Friday, October 25, 2019
It Started Out As A Regular Morning and Then...
I was driving my girls to school. I dropped off my oldest and was heading to bring my little ones to school. On the radio I heard a contest. It said “If pumpkin is the number one Halloween costume pets wear on Halloween what is the second most popular costume?”
I shout out a hot dog. My girls said what. I said the answer has to be a hot dog. My middle one says oh I get it and laughed.
I called in and before you know it I am on the radio and so are my girls and we won a weekend getaway.
Check me out:
You Must Accept to Move On
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We don’t always have control over situations. We get dealt a situation and we only play a role in it. Sometimes the role we play isn’t fair nor good for our heart or soul. But then something happens. We gratefully adjust to the fact. We gradually move on. We gradually know that you can love someone and it doesn’t mean they will be in your life. Just means you carry them in your heart.
You then distract yourself. You meet new people. Create new memories. You grow. You love yourself more and heal parts of you.
It’s ok to move on. Even if it doesn’t make sense. It’s ok to love someone or have memories or a heavy heart. It’s ok to know that we are all here learning everyday. Some days are better than others. Some people you will always have tears for and that too is ok.
It’s being torn between your head and heart. Knowing what needs to be done and your heart feeling it wants to do something else.
Halloween Fun in CT
Not sure where to go or what to do. Check out some
really cool haunted houses and hayrides in our area here https://www.damnedct.com/connecticut-halloween-events#fairfield
Thursday, October 24, 2019
The Little Things...
This morning’s car art courtesy of my kids ❤️ I walked up to my car and laughed. They totally get me.
Thursday Vibes...It’s Ok
It’s been a weird week. Where my intuition has been spot on. When I thought of someone. Then they reached out and I woke up to my phone suggesting a photo memory of an event we attended in February and I smiled and said it’s ok.
It’s ok to have people in your heart and mind but not your life. It’s ok to miss someone. We all think we need a bad or civil agreed ending. Some times things don’t fully end. Sometimes time just passes and we move on with life..slowly. But regardless it’s ok to have memories. It’s ok to have good or bad days. It’s ok to love someone even after they have hurt you or things didn’t end up the way you wanted.
Coming from a long marriage I had a lot to learn. After dating and meeting someone who I cared a lot about I had a lot to learn. Even now I am learning. But I do know I rather have civil endings to situations than hurtful angry ones. I don’t want to carry anger in my heart for anyone nor want them to have it in their heart for me.
You can love as many people as you want. You can have people come in and out just as long as you know that some things remain in the past and some cannot be a part of your future. You can start again and still carry memories with others with you. Things don’t always come to a complete end and I am happy accepting that verse knowing something has ended forever.
Wednesday, October 23, 2019
Halloween Crafts
I LOVE crafts. So when I came across these I had to share them. There are so many really cute and easy crafts for Halloween to do with your little goblins.
Too Creepy to Eat...
I love some of these recipe and also some made my stomach turn. What do you think you could handle eating? Bloody Mary syringe or a jello brain? Check out these really cool yet creepy recipes.
Can You Be Too Happy?
We all have had bad times in our life so now we can appreciate the little things. Being happy is a big goal. Pain still carries in our hearts but how amazing when we can see beauty in little things. When people around us bring out the best of us and we love life. Fully. Happiness. Pure joy.
So what’s this being too happy about. I had to look it up and found an article.
So maybe being too happy to some may seem bad. I won’t lie. I have my good and bad days. I can snap and just like everyone else need my alone time but I also realized that my happiness changes based on my audience. When I can be my true self. Without being on guard. I am 100% a ray of sunshine. Happy. Bright. When I am on guard. Overwhelmed or need to watch what I say or do I am not.
I think most of us can relate to that. Bottom line your happiness varies based on what makes you happy in life. Simple things make me happy. Good company. Good conversation. Me being real.
What makes you happy?
Live In Balance
Forgive. Let go. Move on. Have balance. Have happy times.
This week I was great and then a memory popped up. I said out loud why am I thinking of this person or situation.
It was ok to let it bring me down but then I had to say let it go. Keep going. Right! Isn’t that life? You just keep going.
Stay positive and motivated.
Live in the Now
Sometimes it’s all in your head. Really it is. Sometimes we think about situations and it triggers an emotion in us. What if we lived in real time. The present moment. We would have so much less to be sad or worry or mad about. We wouldn’t stress like we do. Let’s try it. Let’s forget the past. Forget past hurt and pain and anger. Live at this current, present, moment.
Let go of what should have been or could have been or would have been. That life is gone. Anything this year that let go of you means time for you to let go of them. Any love you have for someone who didn’t reciprocate it to you doesn’t deserve to be lingering in your mind.
Stop. Let it all go. Now live in the present moment. Focus on what’s around you NOW. Who is around you. What you need now. Not then. Not the past. Not the future. Now.
Are You Inspiring Others?
We are all here to teach and learn. Everything in life inspires us. Are you inspiring others?
Tuesday, October 22, 2019
The Type Of Friendships You Need
If you’re not feeling good or if they trigger something in you then they aren’t meant to be in your life. Friendships at this age are important, yet can be hard to maintain. Everyone has a lot to juggle. Work. Kids. Relationships. Marriages. Companions. Sports. Kids activities. Gym. Careers. Homework. School activities.
So when you have someone in your life who makes you feel good and happy you have to show them
your appreciation. Even if it’s a quick how are you text or let’s do dinner text. It’s so good for you to get out.
