Why Communication Matters

Tell me how you feel. Tell me what’s bothering you. Tell me how I can help. Tell me how we can fix things. 

How’s your communication style?

I am very vocal- if you don’t already know. I like uncomfortable conversations because it clears things up. I like telling people how I feel about them and hearing how they feel about me. I learned to let my guard down and do and say what I feel in the moment. Sometimes it backfires other times it’s allowed walls to come down and relationships to blossom. 

What I don’t like is a guessing game or when things get weird or awkward. I don’t like not knowing where I stand. But I realized one thing....

Communication is up to you. Really. I have met people who are openly aggressive and speak freely what’s on their mind. I have met super shy people who keep it all in. It was really up to me to adapt to make them comfortable to have an open dialogue. 

We think we can be the same way with everyone. But we don’t talk to our children like we talk to our friends or companions. We don’t talk to our coworkers like we talk to our family. We don’t talk to our companions and spouses like we talk to another person in our life. You have to adapt to your audience. We have to also accept who we are dealing with. 

You can’t change people. You change how you handle the person.