Friday, July 19, 2019
Thursday, July 18, 2019
Life Lessons...Learn From Them!
Learn from it all...they are all teaching us something. Heartache means you loved. Tears means you can feel.
Holding back means you lost trust in someone, you don’t want to open up to again. Your soul may be tired and knows to protect itself. You aren’t ready to give them what they think they deserve. Or maybe they aren’t the person you want to give your love to. Maybe they aren’t worthy and that’s ok too.
Pulling you close to someone means you’re not ready to let go and you’re holding on for a reason.
There’s all these things that build us up. Teach us. Help us grow. Help us find peace with ourselves. It’s all a process. A growing process. Don’t fight it. Learn from it. ❤️
Embrace The Lessons
Embrace the lessons and learn to stop giving your love away to people who may not deserve it or appreciate it.
Love Yourself...Everyone Else Is An Added Bonus
The power of the universe is when it shows you so much when you couldn’t see it yourself. When your mind isn’t clear or your brain is preoccupied. The universe brings people into your life to see things for what they really are.
What you need. What you don’t see in yourself. It’s magical. Love yourself. That’s all you need. Anything else or anyone else is an added bonus.
Remember This: When Love Is No Longer There
You can’t force someone to have you in their life or love you or choose you and it’s hard to hear but sometimes we need to remind ourselves. It’s also hard to admit but it’s true.
I get it. I do it too. Alot. I hold on much longer than I should. I am slowly working on that.
Love is magical. It’s a high. It’s feeling like nothing in life can bring you down. Any stress magically seems manageable. It’s an escape. It’s fun.
Then it changes. Somewhere along the way it’s no longer what it was. You tend to hold on because you remember those magical times but then things get hard. Sad. Lonely. It’s hard even writing this for some reason. But it’s true.
It’s letting go when one person wants out. It’s letting go when there isn’t equal effort. It’s letting go when all you’re holding on to was the past. It’s letting go when one person is ok not having the other person in their life anymore. It’s letting go when you’re ok knowing that person will end up with someone else and that fact no longer bothers you.
Yep!
You gotta learn when to let go and hardest part learn to accept when someone has let YOU go.
Letting Go Is An Everyday Goal!
You wake up and say today’s a good day. Then something hits you. A song. A word. Something. And it sets you back. Reminds you. You have to restart again at that exact moment. Right there you start again the process of letting it go.
It’s ok. It takes time. You got this. I got this. ❤️
Connecticut Wine Festival July 20th & 21st
This event looks like so much fun!
11 of Connecticut's top wineries will be showcasing their best wines. Enjoy tastings accompanied with food samples and music.
Wednesday, July 17, 2019
Bethel Summer Fest This Weekend
Kids activities, food trucks, games, music etc... Check out Bethel’s Summer Fest this weekend in Downtown Bethel.
Learn to Let Things Go...
Don’t change the path life is taking you on. Those who walked away did for a reason. Don’t try to fit them back in. It’s ok. Let it go. Feel, heal. Don’t try to change what the universe is doing for you. You may never understand why but you can’t grow standing still.
It’s Not You...It’s The Problem!
I love this. I love this approach. A lot of time we don’t see it like this and it’s true. If you can work together to sort out the problem well then there’s no need to argue. Conquer what’s causing the tension and work together.
Wednesday Motivation: Proud Of You!
Whatever you are dealing with today I hope it brings you peace and happiness.
❤️
Need A Distraction? Why...
“Free will and personal choice supersede everything at the end of the day.”*
What are you running from?
I have to keep busy. I can’t sit home. I have to be out and about. I find the excuse to do anything but I am suppose to do. I break commitments.
Sound like you? What you really need to ask yourself is:
Why do I have to keep busy? Why can’t I sit and rest at home? Why do I always have to be out and about? Why do I find the excuse to do anything but what I am suppose to do? Why do I break commitments?
This article may help:
*What Are You Running Away From? (Dealing with Escapism) https://personalexcellence.co/blog/escapism/
There’s that deep core you are neglecting. You have to fix it not always run from it.
Donuts & Beer....Flight Night July 19th
How fun is this? Donut Crazy teamed up with Two Roads Brewery for a beer and donuts pairing. I did this once with Wine and Candy and couldn’t believe how fun and tasty it was. This event looks even more delicious. July 19th 4:00-9:00 pm.
Learn more here: https://tworoadsbrewing.com/events/view/6761
Men Are NOT Like Women...They Say What They Really Want
“When a guy tells us what he wants we must believe him and respect it”
A friend said this to me while I was getting ready for my night and I swear it hit home. Almost like I already knew this but didn’t want to nor did I like it.
