Thursday, June 27, 2019
Hey Stamford Food Festival August 2019
This festival is so much fun! I went last year and we had a blast.
Start Your Day Smiling!
I saw this and signed up for it. It’s fun, feel good news that is emailed to you every morning. With great stories and quotes. It really helps you start your day with a smile.
Sign up here: https://www.inspiremore.com
Wednesday, June 26, 2019
Beach For The Soul Type of Therapy
We had some time to pass before next drop off so I asked my little ones. Beach or breakfast. Beach won. This is one of my favorite times of day to come. Early morning or at night. Because it’s peaceful. Calm. The sound of the waves and seagulls with sand between your toes is better than any therapy I ever had. Even beats retail therapy.
What’s your favorite non-therapy therapy?
It Takes Time...Every Situation Gives You Growth
“You’re not over it yet” an old friend said to me a couple weeks ago over a situation that happened. No I am not. The weird thing is that I have been through a lot more harder things in life and why did this minor set back bother me so much. Because it hurt my heart and that is something I usually protect and because at one moment it did bring me peace before it brought me pain.
The best thing you can do is give yourself time. Time to process. Time to understand why something had happened. Time to heal. Time to be sure not to make the same mistake. Time to process why did it bother you so much or why the pain still lingers.
When you go through anything in life you need to give yourself the right to go through the emotions so you can learn from it when you’re ready to go through them. Let me explain.
When I had cancer I never dealt with it. I will be the first to admit it. I was pregnant. I was making dinner for my then 4 year old. The doctor called. Said please make sure your husband is on the line. She told us the news. I hung up and went back to making dinner. My husband at the time looked at me and said “Go take some time to process” I didn’t want to. I was like ok I still need to be strong enough to do my duties in life and will deal with it and do whatever the doctors tell me I had to do.
A lot of people do the same thing that have been diagnosed with a disease or diagnosis. Why? Because in the moment it’s fight or flight. That’s your reaction. You say “Ok what do I need to do to survive” and you do it. Automatic mode we go in. After it’s all done that’s when it hits you. You then process everything you went through to survive. It’s survival guilt too sets in. Like now I survived and what’s my true purpose.
It happens to me still when a person does repeat behaviors in my life. It triggers same old emotions in me too and it’s hard to get through because you’re constantly healing the same wound over and over.
It happens in bad relationships and bad jobs. It happens to people who lost a parent at a young age or any age for that matter. It happens to people who weren’t treated correctly at one time or another or had a traumatic experience as a child or teenager. Think about it. How many times do you later ask yourself. “How did I get through that?”
Because when life tests you that is when you become a warrior. You become your strongest. It’s great at the moment BUT then in time you have to heal. Whether it be a month from then a year or 10 years. Eventually you need time to process and heal in order to grow and learn. You owe yourself that. You owe yourself time to process and then react and then you can fully move on.
Don’t deny yourself time but do be sure to feel. Don’t cover up any dramatic situation you ever had in your life up. Let that resurface and heal because if you don’t you’ll carry that pain with you forever. It will later come out and you won’t even know why.
And when you think about it all the emotions come out. Pain. Anger. Sadness. Relief. Guilt. Whatever you have feel is your right to feel.
Right there is the test... If you shake off the emotions. If you shake your head and say don’t think about it and you push that pain back down, you just cheated yourself out of healing. You cheated yourself from growth.
Tuesday, June 25, 2019
Monday, June 24, 2019
Is The Past An Excuse?
“See you may be happy with certain things but not completely so you linger on the past because of that”
It was the most brilliant thing he ever said to me, besides the one time he suggested I tell someone to fk off until they got their life together. He’s a friend and always gives great advice. He’s very intuitive and actually knows a lot about life. When he speaks it’s like an awakening for me. I always value man friendships. Every woman really needs a guy in her life to help see things in a different perspective.
We tend to hold on to the past and harp on it to avoid the present. Let me explain. If you’re not happy in your current situation we mentally look for distractions. Things to adjust our focus on what’s happening in our life. Like detours. Instead of facing it we harp on something else. Try not doing that. Try focusing on your current situation and mood/ feelings towards it. Whatever you are facing today that makes you unhappy you must fix. Me included. I write to give you advice and for me to take my own advice.
See how that works.
Don’t harp on what has already passed. Fix what’s infront of you. What’s in the present. Stop looking at other things that make you unhappy when reality is your unhappiness is right in front of you all along!
Don’t Let Someone Control Your Emotions
This is hard to do yet extremely important. A lot of times my mood shifted based on the actions of someone else. My goal lately is let me be my true self not a reflection of someone else. So if things don’t go as you like or planned based on what someone else does then learn to let it be. Don’t let it get the best of you. You can only control what you do.
Sunday, June 23, 2019
Choose Happiness Over Loneliness...Always!
My parents took me, my girls and my sister with her family away for the weekend. We did Hersheypark and Sesame place. It was the first vaca being a single mom. Sounds crazy right. I take them out all the time but this time it was hotel rooms and packing and lugging and watching with kids. Two big amusement parks. All in three days. Just with one parent, their mom and let me tell you...
