Monday, August 12, 2019
Step Away From The Phone
She made a good point. “What else am I suppose to be doing”
Um well....so I went out and got her stuff. Stuff we can do together or she can do alone. Stuff that would work different parts of her brain instead of being on her phone.
I must say it was a brilliant idea on my end! High five to me! Lol
At first she said I could keep the sudoku. Oh no we are doing this together. She was intimidated. She said she couldn’t figure it out until we did them together and then she was figuring them out on her own. I love sudoku.
Next were Mad Libs. We both had some great belly laughs this time. She was so happy I bought her these. She did them in her class for 5th grade. I want to go out this week and buy her more.
I wanted her to use her creativity and brain in a different way. I also wanted to stop seeing her on her phone. It’s hard being a single mom to three because I wish I could split myself up into three. As I am hanging with my oldest my other two are calling me
to hang with them so I am bouncing around room
to room. Which I love but still hard on them to not have my constant individual attention. Then again which kid can?
The sudoku and mad libs were a hit. We bonded and laughed and she went to bed saying she can’t wait to do more tomorrow. We tapped into her inner child mode and mine too. I must say I loved it. She brightened up. She became more alive.
Will this last? Who knows. If not I will have to attempt something else for her to do as a distraction. All I know is I am trying to have her walk away from
her phone and enjoy a different type of pastime.
What Are You Looking For?
Everyone has something to teach us. It’s those that bring our heart peace. Who calm us. You make us miss them. Who enrich us. Who help us grow and look at life differently. Those people deserve our time, attention and affection.
Never Assume...Relax...Trust The Process
We tend to over analyze. The what if’s. Sometimes just relaxing and going with the flow actually shows us that nothing is wrong. Just trust the process.
Sunday, August 11, 2019
Money Has Nothing To Do With How Rich You Are
Happiness. Now that’s something to be rich about. The green stuff..that only helps at the surface but not within.
Now This Is True Love
❤️
I won’t lie. I have had that feeling and it’s awesome. We all should have that person who makes us do a little happy dance seeing them.
Everything Ends Up Working Out
This is so true. Always always ALWAYS know that you always end up in a better place. No matter where you are today. No matter what pain you feel. Time heals and things always get better. ❤️
We Are Not 18 Anymore....But That’s Ok
My college roommate came down over the weekend. I love her. She’s so much fun. We have had some awesome girls nights together. So when she said I am coming to visit I knew we were in for a great time.
One reason I love Norwalk is you don’t have to leave it to have fun. The city is full of great restaurants and bars. Now there’s a couple of really fun Rooftop Bars which makes it even more fun to stay local.
We have been friends for 21 years. Crazy we have known eachother more of our lifetime than not. I remember going out dancing in college and waking up the next morning feeling fine. She was a nurse major so she would be up at 6:00 for clinicals.
Now not so much. We can still party but wake up sore from dancing. In bed way too late up too early. I couldn’t move my left side. She climbed in my bed and laughed asking if I had a stroke. Nope heels for 7 hrs will do that to a mom.
But our run down was awesome and perfect for a girls night with no cover and if you do it smart you can go out for $50 each.
Barcelona- tapas, sangria, awesome view
Sono Rooftop Sky Bar- just opened. A little pricey on drinks but they asked for our feedback. Stopped serving past 11:00
Evaritos Rooftop-mixed ages music playing loved how big it is
SOHO Bar- a woman DJ was rocking it last night. Loved it
Our House- upstairs is so chill and can run downstairs to dance
Tablou- my favorite place to end the night. Awesome salsa music and fun vibe
You’re never too old to enjoy a fun night out!
It’s Who Are Today That Matters
I learned that the present is the only thing that needs your focus. I learned to not let people bother me anymore. Who has time for that? I also learned to let the past go. Just living every day. Every moment at a time. Embrace it.
Feel Good Song: Whispers in the Dark
I rather live a life of fairy tale believing real, feel good love exists verse the reality of life of stress,pain and hardship. What do you choose to believe. ❤️
Saturday, August 10, 2019
348 Oyster Bar in Fairfield CT
How lucky are we to live in an area surrounded by awesome seafood restaurants.
