Thursday, August 15, 2019
The Three F’s...What Category Do They Fall In?
I have a friend who is recently divorced. Really sweet awesome girl. We hang out a lot and her dating game has been a roller coaster ride, like most of us. Maybe it’s me she said. Um no.
I had to call her and break it down. Listen we all have baggage and issues to deal with and resolve within ourselves BUT you’re not the problem. Who you are picking to date is the problem.
None of the guys are future material and that’s ok. So let’s break it down I said. Let’s put them in categories. Friends. Fun. Future.
Now think of all the guys you dated or want to date. What category do they fall in? What category did they put YOU in?
Now all these categories matter. They really do but we kind of confuse where people belong and well that's where we get hurt and mad and upset. That’s where we settle and burn. That’s where we hurt ourselves. We want everyone to fall in the future category but it doesn’t always work out that way. We also don’t match what category they put us in. Know your audience. I too have a lot to learn.
Try it...
It even applies to friendships really. Who is fun, night in, coffee days, vacation buddies. Not all friends can be in all categories.
Everyone you meet in life teaches you something. Even if it a quick lesson. The goal is to know yourself enough to know what you need and how to not just settle. It’s also to say I am happy alone instead of settling in life or looking for someone to complete us. You are complete. That’s not the issue. The issue is finding that person who puts us in the same category as we put them in. Someone to grow with and have a future with.
No time is ever wasted. Everyone role helped us at a point in our life when we needed them too. Yes heartache comes attached to it but let it go. Let go of the idea of something that isn’t there. I put dating on hold to just focus on the present. Because that’s what I need right now. You need to do what you need right now too.
Wednesday, August 14, 2019
CT Festivals Schedule 2019
I love festivals and carnivals and rides, games. The whole atmosphere just brings me to life. It’s that time of year where every weekend there’s something to do. Check out this awesome list:
Connecticut Fairs
https://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/local/Connecticut-Fall-Fairs-and-Festivals-2019-523455581.html
Say Hello To Your Future Self
We evolve so much. It’s amazing how many phases of life we go through. Who we are and become. What we need. What we are. It’s like living multiple lifetimes in one.
You never stay completely the same. Hopefully you grow wiser and calmer. Sweeter and happier. Grateful and knowledgeable. You start to appreciate the little things. Materialistic things no longer matter. Who you spend your time with matters.
I can’t wait to meet my future self and yours.
Thanks For Making Me Smile
It’s a good quality. To be able to make someone smile, especially when you’re not even trying. When it just comes naturally. We all have bad days. It helps when you can distract yourself. Glad when I can help someone smile. Even if it means distracting them for a moment. Knowing someone is there to help always makes things easier.
5 But How...
She turns 5. Today. Where did the time go. She snuck into my life. I just had treatments and wasn’t suppose to get pregnant. Then before you know it I am 10 weeks getting an ultrasound and there she was.
She’s totally different than my other girls. She’s super silly. Crazy smart. Blue and green eyes that change. She shocks me all the time. A total goof ball but can drive me crazy. Too independent yet sensitive. A total prankster.
She sings a song “my momma is the best momma oh my momma is the best momma”. It makes me laugh. She talks so much with is crazy for a Leo.
But she came into my life when I needed her and made me smile when I didn’t have it in me. I cuddled with her every night in bed for the first four months of her life and I didn’t care. She always gives you a hundred kisses before leaving. “Wait mom one more kiss”
All the rules go out of the window with this one and that’s ok. We all need some spunk and love in our life.
Who’s Holding You Accountable?
Be grateful for that person who calls you out. Wants you to do and be better. Wants you to be responsible and take care of yourself. That person is the one who will help you be a better person.
Tuesday, August 13, 2019
It’s Part Of Your Path
It was a moment of weakness. Being tired. Hustling. As I said the words I almost took a step back. Every struggle. Every moment of weakness was always for a better version of me.
Nothing you go through isn’t part of your path.
Tomorrow Isn’t A Given...
That feel my soul type of hug. Tomorrow isn’t a given. A friend actually said that to me last night and it’s true. A reminder that everyday is unpredictable. We don’t know what tomorrow will be like. So if I love you I will let it be known. You should too.
Kiss a little (if allowed hahaha) or hug tighter. Know that everyday isn’t a given. Cherish those people who do make your life better or happier.
You Can’t Push This...
Life is going to happen whether you have a plan or not. You have to be patient with everything. Live in the moment.
Monday, August 12, 2019
Rules We Must Remember in Life
This!! ❤️
A lesson will be repeated until it’s learned. Over and over again.
We All Have Flaws...Accept Them
What are your flaws?
I will share mine...if you share yours. Here it goes. I don’t like chaos. Sometimes it’s hard for me to accept and I immediately want things to go back to normal
and be calm. I don’t like feeling jealous. Ever. I don’t compete and if I feel I have to I walk away from situations.
