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Monday, July 22, 2019

You’re Always One Decision Away To Happiness



Read this again...you have to face it. You have to say ok this is my current situation and how can I leave or change to make myself happy. Only you can do it. No one else. 

We think we stay in situations because we have no choice. I swear divorce taught me a lot. It taught me so many people stay in unhappy situations because they feel stuck. It’s an awful feeling and awful way to look at life. You are never stuck. You always can have a better life. Always. 

You have to love yourself enough to know what you deserve. 


Feel Good Song: Goodbyes



“I’m no good at goodbyes”

Emotional Connection Is Good For Your Soul


Never be afraid to say what you need. Never be afraid to leave if your needs aren’t being met. 

Material Things Are Temporary...


This thing called love...well that always lingers in you. 

It’s Ok To Ask For Help...It’s Ok To Not Be Ok!

She’s amazing. Probably one of my favorite people. She and I have been friends for over 10 years. We met from our ex’s being friends. We started to hang out more than they did.  She’s just full of life and love and if she didn’t live so far we would be raising our kids together. We have had some awesome nights together. We have partied hard yet she’s watches my kids whenever I needed. She’s really incredible. She called me the other day. Asking how I am,how are the kids and then she says causally I have breast cancer. 

I was walking into the bank froze and walked out. I know she’s going to be ok. I know they found it early but my heart sank. She’s the girl you want to have all
the happiness in the world. She’s the girl that always put everyone first. 

She knows my past with cancer so asked if I had any advice. I did. I said don’t be so strong. It’s ok to be sad and weak. It’s ok to ask for help.  You don’t have to do it all on your own. 

She responded I know. I said no promise me you will
feel. 

It’s like anything in life. We fight or flight. We go into survival mode and settle. We act like we’re ok when we aren’t. We are scared of change and what’s ahead. We must feel. We guard our emotions and I get it but it’s damaging. 

Not everything in life is ok and that is ok. Not everyone has to be so strong. It’s ok to be scared and afraid or mad. I didn’t want help when I had cancer. I was grateful I had it from my family and my ex’s. Friends helped too but I wanted my routine to be the same. I didn’t want anyone to look at me and think oh poor Jay. Stupid I know. I learned now. I learned it’s ok to ask for help and feel. It’s ok to not always put up a tough front. It’s ok to be weak and communicate what you need. 

You’re Allowed To Have Moments Of Weakness:

Live in the Moment...


Live in the moment. What will be will make it’s way to be. It’s all part of our journey and story. 💛

The Calm Before The Storm...What’s Your Escape

When you need to squeeze in some zen before your day then stop by your local beach. Today the sky looked fake. The water was low tied and calm. The sky was perfect. It was a great way to start our day. Even if it was only for a short period of time and before the weather called for later showers and bad weather. 




I have a long weekend getaway coming up and I texted the girls to say I can’t wait to go to the beach early morning or late afternoon. It’s my favorite part of our trip. We pack a cooler. Wine. Food. Play frisbee. Walk the beach. Laugh. Chat. It’s so therapeutic. We do it for hours. 

What do you do to escape?




Happily Ever After Is Up To Me..



It’s not attached to a person anymore. That’s not fair when it is. It’s so much pressure. So much goes into it. So many what ifs. I can’t deal with that anymore. 
I can’t deal with the not knowing where I stand or what will happen. I have tried to figure it out and well I just can’t. 

One person always loves someone more than the other. It’s normal. It’s not fair to be single and say I can’t have my happily ever after. I refuse to say that. 

I will work on it.  Alone or With someone. Regardless. I deserve it. Just like you do.  

Cheers to finding your Happily Ever After as I find mine!

Did You Know....Where’s My Car Parked?



We have been coming to Calf Pasture Beach in Norwalk since May and today was the first time I noticed these signs in the parking lot. Cute and clever so you can remember where you’re parked. 





Feel Good Song: Ready


Bartending Competition Tonight At El Segundo



Monday Motivation: Let Go & Embrace What Is


Let go of the idea of how things should be. Embrace the life in your head and heart. You can’t fight what path life is taking you on. Embrace the change!

It Happens...Deal & Heal



💜

Sunday, July 21, 2019

Beauty Isn’t Just On The Surface



Your core, your personality and soul must be beautiful too. 

You’re Simply The Best...That’s The Goal

The goal is to find someone who brings out the best in us. Who encourages us to be our best. To be happy. To be real, our true self and loves us for that. There’s truth in our life that who you surround yourself with is who you become. It goes for our relationships too. Love this article. 



