Tuesday, August 13, 2019
You Can’t Push This...
Life is going to happen whether you have a plan or not. You have to be patient with everything. Live in the moment.
Monday, August 12, 2019
Rules We Must Remember in Life
This!! ❤️
A lesson will be repeated until it’s learned. Over and over again.
We All Have Flaws...Accept Them
What are your flaws?
I will share mine...if you share yours. Here it goes. I don’t like chaos. Sometimes it’s hard for me to accept and I immediately want things to go back to normal
and be calm. I don’t like feeling jealous. Ever. I don’t compete and if I feel I have to I walk away from situations.
I am not perfect but I am me. I like to believe in fairy tales and love and being happy forever. I believe in soulmates and karma. I believe that we are here to teach and learn. I believe our souls want us to be happy. To let go of the chaos around us and live in true peace. To see the beauty in everyday even hard days. Even sad days.
I don’t like being judged or scolded. I like to be looked as a peer. I don’t like to be under appreciated. We all have value to give and add. I don’t like when people downplay my struggles or challenges. I am not a weak link just because I am sensitive and carefree. I don’t like when people try to intimidate me or bully me because it means I have to put up a tough skin and who wants to do that. I don’t like to have to be tough. I want to be carefree.
I want a lot of things. None material things. Like sunsets at night. Someone to cuddle with. Kisses on the forehead. I love to paint it relaxes me. I love late at night when everyone is asleep and I am alone in the house and it’s quiet. Where I can here the crickets outside and be in the dark. It relaxes me.
I am not perfect. I have a lot to still learn and that’s ok.
Learn from your flaws. Come to terms with them. We all have them.
Be Patient...
I was easily triggered. I hate when that happens. The beauty is I know when I am mad and why. I feel
it coming on. I don’t downplay it or hold
a grudge I say it... You triggered me. It’s the minute I feel I have to be defensive or I have to stick up for myself. I don’t want to. I want to be accepted or left alone. It’s not in me for anything in the middle. It’s not in me to convince you otherwise.
Then somehow my friend just made it better and I was ok. Even when I am mad he has a way of making me feel at peace. Not sure why but it helps peace flow in me. Maybe that’s why he has been in my life for a while now. Because there’s something about him that calms me, makes me be at peace that I just can’t seem to turn away.
Guess some people just have that magic gift.
Do You Know This Feeling?
It really starts from your hand and goes up your arm into your heart. Like a rush of blood or energy. It’s amazing. I never really felt it until after I had Thyroid Cancer. I would do reiki with my girls. I felt the heat from my hands over them. It’s really amazing.
I feel it now when I hold certain people’s hands. We block energy from coming in if we are full of anger or stress. Relax. It’s pretty powerful and calming. Hold someone hand up to your heart. You can feel it and it calms you.
We are powerful humans. We just don’t know how to use it because we get distracted by chaos around us.
Clear your mind.
Let it in.
Enjoy the flow.
Nice Guys Are The Way To A Happy Heart
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Love this and will always take a nice guy over a bad boy for sure.
Feel Good Song: Hot Gates
Soul searching is when you look at your pain and ask yourself who will save you and heal you. No one will
but yourself. The right one can’t come love you if you have the wrong ones standing in the way. Let it go. You deserve it all from the one who wants to give it to you.
Let Go...When Feelings Aren’t Mutual
When one person doesn’t look at you like you look at them and it hurts you well that’s when you let go and stop the pain.
I Don’t Compete & You Shouldn’t Either
I don’t compete and if I do it’s with myself. To make myself better. Not to prove myself to anyone. Not to prove my worth or value and you shouldn’t either. And if someone makes you feel like you should well they aren’t the right one for you. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel this way. I have walked away from a lot of situations where I didn’t want to prove myself to anyone. It makes you love yourself more.
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Step Away From The Phone
She made a good point. “What else am I suppose to be doing”
Um well....so I went out and got her stuff. Stuff we can do together or she can do alone. Stuff that would work different parts of her brain instead of being on her phone.
