Think Happy Be Happy

Focus on happiness. How about every night you take some time and reflect on what makes you happy or a happy thought of the day. Recall all the things that took place on your day that made you happy and smile. 

I will go first. I had a great day with my kids and family. I laughed with girlfriends. I worked out and ran some errands this morning. I did everything on my to do weekend list.  I loved sharing my fun spontaneous weekend with my sisters. A friend reached out and I always enjoy his company so he made me smile which who doesn’t love a great smile or someone who makes them feel special. 

So yeah today was a really good day with a lot of “little” nothings that are actually really big “somethings” because they contributed to my happiness. 

Now your turn....

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Break the Pattern

Thank those who helped you break your patterns. 

Be Proud Of Yourself

Are You Blocking Your Own Self?

Maybe we are causing our own heartache because we don’t want to be heartbroken anymore. 

Maybe we are picking people we know can’t fully give themselves to us so to cope we deal with situations that are emotionally safe- those not emotionally available. 

You have to break the cycle. It’s ok to get hurt and open your heart. You will learn. It’s not ok to stay in the same cycle. 

Jan 12th Love & Take Care of Yourself

Listen and Process

The Process Takes Time and That’s Ok

Do You Have Space For This In Your Life?

We all make decisions everyday as to who and what is in our life. You also need to determine what you have space for. Let’s be serious when it comes to this. 

As parents our schedule is full with our kids activities. When we are not with them we are working or doing house chores. We then make space for us- me time. Which is the gym or getting our nails done which I must say I didn’t do for years. But after the divorce I do make time for and the gym I make 4-5 x a week a priority.  

So what’s left after sleep and eat? Who do you fill that time with? What do you do with that time?

This is important because who we choose to fill our time with should be good for our wellbeing. Feel good people. Inspiring and motivation. Laughs. Happiness. 

You have to understand anything that doesn’t add to your life or make your life better you do not have space for. You do not make space for it. 

Think about it. Process this. 

Drama. Fighting. Anger. Doubt. Insecurities. All that stuff you have no space for. 

Make time for those people and situations that you walk away feeling good about sharing your space and time with. 

Those who you don’t then don’t waste your time. 

It’s important. It’s important who you make a priority. It’s important who you choose to speak to. Text. Hang with. See. Allow in your space. 

I wasn’t being careful with mine. I gave my space to situations that didn’t give me back in return. I don’t have space for doubt or pain or second guessing or hoping for change or thinking things will go my way. 

You don’t do this. You have to focus on being cautious of your time and space. Be sure those who you’re giving it to is giving it back to you. 

The Law Of The Universe

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Support Others...Always

I carry you all with me on my journey. No two journeys are alike. What you need and what I need are different but we are here to guide one another. To love and respect eachother. Always. 

Pay Attention

Self Love Reflection

It’s self love. So important. When you very worthy and love yourself you won’t tolerate anyone else to make you feel less than that. You won’t even make room for toxic love or dysfunctional friendships and relationships. 

Are We Aligned?

Think of all past relationship and lost connections and friendships that got stale in time. Why? Why did that happen?

Alignment. 

When two people don’t have the same intentions arguments happen or you make space or you go your own way. 

Intentions have to be discussed and aligned and then met. I can say it over and over my stories. My side. My views. My pain. But it won’t change what happened. It won’t change the fact that certain people aren’t in my life because we weren’t aligned. It caused arguments and pain or just resulting in us going our own way. Lost contact and pain in our hearts. 

Intentions have to be met. You have to have good communication and know what people are is what you will get. 

I had a friend who always would say but I told you the truth. Yeah you did but in time emotions change. You enjoy a person or they become a part of routine. After a year of so it was a wake up call to me. I couldn’t go down the same paths in the past. I needed a change. I knew cutting ties would hurt but no way were we ever aligned.  Best thing to happen was me realizing this. I could have went another year or two and all it did was set me back emotionally. 

You must be aligned. You must also accept your truths. You must never toy with someone’s emotions. You must respect yourself and the people in your life. 

Detox Your Home

Are They Projecting?

A lot of times it has nothing to do with you. It’s their own inner issues and taking it out on you. Know the difference. 

Set Boundaries

New Habits Different Life

Acceptance is the process of knowing that what is done is done. You accept it. You learned from it. 

Growth is challenging yourself to be better to achieve more. To become a better version of yourself. 

Spiritual healing is being in-tune with your deep core. Your soul purpose. Being calm. Really calm and happy with yourself so you can love others fully. 

No one has reached perfection. It cannot exist amongst us. 

What we can do is change our habits that didn’t do us justice. We can look for peace and calmness and reflect. We can say this didn’t work for me I will try something else. No amount of blame can fix you. You own it. Even if you didn’t cause the pain or misfortune or heartache. You still own and accept it and do things to change. To make yourself better.  

Minor changes first. Baby steps. Achieve great results in a short period of time. 

Today’s Affirmation: Your Life Is in Balance

Louise Hay is amazing. Her book  You Can Heal Your Life, is full of life and wisdom and teaches you about affirmations and guidance and self love. I love that they have these daily affirmations that I will be sharing we all can interrupt them the way we like. I chose to look at this as if my life is in balance. How my current life is it’s working for me. I hope you too create a life with balance and wake up and say I love my life. 

Doesn’t mean it’s perfect. It means you have accepted your current state and will embrace and honor it. 

Feel Good Song: Dancing Nancies

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“I am who I am”

Happy Sunday

Does Your Love Language Align?

