Wednesday, February 10, 2021
Why Is Normal So Uncommon?
The other night we were watching a show and we realized the date. We turned to each other and said Happy Anniversary.
I said I know this sounds strange but thank you for always being so nice. After all this time you have never been rude to me or impolite. I never will be he replied as he kissed me.
He never raised his voice or belittles me. He never makes me feel silly for anyway I feel or anything I say or do. He never yelled at me. He genuinely the nicest, kindest guy I have ever met. He has never raised his voice to me.
He in return said thank you for after all this time for not turning out to be crazy.
We both laughed and said why is something so normal so hard to come by? Why must I thank him for being nice and he thank me for not being crazy and flying off the handle whenever I am upset.
Why is normal so hard to find? It is so uncommon?
He should be nice. I should not be crazy. These are common things expected. But they do not turn out that way. I have been with many unkind people. He has been with many crazy people. We both didn't deserve that behavior so now we value each other over something so simple. Our relationship works because we can have healthy calm discussions.
Think about the people in your life or have been in your life. How long have they gone without belittling you or being mean? Have they never been crazy. How long have you gone without yelling at them too?
I can tell you normal is amazing. It's refreshing. Be normal!
Embrace The Process of Healing
Healing takes place all the time. Every single situation teaches us we have some healing to do. My last three years has been a healing journey. I have come a long way. But I still have healing to do everyday.
I am not who I was. I won’t ever be that person. Healing helped me be my true self. Have you given yourself the opportunity to unbury pain. Hurt. Heal.
Please do it.
Tuesday, February 9, 2021
Do You Want Comfort Or Solutions?
Love this. It applies not just to relationships but in being there for anyone in your life.
Most of the time women want comfort. We want to vent. We want someone to say it’s all going to be ok or say nothing at all and just lend an ear. Asking means validating and means you’re listening and care.
Codependency Is A Real Thing
Have you ever dealt with this? Have you spared yourself at the sake of others? It’s a real thing. It’s hard really hard. The focus in within. In yourself. To change. To be ok alone. To be happy with what you have control over.
Stop always giving your all to everyone else and not getting it back.
Monday, February 8, 2021
Sunday, February 7, 2021
What Have You Done For Yourself Today?
I stayed in bed super late and took a walk in the snow. I shoveled while blasting some of my favorite tunes.
What have YOU done for YOU today?
Super Bowl 2021 Fun Facts
Large Super Bowl parties are a thing of the past. Unfortunately this year will be different due to Covid but here are some fun facts.
What State Has The Strangest Super Bowl Snacks?
What’s your FAVORITE super bowl snack? What’s your STRANGEST?
What if I told you Alaska was Paleo Salmon Cakes.
Here’s a fun article on each state's most popular Super Bowl snacks:
Super Bowl food: Ranking each state's most popular Super Bowl snacks, from worst to first.
Do You Have Any Real Intentions To...
I was asking for a change. For a couple of months. I finally asked “Do you really have any intentions of ...”
The question is to the point. Not emotional. Just to the point. Instead of that I could have said a lot leading up to the question but I didn’t. It’s straight forward.
I learned to do this when someone hasn’t given a clear answer or when someone says they would do something and never do. I started to ask this a lot.
What’s your real intentions. Deep down are you really going to do what I asked you to do or what you said you would do?
The response was “Of course, I will get it done” after I asked that it was done. It finally got done. After months of me hinting and not being straight forward it I asked one question and it was done.
I learned a lot from that one experience. One question. One situation.
I learned calling people out isn’t to start an argument. It’s not to be lead with emotions. It’s saying be real with me. Don’t BS me just so I shut up or I stop asking. What’s your true intentions means to be real with what expectations I should expect. To be honest if you’re going to get something done or just have me think you will.
I won’t lie I was so happy once it was done. It dragged a bit but it finally got done and well being straight forward has always been something I was good at. I had to just learn to leave emotions out prior to it.
Monkey See Monkey Do...Oh The Memories
It’s funny how something so small can bring back so many memories. I found this in my car yesterday. It brought me back to my trip to visit my best friend when she lived in Massachusetts.
It was the best weekend we could of had. We ended up eating an early dinner at a Chinese restaurant. Where we drank fish bowls. Later the place turned into a karaoke bar and then late night it was a night club. We stayed for hours. Laughing. Drinking. Singing. Dancing. Eating.
Memories are made to help bring happiness to our lives. Everyday is some BS to face. Responsibility. Outside drama. Chaos.
It’s unavoidable.
But happiness. That’s created. It’s created from little experiences and big experiences. Embrace that.
Meet Lucy Glo
I love Trader Joe’s and I especially love that store because I am always trying new food and fruit and whatever else fun stuff they have there.
This is the Lucy Glo Apple.
They come from Washington State. Sweet and a bit tangy. So fun. You think it’s a watermelon when you cut it. The red bright inside is so unexpected. The kids loved it
Saturday, February 6, 2021
Friday, February 5, 2021
Same Situation Different Reaction
You reach a level of growth when you can change the way you react to the same situation.
What’s Your Communication Style?
What makes a great communicator? Video by Mark Groves.
I love his posts. They are realistic yet we overlook these things and need a reminder.
Providing a healthy safe space for someone to be honest and open is important. How you start the discussion is so important. If you start aggressive it will end aggressive.
I usually start off with can we discuss something that has been bothering me or can I say something without you being offended. That second part may not be my best approach because normally that means I think it will offend them. I always try to use a soft approach because I want to be heard. When we act emotional we are only seeing the emotion. No one is listening to our words.
Most relationships fail or have issues based on how they communicate. Lack of or too aggressive and defensive. Learn to change that. Relationships will have conflict but it can be healthy conflict.
Think of the last argument or discussion you had. What tone was it when it started and when it ended?
Are you being heard? Are you hearing the other person?
When you’re not or they are not being heard that is when frustration occurs and emotions arise. Usually anger sets in.
Being heard is the most validating thing you can do for your partner or anyone really you’re having a disagreement with. Making them feel heard not meaning you agree but you’re actually hearing them is powerful. It doesn’t add ammo to the fight. It diminishes it. If you become defensive then they become defensive or feel you’re not providing a safe place for them to discuss what’s bothering them.
Learn how to communicate better. Trust me it helps so much. It makes you better too.
The Best Type Of Relationship
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Focus on creating this! It’s really important to have that balance.
Thursday, February 4, 2021
Who Do YOU Inspire?
You're amazing and do not even know it. You inspire people all around you. You inspire people with how you act, how you love, what you say and do.
We all have influence over people. Family, peers, spouses/companions, children, friends, co-workers.... The list is endless.
Being YOU, showing who you really are, matters. Do not hide behind something or your truths. Be you because you are a good person and people are watching.
I do not know who reads my blogs, but I do know my numbers go up everyday. That alone gives me motivation and shows I inspire YOU.
Thank you for letting me part of your life and for following my journey! I may never meet you or have the opportunity to discuss with you face to face the journey of life but knowing I inspire you is motivation enough!
Who inspires YOU?
Secret To Living Long & Well
I believe this. I believe we need to take care of our body, mind and soul. You need to add laughter in your day and love. Love people. Tell them how they make you feel.
Learn to be happy. Learn how to love your life or change it!
Wednesday, February 3, 2021
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