I must say it was a brilliant idea on my end! High five to me! Lol
At first she said I could keep the sudoku. Oh no we are doing this together. She was intimidated. She said she couldn’t figure it out until we did them together and then she was figuring them out on her own. I love sudoku.
Next were Mad Libs. We both had some great belly laughs this time. She was so happy I bought her these. She did them in her class for 5th grade. I want to go out this week and buy her more.
I wanted her to use her creativity and brain in a different way. I also wanted to stop seeing her on her phone. It’s hard being a single mom to three because I wish I could split myself up into three. As I am hanging with my oldest my other two are calling me
to hang with them so I am bouncing around room
to room. Which I love but still hard on them to not have my constant individual attention. Then again which kid can?
The sudoku and mad libs were a hit. We bonded and laughed and she went to bed saying she can’t wait to do more tomorrow. We tapped into her inner child mode and mine too. I must say I loved it. She brightened up. She became more alive.
Will this last? Who knows. If not I will have to attempt something else for her to do as a distraction. All I know is I am trying to have her walk away from
her phone and enjoy a different type of pastime.
What Are You Looking For?
Everyone has something to teach us. It’s those that bring our heart peace. Who calm us. You make us miss them. Who enrich us. Who help us grow and look at life differently. Those people deserve our time, attention and affection.
Never Assume...Relax...Trust The Process
We tend to over analyze. The what if’s. Sometimes just relaxing and going with the flow actually shows us that nothing is wrong. Just trust the process.
Sunday, August 11, 2019
Money Has Nothing To Do With How Rich You Are
Happiness. Now that’s something to be rich about. The green stuff..that only helps at the surface but not within.
Now This Is True Love
❤️
I won’t lie. I have had that feeling and it’s awesome. We all should have that person who makes us do a little happy dance seeing them.
Everything Ends Up Working Out
This is so true. Always always ALWAYS know that you always end up in a better place. No matter where you are today. No matter what pain you feel. Time heals and things always get better. ❤️
We Are Not 18 Anymore....But That’s Ok
My college roommate came down over the weekend. I love her. She’s so much fun. We have had some awesome girls nights together. So when she said I am coming to visit I knew we were in for a great time.
One reason I love Norwalk is you don’t have to leave it to have fun. The city is full of great restaurants and bars. Now there’s a couple of really fun Rooftop Bars which makes it even more fun to stay local.
We have been friends for 21 years. Crazy we have known eachother more of our lifetime than not. I remember going out dancing in college and waking up the next morning feeling fine. She was a nurse major so she would be up at 6:00 for clinicals.
Now not so much. We can still party but wake up sore from dancing. In bed way too late up too early. I couldn’t move my left side. She climbed in my bed and laughed asking if I had a stroke. Nope heels for 7 hrs will do that to a mom.
But our run down was awesome and perfect for a girls night with no cover and if you do it smart you can go out for $50 each.
Barcelona- tapas, sangria, awesome view
Sono Rooftop Sky Bar- just opened. A little pricey on drinks but they asked for our feedback. Stopped serving past 11:00
Evaritos Rooftop-mixed ages music playing loved how big it is
SOHO Bar- a woman DJ was rocking it last night. Loved it
Our House- upstairs is so chill and can run downstairs to dance
Tablou- my favorite place to end the night. Awesome salsa music and fun vibe
You’re never too old to enjoy a fun night out!
It’s Who Are Today That Matters
I learned that the present is the only thing that needs your focus. I learned to not let people bother me anymore. Who has time for that? I also learned to let the past go. Just living every day. Every moment at a time. Embrace it.
Feel Good Song: Whispers in the Dark
I rather live a life of fairy tale believing real, feel good love exists verse the reality of life of stress,pain and hardship. What do you choose to believe. ❤️
Saturday, August 10, 2019
348 Oyster Bar in Fairfield CT
How lucky are we to live in an area surrounded by awesome seafood restaurants.
We used to come here all the time years ago. We heard
they had new owners so had to check it out. I must say it was delicious and we can’t wait to go back. I had a hard time picking off the menu because there was so many awesome dishes I wanted to try.
they had new owners so had to check it out. I must say it was delicious and we can’t wait to go back. I had a hard time picking off the menu because there was so many awesome dishes I wanted to try.