I wrote about this last year here it’s important to know what makes you happy and your companion. Understanding who you are and what you need and want makes you a better person in a relationship. 

Growing Up In The 90’s Bedtime Humor

Let The Past Be The Past

Forgive & Start Again

At any point in your life you can forgive and start again. You actually should forgive. You should never hold hurt or anger in your heart for anyone. Try to understand why everything happened the way it did. Once you can healing becomes easier. 

Jan 11th You Got This Girl

For so long we take care of other people. Of course our kids come first but I am not talking about them. Kids are always top priority and should be taken care of. I am talking about people around us. Love isn’t painful or stressful. Yeah it’s work but when you are trying to fix people who should be fixing themselves it’s draining. Never again will I put in more than I get in return. Ever. You shouldn’t either. 

For so long I had projects after projects come into my life. These people didn’t give back to me what I gave to them. At the time you settle. You figure well they love me or they enjoy my company so that’s something. NO it’s not. It’s not at all. If you are not 50-50 in any relationship then you need to make changes or get out. I will never allow myself to give more than what I get back. Not out of selfishness out of knowing I too deserved the love and respect I invested in others.

I reflect on to those who came into my life and I wipe the slate clean. All but one person I invested time

in gave me that time and ironically he’s still in my life. He’s an overall great guy and been there for a long time. All the others in between just felt draining. It’s not what love and dating and relationships are about at all. 

I hope if you’re married or in a relationship you reflect. I hope you are in a relationship that is balanced. With a mutual love and respect for eachother. Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t make empty promises. Don’t settle. Don’t talk bad about your significant others to people. If you don’t like something communicate with them. I mean how can you spend your life with someone you don’t know how to talk to. 

If you’re single I hope you learn to fully love yourself and set boundaries to what you will accept and will not.  

All this means is I have yet to find the one. When you do none of this happens. It’s balanced. It’s a team effort. I do hope you understand the true meaning of love isn’t pain. It’s teamwork and companionship. It’s trust and choosing that person every single day. 

What Are Your Goals?

Lately it’s been a question we bring up. Today we asked again. What’s your word of the year? Mine was growth. We talked about self acceptance. Peace. Love. Change. On and on. The best part is every year is something different. Focus on something YOU need to change or fix or embrace or add to your life. 

Set a goal-weekly monthly yearly etc... How are you going to better yourself? What’s your one word for this year? What goals would you set for yourself?

There’s A Difference In Looking At One Self

Silence Your Brain

I decided to not make any plans. I haven’t had a break in a while. I wanted to regroup. Meditate. Cleanse the past. Heal my heart. Rest my brain.  I wasn’t sad at all. Actually really happy. I am learning the process of being alone while enjoying it. Actually really fully enjoying it. I said no thanks to a lot of people over and over who asked to make plans to hang or grab breakfast or lunch or dinner not because I didn’t want to but because I needed this time. I needed to be alone. Take care of me. 

But then something changed. 

I woke up worked out ran errands. Was so happy. My friend called she asked what I was doing. I said running errands and then going to the mall. She said me too. I said really she said yeah. I said great let’s go together. 

Can I tell you that changed my whole day. 9 hours later and my day that was meant to be alone was filled was awesome chats and shopping and eating and eating some more and fun cocktails and belly laughs and hanging in three different cities while meeting up with my sister and her best friend and this dynamic foursome took on the day and I freaking loved every second of it. 

 I want you to know it’s so important to rest your brain and heal and love yourself and your time but spontaneous fun...that’s priceless.  That’s healing. That’s love. That’s something you thank the universe for. 

The fact that having no plans made me so happy actually caused me to go along with my day and it turned into a fun adventure with us four gals. 

Being happy alone doesn’t mean you have to be alone. Today actually was exactly what I needed!

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Practice These Steps

You Can Handle Anything

💗 let any pain go...

Heal & It Will Show

Be Present & Find Your Balance

Best Pre & Post Work Out Food

Happy Saturday

Happy are those who get up and live. 

Jan 10th It’s Already Yours

It’s The Law Of Attraction

Speak Your Truths

Even when you may not want to hear it. Better to speak it out than ignore eachother. 

I knew a couple who went years without communicating. Can you imagine? Just getting by for years. I couldn’t imagine. I may overly speak my mind. That’s something I need to work on. But to go years without speaking about how you feel what you need what’s bothering you what hurts or makes you happy or mad or sad. That to me is more painful than any words ever said. 

Communication is so important. Do it. Speak your heart and mind. 

Full Moon Affirmation

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Feel Good Song: My Hero

Better Days Are Coming

Look For The Positive in Every Negative Situation

Take the time to reflect. 

Jan 10th Remain Humble

What’s In Your Cup?

Great video on why we react the way we do. 

Feel Good Song: 3 Nights

It’s a Sign or Is It?

You have to believe people who come and go in your life all happens for a reason. If someone chooses not to respond to you or give you time it’s all in the force of the universe. 

I don’t believe in games or hurting people. I believe we all have pain we need healing from. We should take space when we need it but do know if someone leaves let them leave for good. They aren’t meant for your current journey. 💗

Big Idea Never Start Off That Way

Cleansing Period

This is so true. The cleansing period. Not sure if it’s affecting you but definitely something we can relate to.   Do some soul searching and shadowing. 

Flip It Around

Jan 10th Be The Leader In Your Life

Be Open Minded

Your Daily Reminder