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Saturday, July 27, 2019

How To Eat A Lobster...But did you know...


I must say dinner last night was full of laughs. I grew up eating lobster. Even my daughters eat lobster. I did have a cousin who feared lobsters so much that he would run and hide whenever my mom made them.
But I have been eating them for as long as I could remember. Steamed. In an amazing tomato sauce that my mom makes. Grilled. Chilled. You name it. I am always wary about ordering them out at restaurants while because I don’t always like how places clean them. I can’t see any green or it grossed me out. So normally I just eat it at home whole. 

Luckily we know how to eat a whole lobster. So last night one of our girlfriends decided to order a whole one for the first time. She’s had parts of it. Lobster rolls etc...but never the whole deal. The other two girls always order it in the Cape. It’s their go to.  

We then spent the time explaining  how to open it. What meat to eat. Where to get the meat. How to crack the areas to pull out the meat and then...lots of laughs and fun.  



Then the bus boy comes up to us. 

He’s like you ladies did a great job. But you’re missing one part of the lobster to get the meat from. 

He now had our attention...

He grabs the shell of the tail. Pulls off the end flaps and squeezes out the meat from the telcons- the little flaps on the end of the tail. We are all in shock. We had no idea. Now the amount of meat you get isn’t much. It’s like the legs of the lobster. But so fun to eat. 

I had to take a video and send it to my mom. The lady who eats whole lobster straight out of the fridge for breakfast had no idea that she was missing some meat. But all jokes aside how many of you knew this?












Feel Good Song: What A Feeling



20 years ago this song came on. We were in our college dorm room. She sang “what a feeling” and somehow fell off the top bunk on to the floor. She didn’t get hurt, luckily, but last night when this song came on after dinner in the car, it sure brought back a ton of memories and even more laughs. 

What’s Happiness...


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Saturday Motivation: Things, People, Path


What’s worth it to you? Those things, people, path is what you need to put your work into. Your goals. Your love and energy. 

You need to focus your whole self into the things, people, path that mean the most to you. That make you so happy that you wouldn’t put your energy into
anything else. 

What’s Your Sign Reveal About You?



Feel Good Song: Lips Don't Lie


Master The Art To Remain Calm



It’s an everyday job. To process. To not let people get the best of you. Try to remain calm and enjoy the  moments that bring your soul peace. 











Can Your 6-Pack Do This...


No 6-pack here but three babies did come out of here so that’s pretty damn impressive. 

Love your body. Your imperfections. Your uniqueness. Anyone who truly loves you will look beyond your flaws. They will see it as the character that builds you and makes you the special person that you are!

This Is A Good Life...



I am at my happy place....and the moments we share just make it even better. 



Even if it’s just once a year, it’s still enough to make my soul happy. 
















Friday, July 26, 2019

Feel Good Song: Higher Love Remix


Positive Changes Ahead



*cosmicgoddess

A hopeless romantic...a seeker of happiness. Accept yourself. You may have lost yourself along the way but welcome back. Never change. Be who your core wants you to be. 💗

Bridgeport Arts Festival Tomorrow



Music, food, crafts, activities....

Feel Good Song: The Troubles By U2


Happy Friday!




I hope your Friday is as amazing as you are! 

I Scream You Scream We All Scream For...


We can’t come to the Cape and not get ice cream at Four Seas. It’s the BEST. I had to get it. Vacation is a cheat time even if it may mean paying for it later. 

 I get my classic sundae...black raspberry ice cream with hot fudge and peanut butter sauce. An old time favorite. Their peach ice cream is also a fan of ours. 

What’s your favorite ice cream?

What A Year Can Do To A Person


I couldn’t sleep. Maybe out of pure excitement to get to relax. Ironic right. But I started to think about how my life was a year ago at this exact time I was at the Cape and the stories and people who were in my life at that time. The journey I have been on since. The changes that took place in my life. 

It’s actually pretty crazy. How many people I met. Love I felt. Hurt I felt. Pain and experiences that actually shaped me. The new places I went to. Where I traveled. Who I spent my time with. Memories I made. Lifestyle changes. It’s actually pretty remarkable. 