I once had a friend who said they got sick of people easily. It would bother me. Like if you’re sick of someone then they aren’t really your friend and it is best you’re not in each others lives. Friendships are people who bring out a side of you that you like. Who are fun. Carefree. Drama Free. Friendships aren’t meant to be work. They are meant to help you escape from things that are work.
Be selective who you let in. Be selective who you share your energy with. Cherish those friendships that make you feel young. Make your soul happy. Those type of people you don’t let go of.
Healing Begins When You Let Go Of How Things Should Be
This is a hard lesson to learn but I promise you can heal from it. For anyone dealing with a breakup or heartache or losing someone you love. Take the lesson. Learn from it. Heal and move on. Everyday gets easier. Trust me. ❤️
Spooktacular Halloween Appetizers
Need some fun Halloween snack ideas. Check out this awesome list of fun spooktacular recipes from Country Living.
Your Only Power is Within
When you’re balanced. Have control. You become untouchable. The things that damaged you no longer damage you. The pain you once had actually gave you power. It’s hard to manifest but once you do amazing things happen to you.
Over and over again women in my life said if you leave a door half open you’ll never allow someone else the opportunity to come in. They were right. Once I fully closed that door shut within 48 hrs I opened a new door and let someone else in. It was pretty crazy and amazing. Unpredictable. Unplanned. Sort of just happened.
Don’t deny yourself the power of happiness. To remain calm. To have control over your feelings and emotions. It’s an everyday job but worth it. Never ever leave a door somewhat open to an opportunity or person who isn’t willing to give you what you fully need or deserve. When you do you pass up opportunities to people and situations that deserve to be in your life. You deserve happiness. You deserve calm, happy, good situations. You deserve good conversations and company. You deserve to remain calm and not allow people or a situation to trigger you.
Monday, October 21, 2019
Stop! Let’s Talk About It
Aggressive, physical behavior is taught- indirectly. It’s seen. It’s a way for us to express how we feel without using words. I get it but it’s 100% wrong. It’s never ok. Ever.
My kids hit eachother. I get it. My sisters and I did. We did some damage to eachother growing up. But I don’t want my girls to think that’s how we should communicate. I have never hit them. I may yell and punish but we never were physical with them
so I expect them not hit either.
So I have been enforcing a violent free home. Even anger and rage. Not ok. We need to be able to stop. Listen. Process. THEN React.
Yesterday my middle one did it backwards. I finally said explain to me what triggered you. She couldn’t. She said she couldn’t put it into words. So I said fine. Draw it.
She did. We discussed it. I repeated that she can not take matters into her own hands and to Stop. Listen. Process before Reacting.
It’s funny when you speak to kids they may say I don’t know what that word is or what that means. So you have to explain it all. I had to explain to process- think about what’s happening. Think how should she handle the situation. Before reacting.
Every home should be a violent free home. We haven’t learned how to communicate properly. I haven’t. You haven’t. No one really has. So we repeat these cycles. It’s damaging. It’s wrong.
I never realized how damaging until I started to meditate. When I meditated I couldn’t calm my brain because I would see aggressive behavior being acted out in front of me. It’s not ok. Never. It’s damaging. Whether it happens once a month or once a year it’s too much.
I started to change my cycle. I would meet men who were manly men but very calm. Not aggressive when upset. I started to be close to friends who were calm. I learned that you can be upset without yelling and swearing or breaking something or intimidating someone. It’s awful. Not ok. Very immature.
We have to teach our kids how to communicate. How to not first react then process listen and stop. It’s the wrong order. It always has been wrong but we have been witnesses to it. Every action has a consequence. We as parents, adults, role models must learn how to speak and deal with our emotions properly because our kids are constantly watching. We also need our kids to know that violence is never ok. Verbal or physical reactions are never ok. When we are triggered we have to stop. Even if it means walk away. Don’t answer the phone. Don’t respond to a text. Do what you need to do to make sure situations don’t escalate.
I can’t believe how many people have been exposed to violent behavior and situations including myself. It’s a cycle that must be broken and starts today with you and me and everyone. Stop this cycle.
Ask Dr. Ruth
I spent over 12 hours last week on a plane. I watched more movies then I have in the last two years. But this movie was by far the best. Her story. Her journey. Her sadness and heartache. What an amazingly strong woman!
Be sure to watch this.
The Old You Is Gone Embrace The Change
Like who the new You is. Look back at your life. Even a year ago. Look at how hard things were. What you overcame. Who was in your life verse now. How you process things differently. How your relationships or friendship changed.
We never stay the same. We are constantly changing and evolving. It’s beautiful. Can be hard. Can have pain and hurt but in the end has beauty.
I am so much wiser now than I was a year ago. I finalized a divorce. Had my heart broken again. And that really help me grow. Mentally. Emotionally.
I met some amazing people. Connected with my children more and more. Watched them evolve. I realized I had to let go of people who weren’t good for me. Who made me feel insecure or hurt. I gained some amazing friendships. I set priorities in my life and boundaries. I created a ton of memories. Traveled. Laughed so hard my soul danced. Now I am content. My heart is content. I have someone in my life I constantly laugh with. My kids have grown. My family is amazing. My friendships are like missing pieces of me and complete my soul.
Happy. Strong. Grateful. Things don’t happen by accident. It’s to teach us.
Embrace the becoming of who you are! Shed the old you and pieces and people attached to it that way it down.
Monday Motivation... Start Again
A new beginning. At any point in your life you can start over. Usually starting over happens after a breakup or a job loss or a hardship.
What if I said everyday you had a opening to start again. Restart at any moment in time. Even when life is good you can restart.
I wish you happy, fulfilling days. I wish you happy, new, beginnings to start again. I wish you a Happy Monday and a happy life.
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