For so long we take care of other people. Of course our kids come first but I am not talking about them. Kids are always top priority and should be taken care of. I am talking about people around us. Love isn’t painful or stressful. Yeah it’s work but when you are trying to fix people who should be fixing themselves it’s draining. Never again will I put in more than I get in return. Ever. You shouldn’t either.
For so long I had projects after projects come into my life. These people didn’t give back to me what I gave to them. At the time you settle. You figure well they love me or they enjoy my company so that’s something. NO it’s not. It’s not at all. If you are not 50-50 in any relationship then you need to make changes or get out. I will never allow myself to give more than what I get back. Not out of selfishness out of knowing I too deserved the love and respect I invested in others.
I reflect on to those who came into my life and I wipe the slate clean. All but one person I invested time
in gave me that time and ironically he’s still in my life. He’s an overall great guy and been there for a long time. All the others in between just felt draining. It’s not what love and dating and relationships are about at all.
I hope if you’re married or in a relationship you reflect. I hope you are in a relationship that is balanced. With a mutual love and respect for eachother. Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t make empty promises. Don’t settle. Don’t talk bad about your significant others to people. If you don’t like something communicate with them. I mean how can you spend your life with someone you don’t know how to talk to.
If you’re single I hope you learn to fully love yourself and set boundaries to what you will accept and will not.
All this means is I have yet to find the one. When you do none of this happens. It’s balanced. It’s a team effort. I do hope you understand the true meaning of love isn’t pain. It’s teamwork and companionship. It’s trust and choosing that person every single day.
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