We used to come here all the time years ago. We heard
they had new owners so had to check it out. I must say it was delicious and we can’t wait to go back. I had a hard time picking off the menu because there was so many awesome dishes I wanted to try.
they had new owners so had to check it out. I must say it was delicious and we can’t wait to go back. I had a hard time picking off the menu because there was so many awesome dishes I wanted to try.
We ordered clam chowder and their fried seafood platter as an appetizer. Was delicious. The fried fish wasn’t heavy at all. So tasty and fresh. They serve bread with roasted big chunks of garlic in the oil. Amazing!
Then I got the fish stew- my favorite. Comfort food in a bowl. The broth was smooth. Mussels. Clams. Shrimp. Filet. Scallops. I kept dunking the bread in the broth. This is like a big warm hug for me. My mom got their blacken shrimp tacos. Very refreshing.
We had to get dessert. Nutella puff pastry. Seriously I have been on a Nutella kick this week and this just topped it. The staff were awesome. So nice. We sat in the back patio. Was so pretty.
They have half price bottles of wine on Mondays. Can’t wait to go back and try the other items on the menu.
Welcome Back...J
(Old fashioned at 348 Oyster Bar with my Mom)
This morning my mom said Hey J, welcome back.
I didn’t understand what she was talking about.
What do you mean mom?
You haven’t been yourself for a little while and now I notice you are back to you and I wanted to let you know. I like that.
When did you notice a change back I asked her.
A week or two ago she said.
I don’t know what triggered a change but I do feel more at ease. More at peace. A lot of factors play in me bringing myself back to my core. My roots.
My true self.
I think it’s important we connect within with our true self. I think we get caught up in stress and noise. I have decluttered my life and surroundings. Some
home projects have been completed. My vacation helped me relax. I have connected with my true self and anything that doesn’t apply to it I dismiss. I have handled some matters professionally that have been a pain.
Life is never going to be perfect. It’s a rollercoaster ride. But when you lose your true self along the way it becomes a problem. My core is peace and calmness. Routine. Structure. When it isnt aligned or in chaos I don’t function how I should.
Be sure to always be in balance with who YOU are. To what YOU need in your life to bring yourself peace and calmness.
Cheers to your happiness and finding YOU!
Stop Chasing Butterflies...I mean Love
I took them outside. We swam. After a couple of hours they went to play on the playground. My niece kept saying to the sky please come down. Please let me know hold you.
Life has to be played this way. To be patient and calm. To not rush results. To not assume being aggressive always works in your favor. To understand that the happiest people are at peace within. That whatever is meant to be part of their life will come to them.
There was a beautiful butterfly. I love butterflies. They remind me of my battle with thyroid cancer. The thyroid is in a shape of a butterfly. But this time my heart hurt. All of a sudden. She was running all over the yard chasing this beautiful butterfly. She was begging for it to come down to her. She kept asking “why won’t you just let me catch you” It was like chasing love.
They say if you chase something you will push it away but if you let it be. Sit still. It will come to you. Like a butterfly. Like love. Not forced. Naturally drawn to you.
Life has to be played this way. To be patient and calm. To not rush results. To not assume being aggressive always works in your favor. To understand that the happiest people are at peace within. That whatever is meant to be part of their life will come to them.
You Will Heal...You Will Move Past This
In every situation pain doesn’t stick around forever. Everyday will get easier and easier. Everything heals. Even the heart.
That’s All She Wanted...
It’s ok to let your guard down. Even when you have been hurt. It’s ok to risk it...after all doesn’t everyone just want to end up happy and in love.
Friday, August 9, 2019
Awaken Your Soul
All wounds build character. No one goes through this journey without some pain. Don’t let it defeat you. Let it build you up.
Thursday, August 8, 2019
Last Day Of Camp....This Uber Mom Gets To Take A Break
6 times a day. Can you imagine? These last 6 weeks of camp I felt like a Uber driver. Three different drop off times for camp and three different pick up times.