We ordered clam chowder and their fried seafood platter as an appetizer. Was delicious. The fried fish wasn’t heavy at all. So tasty and fresh. They serve bread with roasted big chunks of garlic in the oil. Amazing!
Then I got the fish stew- my favorite. Comfort food in a bowl. The broth was smooth. Mussels. Clams. Shrimp. Filet. Scallops. I kept dunking the bread in the broth. This is like a big warm hug for me. My mom got their blacken shrimp tacos. Very refreshing.
We had to get dessert. Nutella puff pastry. Seriously I have been on a Nutella kick this week and this just topped it. The staff were awesome. So nice. We sat in the back patio. Was so pretty.
They have half price bottles of wine on Mondays. Can’t wait to go back and try the other items on the menu.
Welcome Back...J
(Old fashioned at 348 Oyster Bar with my Mom)
This morning my mom said Hey J, welcome back.
I didn’t understand what she was talking about.
What do you mean mom?
You haven’t been yourself for a little while and now I notice you are back to you and I wanted to let you know. I like that.
When did you notice a change back I asked her.
A week or two ago she said.
I don’t know what triggered a change but I do feel more at ease. More at peace. A lot of factors play in me bringing myself back to my core. My roots.
My true self.
I think it’s important we connect within with our true self. I think we get caught up in stress and noise. I have decluttered my life and surroundings. Some
home projects have been completed. My vacation helped me relax. I have connected with my true self and anything that doesn’t apply to it I dismiss. I have handled some matters professionally that have been a pain.
Life is never going to be perfect. It’s a rollercoaster ride. But when you lose your true self along the way it becomes a problem. My core is peace and calmness. Routine. Structure. When it isnt aligned or in chaos I don’t function how I should.
Be sure to always be in balance with who YOU are. To what YOU need in your life to bring yourself peace and calmness.
Cheers to your happiness and finding YOU!
Stop Chasing Butterflies...I mean Love
I took them outside. We swam. After a couple of hours they went to play on the playground. My niece kept saying to the sky please come down. Please let me know hold you.
Life has to be played this way. To be patient and calm. To not rush results. To not assume being aggressive always works in your favor. To understand that the happiest people are at peace within. That whatever is meant to be part of their life will come to them.
There was a beautiful butterfly. I love butterflies. They remind me of my battle with thyroid cancer. The thyroid is in a shape of a butterfly. But this time my heart hurt. All of a sudden. She was running all over the yard chasing this beautiful butterfly. She was begging for it to come down to her. She kept asking “why won’t you just let me catch you” It was like chasing love.
They say if you chase something you will push it away but if you let it be. Sit still. It will come to you. Like a butterfly. Like love. Not forced. Naturally drawn to you.
Life has to be played this way. To be patient and calm. To not rush results. To not assume being aggressive always works in your favor. To understand that the happiest people are at peace within. That whatever is meant to be part of their life will come to them.
You Will Heal...You Will Move Past This
In every situation pain doesn’t stick around forever. Everyday will get easier and easier. Everything heals. Even the heart.
That’s All She Wanted...
It’s ok to let your guard down. Even when you have been hurt. It’s ok to risk it...after all doesn’t everyone just want to end up happy and in love.
Friday, August 9, 2019
Awaken Your Soul
All wounds build character. No one goes through this journey without some pain. Don’t let it defeat you. Let it build you up.
Thursday, August 8, 2019
Last Day Of Camp....This Uber Mom Gets To Take A Break
6 times a day. Can you imagine? These last 6 weeks of camp I felt like a Uber driver. Three different drop off times for camp and three different pick up times.
By 4:00 pm I was exhausted. I would run around town. Work and run around town again. Finally today I said holy crap. This schedule was insane. Their Dad only dropped off one once a week and picked up one once a week so imagine. I drove around town 28 times a week. So whenever anyone questions a parent’s or mother’s role I just laugh. Don’t be an idiot and ever do that. It’s not ok nor fair.