Do it. Think about the past year. How much your life has changed. The new people who are in it now. The old people who are no longer there. The memories you made. The tears you shed. The laughter you had. The wtf moments. It all shapes you. 

How things made you feel. How you looked. What progress you made. All in just one year. 

Think about the things you wouldn’t repeat but no regrets because you know it’s part of our path. The things we wish we did and didn’t do. The things we got through that we didn’t think we could getthrough. The friendships you made. The amazing people who loved you and still do. The people who helped you get through some rough patches. 

I am definitely at a better place. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. It’s crazy what a year can really do to a person. 

I hope you’re at a better place too!

Love...It’s In You


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It’s Ok To Feel But Then What?


What you feel is what you feel. There’s truth in it. You gotta let them come to surface and understand them. 

You can be feeling a ton of different things. You can be happy but reserved. You can be scared but excited. You can be hurt but hopeful. You just can’t act out on emotion. You can’t be impulsive. You can’t beg for things to go your way. 

You may want to share how you feel with others but fear rejection. You may fear someone misunderstanding your emotion. Some people dismiss your emotions and honestly that always got me pissed off. You don’t have to agree but to dismiss is not validating. 

You also have to understand that you may feel one way for someone and they won’t feel that same way towards you. That’s the kicker. It’s hurtful yet uncontrollable. 

I have learned over time that it’s ok to open up. It’s ok to feel something even if someone doesn’t that same way about you. Rejection actually makes you a stronger person. Sucks at first but trust me it helps build your confidence. 

You can’t keep things in. It will destroy you. You have to let them come to the surface and deal. 

Our ultimate goal in life is to focus on happiness.  To be happy deep down. To not let our emotions hide or get the best of us. Do let them come to surface. Understand them. Deal with it. Move forward. 



Thursday, July 25, 2019

Feel Good Song: Paradise


Being Attracted To Their Soul


Have you ever met someone that you could see straight to their core? Straight to their soul? It’s a rare yet beautiful and sexy thing. 

All connections should be like this. Why else would you be with somebody if you can only connect on the surface. 

Why would you spend the next 10,20,30 or 40 years with someone who doesn’t make your soul happy. Find someone who helps you feel again. Where your inner child can come out. A safe place. You deserve that. 

Stop...Don’t Settle For Less


Put it to an end. All of us. We don’t deserve anything but the best because who would settle for less. I saw a trend. Falling for guys who weren’t emotionally available. What was I thinking? 

You, I, we, need to realize how much we have overcome in life. How strong we are. If someone isn’t honoring our highest good and well being well then it’s time to move on. 

You deserve the best. Don’t settle for less!

Final Week of Retrograde



I feel like 2019 has been one big retrograde but all jokes aside how many of you are impacted by this? At times I am which is humorous and a bit scary too. 

Motherhood...The Real Deal



West Side Reggae Festival July 27th



I LOVE Reggae Music! This festival is taking place on Saturday in Danbury. 

YouTube: The Space Between


Stop Fighting It...


We all fight where we want to be. Our heart. Our mind. Stop. Enjoy it. Don’t force it but if you wake up and fall asleep thinking about it. Well what else do you need to know. ❤️





Feel Good Song: In My Place by Coldplay


Connect Within


This is really important. I have mentioned in past when chaos is around you there is a lot of distractions. When your mind is still you can really tune into what you want. How to fix or get out of situations that do not serve you well. It also helps you be intuitive. I have a couple people in my life I can pick up on their vibe when we are not together and there’s people who can pick up on mine. It’s pretty insane and on point. 


When your mind is relaxed it can hurt to dig up what’s bothering you. It’s ok. Feel it. But then fix it. 

I can tell you now people I am in tune with have termoil within. Avoiding the outcome they should make. Are internalizing their feelings to protect themselves. Fix it before you snap. Fix it for you. Peace and happiness always follow. I promise. 