By 4:00 pm I was exhausted. I would run around town. Work and run around town again. Finally today I said holy crap. This schedule was insane. Their Dad only dropped off one once a week and picked up one once a week so imagine. I drove around town 28 times a week. So whenever anyone questions a parent’s or mother’s role I just laugh. Don’t be an idiot and ever do that. It’s not ok nor fair.
Our roles are like no other. It’s a lot of work. I lay in bed writing after taking advantage of every minute in my day by doing something. Up by 6:00 in bed before midnight. Work out pack lunches and snacks for their day. Breakfast. Drop offs are 8:00-9:15 and working by 9:30. Back to all
School pickups. Snacks. Dinner. Cuddles and prepping for the next day again. Laying in bed with all three individually at night. Recapping the day. Bedtime kisses.
It’s been no joke. It almost easier just having them home besides making it extremely difficult to work. Take calls or concentrate.
I am not writing this to say all I do because you moms do it all too. I am writing this because it’s not easy. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate you for it well they can go for a walk.
Until you’ve walked in their, mine, moms, a parents, shoes well then you don’t judge. Don’t under appreciate a mom’s role. Don’t ever under appreciate all it takes to raise three kids or any kid for that matter.
SoNo Sky Bar & Cafe Opening This Weekend
Love the rooftop bars opening up around town. This one is located at 45 South Main Street in Sono.
They will be offering half price wine, beers and cocktails from 5:30-8:30 pm
Can’t wait to check this out.
*Picture source Instagram
Maybe We Don’t Always Want To Be Strong
I was talking to someone close to me who is having a series of not the best luck with her health. Another testing another result. Another plan to what to do next.
She’s in good spirits and said “We are some tough ass cookies 💪🏼 no sissy’s here. Haha” and I responded it sucks we always have to be.
Sometimes we don’t want to be. Sometimes we want to have someone comfort us and take care of us and say it’s not fair or ok, I am here for you, or for life to just be easy and normal.
Yes, be grafteful for the love and support but sometimes it takes more energy to always be strong and positive then to say you know what this time I am not ok. This time I want to just live a carefree life and not worry about tomorrow anymore.
I admire her strengthen but also feel that sometimes just sometimes living in a fantasy life helps verse the reality. Sometimes being strong always takes away a chance for someone to comfort us. Maybe showing our soft side doesn’t make us weak. Makes us human.
Feel Good Song: This Is What Makes Us Girls
We put love first. We want someone to put us first too. We want someone to soften us up even when we act too strong. It’s finding the right person to let our guard down with.
It’s Ok To Not Be Ok!
It’s ok to have days when you’re not ok. When you’re upset or sad or something bothers you. What’s NOT ok is not allowing to feel. To pretend to be ok. I have let my guard down a lot in the past and even the last year and a half. And it has backfired but taught me a hell of a lot about me and life and love and lessons.
Pain is worse than anger. I rather be angry then have pain in my heart. Complete sadness is heartbreaking. It’s a process we all go through at one point in life and it’s not fun.
Good Morning Visitors...
I try not to workout outside after it rains. It’s not as pretty. But this morning I wanted some fresh air. I heard crackling in the woods. I went up and down the driveway and then felt something looking at me. From a distance I saw baby deer hiding. I shouted it’s ok you can come out. I saw it wagging it’s tail so it was signally to the other one to come out too. It didn’t it stayed in the woods. But this one stayed near me.
It then just hung out while I worked out. I know sounds so silly but it was so peaceful. At the same time my favorite song from my honeymoon in Hawaii with my ex husband came on. I have healed from my marriage ending so things don’t bother me anymore related to it. I actually still like the songs and wedding songs. I have no regrets. All lessons learned. I felt it was appropriate timing to be on. Me outside working out. Deer hanging out. Yeah I know kind of a fantasy or not a big deal to others. But brought me a lot of peace and happiness so a big deal to me.
Men Are Just As Confused As Women
I love this guy and his real talk. Dating in 2019 is so different than twenty years ago. A lot of options. A lot of what ifs. This may help some of you going through the struggle.
No more games. Just everyone is trying to figure it all out.
Happy Thursday: You Are Enough
Repeat after me...
