We all have different stories of the same situation. We view things differently. We interpret things different. We all look at the same sky at night and see something different.
Own your own story.
Friday, February 12, 2021
Thursday, February 11, 2021
Wednesday, February 10, 2021
Why Is Normal So Uncommon?
The other night we were watching a show and we realized the date. We turned to each other and said Happy Anniversary.
I said I know this sounds strange but thank you for always being so nice. After all this time you have never been rude to me or impolite. I never will be he replied as he kissed me.
He never raised his voice or belittles me. He never makes me feel silly for anyway I feel or anything I say or do. He never yelled at me. He genuinely the nicest, kindest guy I have ever met. He has never raised his voice to me.
He in return said thank you for after all this time for not turning out to be crazy.
We both laughed and said why is something so normal so hard to come by? Why must I thank him for being nice and he thank me for not being crazy and flying off the handle whenever I am upset.
Why is normal so hard to find? It is so uncommon?
He should be nice. I should not be crazy. These are common things expected. But they do not turn out that way. I have been with many unkind people. He has been with many crazy people. We both didn't deserve that behavior so now we value each other over something so simple. Our relationship works because we can have healthy calm discussions.
Think about the people in your life or have been in your life. How long have they gone without belittling you or being mean? Have they never been crazy. How long have you gone without yelling at them too?
I can tell you normal is amazing. It's refreshing. Be normal!
Embrace The Process of Healing
Healing takes place all the time. Every single situation teaches us we have some healing to do. My last three years has been a healing journey. I have come a long way. But I still have healing to do everyday.
I am not who I was. I won’t ever be that person. Healing helped me be my true self. Have you given yourself the opportunity to unbury pain. Hurt. Heal.
Please do it.
Tuesday, February 9, 2021
Do You Want Comfort Or Solutions?
Love this. It applies not just to relationships but in being there for anyone in your life.
Most of the time women want comfort. We want to vent. We want someone to say it’s all going to be ok or say nothing at all and just lend an ear. Asking means validating and means you’re listening and care.
Codependency Is A Real Thing
Have you ever dealt with this? Have you spared yourself at the sake of others? It’s a real thing. It’s hard really hard. The focus in within. In yourself. To change. To be ok alone. To be happy with what you have control over.
Stop always giving your all to everyone else and not getting it back.
Monday, February 8, 2021
Sunday, February 7, 2021
What Have You Done For Yourself Today?
I stayed in bed super late and took a walk in the snow. I shoveled while blasting some of my favorite tunes.
What have YOU done for YOU today?
Super Bowl 2021 Fun Facts
Large Super Bowl parties are a thing of the past. Unfortunately this year will be different due to Covid but here are some fun facts.
What State Has The Strangest Super Bowl Snacks?
What’s your FAVORITE super bowl snack? What’s your STRANGEST?
What if I told you Alaska was Paleo Salmon Cakes.
Here’s a fun article on each state's most popular Super Bowl snacks:
Super Bowl food: Ranking each state's most popular Super Bowl snacks, from worst to first.
Do You Have Any Real Intentions To...
I was asking for a change. For a couple of months. I finally asked “Do you really have any intentions of ...”
The question is to the point. Not emotional. Just to the point. Instead of that I could have said a lot leading up to the question but I didn’t. It’s straight forward.
I learned to do this when someone hasn’t given a clear answer or when someone says they would do something and never do. I started to ask this a lot.
What’s your real intentions. Deep down are you really going to do what I asked you to do or what you said you would do?
The response was “Of course, I will get it done” after I asked that it was done. It finally got done. After months of me hinting and not being straight forward it I asked one question and it was done.
I learned a lot from that one experience. One question. One situation.
I learned calling people out isn’t to start an argument. It’s not to be lead with emotions. It’s saying be real with me. Don’t BS me just so I shut up or I stop asking. What’s your true intentions means to be real with what expectations I should expect. To be honest if you’re going to get something done or just have me think you will.
I won’t lie I was so happy once it was done. It dragged a bit but it finally got done and well being straight forward has always been something I was good at. I had to just learn to leave emotions out prior to it.
Monkey See Monkey Do...Oh The Memories
It’s funny how something so small can bring back so many memories. I found this in my car yesterday. It brought me back to my trip to visit my best friend when she lived in Massachusetts.
It was the best weekend we could of had. We ended up eating an early dinner at a Chinese restaurant. Where we drank fish bowls. Later the place turned into a karaoke bar and then late night it was a night club. We stayed for hours. Laughing. Drinking. Singing. Dancing. Eating.
Memories are made to help bring happiness to our lives. Everyday is some BS to face. Responsibility. Outside drama. Chaos.
It’s unavoidable.
But happiness. That’s created. It’s created from little experiences and big experiences. Embrace that.
Meet Lucy Glo
I love Trader Joe’s and I especially love that store because I am always trying new food and fruit and whatever else fun stuff they have there.
This is the Lucy Glo Apple.
They come from Washington State. Sweet and a bit tangy. So fun. You think it’s a watermelon when you cut it. The red bright inside is so unexpected. The kids loved it
Saturday, February 6, 2021
Friday, February 5, 2021
Same Situation Different Reaction
You reach a level of growth when you can change the way you react to the same situation.
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