Relationship Goals...



Can I Have Your Attention?



Awesome reminder!

Feel Good Song: Good As Hell


Jones Family Farm in Shelton






We go every year. It’s my favorite. I love going to farms and picking fruits or pumpkin patches. I love tractor rides and hay rides. I know sounds silly but it teaches you a lot.


First these farms are amazing. So clean and manicured. It’s showing us, the kids how a product goes from the field to the store. It’s hard work. You have to appreciate it. You’re under a net picking fruit. We actually pay to do this while farmers do this all the time for a living. It’s kindof funny how that works out. 


Second it doesn’t get anymore organic than this. Picking blueberries are my favorite because they taste amazing. They are super sweet and so good for you. You can eat them fresh or frozen and they are just as good. Also blueberries last a bit longer than fresh strawberries. 

It’s a great outing and you get to enjoy the “fruits of your labor”...see what I did there. 

I want to go back and try their vineyard. I heard they have strawberry wine. 


Be sure to call ahead to see what time picking takes place and what field.

St. Ann’s Italian Festival July 25-28th 2019



Great festival. Love the pizza fritta. A lot of fun for the kids. Check it out on July 25th-28th. 

Focus On Being Happy



Be happy. Be around people who are happy. No explanations. Do things that make your heart and soul happy. 

This Morning Zen...Well Sort Of

I did my normal morning routine. Up too early. Worked out outside. Got my 3,000 steps in and then....


I said they could join... By 7:05 am we were all in the pool. 


I told them no toys. We will exercise listen to the birds and music. 



No jumping or diving. No screaming. Not only for our own peacefulness but to be courteous to our neighbors since we are up way too early for a Sunday. They loved it. They asked if we can do it every day. 

Then toys got added and well it started to take a turn so we got out to make breakfast and as I thought why can’t we just be 100% peaceful I reminded myself that they are children. They are restless and their minds  are all over the place and it’s normal. So I said we would try this again another morning and they all were very happy. 


We don’t have many weeks left of summer so this routine is awesome for me because it’s new and temporary. When Fall approaches I will have to get a new routine. Until then I love waking up and getting outside. 

What routines have you started this Summer?

Moms Support One Another...Always


We’re all trying the best we can. Be sure to encourage one another. 💗

Love Doesn’t Have To Change


But it can’t be good forever? Who says! Love is magical and doesn’t have to change. It changes when people change. There’s a difference. 

We all need something to believe in ❤️

What Makes Your Soul Happy?




Do it today! Whatever it is. Whatever makes your inner child dance and smile. 

I did already this weekend. I saw someone who makes my heart happy and well sometimes that’s all it takes. I woke up early and worked out. I swam. I celebrated two amazing people anniversary. I spent time with my kids and family. This weekend has been great so far. 
My soul is at peace. 


Now it’s your turn. Make your soul happy! What will it take? Who does it take? 

Trust The Process Of What’s Meant To Be...



If it’s meant to be it will be...❤️

Sunday Motivation: Focus On What’s Really Important



Saturday, July 20, 2019

Believe & Receive



Always Be Yourself




Never change. Be you. 


Happy 45th Anniversary



Love is...I remember being a little girl and watching my Dad walk in the house. My mom was cooking. He would blast his favorite Italian song grab her with her wooden spoon in her hand from making dinner and dance with her. She would laugh and tell him to stop but he wouldn’t. It was cute and romantic and playful.

I won’t say their marriage is perfect. Perfect doesn’t exist but they did show me how love should be and well it’s given me hope that one day I too can have that type of love. That soulful love. Where your heart stops and yet you two live a real life together. Tackle real problems. Be a real team. 

Cheers to 45 years. Cheers to knowing true real love is possible as long as you’re with the one who brings out the best in you. As long as you're a team. Are each other’s best friend. Laugh together. Make eachother feel good. Everyday it is work yet fun. You respect and trust eachother. Always. ❤️



Backpack Giveaway Sunday July 21st



Heat Humor...Too Hot For Any Of This



Look At What You Gained...




Every loss teaches you something. I spoke to a friend the other day who really is a great person....no love connection just a friend. He is coming up next week and wants to do dinner. We are getting a group together and when I think about this group it hit me. This group was built on my new experience in life. New path.  New journey. New friendships. New relationships. Made past friendships stronger.  Created new friendships. Before I know it we have six people coming for dinner who didn’t even know eachother until this last couple of months. 


