New Habits Different Life

Acceptance is the process of knowing that what is done is done. You accept it. You learned from it. 

Growth is challenging yourself to be better to achieve more. To become a better version of yourself. 

Spiritual healing is being in-tune with your deep core. Your soul purpose. Being calm. Really calm and happy with yourself so you can love others fully. 

No one has reached perfection. It cannot exist amongst us. 

What we can do is change our habits that didn’t do us justice. We can look for peace and calmness and reflect. We can say this didn’t work for me I will try something else. No amount of blame can fix you. You own it. Even if you didn’t cause the pain or misfortune or heartache. You still own and accept it and do things to change. To make yourself better.  

Minor changes first. Baby steps. Achieve great results in a short period of time. 

Today’s Affirmation: Your Life Is in Balance

Louise Hay is amazing. Her book  You Can Heal Your Life, is full of life and wisdom and teaches you about affirmations and guidance and self love. I love that they have these daily affirmations that I will be sharing we all can interrupt them the way we like. I chose to look at this as if my life is in balance. How my current life is it’s working for me. I hope you too create a life with balance and wake up and say I love my life. 

Doesn’t mean it’s perfect. It means you have accepted your current state and will embrace and honor it. 

Feel Good Song: Dancing Nancies

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“I am who I am”

Happy Sunday

Does Your Love Language Align?

I wrote about this last year here it’s important to know what makes you happy and your companion. Understanding who you are and what you need and want makes you a better person in a relationship. 

Growing Up In The 90’s Bedtime Humor

Let The Past Be The Past

Forgive & Start Again

At any point in your life you can forgive and start again. You actually should forgive. You should never hold hurt or anger in your heart for anyone. Try to understand why everything happened the way it did. Once you can healing becomes easier. 

Jan 11th You Got This Girl

For so long we take care of other people. Of course our kids come first but I am not talking about them. Kids are always top priority and should be taken care of. I am talking about people around us. Love isn’t painful or stressful. Yeah it’s work but when you are trying to fix people who should be fixing themselves it’s draining. Never again will I put in more than I get in return. Ever. You shouldn’t either. 

For so long I had projects after projects come into my life. These people didn’t give back to me what I gave to them. At the time you settle. You figure well they love me or they enjoy my company so that’s something. NO it’s not. It’s not at all. If you are not 50-50 in any relationship then you need to make changes or get out. I will never allow myself to give more than what I get back. Not out of selfishness out of knowing I too deserved the love and respect I invested in others.

I reflect on to those who came into my life and I wipe the slate clean. All but one person I invested time

in gave me that time and ironically he’s still in my life. He’s an overall great guy and been there for a long time. All the others in between just felt draining. It’s not what love and dating and relationships are about at all. 

I hope if you’re married or in a relationship you reflect. I hope you are in a relationship that is balanced. With a mutual love and respect for eachother. Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t make empty promises. Don’t settle. Don’t talk bad about your significant others to people. If you don’t like something communicate with them. I mean how can you spend your life with someone you don’t know how to talk to. 

If you’re single I hope you learn to fully love yourself and set boundaries to what you will accept and will not.  

All this means is I have yet to find the one. When you do none of this happens. It’s balanced. It’s a team effort. I do hope you understand the true meaning of love isn’t pain. It’s teamwork and companionship. It’s trust and choosing that person every single day. 

What Are Your Goals?

Lately it’s been a question we bring up. Today we asked again. What’s your word of the year? Mine was growth. We talked about self acceptance. Peace. Love. Change. On and on. The best part is every year is something different. Focus on something YOU need to change or fix or embrace or add to your life. 

Set a goal-weekly monthly yearly etc... How are you going to better yourself? What’s your one word for this year? What goals would you set for yourself?

There’s A Difference In Looking At One Self

Silence Your Brain

I decided to not make any plans. I haven’t had a break in a while. I wanted to regroup. Meditate. Cleanse the past. Heal my heart. Rest my brain.  I wasn’t sad at all. Actually really happy. I am learning the process of being alone while enjoying it. Actually really fully enjoying it. I said no thanks to a lot of people over and over who asked to make plans to hang or grab breakfast or lunch or dinner not because I didn’t want to but because I needed this time. I needed to be alone. Take care of me. 

But then something changed. 

I woke up worked out ran errands. Was so happy. My friend called she asked what I was doing. I said running errands and then going to the mall. She said me too. I said really she said yeah. I said great let’s go together. 

Can I tell you that changed my whole day. 9 hours later and my day that was meant to be alone was filled was awesome chats and shopping and eating and eating some more and fun cocktails and belly laughs and hanging in three different cities while meeting up with my sister and her best friend and this dynamic foursome took on the day and I freaking loved every second of it. 

 I want you to know it’s so important to rest your brain and heal and love yourself and your time but spontaneous fun...that’s priceless.  That’s healing. That’s love. That’s something you thank the universe for. 

The fact that having no plans made me so happy actually caused me to go along with my day and it turned into a fun adventure with us four gals. 

Being happy alone doesn’t mean you have to be alone. Today actually was exactly what I needed!

West Hartford Restaurant Week

Practice These Steps

You Can Handle Anything

💗 let any pain go...

Heal & It Will Show

Be Present & Find Your Balance

Best Pre & Post Work Out Food

Happy Saturday

Happy are those who get up and live. 

Jan 10th It’s Already Yours

It’s The Law Of Attraction

Speak Your Truths

Even when you may not want to hear it. Better to speak it out than ignore eachother. 