Our roles are like no other. It’s a lot of work. I lay in bed writing after taking advantage of every minute in my day by doing something. Up by 6:00 in bed before midnight. Work out pack lunches and snacks for their day. Breakfast. Drop offs are 8:00-9:15 and working by 9:30. Back to all
School pickups. Snacks. Dinner. Cuddles and prepping for the next day again. Laying in bed with all three individually at night. Recapping the day. Bedtime kisses.
It’s been no joke. It almost easier just having them home besides making it extremely difficult to work. Take calls or concentrate.
I am not writing this to say all I do because you moms do it all too. I am writing this because it’s not easy. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate you for it well they can go for a walk.
Until you’ve walked in their, mine, moms, a parents, shoes well then you don’t judge. Don’t under appreciate a mom’s role. Don’t ever under appreciate all it takes to raise three kids or any kid for that matter.
SoNo Sky Bar & Cafe Opening This Weekend
Love the rooftop bars opening up around town. This one is located at 45 South Main Street in Sono.
They will be offering half price wine, beers and cocktails from 5:30-8:30 pm
Can’t wait to check this out.
*Picture source Instagram
Maybe We Don’t Always Want To Be Strong
I was talking to someone close to me who is having a series of not the best luck with her health. Another testing another result. Another plan to what to do next.
She’s in good spirits and said “We are some tough ass cookies 💪🏼 no sissy’s here. Haha” and I responded it sucks we always have to be.
Sometimes we don’t want to be. Sometimes we want to have someone comfort us and take care of us and say it’s not fair or ok, I am here for you, or for life to just be easy and normal.
Yes, be grafteful for the love and support but sometimes it takes more energy to always be strong and positive then to say you know what this time I am not ok. This time I want to just live a carefree life and not worry about tomorrow anymore.
I admire her strengthen but also feel that sometimes just sometimes living in a fantasy life helps verse the reality. Sometimes being strong always takes away a chance for someone to comfort us. Maybe showing our soft side doesn’t make us weak. Makes us human.
Feel Good Song: This Is What Makes Us Girls
We put love first. We want someone to put us first too. We want someone to soften us up even when we act too strong. It’s finding the right person to let our guard down with.
It’s Ok To Not Be Ok!
It’s ok to have days when you’re not ok. When you’re upset or sad or something bothers you. What’s NOT ok is not allowing to feel. To pretend to be ok. I have let my guard down a lot in the past and even the last year and a half. And it has backfired but taught me a hell of a lot about me and life and love and lessons.
Pain is worse than anger. I rather be angry then have pain in my heart. Complete sadness is heartbreaking. It’s a process we all go through at one point in life and it’s not fun.
Good Morning Visitors...
I try not to workout outside after it rains. It’s not as pretty. But this morning I wanted some fresh air. I heard crackling in the woods. I went up and down the driveway and then felt something looking at me. From a distance I saw baby deer hiding. I shouted it’s ok you can come out. I saw it wagging it’s tail so it was signally to the other one to come out too. It didn’t it stayed in the woods. But this one stayed near me.
It then just hung out while I worked out. I know sounds so silly but it was so peaceful. At the same time my favorite song from my honeymoon in Hawaii with my ex husband came on. I have healed from my marriage ending so things don’t bother me anymore related to it. I actually still like the songs and wedding songs. I have no regrets. All lessons learned. I felt it was appropriate timing to be on. Me outside working out. Deer hanging out. Yeah I know kind of a fantasy or not a big deal to others. But brought me a lot of peace and happiness so a big deal to me.
Men Are Just As Confused As Women
I love this guy and his real talk. Dating in 2019 is so different than twenty years ago. A lot of options. A lot of what ifs. This may help some of you going through the struggle.
No more games. Just everyone is trying to figure it all out.
Happy Thursday: You Are Enough
Repeat after me...
You are strong
You are beautiful
You are enough
Who doesn’t see that in you or make you feel that way well you know what I would say to them...you don’t have to but don’t stand in my way of those who can and do and will.
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