Last night I am driving to meet friends and all of a sudden I am smiling My life is pretty damn good. All this time I am dwelling on this year’s heartache and it hit me that if I didn’t go through that I wouldn’t be where I am at today. I wouldn’t be meeting people I have met. I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing. I wouldn’t be experiencing life the way I am. 

And it’s really a lesson to you all. If you didn’t go through heartache or hardship you wouldn’t be as happy as you are now. If you’re going through it now trust me you’re better off at the end. You will learn from it. You will know where you belong. 

I am living the life I choose to live. For a while I missed people who weren’t in it anymore. But it opened my eyes to those who are and the new ones I met and will continue to meet along the way. How amazing is that! How lucky am I and you to have these experiences bring new people into your life. Show you how much the ones who are in it love and care for you. 

Those who left...you have to look at the win and let them go. Let them do the work to come back in. You are no longer responsible for that. 

Happy Saturday! You’re Amazing!



Relax...It Will Come To You



Are You Dreaming Of Me...


Can’t sleep? Up through the night? Maybe someone else is keeping you awake..in their dreams. But really who else is up right now?

I was telling a friend how I couldn’t sleep. You have to rest the mind inorder to sleep he said. The crazy thing is I have more energy then I have in a long time. I am at peace. My mind is relaxed. I just don’t want to sleep. I can function on 5 hours. Which isn’t ok. It’s not enough but this last two weeks I wake up through the night full of energy. So I write or lay in bed counting how many hours I got of sleep. I won’t start the day before 5:30 am. I mean would you? But here’s a real reason why I may be waking up in the middle of the night.  

Exactly Why You Keep Waking up in the Middle of the Night, According to Doctors


Your Story Will Help Others!


I can’t say this enough...you, me, everyone we meet has something to learn and something to teach. Set backs and down falls gives us knowledge that we can then share with someone else and help them get through what we went through. 


It teaches us to have compassion. 

Friday, July 19, 2019

The Signs Of Self Care



What Are You Holding On To?



They say whatever you do in life you give up something to gain something else. Is it a desire? A lust? A need?

Only you can answer it. Only you have the power to say I am going to let go to pursue happiness. I spoke to a friend I care a lot about. Torn in their current situation. Of course I am not the one to give them the best advice. My emotions get in the way of logic. But one logical comment I said was you have been hurt a lot and you lost trust. It’s normal to resist. Trust is hard to regain. 

I walked away from a situation that didn’t emotionally make me feel good. Trust was gone. Hurt was present. I didn’t stay. I didn’t stay because I knew I could never allow that person back in. Trust was gone. 

You have to think about the same thing. What are you holding on to? Is it fixable? Do you want to even fix it. What are you giving up instead? What’s your heart really telling you it wants?

Everyone is different. We all settle in life. We all give up something to gain something else.

Some may ask What are you losing by staying. What are you losing by leaving. Whatever it is you have to focus 100%. Too many people get hurt if you don’t. 

What about saying I want to be happy. I am sorry whoever doesn’t understand it. In time they will. How about stop making excuses and for once say I will do what I want and to do. 

Self love and self respect is only something you can make a priority. Don’t be sad. You can change your life at any moment. You can give yourself the life you truly deserve. I did. 




Feel Good Song: Wilder Mind


Love this song! 

Why I Write & Why You Read It...I Make You Think


I write for you to view life a little differently. It also helps me too. Writing is a therapy to me. Helps me share my views. I love doing it. I don’t know who vists my blog but I am grateful for you! 

I hope what I write adds some peace to your life. Hits some personal moments in your life when you say “yeah that’s so me” or “yes that makes complete sense”

I write trying  to help you. While it’s helping bring peace to me. 

Self Love...


Love yourself even if you’re not exactly where you want to be in life. 

Let’s Take A Ride...

I love doing this. Just take a ride to pass time. I did it the other day. Drove my daughter through Rowayton. It was beautiful. The houses felt like beach homes. All different sizes. Lawns green and manicured. I had friends who lived in Rowayton growing up. I hung out there at times. I guess I just never took the time to appreciate the beauty of it. 

They even have this sign hanging up as you enter it. 


There’s the slow down children playing signs everywhere. You can see kids walking and riding their bikes to camp. 

It’s really a whole different dynamic. Not sure if any of my readers are from there but if you are I hope you embrace the beauty in it. 

As I get older I am starting to appreciate the little things. Things that I never gave much thought to throughout the years. 