Women aren’t that way. We act on emotion. Then process. Try to correct it. Miss people we want back in our life. Men miss them too but they are more set in their decisions. They move forward. Women linger. We have that “what if” or “if it’s meant to be”. We hold on to hope. “Hope” sounds a bit pathetic.
Men don’t do that. So stop trying to convince a man to change how he feels because it won’t happen. Men will process what you say but they need to do what they need to do and well we have to give them space and respect that. They also will treat you in the way that reflects how they feel about you or what they want. Process that again!
Take my advice. When a men says something listen. It may not be what you want to hear but you can’t change how he feels so you have to just respect it. His actions towards you is a clear message too. It’s usually supported by what he wants. Sucks I know!
Tuesday, July 16, 2019
Thank You Readers...
It’s hard to think this way when life may not be exactly how you want it to be or you’re missing someone or work is stressful or finances are overwhelming BUT do believe it’s all a part of your journey. Everyone you meet. Everything you do.
You are going through exactly what your road to happiness is meant to take you on. Enjoy the lessons and journey.
Thank you for being my readers!
Thank you for being my readers!
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Feel Good Song: Remember the Tinman
I love Tracy Chapman I grew up listening to her. It always relaxed me. This album “New Beginning” is ironic. It helped me through high school and then started to come back on my Pandora recently.
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The Universe...Follow Your Path
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I love waking up to these emails.
Tuesday Goal: Self Love
Take care of yourself. Your core. Your soul. When you do you heal all your broken pieces and can truly take on anything. Work on getting your power back 💗
Monday, July 15, 2019
The Events Of The Day Always Can Change!
Have you ever had a day that started out crappy and ended good that it made you extra happy. Well today was that day.
It wasn’t the best morning. Some setbacks and repeat unnecessary drama. My mom asked why I let it get to me. “because it’s like reopening a healed wound over and over again” I just want peace not a run around all the time.
As the day went along I needed a distraction so reached out to a friend who totally helped me distract myself. We have brainless conversations and always makes me laugh. Easy fun. Followed by some awesome conversation with a girlfriend who is very intuitive and then me swimming solo. Relaxing, Peaceful.
You can always turn your day around at any moment.
Find That Person...
But eventually it will fade! Um who says? I have been through a lot in life to feel that there is no way that your life has to be a certain way. All rules go out the window. Find that person who makes your relationship so much fun that even rough times don’t seem to last long. Where you laugh and your soul is happy. Where staying in or going out is a fun adventure.
I have a cousin who was so shy for as long as I knew him. He met a girl. She’s outgoing. Loving and fun. She brings out this side to him we didn’t even know he had. They are constantly loving and hugging and kissing infront of us and I swear I now say I want a relationship like he has. The once guy who hid from family events is now showing me how I want a relationship to be. It’s all her. She brings out the best in him and well we all need someone like that in our life.
Why enjoy this adventure alone. Keep going until you find that person who loves you as much as you love them, who enjoys adventures and fun and will be there with you.
Woman...This Is For You Too!
Never stay in anything that doesn’t bring out your highest good. I don’t care if it’s a job, relationship or friendship. We always watch eachother and learn from
one another. Happiness is contagious. Sadness brings pain. Choose to love yourself first and know when to leave a situation verse when to stay. Choose wisely.
Wake & Do This...Happy Monday I Am Thankful For You All
Affirmations are awesome to do. It’s telling the universe what you’re grateful for. To attract positive energy in your life. Practice these every morning and everyday. I do them randomly throughout the day especially if I am down or have to shift my thinking.
You can add more too. Learn more here: https://thinkup.me/affirmations-happiness-joy/
“Affirmations in New Thought and New Ageterminology refer primarily to the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment—fostering a belief that "a positive mental attitude supported by affirmations will achieve success in anything."[1] More specifically, an affirmation is a carefully formatted statement that should be repeated to one's self and written down frequently. For affirmations to be effective, it is said that they need to be present tense, positive, personal and specific.[2]” Source Wikipedia
Sunday, July 14, 2019
It’s Summer Time...Where’s My Piña Colada?
What do you want to do? I just want a Piña Colada and fried shrimp.
It’s all I wanted and I got it. I am not complicated. I always say what I want and need and when I don’t get it well I kindof have it in my head until I do. So luckily I got what I wanted and it was the best weekend Summer treat. I mean Pina Colada on a dock with fried shrimp baskets and clam chowder just screams SUMMER! What’s your favorite summer escape?