Was it work? Hell yeah. But I knew it would be. Of course my parents were there and my sister and her husband with her daughter BUT I still made it a point to take full charge. I always said stay with me. I was the one who made sure no one was responsible for them but me.
I looked in the mirror and in pictures and looked younger. Happier. Refreshed. Even on a kid family vacation. Why? Because I am a free to be me.
See I wasn’t happy and when you’re not happy it shows. I am happy now. I have complete control of my own life. My own path. I won’t settle. Never ever. I will never ever sacrifice happiness again verse fear of being alone and lonely. I will never go through life numb or without emotions. I will never not take a moment and appreciate everything because that isn’t how you’re suppose to live! I did while married. I did in relationships after my divorce. Guess what, no more. If I don’t feel I am being my true self 💯 then I am ok with being alone. Me. Myself. And I. My kids. My life. It’s not the same when you’re really not living or just settling!
Are you living? Are you settling?
The Hotel Hershey: A Must See
This place is a MUST see when you visit Hershey. You don’t have to stay at the hotel to enjoy the scenery or amazing restaurants. It’s gorgeous inside and out. The gardens and grounds are so manicured. You can see the skyline of Hersheypark at the top of the hotel. There are four restaurants. A terrace with music. It’s just amazing. You feel like you’re in a Mansion.
We ate at the Circular. http://www.thehotelhershey.com/dining/the-circular.php
It was beautiful. The staff is incredible. I had the lobster bisque then short ribs and a peanut butter cake for dessert. They give you salted caramel with your check. This caramel is so rich yet amazing. You have to split one square with someone.
I am telling you it’s a must to visit when coming to Hershey. Everyone raved about it. I gained some major bragging points for suggesting we go for dinner. Last time I came with my kids and their dad couple years ago we ate at the Tavern.
Dating in 2019...The Right One!
When you find the right one you’ll know because it won’t be complicated or have drama attached. It won’t cause more hurt than joy. It will be simple yet exciting. Natural, not forced. Being you will be more than enough! Wait for the right one!
Saturday, June 22, 2019
Nissley Naughty Marietta...Pennsylvania Bound
About 6 months ago my girlfriend brought this over to a friend’s house we were having dinner at. I have thought about it ever since. It is a semi-dry red wine. On the sweeter side and very smooth.
I have called around for this bottle of wine. But I didn’t have luck finding a store in CT that carried it. When I called the vineyard they said they only distribute to local package stores in Pennsylvania. Last night it hit me. I am in Pennsylvania for the weekend with my little ones. I had to get this wine. I found a local liquor store and walked in and bought all the bottles they had. 6 bottles and when I went up to the register the cashier said the vineyard only allowed a limited amount of stores to carry their wine.
I sent my girlfriend this picture and she laughed. She knew how much I enjoyed the bottle she had me try. “I finally got my hands on a bottle”.
I didn’t have time to go to their vineyard for a tasting but I was glad to be bringing some bottles home.
If you are ever in Pennsylvania be sure to stop by their vineyard or pickup a bottle by Nissley Vineyard.
Cheers to the little things in life! Salute!
This Year....It Is What It Is!
If you have to force it then it’s not worth it. Friendships. Relationships. Whatever. Let it be.
Good people. Happy hearts. Belly laughs. Love deep to your core. Those things aren’t forced. They come naturally. You hold on to those. Cherish them.
Friday, June 21, 2019
How Do You Take Your Old Fashioned?
I had to get it. We were having dinner at the Hershey Hotel in Pennsylvania and I see these on the waitress’ tray. I watch her bring it to a table and then it cracks. She had her back to me so at first I thought she was lighting it on fire but then she told me she cracks it will a mallet.
I’ll take one I said. It was delicious. I shared it with my mother. Perfect after dinner drink and so so clever and fun! Old fashioned is my favorite. I only order one whenever I do get it. It’s a great drink to sip on throughout dinner or just hanging out. I have gotten pretty spoiled with how clever some places make them so whenever I see it presented in a new way I have to order it.
Epic Crunch Goldfish
The kids were so excited to try these. They picked them out at the grocery store. They opened all the bags and taste tested. They are not like the regular goldfish. They are bigger and have more crunch. The flavors varied too. With ranch being their top pick.
They love them...me not so much.
Which flavors have you tried?
Want To Really Heal?
The healing process takes time. You have to dig within and pull everything you buried out. You have to feel. Cry. Be mad. Whatever. Just be sure to deal so you can heal from it. We all have buried emotions and pain. We do things to cover it up. Some people turn to substances to deal, some become obsessed with something to cover up the pain of something else. Most dangerous thing you can do is be numb and feel nothing at all. Peel back the layers to allow yourself emotional freedom.
Your Life Is Your Story...
To my readers for following my journey. I hope my stories help you in your journey. ❤️
Thursday, June 20, 2019
Asian Steamed Buns
I am huge fan of these. They come a little hard and you steam them so they can fluff up. Tonight I made them and stuffed them with sautéed zucchini and chicken. Was delicious. I like to add a sour cream or hoisin sauce to them as well.
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