Family is always first and important. But then there’s people who come along and become important extensions of that.
I remember the number one thing that bothered me about getting a divorce was splitting up our “family”. Our marriage couldn’t be resolved but the idea of our family time and our family vacations being over really bothered me a lot. But I accepted it. I had to in order to be at peace and be happy. I figured I would just have them with my children alone and so I did. For years.
Recently our family trip changed due to delta variant and I decided to stay local and not fly. When my boyfriend said him and his daughter would come with us on vacation locally it opened a floodgate of emotions.
It brought up my notion of “family” vacations. The one I thought I wouldn’t have again. Where the man is the adventurous one and the kids flock to him for fun and the mom is the more responsible level headed one. Well I am getting it. I am getting that family vacation again with a man I love more than I thought I could ever love. I am having a blended family vacation where he loves my kids too and I love his child. I am getting the family adventures back and I will tell you I tear up just thinking about it.
Divorce is about knowing you have sacrificed a lot to gain clarity and independence and peace and happiness in your life. No one gets married hoping to end in divorce. But it happens and you grow from it.
Then one day you meet someone and that person opens up this avenue to where you can fully love again. You give your all and he gives his all and it’s the happiest you will ever really be. Where he becomes the male figure in your life for your kids and you become the female figure in his life for his kid.
It’s magic. Don’t think you lose “family” after divorce. You don’t. You gain a family. And adventures and love and fun. When your companion loves your kids and would protect them and enjoys their time with them that’s when it hits you that you’re with the right person.
I am super excited for our new “family” adventures.
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