I saw a girlfriend the other day. She looked amazing. Her core was at peace. It’s my hair she said. No it’s not I said. You are glowing. You’re at peace within and it shows so everything about you looks amazing. 

Stop looking for a distraction. Silent your mind for the answers. Listen to what your intuition is telling you. Even if they aren’t the answers you want to hear you must accept them and apply them. 

Take Me Away...


“But you’ve been away” yeah it’s true. I have had some awesome trips this last year for work where I extended some days to have fun but it’s not the same. This trip is a mindless trip. 

I was cleaning out my trunk this morning for tomorrow’s road trip and this sand clip took me back. To the waves and calmness to the naps and late night sipping on wine on the deck while we play board games all night. Early walks to the beach followed by day shopping. 

The laughs. Oh the stories. This group is a good group. We are four gals who are simple yet adventurous and can party or hang. Whichever mood we are in. 

Cape Cod has always been like a second home. I have been going almost every year for the last 20 years. A goal of mine to get my own beach house one day. It’s a quiet little town with amazing seafood. Awesome beaches and bays and a ton of shopping opportunities. Night life of live music and karaoke. 

I can hardly wait. 

We pack up my mini van and take off. Even the car ride itself is comical. Blasting music. Telling our lastest life stories. Some serious. Some hit home. Some make us laugh until our stomachs hurt. 

Yep. That type of getaway. 

We always stop in Mystic on the way back. Eat at our favorite restaurant order our favorite bottle of wine. Maybe kayak the Mystic River if we have time. It helps us not be sad that our Cape Cod trip is over. 

The little things in life. The chill J comes out. Relaxed. Creative. It helps my brain organize and tap into some goals. 

Where’s your favorite escape?

Thursday Vibes: Do What Makes Your Soul Happy



Stamford Arts Festival This Weekend



Does It Make You Happy? Then That’s All That Matters





Are You With The Right Person?





Are You On Course?




Finding The Love You Deserve



And I hope you, me, we all, find it. 

Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Have You Tried A Lychee?


I won’t lie. The first time I heard about a Lychee was from a drink menu- Lychee Martini and it was delicious.  I have then seen them in a can. Then my dad found them fresh at a local store. They are a Chinese fruit. My girls love them. The shell is hard. You peel it and it’s firm yet a bit sticky inside. Sweet with a mild bitter taste. 

There’s a ton of heath benefits too from eating them. 

People Come & Go



In time it makes sense. You have to just get through it. Love those who stay. Be grateful for the memories for  those who don’t. 


I always say when a journey with someone ends nothing pulls you back. No regrets. It’s when you still hold on that your lesson isn’t over. 

Watermelon Festival In Torrington CT July 27th




What Reality Do You Want?



Let’s write your story. Picture it in your head. We all have a vision of how our life should or will be. What’s your goals? What reality are you fighting for?I will share mine:

I buy my own house
Grow my business 
Fall in love
Raise my girls to be good and genuine people
Seek out all my adventures of life with a person who loves every part of me
Travel the world 
Buy my beach house
Publish my books
Grow old and grey and happy surrounded by my spouse and kids and their kids (if they have any) family and friends
Die peacefully knowing I lived the best life I could


Now you go. What’s your story?

Happy Tequila Day!



How do you like your tequila? My favorite is in a margarita. Check out how some places in Connecticut are celebrating National Tequila Day!

What Are You Losing vs. Gaining?



Life will pay whatever price you ask of it. You’re getting what you’re asking for. Whatever you focus on in life is going to happen. When you decide what’s most important for you, your brain goes after it.”*

YouTube: Beautiful People


Feel Good Song: Wolves Without Teeth





Lyrics are pretty deep. I love listening to the words of songs. If you dig deeper you can find the meaning. 

What’s Gonna Make YOU Happy?



No one can make decisions for you. What ever decisions you make please be sure they will make you happy. 💗

Dating Humor: Love Some Garlic Bread



Listen To Your Inner Voice


You’re a free spirit. Hopeless romantic and flower child. That my friend I am or would at least like to be. Anything else that doesn’t serve that purpose I become defensive again and I defend my soul and purpose. I get upset or mad and well that doesn’t serve me well. 