Switching Things Up: Eliminating Flour & Sugar

It was the strangest thing. I couldn’t get out of bed. My bones hurt. The pain wasn’t unbearable just strange. I needed Tylenol. I tried stretching. I stopped running outside.  I saw a couple of doctors and nothing was out of the norm. My thyroid doctor changed my dosage and it helped a little bit not as much as I hoped. 

I started to notice I was getting swollen. Really bloated. My hands and feet. My abdomen. I even had a minor procedure to test an abnormal finding and it came back negative. I couldn’t figure it out. Stress? Depressed? I tried to change my routine. Meditate. Not think about things that once brought me down. Not be sad and try to see the positive in everyday.  Nothing helped.  

Then one day I started to keep track of what I ate and when I started to feel off. I knew it was something I was doing but didn’t subconsciously know. 

I then stopped eating sugar and white flour, processed flour and food and cut down my salt.  I  gave it a week. After the first 48 hrs I felt amazing. No pain. No soreness. Like what I was feeling before totally went way. 


I actually had an enormous amount of energy. My skin looked better. I wasn’t swelling up. Elimating processed foods was making my body feel normal again. I was reacting to sugar and white flour this whole time. 

The funny thing is this. Before they found out I had thyroid cancer they thought I was insulin resistant. With that I did the insulin resistant diet . It was about balancing protein and carbs. I felt amazing. To this day I say to my girls drink a glass of milk with your cookie because the protein will balance the sugar. 

Then before my treatment for Thyroid Cancer you have to do a RAI diet. Low iodine or no processed foods. It was pretty strict. You eliminate iodine so when you do RAI treatment your body absorbs it and kills any Thyroid cancer you have left it you body. 

I felt amazing on this diet. My skin. My body. I couldn’t believe how amazing I felt. It was work preparing for sure but I had no choice.  It was like I was eating how we are suppose to eat. Natural foods. Low fat and limited salt. Pure organic. My mom would make me bread with special recipes from here I remember I cut my finger by night it healed. Like magic. It was so crazy to me. My skin looked amazing. I looked so young from not having processed foods and everything in pure form. 

So I am not a doctor. You need to consult with your doctor before switching your diet. I will say I did loose weight already from this. I feel healthier and happier. My body does not hurt at all. I have plenty of food options and even eat now every couple of hours. I am excited to see how my body with transform in the long term doing this so stay tuned for updates. 

Why did eleminating sugar and flour help me already so much:

Here’s why: 


Music Is A Part Of You...


Holding on to pain is hard. I was walking the other day and it hit me. I got so sad. Music triggers it. I swear every time I feel that way my girlfriend texts me. “Are you ok?” I now laugh about it. She so knows. She’s very intuitive. I can’t explain it. She’s spot on every time. So I had to shift gears. I had to say not be sad it’s ok. I had to tell her I was ok. 

Pain sticks with us. It really does. It’s our job to heal from it. Feel and release it. Music is a great way to do it. 

Feel Good Song: The Guy Who Says Goodbye To You



Ladies this song is for all of you! ❤️

Friday Motivation: Embrace The New You



Westport Fine Arts Festival Is This Weekend



Thursday, July 18, 2019

Life Lessons...Learn From Them!


Learn from it all...they are all teaching us something. Heartache means you loved. Tears means you can feel. 

Holding back means you lost trust in someone, you don’t want to open up to again. Your soul may be tired and knows to protect itself. You aren’t ready to give them what they think they deserve. Or maybe they aren’t the person you want to give your love to. Maybe they aren’t worthy and that’s ok too. 

Pulling you close to someone means you’re not ready to let go and you’re holding on for a reason. 

 There’s all these things that build us up. Teach us. Help us grow. Help us find peace with ourselves. It’s all a process. A growing process. Don’t fight it. Learn from it. ❤️

Feel Good Song: Steal My Sunshine



💛 Be someone’s sunshine. There’s nothing better than that. 

Embrace The Lessons






Embrace the lessons and learn to stop giving your love away to people who may not deserve it or appreciate it. 

Love Yourself...Everyone Else Is An Added Bonus



The power of the universe is when it shows you so much when you couldn’t see it yourself. When your mind isn’t clear or your brain is preoccupied. The universe brings people into your life to see things for what they really are. 

What you need. What you don’t see in yourself. It’s magical. Love yourself. That’s all you need. Anything else or anyone else is an added bonus. 

Feel Good Song: You Get What You Give


Don’t Lose Yourself In The Process



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