Wednesday, December 4, 2019
Choose People Who Choose You
It’s not about feeling bad about yourself or down. It’s about being around people who bring you up. Who love you even for your little annoying habits not throw your flaws in your face. You have to choose people who look beyond your mistakes and issues. Who want you to be happy. Who support you. Those are your people. Not people who hurt you because you hurt them.
I learned a lot this year. I learned some people are selfish. Some people will lead you on. Some people don’t care to go out of their way for you.
I also learned about myself. Not reacting. Not trying to fix everyone. That everyone will have flaws. To treat people how you want to be treated.
It’s about being around people who love you even on your off and bad days. That’s the people you surround yourself with in your life.
Today Was An Off Day...Reverse Your Thoughts
I woke up early with all intentions for a great morning. My intuition was off. Something wasn’t right but I thought it was because I woke up a couple times through the night.
I took longer to get to the gym than I anticipated. I get there start my second machine for cardio and get a call from my oldest Daughter. She sounded off. Wasn’t a big deal but she began to cry and asked if I could bring her to school. She missed me and felt off. Of course I head over to her dad’s. Everything was fine she just missed me.
I drop her off and after I drop off her sisters. I watch my little ones all bundled and cute walk to the front of the school. They made me smile.
Then as I approach the exit a car enters the exit as I am leaving. It’s a one way. Not something they should have done. The car speeds in the parking lot and I sort of panic. I began to drive back home but make a u turn and go back to the school. The car was gone. I kindof just sit there to make sure everything is ok.
I come home and my mom said the highway shut down. There was an accident. She didn’t know details.
This day has been off since I woke up I said. I explained my morning and she said pray.
My girlfriend is very spiritual. She texts me and I ask if she was off today too. She wasn’t. She said reverse your thoughts. I said I will just sit back, meditate and reverse my thoughts.
Now when you think something negative or bad or get anxiety you have to reverse them. Sounds silly but I swear it works. I normally reverse it by saying today will be a good. That bad feeling will reverse into something positive and everything will be ok.
My day ended up being fine but for a minute I had to put my trust in God and a spiritual being and reverse my thoughts to change my energy flow. We all have off days. It’s normal. Just because our morning starts off wrong doesn’t mean the rest of the day has to be that way.
Reverse your thoughts!
How A Fig Brought Back A Ton Of Memories
I grew up walking in my grandparents garden and picking figs off their tree. You never realize how memorable things are until they are no longer available. After they past family members replanted the trees but the figs were never the same. Now when I see a fig it reminds me of my grandparents. It makes me smile. I remember my grandfather dropping off a plate of them to my mom. We just got used to it. Now I would love a fresh plate every weekend.
I was cooking blue apron meals and in a box came a dried Turkish fig.
It’s not as sweet as regular figs. But brought back a ton of memories just from seeing this. I smiled and brought one to my mom. Look a dried fig.
It’s funny how something so simple can bring back a flood of memories.
Tuesday, December 3, 2019
Let Go Of Fear...Go After What You Want
So many times we see barriers that prevent us from getting what we want. What if we left out emotions. What if we said tonight I am going to have the courage to do whatever it takes to get what I want. What if realistically you can have today already...everything you’re working towards. Picture it. Feel it. Now attract it.
Being Naive Isn’t a Weakness
You keep on believing on the magic girl. Who ever tells you otherwise doesn’t deserve your happiness. 💗
Oh 2019...
We start the year with intentions of it being the best year yet then you buckle up to go on the roller coaster ride. Ups and downs. Loops and flips. Emotionally, mentally, physically. At a point you say wtf was that. Yeah. Exactly!
A year of losses and gains. Of challenges and successes. Of lessons and experiences. Of adventures and pain. Hmmmm 2020 you seem to be looking pretty good.
No I don’t want to repeat this year ever again. I just want to take only the good and carry that with me
into the new year. The good memories. The good lessons. Nothing else.
Sometimes You Gotta Just Let Them Wear The Damn Dress
It was perfect. The delay allowed them to come to my house early this morning. After their Dad dropped them off they saw the dresses I took out for them to try them on. Before you know it I am taking their holiday card pictures and they are dressing up. Holiday music is playing. They are dancing.