I knew a couple who went years without communicating. Can you imagine? Just getting by for years. I couldn’t imagine. I may overly speak my mind. That’s something I need to work on. But to go years without speaking about how you feel what you need what’s bothering you what hurts or makes you happy or mad or sad. That to me is more painful than any words ever said. 

Communication is so important. Do it. Speak your heart and mind. 

Full Moon Affirmation

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Feel Good Song: My Hero

Better Days Are Coming

Look For The Positive in Every Negative Situation

Take the time to reflect. 

Jan 10th Remain Humble

What’s In Your Cup?

Great video on why we react the way we do. 

Feel Good Song: 3 Nights

It’s a Sign or Is It?

You have to believe people who come and go in your life all happens for a reason. If someone chooses not to respond to you or give you time it’s all in the force of the universe. 

I don’t believe in games or hurting people. I believe we all have pain we need healing from. We should take space when we need it but do know if someone leaves let them leave for good. They aren’t meant for your current journey. 💗

Big Idea Never Start Off That Way

Cleansing Period

This is so true. The cleansing period. Not sure if it’s affecting you but definitely something we can relate to.   Do some soul searching and shadowing. 

Flip It Around

Jan 10th Be The Leader In Your Life

Be Open Minded

Your Daily Reminder

Let Life Happen

We can’t control everything or everyone. That’s a big lesson to learn. 

Women We Need To Chill Out

I have a friend. Super calm nice guy. I was speaking with him and I asked him how are men ok being single. Now I am ok being single but notice men just do their own thing and are happy. His response is something I have heard before but this time, for some reason, it stuck. Like a light bulb went off. 

He has his daughter 50% of the time so he went on to say he liked his alone time. What do you mean I said. He said well I work a ton. Have my daughter half the time so when I don’t I do the gym and CrossFit and chill. He’s learned to enjoy down time. To rest. He is very domesticated so takes care of his house and himself when he can. I said I understand but don’t you miss having a companion. He replied at times but keep in mind he was with his ex wife for 10 years. That’s enough for him. And to be honest he said. “You women are bat shit crazy. One minute you’re cool as hell. The next you’re salty and flying off the handle. It’s like woah what’s going on.”

I couldn’t help but laugh and I totally get it. He’s right. Now we can argue men make us like that because some really do but the reality is women emotions are completely different than men. We are wired differently.  We react. Now I know men who do too so men you aren’t in the clear yet but us women need to relax. We need to tone it down. 

The best thing about my friend is we have known eachother for almost two years. We hang just enough to see just the cool calmness of eachother. I have gotten salty with him before but space makes things more manageable. We also just talk and hangout for hours. It’s a really easy situation. Where we both are happy with it and it works for us. 

There’s always a time when we need to be reminded of stuff. That most men aren’t complex. Most of them tell you exactly what they need and us women sometimes aren’t sure with what we need. We then toy with our emotions and react because we don’t even know what the hell is going on.  

It really stuck with me our conversation. I hope this post sticks with you too. 

The Future Looks Bright

Lunar Eclipse Major Positive Change

Happy Friday!

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You Have A Choice

Own It

We all make mistakes. We all need a cooling off period. It’s ok to apologize. It’s ok to mess up. It’s normal. What’s not ok is not giving someone you care about the opportunity to make things right. That is where you lose the opportunity to have someone in your life. 

We must be aware of what happens in us. I have had my share of words out of anger just like you have. There’s been situations I wish I could change and was dealt with without a say in things going in my favor. I have apologized or reach out to make things better. 

I saw a post it said we all are going to die one day. Which is true. We are. What do you want to be remembered for? Who do you want to have by your side? Will your name be recognized 100 years from

 now?

Let’s stop pushing ourselves to the edge. Let’s love eachother and cherish what life has to offer. Apologize when you’re wrong. Accept forgiveness when someone has the courage to approach you when things got off course. Start over as many times as you need to. 

Be The Sunshine For You & Them

Be someone’s sunshine. Life is short. Let go of it all that doesn’t serve your purpose well and be happy. Embrace those who do and can be. 

Be someone’s sunshine. 

The Three Bodies

Before You Walk In The Door

I love this and it’s true. How many times are we holding a million things. When you rush in to start dinner or to start homework and after work activities. We need to pause. We need to realize what we’re walking into. Even if we have to fake a smile. Do it. I will too. 

Feel Good Song: Tear In My

Jan 9th What Do You Really Want?

Feel Good Song: Ghosts That We Knew

Heal & Teach Others

Feel Good Song: If I Had Eyes

Thursday Thoughts

Stop Overthinking

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Feel Good Song: American Baby

Jan 9th Happy Thoughts

Wake Up And Smell The Bacon

I had a friend who used to wake us up by the smell of bacon. Was awesome. My kids love bacon so this morning I was up early and decided to make some for them. I went to my oldest and said it’s time to get up and I made bacon. She hopped out of bed and said she thought she was dreaming. I couldn’t help but laugh. I remembered those mornings waking up to the smell bacon and I will tell you it’s better than waking up to the smell of coffee. 

Whatever you need to do be sure to do it so you start your mornings right! Also be sure to always remember the good memories in life. I know hardships is what makes things come to an end but do cherish the good memories. My memories of waking up to bacon will always be of good times. 

Happy Thursday All!

Thursday Vibes

Wake up and breathe. Take some minutes for yourself. Clear you mind. Get out of bed with both feet on the ground. Stretch and say today’s my day. A good day.