You are strong
You are beautiful
You are enough
Who doesn’t see that in you or make you feel that way well you know what I would say to them...you don’t have to but don’t stand in my way of those who can and do and will.
Wednesday, August 7, 2019
Nando Fragolino ...Strawberry Champagne
A girlfriend brought bottles of these to Cape Cod and lucky me she gave me whatever was left unopened.
It’s sweet like Prosecco and bubbly. Perfectly served chilled with strawberries. Perfect summer chill beverage.
“A delicious sparkling wine, with the fruity refreshing taste of berry flavors.”*
Connecting With Them Over & Over Again
It’s not easy having a pre-teen. It’s hard to connect and relate at times. She’s my oldest but every time I look at her I see the 4 yr old that once was my best buddy. So she got her phone taken away and she said well what do I do with myself.
She kind of had a point. We swam a couple of times and she didn’t want to read. We already ate and cleaned up. We did crafts earlier. So I suggest. Dance off.
What? Yep let’s do a dance off.
She got to pick the song and moves and well for over an hour we made up dance routines to her favorite songs. It actually was a lot of fun, even my little ones joined in and said wow mom you can dance. Yep. But really it’s not easy with electronics and mood swings and everyone having their own responsibilities in life to tend to.
It’s about always trying to find a way to connect to them. Kids change. We change. We as parents have to get out of our comfort zones and connect with them. Over and over again.
You Need To Feel
I learned it’s ok to not always be strong. It’s ok to say it hurts my heart and soul. It’s ok to feel. You need to feel too!
Circle of Life
It’s the circle of life right? When it comes to a lot of things. Someone lost something while someone else gained it. One person loves while the other one hurts. It’s not karma. That’s different. This is something deeper.
Let me explain.
My family is in the car industry. Accidents mean business. Painful right. It’s not always. Sometimes it’s minor sometimes it’s major. It’s like everything in life. Someone lost a job and now someone is excited to fill that position.
Some marriages or relationships ends and the other person gains freedom or to have a relationship with someone else. Pain for one. Happiness for another.
It’s a cycle. A hard one to accept. Trust me.
One person misses someone while the other person is out enjoying life and having fun. No it’s not fair but it is how it is.
It’s in every decision we make at any given time. There are moments I think how will I get through some situations and it’s distractions. You have to distract yourself and then deal and heal but don’t react.
You can’t react every time you miss someone or are hurt and afraid. You can discuss it but you can’t make impulsive decisions because then you have to deal with regret. No one wants regrets but people do need to realize that what you do to people has an impact on them. You can’t love someone and be ok hurting them. You can’t miss someone yet never try to be in their life. You can’t be sad and go around acting like you’re ok.
How you handle it is up to you!
Turn It Around...Wait What?
I write about starting day right. Well the other morning I wake up with all good intentions. Then it happens...
I lost my nose ring. Not a big deal but annoying. I do have backups but still.
I go outside to workout and painters came early so I had to let them in and go get more supplies.
My girls came home early morning and my oldest trips on way to my car and skins her knee. Back inside we go and late to camp.
My middle one needed a shirt for camp. I grabbed wrong one luckily her sisters tell me so I run back inside tear apart the drawers and my mom says oh that shirt and hands it to me.
I try to be pleasant through this all. I really do, not easy but I do and maybe have said under my breathe WTF a couple of times.
Then my Mom says well the worst has happened so now your day will be awesome. I said wait what? She replies yeah when you let day starts off wrong it usually ends right. I smiled and said ok now I feel better.
I swear rest of my day was awesome!
Never doubt what can happen when you change your mindset. Bad moments don’t have to be bad days. Bad situations don’t have the last. It’s ok to turn it around mid day. Mid hour.
Women Learn From One Another
You have to be role models. To help eachother know what they are capable of. Look out for one another and look up to one another.
Tuesday, August 6, 2019
Don’t Repeat Past Mistakes...
Everything is a learning process. Who knew love had to be. I thought when you loved someone it would
be enough. Yeah you can laugh now. I know so oblivious.
I do know that every relationship I had I learned something, some I am still looking for the meaning.
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