I am not perfect but I am me. I like to believe in fairy tales and love and being happy forever. I believe in soulmates and karma. I believe that we are here to teach and learn. I believe our souls want us to be happy. To let go of the chaos around us and live in true peace. To see the beauty in everyday even hard days. Even sad days.
I don’t like being judged or scolded. I like to be looked as a peer. I don’t like to be under appreciated. We all have value to give and add. I don’t like when people downplay my struggles or challenges. I am not a weak link just because I am sensitive and carefree. I don’t like when people try to intimidate me or bully me because it means I have to put up a tough skin and who wants to do that. I don’t like to have to be tough. I want to be carefree.
I want a lot of things. None material things. Like sunsets at night. Someone to cuddle with. Kisses on the forehead. I love to paint it relaxes me. I love late at night when everyone is asleep and I am alone in the house and it’s quiet. Where I can here the crickets outside and be in the dark. It relaxes me.
I am not perfect. I have a lot to still learn and that’s ok.
Learn from your flaws. Come to terms with them. We all have them.
Be Patient...
I was easily triggered. I hate when that happens. The beauty is I know when I am mad and why. I feel
it coming on. I don’t downplay it or hold
a grudge I say it... You triggered me. It’s the minute I feel I have to be defensive or I have to stick up for myself. I don’t want to. I want to be accepted or left alone. It’s not in me for anything in the middle. It’s not in me to convince you otherwise.
Then somehow my friend just made it better and I was ok. Even when I am mad he has a way of making me feel at peace. Not sure why but it helps peace flow in me. Maybe that’s why he has been in my life for a while now. Because there’s something about him that calms me, makes me be at peace that I just can’t seem to turn away.
Guess some people just have that magic gift.
Do You Know This Feeling?
It really starts from your hand and goes up your arm into your heart. Like a rush of blood or energy. It’s amazing. I never really felt it until after I had Thyroid Cancer. I would do reiki with my girls. I felt the heat from my hands over them. It’s really amazing.
I feel it now when I hold certain people’s hands. We block energy from coming in if we are full of anger or stress. Relax. It’s pretty powerful and calming. Hold someone hand up to your heart. You can feel it and it calms you.
We are powerful humans. We just don’t know how to use it because we get distracted by chaos around us.
Clear your mind.
Let it in.
Enjoy the flow.
Nice Guys Are The Way To A Happy Heart
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Love this and will always take a nice guy over a bad boy for sure.
Feel Good Song: Hot Gates
Soul searching is when you look at your pain and ask yourself who will save you and heal you. No one will
but yourself. The right one can’t come love you if you have the wrong ones standing in the way. Let it go. You deserve it all from the one who wants to give it to you.
Let Go...When Feelings Aren’t Mutual
When one person doesn’t look at you like you look at them and it hurts you well that’s when you let go and stop the pain.
I Don’t Compete & You Shouldn’t Either
I don’t compete and if I do it’s with myself. To make myself better. Not to prove myself to anyone. Not to prove my worth or value and you shouldn’t either. And if someone makes you feel like you should well they aren’t the right one for you. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel this way. I have walked away from a lot of situations where I didn’t want to prove myself to anyone. It makes you love yourself more.
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Step Away From The Phone
She made a good point. “What else am I suppose to be doing”
Um well....so I went out and got her stuff. Stuff we can do together or she can do alone. Stuff that would work different parts of her brain instead of being on her phone.
I must say it was a brilliant idea on my end! High five to me! Lol
At first she said I could keep the sudoku. Oh no we are doing this together. She was intimidated. She said she couldn’t figure it out until we did them together and then she was figuring them out on her own. I love sudoku.
Next were Mad Libs. We both had some great belly laughs this time. She was so happy I bought her these. She did them in her class for 5th grade. I want to go out this week and buy her more.
I wanted her to use her creativity and brain in a different way. I also wanted to stop seeing her on her phone. It’s hard being a single mom to three because I wish I could split myself up into three. As I am hanging with my oldest my other two are calling me
to hang with them so I am bouncing around room
to room. Which I love but still hard on them to not have my constant individual attention. Then again which kid can?
The sudoku and mad libs were a hit. We bonded and laughed and she went to bed saying she can’t wait to do more tomorrow. We tapped into her inner child mode and mine too. I must say I loved it. She brightened up. She became more alive.
Will this last? Who knows. If not I will have to attempt something else for her to do as a distraction. All I know is I am trying to have her walk away from
her phone and enjoy a different type of pastime.
What Are You Looking For?
Everyone has something to teach us. It’s those that bring our heart peace. Who calm us. You make us miss them. Who enrich us. Who help us grow and look at life differently. Those people deserve our time, attention and affection.
Never Assume...Relax...Trust The Process
We tend to over analyze. The what if’s. Sometimes just relaxing and going with the flow actually shows us that nothing is wrong. Just trust the process.
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