Let’s Spice Things Up...
It wasn’t my weekend with the kids but my oldest daughter wasn’t feeling well at a wedding so I told her Dad to bring her to me after I got back from plans I had. I think she was overtired from a weekend of events because she woke up this morning feeling fine.
I went outside to workout as normal and came inside to get my bathing suit. Mom what are you doing. She asked when I had my bathing suit on. Finishing my workout in the pool. You can come but we will be working out. She first said no thanks and came out five minutes later. We did laps. Blasted my Mumford & Sons pandora station and she said wow mom this is amazing. You really spiced up the morning. I loved it.
Let’s do it everyday.
I would love to but reality is morning hustle wouldn’t allow with first drop off being 8:00 am but then I realized if we did do it everyday would it be as special. Would it feel amazing?
When you become accustomed to a routine you take it for granted. You don’t appreciate it as much. Don’t get me wrong my new morning routine when I am not hustling to leave the house by 7:50 is amazing. Great for the body and soul. Outside work out followed by pool time. All done by 8:30 am.
Even my daughter said it was magical and such a great way to start the day but my point is sometimes spicing things up means changing your routine. It means doing things outside of your normal routine but you can’t take it for granted and do it all the time or else the thrill fades. It gives you something to look forward to. I promised her when I have her Saturday nights we can do it again early Sunday mornings. She’s loving it and I must admit so do I.
Need to Relax...Go By The Water
I was just out with friends the other day and telling them how I go to the beach a couple times a week in the morning before starting my day. One of them said they haven’t had much time to go except for when playing sports. I said you gotta go and do it. The other friend said how true it is and relaxing for our body. There’s something so calming to be by the water, I couldn’t explain it and then I saw this article.
Being near a body of water makes us calmer and healthier, science shows
Summer is here. It’s that time of year to be good to your mind, body and soul. Get up and go. Even if it’s just for a walk near a lake or beach or having breakfast near a pool. Go out and do something out of your normal routine that brings peace to you.
Saturday, July 13, 2019
Safe Place & Yet So Much Fun
Relationship goals! Someone you trust. Who has your back yet will take spontaneous trips with you. Push you beyond what you think you’re capable of accomplishing. Have you found this in your partner? If not keep looking!
❤️
Good Morning...How Did You Wake Up Today?
At least 4x a week now I wake up and go outside to work out. This morning I did that. Then I swam. Alone. Quiet. My music playing in background. I let the warmth of the sun hit my skin. The sound of the birds in the background. No I can’t always have mornings like this. But it’s mornings like this that make it so magical. To appreciate the little things. To enjoy your own company and surroundings.
How did you wake up today?
What Are You Accepting?
No it’s not always passion or carefree life. It’s a reality. That everything in life comes with a price to pay an up and down. A good and bad. But the difference is having the person by our side who we want to have these experiences with. Who makes them all worth taking. Who makes them easier for us. Less painful more exciting. You need to find that person. Who you say I don’t care if we have bumps in our life having it with you makes it easier for me. I wouldn’t want face it with anyone else.
It takes a lot to make someone walk away. Sometimes it takes nothing. Sometimes it’s saying to yourself do I want my next 30-40 yrs of my life to be this way. Sometimes it’s saying I can’t settle anymore. Sometimes it’s saying I am no longer in love with you and sorry but we have to part ways.
We accept things that some people may never understand and I get it but why?
Being divorced you see life differently. It’s like being reborn again. You see people who settle. You see people who have that spark within them when they are together. You see marriages that give other marriages a bad rap. You see things you want and don’t want because you get another chance at it. You see couples who make you desire to have the same type of relationship. Holding hands. Smiling. Just being one together. Passionate. It’s a beautiful thing.
If what you accept is settling then please do a service to yourself and change it. If what you accept makes your heart and soul happy then continue to do so. Be grateful for it and know you set the example because it’s really how life should be lived. You don’t get one path or one journey. You get the one you are willing to accept.
What’s Your Beer Personality?
What’s your beer personality? I think I am a Pilsner. I am definitely direct and at times too impulsive which can backfire at times but I love to explore so I am not sure about this. Also no I didn’t read the whole thing I just took a picture of it and walked away.
Happy Saturday!
Wake up and go to bed grateful. Grateful for what you have. Grateful for what hasn’t worked out for you. Grateful for moments that you didn’t think you can handle that you did. Just be overly grateful for it all. Cheers to the weekend 💗
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