Peace. Love. Respect. Happiness. Honestly. Clear conscious. 

I have been through a lot in my life. A lot more than most people. I won’t have to share all my wounds. But in time my healing has helped me be able to help you. 
So I write and share. 

A girlfriend messaged me early this morning. She said a path you’re on isn’t the best one for you right now. I want you to stop and refocus. 

When someone’s intuition aligns with yours you have to listen. I didn’t argue with her. She was right. 

Sometimes you have to give things time. Give it space.  Let it work how it’s meant to work out not forced. 





Are You Torn?


I am very upfront. As you can tell. I usually go after what I want. But some situations don’t work out like that. I have learned this past month to just let things be. I have to stop looking for an answer today when I know it’s not possible. I have to let life ride out. I have to be patient and happy and what’s meant to be will
be. Being patient. Knowing whatever will be is my destiny. Means stop chasing or stop rushing. Let things be for a while. Everything always works out how it is suppose to. 

Be Sure To Be Giving The Right Things Your Attention




Feel Good Song: Forest


Please Go Do What You Like...

A relationship doesn’t define you. I know it’s hard to imagine that when you have spent 20-30-40 years with someone. A healthy relationship is when two individuals have separate identities yet come together to share a life together. 


Let me explain. 

We get caught up. We expect our significant other to make us happy. Because maybe one day they did. Maybe they were nice and loving. Maybe they looked at us like no one else was in the world but you. Maybe they put you first. 

Then life changes. Kids. Work. Bills. Responsibilities. Your relationship changes. At this point someone has detached. Someone resents the other. So you both just get by. You act like that power couple outside the house to others but inside are broken together. 

It’s a cycle. I am not here to convince anyone to get a divorce. I am here to say that your happiness is based solely on you. You’re an individual. Your significant other is an individual. You have responsibilities together yet you can still have a life separate. 

You need to still do the things you love. If you love golf then do it. If your significant other doesn’t don’t push them to love golf. Do it without them. Have space. Have the courage to say you do what you like. I do what I like. We then do what we like together and it’s ok. 

People don’t do that. They consume themselves into one another then get mad when they want to play golf but their spouse or girlfriend doesn’t. 

Second time around is even a bit harder. Children are different ages. Life experiences are different. I love picking fruit with my kids. I love farms. I love wine tasting. I am not going to find a guy who is going to want to do all those things always with me and it’s actually ok. So I do them while they go to a sports game with buddies or they go do things with their own kids or they go play golf. 

You have to have your own hobbies. Passions. Excitement. You have to be an individual. You consume yourself with someone that you end up resenting them. 

You’re with someone because you love that person 
Because that person makes your life better. They give you hope. Make your heart happy. Make you feel important. Make you feel like you matter. Love you and your core. Want to protect you. Want to help you grow as a person. They bring out the best in you.  They don’t want to do this journey in life without you. 

You aren’t with someone because of routine or an obligation to stay together. 

If you love golf and I don’t then please go play golf. I will still love you. 

Souls...They Have This Way



Start Today...Start Now!


I made a list. Three months ago of what I needed to change in my life. I set goals. I found that list the other day. I can’t believe the things I had accomplished on that list without even remembering to. 

When you want something so bad you put your energy and soul into it. You get this strengthen to do so. To be your all. To say no more I want my life to be a certain way. 

I still have more on my list to accomplish. I will also have more on my list but it’s how life is. Create goals. Accomplish them and create new ones. 

Don’t let anyone stand in your way. Don’t do things just to make others happy. Your future self will thank you. 

I believe in you. Start to believe in yourself. Give yourself the life you deserve. Set goals and achieve them. 

If you miss someone tell them. If you love someone tell them. If you want to travel do so. If you want to eliminate debt apply every extra dollar to it until you do. 

There are no restrictions or road blocks. Only the ones you put up. 

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