After I say ok girls get your other clothes back on. “No I am wearing this to school my youngest said”. Um no you’re not I said. My oldest goes “I want to too”. You do? I ask all confused. “Yep” she said.
Fine, why not I say. My middle one said but I have gym I can’t. I said so wear sneakers.
I am not the same mom I once was. I used to argue no. They will get ruined. They are for Christmas Eve. Now I am like whatever wear your dresses. They looked so cute and happy. What do I care. Why not let them be happy now. We can’t control everything in life. Trust me I know. I learned that this year. Things will be what they will be.
Pick your battles. Everyday choose if your day will be good or bad. Learn to let things go. Learn to know you can’t force people to do what you want them to do. People will do what they want to do. Let it be.
Don’t Hide Who You Are
Be you. Say what you feel. What you believe. What you need. Those who stay are because they like the real you. Those who don’t will not like your truths.
Winter Magic...Christmas Cocktail Pop-Up Bars
It’s that time of year!!!
I am so into the holiday spirit. Last year life was different. I couldn’t let that bring me down so I decided to just embrace this life and enjoy it with those who enjoy me. I love creative, fun, different places to explore and discover. So I come across this site and am in love with these places to check out.
They have them all over. Check out the ones in Connecticut.
I have a trip to Colorado coming up and found a place there. I am going to NYC and found a place there. It’s so merry and bright and jolly. They are all over.
Spread holiday cheer. Love those who love you. Get your holiday partying on.
Monday, December 2, 2019
We Are Different People Based on Who We Are With
It’s a true statement. We are different people based on the people we are with. It’s ok. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not being fake. It’s adjusting ourselves based on our surroundings. I get it. I do it too. I also see people do it to us. Around us. They change who they are based on who is watching or who is around.
I do notice I tend to be more around people who I can be myself with. Pure self. Do you even know your true self? I like to believe my true self doesn’t hold back. She doesn’t Judge. She’s carefree and laughs and loves and wants to feel silly and not compete or be judged. I know when I feel I am being judged I have to defend myself and who the hell wants to do that. So I instead distance myself.
I am more stern and less silly around my kids. There are three. I notice around some close friends I let my guard down and enjoy it a lot.
I think we all go through these situations. It’s normal. I do think we need to continue to be around those who bring out our good and best true self.
Sunday, December 1, 2019
It’s Ok To Not Like Everyone
You’re not a fan of hers. I replied you’re right I am not. I don’t like how this person always throws jabs at me or interrupts me. I don’t like how they get carried away. You don’t like her. No I don’t and it’s ok. I also don’t like how their voice changes triggers me. I know I have to keep conversations short because they will escalate. I don’t like to be around people I am on guard with. I like to be myself.
I think what’s not ok is if I caused a fight when I was with this person or made them uncomfortable or hurt their feelings. I don’t. I just ignore them. I am quiet around them and keep my distance and that’s ok.
I think people think we are suppose to love and care and be nice to everyone. I don’t think you have to. I think you have to keep peace but keep your distance. I think you shouldn’t talk bad about them or hurt them but if someone hurts you or doesn’t make you feel good it’s ok to separate yourself from that person. Just because this person acts one way with someone doesn’t mean how she acts with me is the same because it’s not.
It’s ok to distance yourself respectfully. I think it’s time you take charge of your life and focus your energy on surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good.
I also think if problems can be fixed sure fix them but some issues go back a lifetime and well just keeping the peace seems to be the best solution. Some relationships and friendships can’t be repaired. You can be civil but don’t force things. Accept them and carry on.
Let’s Just Drive & Look For Holiday Magic
I went out to dinner with a girlfriend. We both kindof are seeking the same things in life. Yet we are both completely different. We like the simple things. So after dinner I said I really haven’t been in the holiday spirit until recently. Can we just drive around and look for Christmas lights? Her face life up. Of course. She said.
So we did. We just drove around. We don’t even know where we ended up but gratefully for maps we made our way back home. We stopped and grabbed hot chocolate. Talked about everything and anything. Have Christmas music blasting and took in the creativity around us.
Really a great night. Sometimes the simple things make the biggest impact. So thank you to everyone who decorated your house. Thank you for bringing some holiday magic into our lives and everyone who drives by your home. Cheers to you for adding some happiness to people who you don’t even know.
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