Monday, May 4, 2020
Sunday, May 3, 2020
Be You...Always
Your people will never change you. Ever.
On your life journey you spend a lot of time fitting in or figuring stuff out or creating yourself to then turn around and try to adapt to the people around you.
It’s so the opposite. Your people will never want that from you. Your true people will want the real you.
The goal is finding out who you really are and not changing to fit into anyone’s life or world.
I started to do this. I didn’t adapt to anyone anymore. I was just me. I will tell you it’s been working out great.
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Another Year...A Great Twist
Grateful for the messages and love and happiness everyone showed me. I am grateful for my Kids, my twin, family, and friends.
Birthdays are funny. They can be a little depressing. Getting older is never fun or is it. The best is this birthday was super special because I had no expectations. All my birthday plans got cancelled due to the virus. So anything that took place actually was a bonus. A huge surprise. Grateful for all the unexpected fun and love. It turned out to be a great weekend. Being with a lot of special people made me realize how blessed I am.
Appreciate your blessings too!
This is 40
I will take it. Friends came by and we did a social
distancing get together. It was amazing. Masks. Hand sanitizer and pure fun and laughs. They made it so special for us. Beyond what I expected.
I realized that I am so loved. That the times I was down or felt like I was alone I never really was. That even though some situations didn’t work out others did.
How amazing to wake up to texts and messages and my kids singing and friends and family pouring out love.
I am going to focus on my strengthens and happiness only. That’s it. I swear I will love all those who love me. Always. I am not going to change to fit in anyone’s life. I will only change things I want to change.
Cheers to 40! I have a feeling it’s going to be a great ride.
Saturday, May 2, 2020
When You Have Amazing People In Your Life
Turning 40...in less than 25 minutes and I swear at first I dreaded it. I mean thirties sound so much better than forties. But then I thought about who I was verse who I am now.
30-40 I had one hell of a Ride. Amazing events like having more children. Watching my girls grow. Growing my business. Meeting amazing people. Created memories of a lifetime. Traveled. Created amazing bonds with family and new friendships. I made a TON of people. I had an awesome journey.
Yet with every pleasure comes pain. I had cancer. I got a divorce. I had my heart broken. I moved out of my home. I had to recreate myself. I lost people I didn’t think I would lose. I ended relationships and friendships. I removed toxic people from my journey.
It was a lot.
I don’t want to do that all over again. I don’t plan to. This is new. This journey 40-50 will be remarkable.
I do like where I am at. I am happy with myself my journey my growth my spiritual self. I have learned to love differently. Appreciate things differently. I grew as a person.
I honor and love my body. I appreciate all I have.
I have so many amazing people in my life. I have good hearted people who love me and my kids and want me
to succeed and be happy.
How amazing is that. How amazing to know I haven’t even lived half of my life yet!
Cheers to the last hour of being in my thirties. Welcoming the 40’s because I know it’s going to be one amazing ride! I know that the best has yet to come.
Choose Your Partner Wisely
I feel second time around this is even more important. When you’re young you think the way you are and your partner is how you will always remain but you don’t. You change. A lot. Sometimes that change isn’t aligned with who you are and want.
I notice I change around my environment. We all do. I notice calm people make us calm. Chaos makes us crazy. Tension affects us. A gentle soul and kind heart can make you feel like you can deal with anything. Your core values have to be aligned.
Don’t settle. Now. Later. Ever. Choose wisely.
Communicate To Fully Comprehend
We don’t have to agree. I want to start my post by saying that. We just need to understand. Validate.
If someone is upset or off or angry there’s a reason. We may not agree. We just want to be heard.
A lot of relationships lack communication. Forget about comprehension. They don’t understand why someone is the way they are. They don’t understand why people see situations a certain way.
Overtime I changed. I tried to put myself in someone else’s shoes. I tried to understand that not all children or men or people are the same. We aren’t. We are all different and communicate differently and love differently and need things differently. We argue differently.
Homeschool taught me that my three kids learn differently. They can’t be taught the same way.
Dating has taught me that men communicate differently. Every single one. They love differently. They react differently. They argue differently. Not one is the same.
Life has taught me that we need to comprehend and understand how someone operates. How they think. Feel. Love. How they handle problems and situations.
Once you do it’s so much easier when dealing with them. We can’t generalize that all women are the same or men or kids. We aren’t. Individually we all need and act and love and learn differently.
If you love someone instead of trying to change them try to take the time to understand them. I am still learning everyday.
Friday, May 1, 2020
You Make Me Smile
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When was the last time you made someone smile. I was talking to him. He was telling me about a situation that took place this week and I said that sounds frustrating. I am sorry you have to deal with that. He stopped and replied “Wow thank you. It’s ok.”
His whole mood changed. Just from acknowledging and validating his emotions. It came natural for me but he reacted surprised of how easy it was for me to validate his feelings.
Let’s try to be happy and good to eachother and supportive. Let’s try to validate people. Let’s try to make everyone feel heard.
When was the last time you made someone smile or feel happy.
Focus on Your Strengths Not Weaknesses
It’s called the CoreClarity test by Gallup. A Strengths Finder assessment. Where you focus on your strengths.
A client had our team take it. Then we had a session where a coach analyzed and explained our assessments and results.
Above are mine. These are my top five talents. I must say it’s pretty on point.
The whole purpose is to know your strengths and use those to your advantage. Your full capability. See we normally focus on our weaknesses and try to fix and change them. How about we don’t do that anymore. How about we celebrate all we are good at and build a life and career around that.
Learn more about the test here https://www.coreclarity.net/
Never Going To Turn Around and Hurt You
I love finding these cool fun rocks while I walk. These said:
“Never gonna give you up. Never gonna let you down.” ❤️
Reminded me of the 80’s song. I have been rocking out to 80’s music. Maybe because it’s happy memories of my youth. Maybe because it’s familiar. Maybe because I am an 80’s girl. Regardless it’s fun.
Thursday, April 30, 2020
Take Control Over Your Emotions
Your emotional responses are your responsibility. 100% of the time. We live in a society where we blame others. Yes others cause our pain and frustrations but it’s how we handle it where our control is.
I always said someone should be able to go into your face and tell you to F off and you should have enough control over yourself to not react.
Now do we want that. No. Of course not. But how we react is our power.
Our power isn’t how people are towards us. Our power is how we react when they disrespect us or trigger us or cause unnecessary drama or pain.
We are in control. Are you in total control of your emotions?
Wednesday, April 29, 2020
Sit With It
Before reacting and yeah I do so well and then this last week I reacted so easily I had to refocus again but really before reacting...sit with it.
Chill out. Some days I am crawling out of my skin. I am so off. It’s awful. Then other days I am so chill and calm. This last week I could have used this chart. I didn’t know what was wrong. I mean yes we are living during a nightmare but I am grateful to have my family and friends and be healthy and safe.
Yet I still freaked out at times.
SIT WITH IT. Trust me ❤️
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