he sees I have a weakness and he loves me and is willing to work on it with me so that trigger can go away.
Love isn’t something that you find only when you’re young. You can have multiple loves of your life at different times in your lifetime. I found this guy later in life who shocks me all the time.
I want you to be that person for someone else too. I want you to be sure to be with someone who would say to you what he said to me. After 41 years I have someone in my life willing to work on something with me that has nothing to do with him. That’s love. That’s friendship and that alone makes me want to love him forever.
Monday, March 21, 2022
Rock Your Socks!
Today’s World Down Syndrome Day. It’s ok to be different. It’s ok to be aware of it. Every year we rock our socks. Rock yours today too.
Sunday, March 20, 2022
Garden Gnomes by Crafty Kits
I ordered these kits a while ago. Today was the perfect day to have the kids paint them. Todays the first day of Spring and these garden gnomes are perfect for outdoors.
They came with paint, apron, a little easel, brushes and a lite up gnome.
The Dreaded Stomach Bug
We got hit hard this week. It started with my youngest then my middle one then my boyfriend then my oldest by the time it hit me it wasn’t so bad but my goodness was this a rough week.
What I learned…
When you’re solo. You’re solo. Asking for help doesn’t always get you help. Luckily my parents and the kids grandparents helped.
We all had similar yet different systems. Some threw up for hours. Some didn’t. Some had fevers. Some didn’t. Some felt run down others bounced back.
Mine lasted only 4 hrs. Some two days.
What helped…
Small sips of water.
PROBIOTICS!!! I can’t emphasize it enough. It saved me and my oldest. I even took children’s too to help.
Heating pads. The pain at times in the stomach was unbearable but heat helped a ton.
Rest. That’s obvious but really you think you can bounce back but it sticks around and makes you sluggish.
Bland foods. Carbs were my best friend. One day all I had was a plain bagel.
I hope you don’t face this. I have done laundry everyday and bleached our living space over and over again.
Thursday, March 17, 2022
Fun St. Patrick’s Day Facts
Fun little game above.
Did you know….we should be wearing blue not green…St. Patrick wasn’t even Irish…Corn beef and Cabbage was an American dish- cheaper than Ireland's Ham and Cabbage traditional dish.
Check out more fun facts here.
Space It’s Not A Bad Thing
I love being with people. I don’t need a lot of alone time. I need a couple hours a night a week and I am
good.
Some people need more. Some don’t. You need to respect those boundaries. You need space to be what you need for you.
Love has to be free too. It can’t be suffocating. It’s can’t be too much.
My boyfriend has a ton of hobbies. You name it. He had done it or tried it. Before he met me he had endless time alone and he didn’t mind it. He actually enjoyed the alone down time. He kept busy doing his hobbies.
I am busy being mom and when I am not I like to blog, play tennis, travel, explore new places. I am out.
We do a lot together. We do things with the kids. We do things apart.
It’s healthy balance.
It has to feel free. He’s an introvert. I am an extrovert. We spend 4 days a week together. We then have to honor and respect the time we aren’t together. We have to feel free and it took me a while to honor it and also to really enjoy that time.
When you’re secure in your relationship it’s free. Not suffocating. It’s good and healthy.
Wear Green or Get Pinched….It’s a Thing
We wore our green. Did you?
My daughter said Middle Schoolers were pinching people not wearing green. Weird we thought until I was driving home and heard it on the radio.
It’s actually a thing! You’re suppose to wear green to make you invisible to leprechauns.
Read more on that and other St. Patrick’s Day traditions here: https://www.irishcentral.com/culture/craic/wear-green-saint-patricks-day-pinch-rules.amp
Tuesday, March 15, 2022
Cereal Ice Cream….Let’s Get Nostalgic
My friend is opening up a pop up
ice cream shop and I am thrilled we got to test out some flavors.
My little ones were home sick so it was a perfect gift for them and treat. Such fun flavors. I will be sure to share when she starts selling them.
Nostalgic flavors from being a kid. It’s great how something as simple as a cereal flavored ice cream can do that.
Monday, March 14, 2022
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Tuesday, March 8, 2022
Back Country Cafe in Killington Vermont
Awesome breakfast place. Food was delicious and place was so country and cozy.
Love the sign!
Snowmobiling in Killington
I don’t ski. He does snowboarding. To have fun in the snow we decided to go snowmobiling.
It was a blast! Our guide was from Connecticut- small world. We were the only one with him so he brought us on some crazy trails. My boyfriend is super responsible and so I trust him a lot so some of these hills we came down of I wouldn’t have trust anyone to drive me through them but him.
It was a blast and so pretty. Up in the mountains. Just peaceful.
Last summer we did ATVs here. Great place and the staff is so friendly. https://www.snowmobilevermont.com/killington
Monday, March 7, 2022
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